Coming Up Clutch with J.R. Helping Pro and Executive Athletes maximize their success and significance

If you're living life, you're going to find yourself in a battle.

Sometimes it's with yourself…

Other times it's with God…

Many times it's with others…

Whatever your battle is, why is it worth the fight?

In today's 5-Minute Drill, I share a simple approach you can take DAILY that (*if you truly lean into*) I believe will give you the fuel to fight your daily battles, and give you something to lean onto on those days or seasons when you just don't feel like doing what you're supposed to do.

HINT: It's stealing a page out of the superhero playbook!

If you want more strength and resilience while fighting your life's battles, then make sure to lock in to today's Drill.

LET'S GET IT!

[00:01 - 13:14] Opening Segment

• J.R.'s story about his Dad and what motivated him to fight through his health battles

[13:15 - 18:52] What's The Drill?

• STEP 1: Ask yourself, "Who are you fighting for today?"
• STEP 2: Find out if your answer in STEP 1 passes the test (must answer YES to all of the three following questions):
• Do you feel a strong emotional connection to it?
• Are you so motivated by your WHY that nothing will stop you or get in your way?
• Does it have deep meaning and significance to you?

[18:53 - 20:44] Wrapping Up!

• What's coming up on the next episode
• Final words

KEY QUOTES

"If you're fighting for God's people, God will fight for you." - J.R.

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
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There's the Comfort Zone and then there's the Discomfort Zone.

As an athlete, I know about the Discomfort Zone all too well…

It's because every time I get into it, it SUCKS, but there's always exponential growth at the end of it.

But why is it when it comes to our dreams and careers and families, most people are afraid to get into the Discomfort Zone?...

That place where our goals and dreams are so big that only God can fill the gaps?

Are you OK when life is good, but there's no growth?

In today's episode of Coming Up Clutch™️, I summarize the Top 3 nuggets from Monday's interview with entrepreneur and Brand Builders Group personal brand expert, Casey Dowdell...

We talk about what keeps most people stuck in the Comfort Zone and what prevents you (and your family) from enjoying the fulfillment you deserve.

Lock in to get the summary of my interview with Casey.

[00:01 - 10:47] Casey's BIG Three

• #1: How you know you're moving in the direction God wants you to move
• #2: What's getting in the way of understanding yourself and your calling
• #3: How to perform at a high level and still come up clutch for your family

[10:48 - 14:14] Wrapping Up!

• Make sure to listen to the full interview with Casey to get more of his wisdom and hear his BIG DOMINO
• Take action…
• Pick ONE of the three nuggets to work on
• COMMIT

KEY QUOTES

"Put yourself in the position where you need God everyday." - Casey Dowdell

CONNECT WITH CASEY

• Instagram: @classicamericandad
• Free Personal Brand Summit: https://influentialpersonalbrandsummit.com/casey/
• Book a Brand Strategy Call with Casey: https://freebrandcall.com/cd/

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• For Men Only - Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club

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Research shows that over 85% of people suffer from self-doubt.

It's real…especially when it comes to taking leaps of faith.

So how do you overcome it?

How do you know that the move you're about to make is the right move?

I lean in to those questions and more with entrepreneur and Brand Builders Group personal brand expert, Casey Dowdell on today's episode of the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show.

In this latest episode, Casey and I talk about…

• How you know you're moving in the direction God wants you to
• What's getting in the way of understanding yourself and your calling
• How to perform at a high level and still come up clutch for your family

…and so much more.

If you want a solid gameplan to consistently kick doubt to the curb, then lock in to today's episode.

[00:01 - 16:01] Introducing Casey to the show

• Casey's most embarrassing moment
• Casey's background, story and professional journey

[16:02 - 26:43] How you know you're moving in the direction God wants you to move

• The more time you spend reading God's word, talking about it, believing it, and applying it, the closer you get to God. The closer you are to God, the more clarity you have on where He wants you to go because essentially you're getting used to what his direction looks and sounds like.
• God works in everybody differently
• When God is working, there's an immense about of peace (if there's NO peace, wait)
• A lot of the things we're wondering about are already answered in God's word

[26:44 - 36:38] What's getting in the way of understanding yourself and your calling

• DOUBT - people doubt their abilities and calling
• If you're not clear on who you're called to serve…
• Find out who breaks your heart, then sit on it (chances are, that's who you're called to serve)
• Identify the biggest challenge that you've overcome (because you're most powerfully positioned to serve the person you once were)
• Chances are, the thing that helped you get through that challenge is your uniqueness
• Then ask, "is this a strength that other people don't have?"
• Being clear on your identity helps you interact with people on a daily basis…helps you identify where you can help and serve the person in front of you (e.g. at school, work, grocery store, etc.)
• There are LOADS of people who need you. They need a sturdy bridge with a new direction…how they cross that bridge is through your CLEAR COMMUNICATION (what you're saying and what you're going to do)

[36:39 - 39:42] How to perform at a high level and still come up clutch for your family

• Have to be honest with yourself:
• Am I doing my best?
• How do I get better at this? How do I optimize?
• Pray like Daniel (i.e. ask God for an increase in skill and understanding)
• Know each other's strengths and weaknesses

[39:43 - 42:53] Wrapping Up

• Casey's BIG domino
• How to connect with Casey

KEY QUOTES

"Put yourself in the position where you need God everyday." - Casey Dowdell

"A lot of the things we're wondering about are already answered in God's word." - Casey Dowdell

"You're most powerfully positioned to serve the person you once were." - Casey Dowdell

"If you're not clear on who you're called to serve, find out who breaks your heart." - Casey Dowdell

"Chances are, the thing that helped you get through your biggest challenge is your uniqueness." - Casey Dowdell

CONNECT WITH CASEY

• Instagram: @classicamericandad
• Free Personal Brand Summit: https://influentialpersonalbrandsummit.com/casey/
• Book a Brand Strategy Call with Casey: https://freebrandcall.com/cd/

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• For Men Only - Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club

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How often do you compare yourself to others?

The data shows that 10% percent of your thoughts involve comparisons of some kind.

Are your comparisons helping you or hurting you?

Yes, comparisons could help…but only in certain situations.

I dig deeper on this on today's episode of the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show.

If you want to make sure you're staying away from the comparisons that hurt you and your goals, then make sure to lock in to today's Drill.

LET'S GET IT!

[00:01 - 12:14] Opening Segment

• J.R. shares a story about a painful lesson he learned from a business mistake

[12:15 - 19:11] What's The Drill?

STEP 1: Ask yourself, "What does God think about me?" but go one step further…REMIND yourself constantly what God says about you (e.g. Bible reading and Scripture memorization).

STEP 2: Leverage the science and create some healthy competition in your life to trigger some motivation for you…find that person next to you in the same race.

• Identify who you admire or who inspires you that's ONE step ahead. NOT 10 steps ahead…ONE step ahead.
• Once you have that person identified, dig for clues. What traits do they have that you admire?
• When you have the traits of this person listed out, dig deeper…ask yourself how those traits align with you and what God thinks of you? What can you do to leverage your strengths better?

STEP 3: Get a mentor, Accountability Partner, or Coach

STEP 4: Practice DAILY GRATITUDE. Make it a point to practice focusing DAILY on how far you've come in life rather than how far you haven't been able to go.

BONUS STEP: Create an intentional social media consumption strategy.

[19:12 - 22:14] Wrapping Up!

• What's coming up on the next episode
• Final words

KEY QUOTES

"Your social status won't matter in the cemetery." - J.R.

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• For Men Only - Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club

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How often do you fight your feelings?

You know…when you "shouldn't" feel a certain way…

Because you think the situation calls for a certain feeling…

Or…

Because you're a man.

Men aren't supposed to get emotional, right?

The guilt…

The shame…

The embarrassment…

ALL results of fighting an undefeated opponent.

In today's episode of Coming Up Clutch™️, I summarize the Top 3 nuggets from Monday's interview with mental health expert and innovator, Greg Warburton.

Greg got both REAL and PRACTICAL about how you can reliably process your emotions and overcome your biggest challenges.

Don't buy into the world's bull crap that you can't feel your feelings.

Lock in to get the summary of my interview with Greg.

[00:01 - 10:21] Greg's BIG Three

• #1: Why asking quality questions is crucial for our mental and emotional fitness
• #2: The basics of energy psychology and what most people are missing when it comes to human performance
• #3: What we need to be looking for when it comes to getting help with our mental and emotional fitness

[10:22 - 14:01] Wrapping Up!

• Make sure to listen to the full interview with Greg to get more of his wisdom and hear his BIG DOMINO
• Take action…
• Pick ONE of the three nuggets to work on
• COMMIT

KEY QUOTES

"Spend time looking inside to see what you could change instead of looking outside to see who you could blame." - Greg Warburton

CONNECT WITH GREG

• Websites: gregwarburton.com | evosportscollective.com | selfreliantkids.com
• YouTube: @gregwarburton
• Facebook: @gregwarburton60
• Linkedin: /in/gregwarburton
• Email: [email protected]
• Video: Greg teaching Emotional Freedom Technique
• Article: Do You Know How to Breathe…Correctly? (Part 1)
• Article: Do You Know How to Breathe…Correctly? (Part 2)
• Article: MAJOR LEAGUE BASEBALL and other mainstream sports still are not seeing into the void! Part 1
• Greg's Book for Parents: Ask More, Tell Less
• Recommended Resource: Rick Hanson's Hardwiring Happiness

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• For Men Only - Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club

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"Trying to think your way to a good place when you're nervous is remarkably inefficient."

That right there is TRUTH spoken by one of my mentors, Greg Warburton…my Guest on today's episode of the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show.

It drives me CRAAAAAAAZYYY how incomplete mental and emotional health interventions are in today's sports and business world.

Time to wake the heck up!

Bottom line, if you're not leveraging the POWER of your body to overcome the shortcomings of your mind, you're missing the opportunity to create sustainable change and unlock your best capabilities.

Greg shares the real truth about how you can improve your mental and emotional health and overcome your biggest challenges on-and-off your respective Fields of Play.

Greg is an author, award-winning instructor, professional counselor, lifelong athlete, and a dedicated innovator in the fields of mental health and sport performance with over five decades of experience.

In this latest episode, Greg and I talk about…

• Why asking quality questions is crucial for our mental and emotional fitness
• The basics of energy psychology and what most people are missing when it comes to human performance
• What we need to be looking for when it comes to getting help with our mental and emotional fitness
• BONUS FOR PARENTS: The best thing parents can do for their kids today

…and so much more.

If you want a more reliable way to overcome tough moments, challenges, and mental breakdowns, then don't miss today's episode.

[00:01 - 12:21] Introducing Greg to the show

• Greg's most embarrassing moment
• Greg's background, story and professional journey

[12:22 - 13:39] What kept Greg going after having his leg amputated at 27 years old

• Kept a mental focus on: What do I have to do NOW to live a productive life?
• Lived by "Get busy living or get busy dying."

[13:40 - 19:08] Why asking quality questions is crucial for our mental and emotional fitness

• KNOW ONE THING: The moment we ask ourselves a question, our mind will go to work to answer it, so we must become aware of what questions we're asking ourselves
• Self-honest, self observation is the key - Must spend time looking inside to see what you could change instead of looking outside to see who you could blame (key premise: "Who is the most important person to start telling the truth to?"). Examples of great questions to ask:
• What's one thing I can do right now?
• How much longer do I plan to practice feeling sorry for myself? Or When i stop feeling sorry for myself, what's one thing I do right away?
• When you get hit with a negative experience, the first step is to practice the courage of self-honesty by asking, "When I tell myself the truth, what am I thinking or feeling about what's happening?" (i.e. this creates awareness to both the mind and body)

[19:09 - 41:04] The basics of energy psychology and what most people are missing when it comes to human performance

• There's a lot of Incompleteness happening - there's not a lot of practical teaching going on around mental and emotional fitness (there's big gap between advice and methods)
• Energy psychology - basic science tells us we have electromagnetic energy. We have an energy circulation system in our bodies with 14 lines of energy (i.e. garden hose analogy) going through our bodies (e.g. get shocked, EEGs, EKGs, etc.)
• When we're not performing our best, it may have more to do with blocked energy in our body-mind system than it has to do with things like lack of willpower, determination, or attitude
• Emotional Freedom Technique - it's a dependable way to relax their body and calm their mind
• We have to have a body intervention whenever we're feeling stuck - trying to think your way to a good place when you know you're already nervous and upset is remarkably inefficient
• Once we get rid of a negative thought, we have to replace it with a positive thought, behavior, or action

[41:05 - 43:03] What we need to be looking for when it comes to getting help with our mental and emotional fitness

• Look for a teaching component behind every concept (ask: are methods being taught to accomplish what I want?)

[43:04 - 46:40] The best thing parents can do for their kids today

• Catch your kids handing well the things that are going on in their life
• Move out of the complement desert and enter into the oasis of praise - DECIDE to catch, notice, and admit (e.g. have a chart that if someone catches someone doing something great, it goes on the chart)

[46:41 - 50:03] Wrapping Up

• Greg's BIG domino
• How to connect with Greg

KEY QUOTES

"Spend time looking inside to see what you could change instead of looking outside to see who you could blame." - Greg Warburton

"Unless you seek out the information, you'll be stuck in the same paradigms." - Greg Warburton

"Trying to think your way to a good place when you know you're already nervous and upset is remarkably inefficient." - Greg Warburton

"Feel your feelings. Don't fight them." - Greg Warburton

"Get out of your head and into your body." - Greg Warburton

CONNECT WITH GREG

• Websites: gregwarburton.com | evosportscollective.com | selfreliantkids.com
• YouTube: @gregwarburton
• Facebook: @gregwarburton60
• Linkedin: /in/gregwarburton
• Email: [email protected]
• Video: Greg teaching Emotional Freedom Technique
• Article: Do You Know How to Breathe…Correctly? (Part 1)
• Article: Do You Know How to Breathe…Correctly? (Part 2)
• Article: MAJOR LEAGUE BASEBALL and other mainstream sports still are not seeing into the void! Part 1
• Greg's Book for Parents: Ask More, Tell Less
• Recommended Resource: Rick Hanson's Hardwiring Happiness

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• For Men Only - Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club

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On a scale from 1 to 10, how much do you believe in your goals? (1 = no belief at all; 10 = you believe in them with every bone in your body).

What's the point of having goals if you don't believe in them? You're better off having no goals at all.

In today's 5-Minute Drill, we're going to wrap up our 4-part series on goal-setting. So, when you're finished with this Drill, you'll be locked and loaded when it comes to your 2023 Goals.

And not just any Goals…

Goals you BELIEVE IN and are ready to accomplish for a bigger purpose.

If you want some serious momentum heading into 2023, then make sure to lock in to today's Drill.

LET'S GET IT!

[00:01 - 13:42] Opening Segment

• Quick Recap from last week's Drill
• Context about J.R.'s philosophy when it comes to setting 1-year goals

[13:42 - 24:06] What's The Drill?

STEP 1: Taking into consideration the 20-30 version of you (Part 1), your Mission and your BHAG (Part 2), 3-Year Vision (last week), write down the ONE thing you can do THIS YEAR to be on track to achieve your 3-Year Vision.

• I call this the "Domino" Goal. It's the one in DIRECT alignment with your 3-Year Vision and is your most important goal or biggest outcome to accomplish this year. It's the domino that would make all your other goals easier to knock down and accomplish.

STEP 2: Make your goals S.M.A.R.T.E.R.

• Specific
• Measureable
• Actionable
• Relevant
• Time-bound
• Exciting
• Risky (not jump off a building risky…more like stretch goal)

STEP 3: Continue 1-by-1 goal-setting until 3 to 7 are identified.

• Ask: ​"What's my next most important goal THIS YEAR that will help me be on track to achieve my 3-Year Vision?"​
• TIP: Rank your Life Categories from most important to least important and then go down the list and see if there's any goals hidden in there. Here are J.R.'s Clutch Life Categories:
• Spiritual
• Mental / Emotional
• Physical
• Significant Other / Partner / Love
• Family
• Learning / Intellectual Development
• Mission
• Finances
• Friends / Others
• Hobbies/Interests/Community Service
• IMPORTANT: these goals MUST compliment your Domino goal (i.e. we want them giving energy to your Domino Goal, 3-Year Vision, BHAG, and Mission…NOT pulling energy from them)

BONUS STEPS that J.R. recommends.

STEP 4: Find someone close to you and have them read your Goals back to you while you have your eyes closed envisioning your Year. After they're done reading them back to you, have them ask you, "If you achieve these goals, will it be your best year ever?"

STEP 5: Find your motivation.

• List your top reasons / key motivations for accomplishing each of your 1-Year Goals. Identify your Top 3 reasons / motivations for each goal.
• Get clear on what's at stake if you DO NOT accomplish your goals. QUESTIONS TO THINK ABOUT​:
• How will I be affected if I don't hit my goals?
• How will those I care about be affected if I don't hit my goals?
• What will I not be able to do if I don't hit my goals?
• How will I feel if I don't hit my goals?
• What's at stake if I don't hit my goals?
• What will I have to give up if I don't hit my goals?

[24:07 - 29:21] Wrapping Up!

• What's coming up on the next episode
• Final words

KEY QUOTES

"If you want to achieve BIG goals, then you have to believe in what you're doing." - J.R.

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
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How often do you let your emotions drive your behavior?

I'm half Italian - and if you haven't heard, us Italians get emotional.

I also care a TON about winning - at home and in my career. But I've had to learn some hard lessons about my emotions and their effect on my behaviors in order to win more often.

In today's episode of Coming Up Clutch™️, I summarize the Top 3 nuggets from Monday's interview with human performance expert, sports psychologist, and author, Dr. Amber Selking.

Dr. Amber shared some practical advice about how to manage our thoughts and emotions more effectively so we can win more often in every area of our life.

Lock in to get the summary of my interview with Amber.

[00:01 - 11:55] Dr. Amber's BIG Three

• #1: What we need to be aware of when it comes to mental and emotional fitness
• #2: How to make your team better through a common language around emotional fitness
• #3: What's a must to improve our daily mental health

[11:56 - 14:39] Wrapping Up!

• Make sure to listen to the full interview with Amber to get more of her wisdom and hear her BIG DOMINO
• Take action…
• Pick ONE of the three nuggets to work on
• COMMIT

KEY QUOTES

"If you care about winning, then you need to understand how your emotions help you win or make you lose." - Dr. Amber Selking

CONNECT WITH AMBER

• Twitter: @drselking
• Facebook: @alattner
• Instagram: @drselking | @champmindsets
• TikTok: @champmindsets
• Website: https://selkingperformance.com/
• Podcast: https://selkingperformance.com/podcast/
• Book: Winning the Mental Game: The Playbook for Building Championship Mindsets

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
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Which type of person are you…

#1 - Wants to win and will do whatever it takes to win?

OR…

#2 - Wants to win and hopes things will work out in your favor?

I'm guessing you're #1, right?

I hear a lot of "I'll do whatever it takes, J.R." from people, but when it comes to the mental and emotional work required for winning consistently, they slack off.

The reality is, our thoughts affect our emotions…

Our emotions affect our body, and…

Our body is what drives our performance and behaviors.

They're links in the same chain. If one link is broken, the whole chain is.

I unpack this further on today's episode of the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show with human performance expert, sports psychologist, and author, Dr. Amber Selking.

In this latest episode, Amber and I talk about…

• What we need to be aware of when it comes to mental and emotional fitness
• How to make your team better through a common language around emotional fitness
• What's a must to improve our daily mental health

…and so much more.

If you want to be better positioned to win more often, then don't miss today's episode.

[00:01 - 10:32] Introducing Dr. Amber to the show

• Amber's most embarrassing moment
• Amber's background, story and professional journey

[10:33 - 14:43] What we need to be aware of when it comes to mental and emotional fitness

• Thoughts affect our emotions…our emotions affect our physiological responses (HR, muscle tension, visual field, hormones, etc.)...how our bodies are will drive our performance and behaviors
• Many times, we recognize our emotions or physiological responses FIRST (instead of our thoughts), but we can move up and down the chain (i.e. thoughts, emotions, physiological response)
• Emotions are the most volatile in the chain (vs. thoughts and behaviors)
• Your emotions drive and often undermine the very thing you're trying to accomplish. If you care about winning, then you need to understand how your emotions help you win or make you lose. Then, take action about it.
• We can talk about emotions in a non-emotional way.

[14:44 - 28:11] How to make your team better through a common language around emotional fitness

• Get systems in place that allow the language and messaging to be replicated on a consistent basis
• Leaders with a system can talk about it holistically and in an organized way. They're able to dissect more easily what went well and what didn't
• Must have clarity around your vision, mission, and process for success, and then being courageous enough to stick to it for the long-term so your people can actually get on board with it
• How to teach your people to demonstrate more courage? Starts with identity. Leaders must know the answers to…
• Why do you do what you do?
• What are you core values?
• What's your general philosophy on leadership, winning, etc.
• What do you want to accomplish?
• How do you want to be remembered?
• …Then, make sure everything is aligned with those things

[28:12 - 31:36] The distinction between mental illness and mental health and what we need to be more aware of

• Resource: The Science of Happiness (Ted Talk by Sean Aker)
• Anxiety & depression (illness) vs. mental health (practices, like gratitude, meditation, etc.)
• Anxiety and depression is a mindset - it's a protein pattern that gets wired into our brain based on what we think about
• Most of the drugs treating mental illness were originally set for patients coming out of surgery - the drug masks the protein pattern. When you take the drug away, it's still there

[31:37 - 45:58] What's a must to improve our daily mental health

• We have to have processes in place to train our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual areas of life
• Amber's analogy: we don't go to the gym 1x and be good for the year. Just like we train physically, must train mentally, emotionally, and spiritually
• Physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual are actually our four energy systems - we must know what drains and what fuels them
• Includes evaluating your habits - you may have habits that helped you in one season that are now hurting you in your current season. Life is a series of seasons. We must make sure our routines match the season we're in.
• Accountability - you need people that will watch your life, call you out if you're shooting at the wrong basket, and help you make in-game adjustments to be the player and the person that you're trying to be

[45:59 - 49:26] Wrapping Up

• Amber's BIG domino
• How to connect with Amber

KEY QUOTES

"Your emotions drive and often undermine the very thing you're trying to accomplish." - Dr. Amber Selking

"If you care about winning, then you need to understand how your emotions help you win or make you lose." - Dr. Amber Selking

"Life is a series of seasons. We must make sure our routines match the season we're in." - Dr. Amber Selking

"You can choose to think right." - Dr. Amber Selking

CONNECT WITH AMBER

• Twitter: @drselking
• Facebook: @alattner
• Instagram: @drselking | @champmindsets
• TikTok: @champmindsets
• Website: https://selkingperformance.com/
• Podcast: https://selkingperformance.com/podcast/
• Book: Winning the Mental Game: The Playbook for Building Championship Mindsets

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• For Men Only - Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club

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Are you giving your future a chance?

In today's 5-Minute Drill, I hit Part 3 of our 4-part series on goal-setting. It's all about your vision.

While many make the vision process overwhelming and complex, we're going to make it simple for you…

Because your focus and future require simplicity.

If you want a crystal clear vision that sets you up for sustainable success, then make sure to lock in to today's Drill.

LET'S GET IT!

[00:01 - 05:56] Opening Segment

• Quick Recap from last week's Drill

[05:57 - 12:45] What's The Drill?

STEP 1: Plan to unplug for 5 Minutes

STEP 2: Center and ground yourself

STEP 3: With your BHAG in mind and considering all the areas of your life (e.g. career, family, finances, health, etc.), imagine yourself 3 years from now. See the date on your calendar. Here are some example questions you can ask yourself:

• What are you doing?
• What have you accomplished?
• How do you feel?
• What are you seeing?
• What kind of impact have you made?
• Where are you living?
• What are the people around you saying?
• What are you proud of?
• Anything in particular you're touching?
• Anything in particular you're tasting?

TIP: Audio record yourself and your answers while you're in the visualization.

STEP 4: Narrow down your vision to a maximum of 10-20 bullets

STEP 5: Pick someone in your Inner Circle to read your vision back to you. You'll close your eyes and confirm each bullet point while that person you selected reads your vision out loud.

[12:46 - 14:25] Wrapping Up!

• What's coming up on the next episode
• Final words

KEY QUOTES

"When you have a vision, you give your focus a chance. When you have focus, you give your future a chance." - J.R.

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• For Men Only - Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club

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