In this episode, we are diving into why we get reactive in our relationships and how to shift into responding instead of reacting. Being reactive is often defined as "being triggered" or "being activated". It is when our emotions are high and our ability to communicate or think clearly is decreased. Being responsive is when we are emotionally grounded. It is when we are able to think through and feel through what is going on for us, as well as what direction we ultimately want to move in, and then being able to communicate that to the other person. Time stamps: :15 What is the difference between reacting vs. responding? 4:00 Why we end up reacting instead of responding. 5:00 The importance of taking space, regulating, and getting clear on your thoughts. 10:00 Why we struggle with taking space, or others taking space, in conversations.

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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If you've ever had a, "hold on, what are we to each other?" moment with someone, you aren't alone. The distinction between friend and potential love interest comes up a lot. Part of that is due to societal interpretation of what each of these relationships are and some of that is because there's a lot of nuance that goes into relationships in general.

In this episode, we cover:

• How nuance plays a role in relationships.

• The main differences between a friendship and a romantic relationship.

• The power of choosing what you pursue with someone.

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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Time Stamps:

1:30 The power of nuance and personal definitions in relationships

2:20 How I define a romantic partnership- Two elements I look for

4:20 The complexities of relationships

5:00 The power of choice and intention in relationships

7:30 The importance of discussing this with potential partners

In this episode we uncover:

• What "managing your emotions" means
• How managing (or not managing) your emotions affects the results you get in your relationships and life
• Assessing your own emotional management skills

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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Time Stamps:

:20 What does "managing your feelings" mean? Breaking it down

3:10 Why managing your feelings matter and what will happen if you don't

4:30 An example of how managing or not managing your feelings can play out

6:30 Is what you're making it mean serving you and getting you closer to your desired results?

7:10 Responding vs Reacting

7:30 The effect of changing emotions

8:45 Engaging in repair

10:45 Where are you skilled at emotional management and where is there an opportunity to go deeper?

13:00 Date Yourself

Have you ever had that creeping anxiety in the back of your mind that someone is mad at you? You feel like they've been touchy with you or avoiding you and it causes you to start spinning out with anxiety. If you've ever struggled to know what to do if you think someone's mad at you, then this latest episode of Shift Your Story is for you.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why we freak out when we think someone is mad at us.

• A step-by-step process you can use to deal with the idea of someone being mad at you.

• When and how to bring it up to the person that you think maybe mad at you.

Time Stamps:

1:47 Get curious- Feelings are not facts

2:20 What are you interpreting?

3:30 Is that thought or feeling 100% true?

3:40 What is the story you are telling yourself and how can you shift that story?

4:40 How our brains reacts

5:27 Feel the feelings

5:50 Ask the person directly

6:35 Example of asking directly

10:00 Date Yourself

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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There comes a point where continually re-hashing an experience from the past is holding you back more than it's helping you. A lot of us struggle to know when that point is and how to distinguish the difference between processing an experience vs. dwelling and ruminating over an experience. In this episode we are going to cover: 1. The 5 steps to processing an experience 2. How you can tell if you are processing or dwelling in the past 3. What it means to actually feel your emotions

Time Stamps:

4:32 What does processing actually mean? 8:20 What does it mean to feel your feelings? 10:52 How to feel your feelings.

13:00 Expressing your feelings

14:45 Decide what experience you want to have and what steps you need to take

17:20 What are you making it mean?

20:10 Moving forward in the process

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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:15 What is 'New Relationship Energy?' 1:30 What goes into 'New Relationship Energy?'

3:00 The lifespan of New Relationship Energy

3:45 What is limerence?

4:45 The difference between 'New relationship energy' and limerence

5:20 The difference between being in love and new relationship energy

6:15 How to tell if we're in love or if it' s new relationship energy

7:00 How we project on the person we are dating at the start of the relationship

8:05 Storytime- A moment where new relationship energy worked out

9:40 What makes two people compatible?

10:45 Divorce rate in America. According to Forbes, it is actually down to 40%.

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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:50 Mistake #1: Cling even harder 2:50 What you can do to counter act clinging harder 4:30 Why we view someones attention as more valuable when they take that attention away

7:00 Mistake #2: You make it mean something is wrong with you

8:00 Mistake #3: You think they are pulling away, but they actually aren't

9:30 What to do if you aren't sure if someone is pulling away

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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Do you have that person in your life that just seems to have that "it" factor? Do you ever wonder how they got it? Well, listen on! In this episode, we are talking about how to develop unshakeable confidence. The kind of confidence where you just radiate and turn heads when you walk into the room.

3:40 Type 1 vs. Type 2 Confidence 3:50 What is Type 1 Confidence? 4:00 What is Type 2 Confidence?

4:30 Why we fall into Type 2 confidence

5:30 Risks of Type 2 Confidence

7:00 Why we should focus more on Type 1 Confidence

8:10 The 3 steps to develop Type 1 Confidence

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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2:45 How we were taught to apologize.

3:00 Keeping it simple- here are the two parts you need to craft an effective apology

3:30 Step One: Make it personal and specific

4:25 Step Two: Acknowledge your mistake

5:30 Step Three: Putting yourself in their shoes

6:15 Step Four: Apologies without conditions

7:25 Excuses vs. Explanations

7:40 Step Five: Follow through

8:30 The point of an apology

9:30 What to do if you aren't actually sorry

11:20 Step one: Express Understanding

12:15 Step two: Express your perspective without being defensive

13:00 Step three: Focus on how to move forward

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you try you always seem to get swept up in drama? Like conflict just seems to follow you even though you try to avoid it? In this episode I'm going to break down why that's happening and steps you can take to ACTUALLY avoid drama and conflict long term in your relationships. If this episode helped you please pass it on to others as well and leave a postivie review!

Podcast Host: Lucy Price

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Website: www.shiftyourstory.net Music Featured: "Storm Warning" by Wakefire