When it comes to partners, do you pick ones who are generally happy or generally miserable? Do they walk around with a dark cloud overhead, complaining all the time, or do they smile when doing small tasks like folding the laundry? The people you are drawn to reflect your own state of happiness. And no, happy doesn’t mean jumping up and down 24/7 or those crazy, intense feelings. It means being peaceful, connected to yourself, satisfied, fulfilled, etc. So if you’re tired of draining relationships full of struggle and want to catch yourself a happy fish, it’s time to up the ante on your own happiness.

Happiness starts with being in control of your own emotional state, rather than relying on others to take care of it for you. That’s what lifts the heaviness and allows you to have a light and happy life even when things are dark or challenging. You trust things will be ok because deep inside YOU are ok. Then it’s about sharing your dreams and happiness with your partner rather than focusing on problems. You don’t have to choose people who are depressed so you can “fix” them. Misery is easy. Happiness takes courage, but once you choose it for yourself, you will find your own happy little fish!