Commitment Phobe

Hoy en dia se habla mucho de las energias masculina y femenina que llevamos adentro, y como crear polaridad sexual con el otro atravez de la encarnacion de estas energias. Pero la verdad es que dentro de cada uno de nosotros estas energias no viven separadas, interactuan y son una pareja en si, un matrimonio.  Hoy hablo con mi profe de Tarot Clara Maria Abad para hablar de como el tarot nos enseña de estas polaridades de energia femenina y masculina, luz y oscuridad, emocion y mente, que viven dentro de nosotros, y como nos ayuda a traer mas consciencia y profundidad en en mundo vincular. 

In this deeply moving episode, join us on an intimate journey with the resilient and inspiring Luis Molinar as he shares his story from being depressed and suicidal to finding his purpose and living a heart-led life. Luis found himself getting seperated from a long-time partner, burned out, struggling emotionally until he hit a rock bottom that forced him to face his inner demons, unfelt emotions and lack of self-love. "Life is about getting back on the horse."- Luis Tune in to listen to how Luis rose from the depths of hitting rock bottom to embrace a life filled with faith and an open heart. Luis opens up about the challenges that tested his spirit and the transformative moments that led him to a path of profound positivity.

"It's ok to experience sadness and pain but we also have the choice of stepping out of that. It's there, we want to experience it, learn from it, but we don't want it to become part of our personality." 

Topics we share: -How burning out helps us align ourselves with our truth and let go of what's out of alignment. -How listening to your body helps you align with your truth.-How death helps create a sense of urgency to live out a life of purpose. -Life is about "choosing your hard." -How we meet the universe halfway by taking action towards our dreams and allowing the universe to show us the way. -What happens when we move from doing things by obligation to do them out of desire.

Ever feel like even when you're surrounded by people, you feel alone, or like your conversations are so shallow they end up draining you? My guest Ryel Kestano is the co-founder of an organization I have been involved with in the past two years and DEEPLY impacted by called ART-Authentic Relating Training.  At its simplest, authentic relating is a groundbreaking relational practice that creates profoundly enriching, enlivening, and nourishing relationships in all social domains of life, from the bedroom to the boardroom, with intimate partners and perfect strangers and everyone in between.  For me, it's been a gamechanger in how raw and authentic I let myself show up in my interactions on dates, with friends and with my parents. Ryel comes on to share why he devoted himself to this work and how it can impact the level of depth and intimacy you can experience in your relationships, from closed ones to strangers to even people you're in conflict with. 

"Authentic relating has been called relational meditation, where the object of our meditational presence is relational space itself, which really brings us into presence, and presence, really being in the here and now, is where we experience connection, the deepest sense of being seen, seeing another, and partly the reason why that is, is because when we're really committed to the here and now we can't rely on programs and conditioning that we so often lean on as a crutch in our conversations."  Ryel is now offering an online 4 week course called "The Art of Authentic Dating." Shoot him a message on IG to get more info! https://www.instagram.com/ryelkestano/

An update episode on recent breakthroughs in my dating and how I navigated a situation where I really liked the guy but we weren't looking for the same things.

We've all been there...you like this person but you're not looking for the same things.  Sometimes you disregard that and enjoy connecting with them. Sometimes you hope things will change...sometimes, they do! Most of the time they don't, but you learn something anyway. On this episode I talk about how to honor yourself and your truth while accepting the other's truth. 

Most people think of kink and they imagine scary, extreme, torture-filled, sexual interactions.  I wanted to bring someone on to talk about the love and medicine that can actually be present in kink and how it's way less intimidating than most people imagine...because it's actually be a really playful, transformative journey with the right people, setting and structure! My guest Yossef Sagi, a Sex and Magick Educator, had the same negative connotations to kink and couldn't possibly imagine it resonating with him. Until an experience made him realize that it wasn't only powerful, it was a modality that he could use to combine all of his skills and passions and faciliate deep healing and shadow work.  Yossef comes on to give us the 101 on conscious kink and the many ways he infuses it into his coaching practice to help people heal from trauma, express lost and repressed parts of themselves, love themselves more, and deepen intimacy in relationships.   Tune in to get all your basic questions answered about kink and what it means to engage in kink in a conscious way! We cover: power dynamics,objectification, pain, taboo and how Yossef uses each one for specific people's needs in what they want to heal or experience. 

Other things we talk about: -Whether you should hire a proffesional dom -The importance of consent and how it creates safety and freedom -The difference between roles in kink -How kink scenes create a metaphor for life -Lots of tips if you want to start diving into kink! 

Geraldine and Mike met only for a few days before Mike went off to live in a monastery for 6 months acorss the country. It was like the universe was playing a game on them as they had a deep connection right before being apart for half of a year, and they decided to play.

I brought these wonderful humans on to talk about what helped them thrive through long distance and general practical and spiritual practices that help them foster the deep intimacy and connection they share today. 

Some topics we cover: -A play-by-play of how they met and how their relationship evolved through and post long distance. -What it looks like for them to be totally themselves and in acceptance of the other. -How they welcome what arises between them and create a safe space for their emotions.  -What it means to meet someone like a stranger every day and how that helps their connection. -What it looks like for them to play on the same team.  -What they've each learned about themselves through their relationship.  This episode will leave you feeling like your heart is bursting with love :)  To connect with Geraldine and Mike find them here: Mike: https://www.instagram.com/mike_alicea/ Geraldine: https://www.instagram.com/geraldinez.amor/

Geraldine is a Somatic Sex Coach that helps women deepen their experience of profound intimacy and pleasure. 

"Masculinity is not toxic, masculinity is medicine." Behind many of the challenges men and women have in relating, is the  judgment and rejection they have towards the opposite gender.  My guest Mikaal Bates is a men's coach who's dedicated to accelerating the conscious evolution of men and masculiity across the planet in our lifetime, and to heal the divine between men and women. 

On this episode Mikaal comes on to talk about how we need to start celebrating and pursuing healthy masculinity, and end the internal and external battle between men and women to have deeper, more loving and connected relationships between humans, communities and nations.  Tune in to be inspired by Mikaal's passion about the brillance and shadows of men that he believes is the key of bettering not just men, but women too!  To connect with Mikaal you can check out with podcast The ReMasculation Podcast:  https://open.spotify.com/show/1xjEKsfxJvLnvXShooTYco?si=d7d93314c1464487

His Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikaal_bates/

My guest today Caitlin Lili helps women & couples communicate vulnerably so they can experience deeper connection and hotter sex.

Today we talk about: -Oftenttimes what gets in the way for a woman to be available for love with a man, is her hatred towards men.    -Caitlin's journey transforming her disruptive communication style in relationships and how that drastically changed her dating patterns and the men she was attracting.  -How to communicate your needs and desires from a place that fosters connection vs. seperation. 

-How to "hold uncomfortable sensations" instead of defaulting to our trauma responses in relationships.

Connect with Caitlin and find out about her upcoming programs here: https://www.instagram.com/iamcaitlinlili/

Welcome back to Commitment Phobe!  This year I am continuing to level up the game with episodes that will provide you with rich content, incredible guests and stories on how to deepen and heal the intimacy and connection in all of your relationships in your life.  With that in mind I had to bring on an old friend Spencer Jacobson, who's currently leading events around the world called Dance Meets Tantra, where they combine conscious dance, tantra, contact improvisation and kink.

Spencer and his team are committed to creating spaces where people can feel truly safe to strip themselves bare, leave behind everything that no longer serves, and to step into the most powerful and loving version of themselves.  I knew he'd be a great person to talk to about intimacy!

Ever think to yourself about how hard it is to follow the advice to "just be yourself?" What if feeling safe and authentic in relationships was something you could actually faciliate and enable with the right tools and structure? 

Spencer comes on to share tools and stories about how to actually create spaces in groups or personal relationships where you and others can feel free to be themselves and feel deeply seen and safe. 

Some of the questions we touch on: -What does it actually mean to create safety in relationships? -How can we practically create more permission for authenticity? -Why is it important for us to connect to our feelings, especially anger, in relationships? -How do we take care of our nervous systems in relationshisp when we tend to bypass? -What does it mean to have self-responsibility in relationship and why is that important? -What are some ways we can be authentic with others vs. playing the role we think we need to play?

Find more info about Dance Meets Tantra here! https://www.dancemeetstantra.com/ Spencer also leads a 6 month mentorship, mastermind, and brotherhood journey for men that you can check out here: https://emergence.love/

Connect with Spencer on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spencerjacobson_/?hl=en

The podcast is undergoing some revamping as I'm getting it ready for next year but I wanted to end the year off sharing some of the lessons I've learned in love and relationships this year and how it's been deeply transforming who I am!