Coming Out Gold

Last week, I shared a mantra that's helping improve my life: slow, soften, exhale, expand. It is helping me learn to come alive in my own story. We have served our time setting aside all that sets our souls on fire, Lovie! It is time to live out our dreams. Today, we will drive further down this same road by learning what it means to become the main character in our lives.

Brene Brown says that greatness is owning your story and loving yourself through the process. And I have chosen this as the journey I will undertake in this next season. As a listener of the podcast, I hope it is a journey you, too, choose to take. Let me try and connect some dots for us today. And be sure to come back as this episode is only the tip of the iceberg!

As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com

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If you could live a life where you can be present in every moment, enjoying the people you cross paths with, savor the meals you eat, feel the sunshine on your face, and still take care of the things you need to take care of as a whole grown person, then would you want to give it a go? My new mantra could hold the key to you achieving a better story at a pace that fills your soul with peace, not exhaustion.

I am sure you have heard of the concept of toxic positivity. It is the belief that no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, people should maintain a positive mindset. It is the need for everything to always be "fine". Today I want to talk about another toxic pattern: toxic productivity. I define toxic productivity as the churn-and-burn thought process soaked in shoulds and layered with a scarcity mindset that most of us are expected to walk out as women in this world. Listen in as I share how I am using my new mantra to reset the patterns and rhythms of my life.  

To come alive in my story I am using this mantra: Slow. Soften. Exhale. Expand.

As always, DM me with your thoughts on this episode. And if you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com

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Well, it has been a minute since I dropped a new episode. I apologize for taking a sudden and unplanned break, and I have missed you so deeply. I know I am not alone in experiencing that life can sometimes feel like a tsunami sweeping over you. You know, the kind that knocks you off your feet and onto your backside, stealing your breath and threatening to swallow you whole. You do know what I am talking about, don't you?

In this kick off to season three, I am doing a bit of a life update as well as working to set the stage for what this next season of the podcast will be centered on. I have been finding myself in conversations lately with women who have passed the midpoint of their lives. They are looking around and wondering what the actual heck happened to them and their dreams. Even those who have lots of great things going on are expressing that there is something missing. In this next season we will dive into why that might be and what we can do to change to narrative. It is about taking control of our lives, hopes and dreams once again and chasing down the thing that sets our souls on fire. My hope is for us to link arms as women so we can use our shared power to write a new story. This isn't a "let me tell you how I have figured out the mysteries of life" kind of podcast. It is a messy look in to the reality of reinventing ourselves after life has knocked us around a bit. It is about cheering for one another, sharing tools and tips, and working together to build lives we want to live. If you are looking for a perfect coach who has the ideal life, I am so not your person. But if you are looking for a coach willing to get in the trenches alongside you and working to figure things out together, then you are at the right place. Take a listen and as always, shoot me a DM on socials with your thoughts! Lovie, it is time we became the sheroes of our stories! 

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Every so often in my life, demons from my past like to pop into my present life to take me out. Do you know what I am talking about?

Often we have story loops in our minds - or, let's face it, people in our lives - who like to remind us of our old selves, old patterns, and old brokenness. If we are honest with ourselves, we might have to admit that we are drudging up those old stories. In these moments, we may question the validity of our growth and healing. Depending on the wounds we carry, we may question our very worth.

Viewing this situation through a clearer lens, I began asking myself questions I think we should all be asking ourselves. I believe we should be pondering them deeply as we walk through our days - especially the hard ones. In this episode, I share my musing with you, Lovie, along with the questions I started asking myself.  They helped lead me to a new place.  I hope they will do the same for you!

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How often do we discount all we do because it isn't the work we wanted to get done, or we think should get done?  If you have been here for a while,  you know how I feel about the word "should".

As women, we are trained to hustle for our worth.  We have to produce, manage, and care for an extensive list of things in order to feel successful or be perceived as good enough.  If we are going to live in a world where we DON'T have to hustle for our worth, then we need to acknowledge all the work we do instead of discounting it as having value.  We need to acknowledge the myriad of silent tasks we handle daily.

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Today I want us to question some narratives many of us wrestle with.  I was finishing the book, Dare to Lead by Brene Brown, which is what triggered my desire to do this episode.  In the final chapter of the book, she said the most dangerous stories we tell ourselves are ones that diminish our loveability, creativity, and divinity.  Bless, but that one landed a blow that hurt.  Since part of my purpose here on the Coming out Gold podcast is to help us dismantle false narratives, we are spending some time on this today. Let's tackle these roadblocks together, Lovie.

If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com

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The original drop date of this episode is February 14, 2023. Regardless of your relationship status, I have no doubt Valentine’s Day makes you feel some kind of way. In episode 66, I share a new perspective on this day because I think it can help us all.

The world is constantly working to convince us to look outside ourselves for validation.  We compare, weigh, and measure our day-to-day lives against the highlight reels of others.  We internalize the Hollywood, magazine-cover ideal and weaponize it against our souls. And instead of knowing our worth, standing tall in the certainty that we are by birthright freaking fabulous, and being our own cheerleader, we diminish our value.   It is wrong for us to bench ourselves in our own life because we believe in a lie that we aren’t enough. When we take ourselves out of the game the world suffers. Our community suffers. Those who love us suffer. We suffer.

Let's break that cycle.  Let's learn to be on our own team.

If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com

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Welcome back to episode 65 of the Coming Out Gold podcast. In the last episode, I discussed the idea of living a regret-free life. Today I want us to start laying the foundation for doing this by defining the non-negotiables we need to do daily to be our best selves. Whatever your season, whatever your focus for 2023, this episode can help you establish some guardrails to keep you moving forward toward becoming an even more spectacular version of your already incredible self. Take a listen to this episode and start taking small baby steps in the direction of your dreams!

If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com

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Studies have shown that when people are in their final days of life their biggest regrets are always the path not taken, the things they never did because they told themselves lies about why they couldn’t do the thing their souls yearned to do. If this has scientifically been proven to be true, then isn’t NOT looking, not course-correcting, not taking small simple steps of progress in the direction of your dreams, isn’t this the radical choice for regret? By not choosing to see where you are, being honest about where you want to go, and day-after-day-after-day taking tiny steps in that direction, you have chosen to live a life you will regret.

Does that hurt your heart as it does mine? Seriously, the thought brings an ache to the center of my soul. Sure, one of my core desires is to live a life that matters long after I am gone. That might not be a core wish for you. But bless, do you want to choose a life you know you will regret?

The realization that I have done this for too many years makes me sick to my stomach. I don’t want regret to be the legacy I leave this world. I hope you don’t want that either. And that is why we are spending some time this year focusing on building a regret-free life.

Take a listen to this episode, and be sure to come back as I share some tools to help us all live the life of our dreams so we can rule our own world.

If you are interested in hiring a coach and ready to make some changes in your life, please consider a free discovery call with me. You can find the scoop on my website:  rscoachandstrategist.com

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Lovie, lovie, lovie, here we are on the final day of the first-ever podmas on the Coming Out Gold podcast.  I truly hope this 12 day journey has brought a smile to your face and some warmth to your holidays.  Settle in for our final day as I share my hopes for you in this season.

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