The Audaci-Tea

Consent, Coercion, and Control


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In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, your hosts Lisa, Sovereign, and Gwen unpack the real meaning of consent, how women are taught to compromise it, how coercion often masquerades as choice, and why detachment can be a radical act of protection. But first, in Tea Time, we discuss the Epstein client list and how the right wing dropped it like a hot potato, the viral “Coldplay Couple” controversy, and how public shaming culture disproportionately targets women. Then in our Mailbag, a listener writes in about confronting misogyny from their gay male friends, and we talk about how patriarchy shows up across all sexual orientations.

 

🎧 This episode is a deep dive into emotional self-defense, how consent is framed in culture and relationships, and why power is always the elephant in the room.

 

🎙️ Topics Discussed:

  • Why consent isn’t just about yes or no — it’s about power
  • How coercion is normalized in dating and media
  • The Coldplay Couple and the pitfalls of online vigilante justice
  • Surveillance culture and the myth of moral purity
  • Misogyny in queer spaces and the politics of emotional labor
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    ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned:

    Jeffrey Epstein is splitting MAGA. Will he sink Trump and Republicans?
    https://thehill.com/opinion/white-house/5409084-epstein-client-list-trump-maga-fight/

    What is a Lolita Girl?

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lolita_(term)

    Epstein had bizarre painting of Bill Clinton in dress, heels in townhouse

    https://nypost.com/2019/08/14/epstein-had-bizarre-painting-of-bill-clinton-in-dress-heels-in-townhouse/

    The Panama Papers

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Panama_Papers

    The Coldplay concert affair captivated the internet. But is it time to move on?

    https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2025/07/21/ceo-coldplay-concert-couple-affair-obsession/85305715007/

    Cierra Ortega, booted off ‘Love Island,’ addresses racist slurs

    https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/tv/story/2025-07-10/love-island-former-contestant-responds-after-racist-post

    Buzzfeed’s ‘Tasty’ Slammed For Tone-Deaf Joke About ‘Love Island USA’ Contestant Chelley

    https://www.vibe.com/news/movies-tv/buzzfeeds-slammed-love-island-usa-joke-chelley-1235085384/

    Marital rape in the United States

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marital_rape_in_the_United_States

     

    📚 This Week’s Recommendation:

    Look Into The Art Of Detachment
    11 Powerful Ways To Master The Art Of Detachment To Live An Unbothered Life
    https://www.yourtango.com/self/powerful-ways-master-art-detachment-live-unbothered-life#:~:text=Letting%20go%20doesn't%20have%20to%20be%20scary.&text=The%20art%20of%20detachment%20is,a%20person%20on%20the%20backburner.

     

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      🕰️ Episode Chapters:

      00:00 Welcome and Tea Time!
      01:34 The Epstein Files and Political Accountability
      06:25 The Impact of Wealth and Power on Justice
      13:19 "Coldplay Couple" Witch Hunt Hurts Women
      16:28 Is Vigilante Justice Bad For Society?
      29:40 Introduction to Consent
      34:01 Entitlement and Approaching Women
      41:11 Commenting On Women's Clothing
      45:50 Pornography's Effects On Consent
      49:44 Historical Context of Consent and Entitlement
      55:18 The Right to Say No
      01:07:35 Blue Balls Isn't A Thing
      01:12:00 The Calm Abuser
      01:15:27 The Burden of Female Sexuality
      01:19:25 Men's Lack of Responsibility in Sexual Pleasure
      01:23:58 The Prize Mentality in Relationships
      01:27:25 Mailbag: Misogyny In Gay Men?
      01:40:15 Poll Results: Power Protects Predators

       

      🎙️ The Audaci-Tea is a production of Siren Sound, executively produced by Lisa Carr, The Sovereign Woman, and Gwen. Music, audio production, and show production by Ryan Marth and Siren Sound.

       

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