Business is Human

In Part 3 Joan applies the Rosenberg Reset method to Imposter Syndrome 

1. Harsh Self Criticism 

2. Vulnerability 

3. Compliments 

"If you are alive you are worthy. 

If you're alive, you're deserving." 

"Compliments are a reflection of you, back to you."

Joan I. Rosenberg, PhD psychologist  

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creator of Emotional Mastery™ and Emotional Mastery Training™

TEDx speaker

She is a featured expert in the critically acclaimed documentary films ‘I Am’, ‘The Miracle Mindset’, ‘Pursuing Happiness’ and ‘The Hidden Epidemic’. She has been seen on CNN’s American Morning show, OWN, and PBS stations nationally, along with appearances across TV, radio and print media. She hosted The MindStream Podcast, an influential and thought-provoking iTunes podcast.

Dr. Rosenberg is the author of the #1 Amazon bestseller Ease Your Anxiety 

She maintains an active psychotherapy practice in Los Angeles, CA.

In Part 2 Joan describes how difficult feelings manifest physically and how to respond. 

1. One Choice

2. Eight Feelings

3. 90 Seconds 

Creating Awareness vs Avoidance 

Our brain processes our experience, the right brain feels and the left brain gives it the words for the story. 

Joan I. Rosenberg, PhD psychologist  

BUY THE BOOK!

creator of Emotional Mastery™ and Emotional Mastery Training™

TEDx speaker

She is a featured expert in the critically acclaimed documentary films ‘I Am’, ‘The Miracle Mindset’, ‘Pursuing Happiness’ and ‘The Hidden Epidemic’. She has been seen on CNN’s American Morning show, OWN, and PBS stations nationally, along with appearances across TV, radio and print media. She hosted The MindStream Podcast, an influential and thought-provoking iTunes podcast.

Dr. Rosenberg is the author of the #1 Amazon bestseller Ease Your Anxiety 

She maintains an active psychotherapy practice in Los Angeles, CA.

Part 1 of this series: 

HOW TO .... create Confidence, Resilience and Authenticity 

When we're well connected to ourselves, our thoughts and our awareness we can then connect well to others. 

Learn to RIDE THE WAVE of difficult feelings with a simple method, 

The Rosenberg Reset

Joan I. Rosenberg, PhD psychologist  

BUY THE BOOK!

creator of Emotional Mastery™ and Emotional Mastery Training™

TEDx speaker

She is a featured expert in the critically acclaimed documentary films ‘I Am’, ‘The Miracle Mindset’, ‘Pursuing Happiness’ and ‘The Hidden Epidemic’. She has been seen on CNN’s American Morning show, OWN, and PBS stations nationally, along with appearances across TV, radio and print media. She hosted The MindStream Podcast, an influential and thought-provoking iTunes podcast.

Dr. Rosenberg is the author of the #1 Amazon bestseller Ease Your Anxiety 

She maintains an active psychotherapy practice in Los Angeles, CA.

Brandee is a storyteller. 

She tells the stories of her clients, they wear them for a lifetime. 

Brandee Gordon founder of Native Ink Tattoo, knew from the time that she could hold a pencil that art was her thing.  By high school she knew this would be her career.  The jump from a love of art to a thriving tattoo business took: 

• Intention
• Strong Character and Values
• Courage
• Connection to her clients and their stories 

Fun Fact:

At 17 years old Brandee courageously called Tommy's Tattoo shop in a neighboring town and said, "I don't have any tattoos but I'd like you to teach me the tattoo business." After seeing her portfolio he said yes.  In the late 90's there weren't a lot of female tattoo artists!

How often we over complicate using our gifts and talents!

Brandee was so impacted by the story of the Dunham family, she'd like to dedicate this episode to the Grayson Dunham Foundation, a heartbreaking story that we need to share. 

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PhotoCred: Lindsey Herron Photography 

Have you ever read a blog post or caption from someone and immediately felt a connection? 

This was my experience with Darrah Brustein. Can you say kindred?

Her website reads: 

"my core belief is that the best way to live is by design, not by default. i've spent the last decade crafting and integrating my life and work intentionally, not choosing one over the other."

This episode will inspire you and give you practical tactical takeaways, including a personal challenge you'll want to accept at the end of the episode. 

Listen for a brilliant process Darrah has to let others help us uncover our gifts and talents.

Darrah's bio is impressive.. Forbes, Inc, CNN as well as a page of celebrity interviews such as Deepak Chopra, Seth Godin, Jen Sincero, Adam Grant, Daniel Pink.

Some nuggets in this episode:

When you grow up and aren't sure where you fit and what skills you really have.

Your life's purpose as a bread crumb trail of discovery.

Darrah discusses her experiment of "letting go", no longer white knuckling through -  In fact, not only did she continue to achieve  ... her creativity, connections and solutions got BETTER!

 Also a LIFE HACK:

Keep an archive of compliments

for those times we need borrowed confidence

www.darrah.co 

amazing FREE downloads!

Masterclass with Deepak Chopra

Life by Design ... with interviews from 45 experts

Host your own Networking Events

Other quick links: 

 Money Making Sunny - Finance Whiz Kids on Amazon

90 Seconds to a Life you Love

If I had a soapbox, one of the things I'd shout about is context.  Do you know how to weave together the circumstances based on the setting.  That's context.  The word context means to weave together.

con: together
texure: to weave

Ali Cudby is a master weaver, she understands the need for context.  She's woven together an interesting life full of experiences while refining her gifts and talents and where they best fit.

Ali recently learned more about context after moving to Indianapolis, IN; a location that was not on her radar or her master plan.  After stints in Hollywood film, working for the New York Times, a hard earned degree from Ivy League Wharton School of Business, and a life changing bra experience turned business and best selling book, Ali found herself in the middle of the United States learning a new language.  The language of the Midwest; "are you one of us".

The Midwest culture values relationships, family. longevity and generations of trust.  Ali with all of her gifts and talents and experience, was the new girl.  A new girl in a beautiful city surrounded by incredibility nice people.  She learned to speak the language, the language of kindness, trust and becoming one of the "us".

We should always stand tall in our story, know our gifts and talents, value them, and learn how they fit contextually.  Because Ali is a master weaver, she quickly learned that an Ivy League resume and New York Times bio was more about being an "outsider" than a stand out top candidate in the Monument Circles of Indianapolis. Pardon the local pun and joke about our city center literally called Monument Circle.

Instead of hiding behind her resume and seeking her business elsewhere as a consultant who can work anywhere  in the U.S. she became one of us, she looked for connections.  She was courageously curious about us Midwesterners and specifically Indy, as we affectionately call our city of Indianapolis.  She's building relationships and sharing her story.  This is context.  When we stand tall in our own story with authenticity and vulnerability, we give others permission to do the same.

Ali has become a friend, I value her courage and her resume.  I deeply respect Ali's passion for customer loyalty and customer experience.  She's mastered her craft and knows the spaces she fits best to help business owners here in Indianapolis and around the country.  If you're a "people first" leader running a small to mid size business ($5M to $20M) looking to capitalize on the value of keeping your customers loyal and engaged, schedule a chat with Ali.  After all, you spent a lot of time and money getting those customers, doesn't it just make sense to keep them around for generations, sounds like a Midwest thing to do.

She loves coffee and customers and is happy to meet you in a local shop. She knows the owners and the patrons of her favorite places, as the locals do.

Find Ali and her business Your Iconic Brand here. Check out her LinkedIn profile. Ali is passionate about helping you keep your customers.  #CustomerLoyalty

We'll have her back when her new book about Customer Loyalty launches fall 2019!

Fit My Bras: How to Find Your Perfect Bra and Why It Matters

Today learn about SOUL FOOD and how to get you some! 

Newflash: It's not something that comes naturally to us high achieving women.

 Jen Petro, the owner of Dropleaf.co, a marketing company working with companies that have a passion driven mission.  

She shares her yearly practice of taking a personal retreat to reflect, strategize and rest, now that’s soul food!   Jen swears by this practice and would no way give it up as a part of her yearly strategy planning for work and life.

Disconnecting is counter-intuitive to how high achieving women typically operate.  We "white knuckle it" through things and applaud ourselves that we're sticking with it, when we're often making things worse.  

What we need is a break, not as a luxury, as a necessity.   

Self Care Rant around 8 minute mark!  Jen and I hate on bath bombs and rose'. 

The intent of a personal retreat is rest and rejuvenation, what self care was supposed to mean.

Being with yourself long enough to study your thoughts, to study your current behaviors and ask yourself what needs to change? What do I need to be a better version of myself.

This does not have to be expensive!  Jen has great trips to meet every situation!

FREE PERSONAL RETREAT DOWNLOAD!!!!  WHAT!!!   It’s so good she should have charged for it! - Hit this link and scroll to the bottom of the page, it's beautiful!

As high achieving women, we don't use our strategic powers to ask  “what do I need right now?”  

 To turn all of our special powers inward.

Gift From the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh.

Charles Lindbergh’s wife would go to a little cottage on the beach by herself for months. Women need solitude to find the true essence of who they are and get to the core of who they are.  

We have trapped ourselves by thinking we are the center our universe. However, we do not control our universe. In fact, that perspective is hurtful not only to ourselves but to others.  When we don't let the others in our lives step up and use all of their gifts and talents, we've robbed them.  

Jen -  “I didn't realize how wound I was and how on edge”   

We need this to remind ourselves, we're far more  BADASS than we give ourselves credit for.

“I think so many of us have lost her way or maybe we never really knew who we were.”

You don’t always need dramatic changes, sometimes you need a quiet space to reflect on how you feel about your current life to gain appreciation and perspective.

Dr Caroline Leaf - Think, Learn, Succeed

REQUEST:  If you decide to take a retreat based on this episode, Give me a shout and let me have you on as a guest to talk about your experience!

  Reflection Questions:    

 1. When is the last time you were just quiet and honest with yourself about what you need?

 2. What is holding you back from taking that kind of time? .

AND a SUPER discount on a 12 week course for women looking to build a business!  Use code: BADASS   

We all have gifts and talents and passions.  Our gifts and talents are meant to be utilized!  We're wired for certain things for a reason.  When we align with our gifts and talents and passions, we have a strong desire to thrive and our communities benefit from our gifts.  

Brittany Overbeck owner of Blue House Bridal tried to move away from her gifts but thankfully they drew her back! 

Check out these reviews on her Facebook page!  Passion Pays Off!

Also in this episode, Brittany discusses the thrill of challenging yourself to try new things and explore all of your interests!  This small town girl has kept her small town values and is now exploring the world! She's an entrepreneur, professional ballroom dancer and even tried out to be a Colts Cheerleader.  Hear from Brittany and be inspired by her no fear approach to life!  

I can't wait to see what she's up to next!  

Ava Wettrick, host of Mentorz podcast and high school senior cares about her peers.  She's bringing amazing thought leaders to her Generation Z peers to inspire them to think bigger.  She's also bringing groups of young women together for much needed connection and challenging discussion about deeper meaning and purpose than high school typically provides.

Ava Wettrick - host of Mentorz podcast. 

The suicide rate for teens between 10 and 17 was up 70% between 2006 and 2016, the latest data analysis available from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. 

It's clearly documented that lack of connection and lack of meaning and purpose is a significant contributor to depression.  Couple this challenge with the high achievement mindset driving through education today and we have a crisis.  

Before you jump on the bandwagon of iPhones are the villian, that seems like an easy target to shift the blame.  Are we really listening to our teens?  Do they have a voice?  Do we aspire to a strong sense of love and belonging or just a high GPA?  

And what about the kids that aren't on the college track?  What about the artist and the creative?  Where is their sense of meaning and purpose and belonging? 

Are you living this one? This lie we tell ourselves, when I get caught up I’m gonna _________. Then fill in the blank with that thing you really want to do, the thing you can’t stop thinking about. It’s all a lie because you’re never getting caught up. Ever.

So now what? Are you just going to let that dream of yours die until you get your inbox to zero? Or after you prep for the quarterly meeting. By the way, the quarterly meeting happens again …. in 3 months. The continuous cycle of demands and busy that may be drowning your dreams and your spirit.

Lindsey Hein from I’ll Have Another podcast on the current episode of The Badass Womens Council podcast shares her story. With 4 boys under the age of 6, Lindsey could have easily lived that lie and most would have considered it a legitimate excuse not to live her dreams. Yet she researches and finds top name guests, interviews those guests, and publishes an episode every week while supporting a highly engaged audience and speaking appearances. Let this inspire you, you can do it too!

LINDSEY SHARES THESE TIPS.

1. Announce It, Then Figure it Out – There’s accountability in sharing your dream.
2. Start Messy – The need to be “right” or perfect stops too many talented badasses from bringing their gifts to the world.
3. Listen to Your Inner Badass – The thing you can’t stop thinking about is probably the gift and dream that God planted in you from your beginning, stop shushing it.
4. Baby Steps are Still Steps – You don’t need to quit everything and go to school to learn every detail. Sit down at home in your PJ’s and craft a plan, then start searching for information to take one step. Repeat.
5. Your Story and your Struggle Inspires Others – By sharing her fears and the discovery of testing positive for the BRCA2 gene mutation, Lindsey landed a spot on the cover of Women’s Running Magazine from nearly 2000 applicants. That courageous act has opened doors and helped her inspire and engage her audience.
6. You CAN Change – Lindsey knows that she’s prone to fear. By knowing that about herself she can mindfully recognize and intentionally shift those tendencies to more positive outcomes.

Listen to this episode and be inspired to live a messy imperfect life while taking baby steps to your dream. Then jump over to listen to Lindsey’s podcast, I’ll Have Another. Don’t miss the Instagram stories of the real life of Lindsey Hein and her messy and beautiful crew!