Character Outs

Worried about how no going no contact with your toxic family will affect your children? 

On this episode, I interview my 22 year old daughter. She speaks candidly about her relationship with her narcissistic grandmother. 

She speaks about how the manipulation and control of my mother began at a very young age and how this just seemed completely normal. So normal in fact, that she didn't even tell me some of these stories until, this interview.

She also speaks about how she handled the toxicity, how it impacted her life and how the emotional manipulation of her grandmother changed as she grew.

My daughter Tiffany is bold, eloquent, and intelligent. She is a young woman who is head strong with incredible discernment and the ability to see through bullshit, all while being the conssumate empath. I am honored to have her be the very first guest on the Character Outs Podcast.

In the midst of your no contact journey and struggling? My email is always open: [email protected]

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Friend, when things get rough, remember: it is not you, never has been and you are not alone.

~Terri

life with my covert passive aggressive narcissistic mother: part 2

In this episode I continue the discussion about my relationship with my covert passive aggressive narcissistic mother. The manipulation and toxicity looks very different in adulthood than it does in childhood. As I grew, and then began to set boundaries, speak my truth, and be my authentic self, my mother set out on an all out war against me as she was losing control.

About Me:

Just an imperfect mom of 5, and survivor of the emotional abuse and manipulation of my covert passive aggressive mom and ass hole dad with narcissistic tendencies. Yes friends, I won the toxic family jackpot. Both parents, and bonus, step-mom are all out of control toxic.

One day I woke up, realized my worth, stopped the damaging cycle and went no contact with all of them. When I did though, I found that the societal norms associated with cutting ties with toxic family were villifying. I spent the beginning of my no contact journey with my family feeling lost, alone and kinda like a piece of shit. 

I am now on a mission to:

*Normalize going no contact

*Break toxic generational cycles.

*Share my story to validate and empower you!

Welcome all you black sheep, I am so happy you are here. It is not you, never has been and you are not alone.

I would love to hear from you, email me at [email protected]

Join our Instagram community! @characterouts

Be sure to sign up for the Character Outs Newsletter where you will recieve encouraging resources and tools to help you on your no contact journey. Email me and I will put you on the list.

~Terri

Growing up with a covert passive aggressive narcissistic mom...

She confuses your mind so deeply that sometimes you don't even recognize the depth of the toxicity until you break free. The overwhelming sense of responsibility to take care of her, not hurt her feelings, keep her happy...all things you were taught at a very young age. Confusing because you have an inherent desire to love and trust your mom. But when your mom is a narcissist, her actions never match her words. 

The narcissistic mother has distinctive patterns and weapons that she uses. Weapons that have been specifically crafted for you, by the person who knows you best. All of this done to keep you exactly where she wants you: fully dependent upon her.

*Instilling fear

*Making you doubt yourself

*Isolating you

*Sabotoging your life 

*Diminishing your self-worth

*Crazy making

*Twisting reality and the truth

This, is a glimpse into my story....

About me:

Just an imperfect mom of 5 and survivor of the emotional abuse and manipulation of my covert passive aggressive/borderline personality disorder mother and ass hole of a dad with narcisistic tendencies. Yes friends, I won the toxic family jackpot, both parents and bonus, one step-parent are out of control toxic.

I finally woke up one day, realized my worth, stopped the damaging cycle and went no contact with all of them. When I did though, I found that the societal norms associated with going no contact with toxic family members were villifying. I spent the beginning of my no contact journey with my toxic family feeling lost, alone and kinda like a piece of shit. 

I am now on a mission to:

*Normalize going no contact

*Break toxic generational cycles

*Raise my kids in a home completely void of the toxicity I experienced growing up

*Share my story to validate YOU and let you know you are not alone

Welcome all you black sheep, I am so happy you are here. It's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

I would love to hear from you, email me at [email protected]

Join our instagram community: @characterouts

Also be sure to sign up for the Character Outs Newsletter for encouraging resources on this no conatct journey. Send me an email and I will add you to the list.

~Terri

sadness-

Bleep. Bloop.

That damn emotion that slaps you up side the head, even during our strongest moments. Add to the mix that you are probably an an empath. So this emotion of sadness as it pertains to your no contact journey with your toxic family can be a tricky one to walk through. 

On this episode we discuss:

~What we can do when this emotion of sadness overwhelms us.

~How we can be purposeful about getting through this emotion.

~Remembering that emotions are temporary and not a sign that we are supposed to go back to the toxic emotional abuse that we left behind.

Resources:

Just incase you were even thinking about reaching back and reconciling with your toxic family as a result of feeling this emotion of sadness. Here is an interesting article about toxic stress and how it negatively impacts your body.

The Effects of Toxic Stress On The Brain & Body-How to Heal & Protect

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About me:

Just an imperfect mom of 5 and survivor of the emotional abuse and manipulation of my covert passive agressive narcissist/borderline personality disorder mother and an ass hole of a dad with narcissistic tendencies. 

I finally woke up one day, realized my worth and stopped the damaging cycle. When I did though, I found that the societal norms associated with going no contact with toxic family members were pretty villifying. I spent the beginning of my no contact journey with my toxic family feeling lost and kinda like a piece of shit. 

I am now on a mission to:

*Normalize going (and staying) no contact with toxic family

*Break toxic generational cycles

*Raise my kids in a home completely void of the toxicity I experienced growing up

Welcome all you black sheep, I am so happy you are here.

It's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

~Terri

On this episode, I discuss 3 tips that helped me stay strong after going no contact with my toxic family.

~1: Recognize the abuse

~2: Rebuild your self-worth

~3: Remain silent

Going no contact with toxic family is never a walk away and forget it deal. Join me as I discuss things that I did to help me rewire my brain from the emotinal abuse of my covert passive aggressive narcissit mother. How I developed healthy habits, stayed strong, and how you can remember your worth and not return to the toxic.

I would love to hear from you, email me at [email protected]

Resources:

The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse

~Terri

Just an imperfect Mom and survivor of the abuse of a covert passive aggressive narcissist/borderline personality disorder mother, and an ass hole of a dad with narcissistic tendencies. I finally realized my worth and went no contact with all of them.

On a mission to:

*break toxic generational cycles

*raise my kids in a healthy home

*normalize going no contact with toxic family.

It's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

GASP!

THAT WORD!

I know, it used to send me into a panic, you too? Why? Because we are no contact with our toxic families and we do not want to go back! Let's fix that scary response to the word forgiveness.

On this episode I am going to talk about:

*What forgiveness looks like in your life and how important it is to your healing journey.

*What forgiveness is NOT!

I would love to hear from you, email me!

Join our Instagram community as we navigate these no contact waters together: @characterouts

Resources:

It Didn't Start With You: Mark Wolynn

Cheers 'til next time.

It's not you, never has been. You are not alone.

Join me as we discuss that no contact moment with my father.

That moment I realized that I could no longer have a relationship with my:

      dead beat, selfish, ass hole with narcissistic tendencies of a father;

      who floated in and out of my life until...one moment,   

      when it all came to a screeching halt.

But here is the spicy part...there was a brief season that he was the hero.

In this episode I break down:

*the moments preceding THE moment

*THE moment

*the moments after THE moment

I also share why going no contact with my father has been confusing and more dificult to process than going no contact with my covert passive aggressive narcissist mother.

I discuss how important revisiting YOUR no contact moment is and how that leads to healing.

I hope when you listen to my story it resonates with you, validates you and reminds you that you are not alone on your journey of no contact with your toxic family.

It is not you, never has been and you are not alone.

Thank you for being here.

Terri

I would live to hear from you, email me!

Join our Instagram community @characterouts where we share laughs, empower with no bullshit and navigate these no contact with toxic family waters together.

On this episode we are going to talk about that moment...

You know that moment. That moment when you realize you have done everything you can do and you simply cannot have a relationship with your toxic family member.

I am no contact with my Mother, Father, and brother, but today's episode will focus on that moment with my mother. That moment I knew I would never be able to have a relationship with her ever again.

I am going to break down:

*the moments preceding the moment

*THE moment

*the moments after THE moment

I hope hearing my story makes you feel empowered and validates you on your journey of no contact.

Join our Instagram community @characterouts where we laugh, speak the truth with no bullshit and navigate all of the emotions of no contact with toxic family members.

Its not you. Never has been. You are not alone.

Questions? Want to be a guest on the podcast? Send me an email

Looking forward to connecting!

Terri

On this episode we will talk about:

~Who I am and why am I filling up more air space?

~What does Character Outs even mean?

~What you can expect from this podcast.

*Come join our Character Outs community over on Instagram where you will find support as we navigate these no contact with toxic family waters together with a little laughter through the tears. No bullshit and all truth. You are not alone.

Character Outs~Instagram

Questions? I would love to hear from you!

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