Confidence Made Easy with Xena Jones

The solution to being lonely ISN’T finding a partner
We have all been in a situation with another person or a group of people where we felt alone. When they didn’t understand us when we felt disconnected or on the outside.
You can be with someone AND feel lonely.

In this episode I am sharing with you the 3 things I work on with my clients when they are experiencing loneliness:
- Feeling instead of avoiding or numbing the loneliness (how & what that looks like)
- Creating a loving relationship with yourself NOW (what that means)
- Exploring what you make it mean that you feel lonely & what else is true

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Here’s what you can expect to learn from this event: 

• What self-confidence is & how it’s different from confidence
• What gets in the way of confidence & the difference between men & women
• How to have you own back & start creating self-belief
• How to make decisions fo the future you want
• The importance of understanding your brains primal instincts (& how to work with them) 
• How to be less of who you thought you were supposed to be & more of your authentic self
• How to stop people pleasing & putting others needs first

This training is being held on zoom this FRIDAY 10am NZT. 

It will run for 1 hour with Q&A at the end

And don’t worry a replay will be sent out after if you can’t be there live or need to leave early. 

Tickets are $22 and there is also a pay what you can option available for anyone who may not have the financial resources at this time.

Grab your spot for becoming SELF-confident: https://events.humanitix.com/becoming-self-confident 

Our brains are like unsupervised toddlers running around with knives... they need direction & supervision & goals give us just this!
In this episode we are explore why setting goals helps us to grow our confidence & other reasons why we might likely want to do it.
We talk about HOW to set & achieve them
I share with you my simple 4 step process
And give you plenty of examples, trip & tools to takeaway & apply in your own life.
Plus I share a recent failure I experienced how much I grew my confidence in failing!

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In this episode I am sharing lessons I have received from Louise Hay & her book You Can Heal Your Life.

We talk about:
~ The power of your thoughts & how our thoughts produce our feelings (I share my example of the self-hatred I was experiencing when I firs found her work)
~ The damage that is caused by the word 'should' & how it implies we are wrong or bad
~ How learning to love ourselves is the miracle cure & that it is not about vanity or being stuck-up
~ How blame is the surest way to stay in a problem & gives all our power away

LINKS:
> Listen to episode #11 Shoulding on yourself
> Work with Xena
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Waiting to feel ready is a waste of time.
We never feel ready, we decide we are ready OR we decide we are willing to start.

In this episode I introduce you to a tool I have created called the wheel of willingness.
We explore how you can apply this in your life & stop putting off the dreams you have & the things you want.

You don't need more information, you don't need to do XYZ first, there will always be a million excuses & our brain would much rather feel comfortable.
This tool is a bridge that allows you to take imperfect action & figure it out as you go along.

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How much time do you spend thinking about your future self?
We spend plenty of time in the past & in the present...
But how often are you hanging out with you future self, the woman you want to become, the woman who has achieved the goals you want to achieve?

One of my favourite questions to ask is: What do you want your life to look like 12 month from now?
In this episode we are exploring ways to get clear on who we want to be in the future, what we want to do, achieve & become.

"Always be making decisions from the person you want to become AND be more committed to her than you are to your comfort today. "

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Procrastination, not doing the thing we need and or want to get done, drains our confidence because we aren't doing what we said we were going to do. We tend to beat ourselves up heavily for our lack of action.

Procrastination stems from one (or a mix) of the following:
*Perfection - wanting to get it right & fear of failing or doing it wrong.
*Uncertainty,  confusion or indecision - Not knowing where to start or what to do.
*Seeking short term comfort - Telling ourselves we deserve a break, we'll do it later or thinking I just don't feel like it.

You will always find a reason & an excuse to do do it - that part is easy & 100% normal. 

'I don't feel like it' is not a good excuse - it is indulging in short term comfort over the long term reward. Every time you listen to it & indulge in it you push your dreams further away.

An earned rest feels 100x better than taking a break to avoid doing the thing we want to get done.

Listen to this episode to find out how to give procrastination the middle finger for good!

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In this episode we are exploring the 4 stages of confidence:
WTF <---> Courage <---> Competent <---> Confidence
On any given day & in any given week we can slide up & down this scale.
We can go from confident one day to being courageous the next (as I demonstrate with my own situation today).

We explore:
> How to identify where you are on the scale
> How to move up the scale
> How to not judge yourself when you are not where you want to be

Here are the social links I refer to in this episode:
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A belief is simply a thought you have practiced a bunch of times & now think is true.
In this episode I am sharing ways to challenge any beliefs you have the might not be serving you (limiting beliefs or beliefs that just make you feel crappy).
And I am giving you a bunch of confidence producing beliefs form my life that you can borrow, edit, alter & mix into your own life.
I offer you two powerful questions to explore what you want to believe AND talk about how to bridge the gap between what you believe now & what you want to believe (using thought ladders).
We touch on the self-coaching model that I use with my clients & the basics of CBT.

You can join our very own Confidence Made Easy Pod Squad right here.
And if you are ready to explore coaching & apply this in your life, then schedule your free consult call HERE. 

In this episode I am sharing about my own personal experience with anxiety.
I am giving you the process I take myself & my clients through when we have anxiety.
And demonstrating exactly how to apply this in your own life.
We explore how to create a relationship with anxiety instead of trying to shove it in the nearest cupboard or ignore it all together. And how when we do it begins to dissipate so much quicker... 

Be sure to join the Confidence Made Easy Pod Squad where you can access the feeling your feelings worksheet that compliments this episode nicely!

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