When we are talking, joking and caring for each other, that's love. We are interdependent beings and when we act within that worldview, our natural default is peace, love and compassion. When we get irritated, however, a separate sense of an "I" stands out, and the "we" is split in half. This worldview contradicts the reality of interdependence and results in conflict and despair.

3:53 | Extracted from "Deconstruction Emotions Retreat" teachings given at Thubten Norbu Ling Tibetan Buddhist Center January 29-31. Full teaching here.