But Why?

By Clemmie TelfordSociety & Culture Education Self-Improvement Parenting Kids & Family

But Why? episodes

October 20, 2021HAT HEWITT ON ALZHEIMER'S
This week Clemmie chats to Hat Hewit the person behind @dayinthelifeoflaws, a remarkable Instagram account documenting her mum's early onset Alzheimer's & Dementia.
We chat about what Hat’s mum (Laws) was like before diagnosis.
The signs and symptoms that led to the diagnosis of early onset Alzheimer's.
The difficult decision to move to her to care.
Biggest misunderstanding about Alzheimer's.
Grieving a living person.

Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including a section on feelings and relationships.

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58 min
October 13, 2021DR KAREN GURNEY ON SEX
This week Clemmie chats to clinical psychologist and certified psycho-sexologist and author Dr Karen Gurney - aka @thesexdoctor.
The pair discuss:
Redefining what we mean by ‘sex’.
Whether we judge our sex lives by unrealistic standards?
How to define what ‘good sex’ is
Research around oral sex and the sexual scripts that surround it.
The orgasm gap.
What stands in the way of great sex in long term relationships.

Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including a section on talking to kids about sex.

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57 min
October 06, 2021EMMA TULLEY-WILLIAMS ON ENDOMETRIOSIS
This week Clemmie speaks to podcaster and mental health campaigner Emma Tulley-Williams - aka @mummyspaininthearse - all about endometriosis.
The pair discuss:
Her first experiences of periods. How immediately shocking they were.
The journey to getting diagnosed with endo.
How misunderstood endo is, even though it impacts 1 in 10 women.
The impact of endo on her career, relationship and sex life.
The reality of living in pain.
Her fears for her daughter as she approaches puberty.
What we can all do to help raise awareness of endo.

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55 min
September 29, 2021GIOVANNA FLETCHER ON LIFE
This week Clemmie speaks to Giovanna Fletcher, author, presenter, winner of I'm Celebrity and mum of three. It was supposed to be all about happiness, but the pair end up having a general catch up about life.....and magpies!
The pair discuss:
Work and parenting
Book writing.
How three kids is wonderful but also a lot.
The line between holding things together and consciously letting them go.

Giovanna has written several books, her latest one ‘Walking On Sunshine’, is about three friends Vicky, Zaza and Mike who have each reached a defining (and longed for) point in their lives. However, rather than feeling happy and fulfilled they individually find themselves asking ‘is this it?’. Walking On Sunshine is available to preorder now.
Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ here.

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1 hr 8 min
September 22, 2021DR SARAH TONKS ON AESTHETICS
This week Clemmie speaks to Dr Sarah Tonks a cosmetic surgeon who has herself undergone a significant number of cosmetic procedures.
The pair discuss:
Dr Tonks personal choice in cosmetic interventions
Her recovery from a recent second Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL).
Dr Tonks' journey from applying to medical school as a kid to find herself in the world she is in now.
Emotional wellbeing in relation to cosmetic surgery.
Breast reduction and Clemmie's interest in it.

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1 hr 1 min
September 15, 2021BELINDA KIRK ON ADVENTURE
This week Clemmie speaks to Belinda Kirk who is a professional explorer! In 2010, she captained the first all-female rowing team to circumnavigate Britain non-stop, completing the journey in 51 days.
The pair discuss:
Belinda's incredible career including a trip where she sailed the Atlantic.
The joy of adventure
Why it is essential for our wellbeing.
The long term impact of ‘choosing challenge’.
Ways to instil adventure in our kids.

Belinda's book Adventure Revolution: The life-changing power of choosing challenge is out now.
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1 hr 14 min
September 08, 2021GEMMA STYLES ON SOCIAL MEDIA
This week Clemmie speaks to podcaster and mental health campaigner Gemma Styles about life in the public eye and all things social media.
The pair discuss:
Growing up on the internet.
Learning to find boundaries with social media .
The benefits and power of the community on social media.
Trolling and the ongoing impact of it
Mental health advocacy and how to do that whilst protecting your own.

Buy Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ including sections on screen time and complex feelings.

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1 hr 15 min
July 28, 2021DARREN CROCKER ON GAMBLING
This week Clemmie speaks to Darren of Rule_ette_out who is six years in recovery from gambling and has since set up gambling addiction support & awareness group.
In the episode we discuss:
Darren's first experience of gambling.
How it is intrinsically linked to sport.
When his habit moved into addiction.
Seeking help and the process of recovery.
Misconceptions a gambling.
What we can do to educate our children about gambling.

Support:
Anyone seeking advice and support please do reach out to:
Gamcare
Nacro
Be Gamble Aware

Shameless plug:
**The wait is over. Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to buy now!

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53 min
July 21, 2021VEX KING ON SELF HEALING
This week Clemmie speaks to Sunday Times No1 (twice over!) author Vex King about self healing.
The pair discuss:
The importance of feeling your feelings.
How self reflection and self healing is game changing but uncomfortable.
How belief systems are formed.
That default ‘positive thinking’ isn’t necessarily the answer.
The power of asking yourself why you are reacting a certain way.
The difference between self compassion and victimhood.

Plus a whole lot more! It's an enlightening but down to earth episode.
Vex’s book:
Healing Is the New High: A Guide to Overcoming Emotional Turmoil and Finding Freedom
Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

Resources mentioned in the episode:
Dr Nicole LaPera on BUT WHY?
Eckhart Tolle on Russel Brand’s Under the Skin

Shameless plug:
**Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to order now. It includes a section on ‘Complex Feelings’.

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1 hr 12 min
July 14, 2021MRS 0 & JANUS ON BDSM
Did you know that around nine per cent of you are into BDSM? And a further 16% are BDSM curious. Clemmie didn't know what to expect going into the recording of this episode with Mrs O and Janus, curator of BDSM Museum - I think I was worried about coming across as a prude or lifting the lid on some dark underbelly. Both of which were way off the mark.
In this episode we discuss:
The challenge of maintaining your sex life in the early parenting years. Especially when your body doesn’t feel like your own.
Why you might be surprised to learn that the foundational principles of BDSM are important and useful for ANY relationship.
Why the idea of ‘a window of not having to be in control’ is potentially appealing to many.
How we talk to our children about sex.
I also make it very clear that food play is NOT something I am into! It's an upbeat but educational one.
More from Guests:
For more from Mrs O including her erotic short stories and blog posts about everything from nifty ideas to boost your libido, sexy tips, relationship tales, the social development of sex in the media, mental health articles and advice to sex toy reviews. Head to PinchMeHard.com
While Chris is one of the founders of BDSM Museum: a non-profit Museum project in Hamburg Germany promoting: acceptance and cultural awareness for BDSM.

Shameless plug:
**Clemmie’s Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself’ is available to pre-order now. It includes a section on ‘Relationship’ and ‘The Body’.

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58 min