They say that bringing up kids is the biggest responsibility a person can have, and there are tons of books on the topic. The Tibetans follow a unique 4-stage system to shape their children into responsible, self-sufficient, and respectful individuals. During the first stage, from birth till the age of 5, kids are usually incredibly curious about everything around them. But they haven’t had any experience to learn from, and they can’t make rational decisions yet. So if they do something wrong or dangerous, you should look and act scared and try to shift their attention to something else. Don’t forget that your kid will never get this time back. Let them explore the world on their own terms. Another 5 years down the road, until your child’s 10th birthday, you should talk to them as if they’re a “slave”. You see, you can’t just nurture their privileged “royal” side and neglect the diligent “servant” one. This phase is crucial because it balances everything out. It’s important to build a friendship with your kids during the 3rd stage, from 10 to 15. Kids at this age are starting to form their own personal opinions and tastes, and they want to share them with you. Never judge them for their views or interests, that’ll only drive them away from you. When the time comes for your child’s 15th birthday, you’ll be entering the fourth and the final phase. It’s time to respect them as an individual. Your child will be independent, self-sufficient, and respectful towards you as their parent and to others.
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