Fr. Roger J. Landry
Basilica of the Sacred Heart
University of Notre Dame, South Bend, Indiana
Nuptial Mass for Nicholas Marr and Alexandra DeSanctis
May 1, 2021
Tobit 8:4-8, Ps 103, Rom 8:31-35.37-39, Jn 2:1-11
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The following text guided the homily:
The first of May is a special day in the life of the Church. It is the beginning of the month especially dedicated to Mary. It is also the day since 1955 dedicated in a special way to Saint Joseph the Worker, which in this Year of Saint Joseph takes on adding meaning.
And so it’s fitting, here at the university dedicated to Our Lady, in this beautiful Basilica erected to the honor of the Sacred Heart that first beat within her womb, on this day in which we remember the loving labor by which Saint Joseph, through toil, sweat and callouses supported them in their vocations, that we give thanks to Jesus, Mary and Joseph for getting you to this day, Nick and Alexandra, and ask their intercession so that through the great sacrament you minister and receive today you may become a truly holy family.
Saint Joseph is very much involved in this day. Alexandra has long has a devotion to Saint Joseph, which she learned from her father Joseph’s deep devotion to his patron. In 2019, while on pilgrimage to Spain, Alexandra prayed a novena to Saint Joseph in anticipation of his March 19 Solemnity. She prayed for her future husband, whoever he might be, entrusting her vocation to God and praying that Saint Joseph would help “bring the right man at the right time” into her life. In essence, she put Saint Joseph the Worker to work, and he didn’t waste any time! Immediately after the pilgrimage she needed to go to a conference in Arizona. Nick and Alexandra had been introduced five months prior by Professor Phil Muñoz, had had a couple of brief conversations and exchanged a few emails related to an article Nick was working on. But Nick, seeing that Alexandra would also be at the conference, emailed to ask if Alexandra might want to go to daily Mass with him at a nearby parish the following morning, at … 6:30 am. Alexandra “very uncharacteristically” — because of the early time, but perhaps responding to Lenten graces — said yes. They spent that whole day of March 22 together, quickly became friends, had what Nick called “a blast,” kept in close touch and started dating on April 28.
Saint Joseph, it turns out, indeed brought the right man into her life at the right time.
Our Lady is similarly very much a part of their relationship. Alexandra has always praised Nick for his intentionality and Nick chose to propose on August 22, the feast of the Coronation of the Blessed Virgin Mary. They went to Mass together at St. Rita’s in Alexandria, and after Mass, across the Potomac at the Lincoln Memorial, Nick proposed. For Mary, to reign is to serve, and the Queen of the Family was very much there that day, serving and praying for them as they began their 252-day preparation for what Christ, her Son, will be doing in them today.
Mary is always at the service of the young couples and the family, as she seeks to help them enter into the covenant of her Son the Bridegroom with his Bride the Church, as she intercedes that they may grow together more and more into the image of God who created the human person male and female so that through their communion of persons in love open to life they might bear the image of the Trinitarian communion.
We see Mary’s powerful service in support of authentic human love in the Gospel Nick and Alexandra chose.
Jewish wedding receptions at the time of Jesus were extraordinary eight-day affairs,