You know those people that you get inspired and happy just by being around them?  

That's Nikki Lewallen!  

I hadn't planned for this to be the New Year post but after listening back, there's so much inspiration and great tips here, there's no better way to kick off your new year planning! 

Nikki has a passion for helping people love Mondays! She has deep expertise in all things employee engagement. She is a powerful connector of people and believes that relationships trump everything! 

Each day she is inspiring people to enjoy the work they do on earth, build meaningful relationships and give back! 

You must listen to learn how she and Tonka Jane create some happiness for others! 

Host of Gut + Science Podcast - a weekly show with the nations top CEO's and Leaders - (PS, I was on her show too, : ) episode 12) 

CEO of Rainmakers, a premiere business networking organization in Indianapolis.

Head of Partnerships for Emplify, a company devoted to helping millions of people find meaning in their work.

National Chair for Engage Mentoring, a company dedicated to People-First Executives. 

She's back!  Dr. Vickie Dalton is here to talk about relationships!

 As strong women, we’re willing to work really hard to make things turn out well. We want our relationships to go well too.
 
Newflash:
You can’t control others people’s behaviors. 

I know I know, we believe things could be soooooo much better if we could just tell people what to do! 
Nope.  (I know, I know #superhard)

So what CAN we do? 

10 Things ....

 
This applies to friendships, colleagues, & significant others.

1. Take Responsibility and Accountability for our OWN behaviors.
2. Choose to work on your relationships. Great relationships don’t happen by accident. They take INTENTION.
3. Conflict will happen.  You don’t have to agree on everything. 
4. After a fight, go back and work through it, even when it is uncomfortable. This is how we learn how to have great relationships.
5. Assumptions are dangerous! You’re wrong half of the time about the context and background of an argument, even when you have a great relationship.
6. Our kids are learning to communicate and how to do relationships from us. Don’t hide the struggle, learn and show them how to work through them.
7. ASK FOR WHAT YOU NEED!  Without guilt.
8. There is no perfect.  NOBODY HAS a perfect life.  I REPEAT ….N O B O D Y  has a PERFECT life.
9. There are 3 steps to a great apology, stay until the end to learn those!
10. We're all fabulously imperfect. Own that, learn and work through things together.

I've been waiting to do this episode!  An interview with my therapist!  I chose Dr. Victoria Dalton, PsyD,  as my therapist from her profile on Psychology Today. She's described as direct and genuine.  It's a fact.  She is both direct and genuine and you will learn so much from her in this episode. 

Topics: 

• Mindfulness
• Irrational Core Beliefs
• Fear of Shame and Judgement
• The Four Agreements book recommendation 
• What the voices in our head tell us, what they remember
• How we fill The First Silence or The First Look 
• The 16/30/60 Rule

TAKEAWAYS: 

If you want more joy, take accountability and ownership and let go of fault and blame. 

Why? Challenging your beliefs and choices in a healthy way. 

Connection matters. 

REFLECTION QUESTIONS: 

1. What beliefs do you need to challenge and look for evidence of truth?

2. Are you giving yourself permission to take the time to connect?

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Alex Perry - Executive Presence Coach and Founder of Practically Speaking - 

Jason Barnaby - Tribe Leader & Chief Firestarter - Firestarters Inc. 

We begin with sweaty run stank and end up with Sears & Roebuck stretchy pants for grown ass men. In between we cover topics about: 

• feedback
• tribe building 
• vulnerability 
• head trash
• affirmation vs feedback
• Asking for what you need

Tribe building moves us into a more collaborative space.  We aren't meant to do life alone.  Shifting from the "do you" culture to the "Do you, but don't do it alone." space.

Build a tribe with the 7 types of people Jason outlines at Firestarter Inc. 

Go to Jason's website link above and subscribe to download his pdf with descriptions of the 7 types: 

• Connector
• Catalyst
• Dreamer
• Devils Advocate
• Listener
• Organizer 
• Expert 

• the power of feedback that comes from a tribe that knows you, knows your why and your purpose and always has your best interest at heart. 
• Not all beliefs are truths. 
• Being vulnerable with your tribe so you don't carry around head trash. 

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REFLECTION QUESTIONS FOR THE WEEK

1. When was the last time you received loving and helpful feedback?

2. Who can you go to for loving and helpful feedback? 

Jason Barnaby - Chief Firestarter and Tribe Leader we discuss the "how to's" of building and tending your tribe.  Jason puts structure to this tribe thingin a meaningful practical way!  

From Jason's almost released first book are these 3 key ideas: 

1. Find Your Fire
2. Fan Your Flame
3. Tend Your Tribe 

We're built for connection, real connection, not the counterfeit connection of social media. Doing life on your own is just too hard.

Your tribe isn't just a group of friends, it's a group you've carefully and intentionally assembled.  Join Jason's Tribe and get the full tribal inventory. 

1. Listener

2. Dreamer

3. Devil’s Advocate

4. Organizer

5. Catalyst

6. Connector

7. Expert

Hire Jason for your next keynote or meeting or just check out his amazing resources!

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Jennifer Robbins - Ignite Development 

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Reflection and Connection

1. What if you chose your friends/tribe as carefully as you chose a spouse or a date?

2. Who needs fired from your tribe? 

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I would love to discuss keynote speaking opportunities, coaching or consulting for your business!  HMU

Music Cred: Cameron Fleetwood Hession

Nikki Busch founder of Nicole Blair Wear is our guest. 

Nikki discusses the highs and lows of being an entrepreneur and she tears up a bit talking about the moment when she found her purpose.   

• putting yourself under the microscope
• things always take longer than we think they will!
• humanity
• Cheering for yourself  
• 3 "Ugh"s 
• Daily Resilience 
• Stay true to yourself
• Don't be afraid to make mistakes
• Your style should reflect 
  1. Who you are as a person
  2. your signature 
  3. Highlight your best feature
  4. Meet your budget
• Don't be afraid to make mistakes
• Roll with it! 

Weaving together art, science and more than a decade of experience, NBW leads clients through a journey of self-discovery that helps you express your story, your goals and your best attributes in a personal style all your own. Through style and confidence workshops for businesses, television appearances and an extensive menu of one-on-one personalized services, the premiere personal style advocate in the Midwest is literally at your fingertips.

Reflection and Connection

1. Do your clothes give you confidence?

2. Do you cheer for yourself? 

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Would love to discuss keynote speaking opportunities, coaching or consulting for your business!  HMU

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Christine Trost is a Managing Director leading a team of top sales professionals for Franklin Covey, the premier performance improvement company in the world.  

Christine has an amazing track record of success, yet she she still suffers once in awhile from Top Performer Fraud, what if this time I fail and I'm not as good as they think I am. 

She'll share insight on how to overcome this fear. 

• Connection frees us from this fear. 
• Strong women can isolate themselves by staying busy and the fear of being exposed. 
• Lean into the opportunities, don't retreat for fear of what others think or fear of failure. 
• Failures have the biggest learning opportunities. 
• Be content where you are.

Reflection Questions for the Week

1. Who can you share your fears and failures with?

2. Have I attached too much of my self worth to my job/career? 

We're about Reflection and Connection! 

Connect here and let us know what topics you'd like to hear and any feedback about the BWC!

Loud and Proud, if you're looking for a keynote speaker, a coach or a consultant for your business.  (raises hand) HMU

Music Cred: Cameron Fleetwood Hession