The single most common problem that I see small business owners struggling with is managing their emotions - specifically, how can they STOP their results making them feel negative. 

So in today's episode I have ONE goal - to help you disembark the emotional roller coaster and divorce your emotions from the results you get in your business. 

The truth is, emotions cause more small business owners to close their business than anything else. 

And worse than that, I think they often believe it's "something about them" that makes them feel that way. 

Let me tell you this... it's perfectly NORMAL to have all the emotions in your business. It's a challenging journey and it's one that most people in the world wouldn't dream of - so you're already winning. 

HOWEVER - if you do want your business to succeed, then you WILL need to understand how to manage your emotions. 

When I'm coaching my clients I use a framework called The Success Triad - and it will literally get you any result you want in your life and business. As the name suggests there are 3 pillars

1. Emotional Management
2. Thought Management 
3. Consistent, Aligned Action (to create clarity and obtain data)

Today you're going to discover - why these emotions happen, what will happen if you don't deal with them and how to start changing them NOW. Remember, download The Model workbook to get the most out of this episode. 

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There's a version of yourself you haven't met yet. Keep showing up until you are introduced - Jim Kwik. 

I think THIS is the most important thought to hold on to if you are the kind of person who is wanting to create a change in your life, to hit your goals and to create any result you want. 

Because in a world that wants to sell you systems and strategies, no-one is actually telling you that 7% ish of people of buy such things succeed. Not many people want to tell you that the common denominator between every person who succeeds in creating and living the life they want is HOW THEY CHOOSE TO THINK. 

And it's this commitment to CHOOSING THOUGHTS that creates the version of you that you haven't met yet. 

Think about it. I doubt you're the same person as you were 20 years ago. Life has changed you. Perhaps you have taken on new roles such as mum, husband, wife, care giver. Maybe you took on a different job role. Maybe you moved countries - all of these changes, changed YOU.

But what if... your whole life could change by you CHOOSING to change. By BE-coming who you need to be. 

I remember when I used to go to slimming club. There were two types of people. Type A were the ones who did really great for most of the week, pigged out the weekend, starved themselves the day of the weigh in and then brushed off their lack of results with, "i'll start again tomorrow" or "life's too short not to enjoy yourself". 

Type B were the ones who completed the diary sheets, who counted their points, who got creative and resourceful with cooking, who created balance throughout the week, who worked out. They owned their results on the scales. 

Type A was a MUCH bigger group than Type B. 

Type A took action with the same identity. Type B chose to be a different person to take action in commitment to the result you wanted. 

So take a listen and remember, email me at [email protected] or dm me on FB or Insta with where you experience resistance to what i'm sharing so I can help you. 

Do you want to guarantee you get results this year? Do you want to make changes in your life? Do you want to feel that you can make that happen, find out how to make that happen and commit to making it happen? Then i'd love to chat with you about how my 1-1 coaching can get you there.. book your free consult here. 

 

I ran a workshop yesterday on “Managing Your Thoughts & Emotions”. Through the day, I coached people on fixing their marriage, developing a healthier relationship with food and body image, changing careers even though they didn’t know what they wanted and how to love yourself enough to put yourself back in the dating scene.

And it occurred to me, that every person had the same problem, which wasn’t the problem they thought they had.

It would be safe to assume that when you are struggling to create change it’s because you don’t know the “how”. Or that you haven’t found the right “how” yet.

BUT…. We have a infinite supply of both, at the end of our fingers, with search engines and social media. We can learn how to do, change or achieve anything. For free. If we wanted to.

WELL IT MUST BE THOUGHTS THEN right ? You don’t have the right thoughts. You have limiting beliefs. You don’t know HOW to think

And to some degree this is true..Last weeks episode on why Mindset might actually be the problem well give you more perspective on this.

In this podcast i give you examples to show you how this is true too. 

So yes, thinking IS a creative force.

You see, in The Model, I show you exactly how Thoughts, Feelings and Action are intertwined and create your results.

Join my FREE workshop on Eventbrite to learn how to use The Model for yourself. 

And when you want to change your life, set and hit goals, you have to leave one thing behind…

THE CERTAINTY OF WHERE YOU ARE

Your brain knows what to expect. Nothing new is happening. There’s no more difficult emotions to feel. Because it’s not your brain that hates feeling that way. It’s your SOUL!

EMOTIONAL CERTAINTY IS HOLDING YOU BACK frome the results, goals and life that you want

ANSWER?

I'll tell you what I think the answer is and the fundamental belief that I have about what's at the bottom of ALL success. 

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"MANAGING YOUR THOUGHTS & EMOTIONS"- replay will be available 

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I've been thinking a lot about the word "mindset".

And I started to discover that there is a possibility that "working on your mindset" could be doing you more harm than good. 

The word mindset COULD imply that

1.. That it's something personal and have you feeling and thinking that there is something wrong with you

2.. That the thoughts you have and the thoughts you choose are the same thing

3.. That there is a SET end point, where you'll be fixed and your mind will be totally onboard

So in this episode I want to offer you 3 perception shifts that will make this work easier to implement, more helpful especially if you are new to it and most importantly, let you be KINDER to yourself. 

I am SO convinced of this and the power that it has to change you life that I want you to join me on a free training - that I've literally just decided to run. I've thrown a wait list landing page together and I will be going live before the end of this month (feb 23)... I'm going to make sure i have time to coach some of you too so that you can see this work in action. 

PLEASE join me.. and share the link. Sign up here 

Notice what happens in your brain when you tell yourself “I’m don’t have motivation or I’m not motivated”. You make it personal. You make it mean something about YOU.

And how does THAT make you feel? Crappy, right? 

And do you do the things you need to when you have those thoughts & emotions? NO!!The truth is this: You don’t HAVE motivation, you GENERATE it

So today, I want to talk to you about what motivation really is and how you can generate, grow and sustain it! And as always, I’ll give you something to implement right away

Lets start with how you might define and expect to experience motivation

1. Motivation is something you have or something you feel that helps you take action toward something you want/to achieve a goal
2. When you feel motivated you feel good and have good thoughts about yourself & your goal
3. When motivation is absent you feel bad, probably have a whole heap of negative conversations in your head – about you and tell yourself “you’ll never make it/get there”.

 3 ways that DESTROY motivation

#1. Letting your results determine your degree of motivation

#2. Defining motivation in terms of how much you get done/productivity

#3. Relying on extrinsic motivation

The biggest motivation killer is having the subconscious thought, on loop, that THIS OUTCOME IS NOT AVAILABLE FOR ME… How in gods name can you stay motivated when you really don’t believe in the inevitability of your success?

THOUGHTS> EMOTIONS> ACTIONS> RESULTS..

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How much energy are you wasting in NOT making a decision?

Maybe you tell yourself it's just because you are wanting to make sure it's THE RIGHT decision?

But what if that's a story? And what if that story is doing your success or results harm?

I work with a lot of clients who are busy. Alpha females are super good at taking action. Getting organised. Motivating and inspiring.

But they're not so good at making decisions to STOP this cycle of action and exhaustion.

I see 3 common reasons why my clients choose NOT to make decisions.

1. The human need for certainty

2. They don't trust themselves

3. FOMO - what if the other choice would have been so much better?

And I'm sharing with you why these are all just head drama. AND.. how you get to choose differently. Manage Your Thoughts & Emotions with my free workbook  

Book your free consult with me now and find out how you can get any result you want, in less time and without hustle or burn out..

As a small business owner, there is nothing more frustrating and confusing than working your ass off and not seeing the results for it. 

Feeling frustrated, exhausted and overwhelmed, your brain is filled daily with thoughts of, 

"What am I doing wrong?"

"What am I NOT doing?"

"What else can I do?"

And THAT is the problem 

Because as a small business owner, I am almost 100% sure that taking action is not something you shy away from. 

I would guess that you are an action taker. 

That your brain never switches off from all the things you are to do, could do, should do. 

BUT LET ME ASK YOU...

How long will you keep doing this and not getting the results you want?

Isn't it true that there could be another reason that you're not getting the results you want? 

In this episode I'm going to share that reason with you. 

AND i'm going to tell you how to change it. INSTANTLY. 

Be sure to listen to Ep #152 and download your worksheet to get the most out of this episode. 

It was just another Saturday swim at the lake with my sister and friend. 

Only it wasn't just another Saturday. 

And that was my first mistake. 

About 30 minutes later I was getting pulled out of the lake by the lifeguard. 

I learned 3 very valuable life lessons that day. 

3 lessons that I try and live by every day to bring more mental, emotional and spiritual presence to my days. 

Alpha Female

I used to pride myself on the Alpha Female traits... but are they what they are cracked up to be? 

Is a "healthy" place to find ourselves ... or are we all leading ourselves to  a place where we'll need to be rescued?

There are NO medals given for being a f*cking Island, and yet, for some many of us we do it all alone. 

We leave much needed conversations hanging. 

We exhaust ourselves in pursuit of being self sufficient and the answer to everything.

We show others it's NOT ok to ask for help. 

What are we teaching our children?

One thing that drives me more than ever is this thought,

"What am I showing my children to be true?"

My girls, at 21 and 22, are young adults and I already see the impact of the conditioning I created before "I knew better". 

I don't beat myself up over it, I didn't know different AND, at the same time, I know that I can still create a more posititve influence on them and help THEM to be role models for the future. 

So please, grab your notepad and lean in hard to this episode. 

You never know, it could save your life xxxx

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This is the 2nd of 2 coaching frameworks that I'm sharing, to ensure that you finish this year feel clear and powerful. 

To supplment this work, please make sure you download you free workbook and sign up for my free training in January..

So let me introduce you to The Model. A simple and transformative framework developed by Brooke Castillo, founder of The Life Coach School. 

It helped me so much as I navigated starting my business again after the death of my dad. 

My clients are loving it.

And YOU will love it too. 

There are 5 simple steps

Circumstance

Thoughts

Feelings

Actions 

Results 

In this episode I'm showing you exactly how to use The Model so you can finally get any result you want. 

Are you ready?

Lets go..

This time of the year it’s easy to check out.

Especially if you don’t have the results that you wanted to create over the last 12 months.

And that’s really why I detest New Year’s Resolutions. It’s just another false starting point when in truth, we have a choice in every moment to make a powerful, new decision rather than a decision from resignation.

So this week I'm going to COACH YOU!

I want you to have a sense of clarity and certainty BEFORE New Year arrives.

I want you to feel anchored in to resourceful and powerful emotions AND taken a step toward creating the self concept you need in order to start creating the results you want.

 

And before we start, here’s a thought I want you to borrow as we do this work together.

THERE IS PLENTY OF TIME LEFT THIS YEAR FOR ME TO GET DIFFERENT RESULTS AND CREATE A POWERFUL PLAN FOR GROWTH.

Because I’m going to be sharing coaching resources that I use with my clients, I’ve created a PDF for you to download so that you can really maximise the potential of this work DOWNLOAD IT HERE.

So if you’re ready, lets dive in to the GROW model of coaching and get you moving!!

THE GROW MODEL IS A FOUR-STEP FRAMEWORK.

G – GOAL - Getting clearer on your goal and have an understanding of why it’s important to you and what values it meets for you .

R – Reality. Where are you at now. Create some context for creating action steps based on that.

O – Generting options and seeing opportunities for growth and action

W – Way forward. This is your commitment.

What I’m going to do now is give you 3 questions in each stage and my suggestion is that you answer them ALL – even if it feels like you are repeating yourself.

A big part of growth is challenging the models with we function within in life. Because those models have created who we are and what we have.

Change requires changing our models (most of the time) and so give yourself permission to do the things even if your brain tells you why you shouldn’t!

REMEMBER: I’VE CREATED A PDF FOR YOU TO GUIDE YOU THROUGH THIS PROCESS

I’m also going to give you a few coaching tips and concepts to help guide you through this process.

G – GOAL - Here are the 3 concepts. Get the questions on the pdf and in the show 

1. If it doesn’t match your values, it will be hard to achieve
2. Doing it to feel a certain way is back to front
3. If it feels yukky when you write it – look for the Thought that’s creating that. (we’ll do this coaching model next week)

 

R- Reality

1. Your power is in decisions made from possibility not circumstance or resignation
2. Ekhart Tolle – it is your current experience not your life experience
3. No shame no blame no judgemen

 

O – Options & Opportunities

1. There is ALWAYS a way.
2. Self concept is more powerful than strategy
3. Doing the same thing over and over = insanity

 

W- Way Forward

1. It’s the tiny actions taken consistently that create the big results
2. Your biggest skill is emotional resilience
3. Mind your time line

What I want you to do:

Carve yourself a couple of hours to DO THIS WORK. Don’t check out, check in to your dreams!!

Download the pdf

I'm offering Q&A/Hot seat coaching to supprt this coadhing on Monday 19th and Thursday 22nd December 2023. The zoom link will be sent via email when you grab the pdf.