Conversations with Toi

The news broke of Trump being a 34 time felon while I was driving and talking to my grandma-what a wild time in the world.

As a political science major I do not argue folks down about who they vote for. It is not my business. However it does say a lot on both sides about people. So don't let the election take you into the arguing with people way it's not worth it.

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However having an ex president try to become the President again with felons is wild in a world where felons can't get jobs, housing, and so much more

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On the episode we cover the shocking news, mental health, and getting you and your family summer ready. What's your plan?

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We are half way into the year what is your game plan?

It's Memorial Day weekend which means the unofficial summer has begun. We taking trips and using our PTO but we have to act right. What is your mental health regiment for flying or taking a road trip? I have mine that has been working. From packing a few weeks to a week before, arriving to airport 2 hours ahead to eat and have a beverage. There are things that we can do to help ease things like anxiety and more. Don't get on the no fly list trying to be funny-leave the jokes to the comedians

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We knew Diddy did it. Cassie isn't in question it's the ones who didn't believe her. No one is out here giving away free money

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Have you ever wanted to fire your therapist? I have (but not really). Therapy can be challenging. Listen in as I share my experience with my worse but best therapist yet.

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Topics discussed:

travel

domestic violence

mental health

therapy

wellness

anxiety

relationships

work/life balance

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We have none other than Kevin Ross. He is a breath of fresh air. You may know him from his hit Long Song Away. He is a writer, singer, and producer. His songs are mesmerizing and his range undeniable. He is coming to Philadelphia to a sold out show on May 25th at City Winery. He does have tickets available for the Pittsburgh show happening that Sunday.

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We talk about his passions, what sets him apart, and a great conversation for Mental Health Month. What does Kevin do? He is selfish-listen in for more clarity.

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In addition on the podcast I talk about the birthday plans. It was a great surprise. Thank you to all that came and supported.

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Topics Covered:

Mental Heath

Music

Mothers day

Personal Happiness

Happy Mother's Day to all of the moms. Its a hard job with no days off but when you are doing it right it is the most rewarding. For all of those who do not have their mom or have a strained relationship with their mom I am sending love your way

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With it being Mother's Day I wanted to make sure that I had the mother of all mothers on and included my mom. We talk about going no contact, the frustration of not seeing your mom from her perspective, the good. bad, and indifferent when it comes to motherhood and so much more.

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My mother was born in Youngstown Ohio. She is a wife, mother, daughter, and sister. She has always been involved in the arts with dreams of being a renowned dancer. She turned in her dancing shoes shortly after my twin and I was born. Through her various life lessons she has overcome homelessness, drug addiction, and more. Rhonda is also starting her new online encouragement and motivation called The Pit Stop.

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We talk about her being a single mom, her life as a mom to the twins aka me and my sister and her life with my brother. As a single mother at one point one recurring theme with self esteem and more kept creeking up

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It's also my birthday today. You can gift me with a free review on wherever you are listening to this episode on

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This week is also Children's Mental Health and it's important to support the young folks in your life.

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Sometimes in life we believe in order to inspire you have to have it all together. That is not the case. Today's guest is Ella Shae.

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Mental health advocate Ella Shae’s book, From Broken to Beautifully Broken, offers her first-hand experience on the importance of self-care and why taking time for yourself ultimately makes you a better partner, parent, companion, and friend. Her story begins with a traumatic car accident as a child that later manifested in an eating disorder. It provides relatable moments, encouraging readers to use their own voice to advocate for themselves.

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Ella's journey with mental health awareness began at an early age of 4 years old after a car accident that could have killed her, but instead left her with lasting scars. As the years progressed in her journey, so did the traumas and challenges with her mental health. It wasn’t until a compilation of many mental health struggles presented themselves as an eating disorder, that she finally received the proper treatment to work through 35 years of trauma. After years of therapy, Ella was finally able to reopen her old wounds that had been haunting her. She learned that trauma does not have to make you a victim. In fact, it was her grief that helped her to grow into the best version of herself.

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Get the Book, From Broken to Beautifully Broken on Amazon

If you purchase it from her website, she will sign your copy.

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What is the call to action for Black Maternal Health week? To save our black moms. All moms deserve to deliver safely, to be heard during postpartum care and more. But we know that there is a disparity. According to the CDC: Black women are three times more likely to die from a pregnancy-related cause than White women. Multiple factors contribute to these disparities, such as variation in quality healthcare, underlying chronic conditions, structural racism, and implicit bias.

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We can do our part by believing and supporting black moms.

Here is my story.

Resources:

Resources for Black Maternal Health Week:

• Black Mamas Matter Alliance
• Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
• Proclamation from White House

Help with Black Maternal Health:

• National Birth Equality Collaborative
• National Black Doulas Association
• March of Dimes

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Mental health doesn't stop at the prayer line. It is important to be faith based in life but when warranted get the help you need from a professional. If you ever grew up under a faith based lifestyle many times you hear that you have to pray, give it to God,and move on.

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Moving on when your mind isn't allowing you to is hard. Moving on when you need to see a therapist or more need to take medication for your needs is not feasible nor can it be sustainable-let's be about both

This solar eclipse has brought out manic depressive behavior and other things that honestly was already there. We use these occurrences to excuse behavior and that simply has to stop

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On this episode we cover what has happened this week from Oj Simpson's death to the Solar Eclipse. In this episode there is talk about religion and the role mental health plays or the lack thereof.

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Other resources:

Therapy and the church

Therapy

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On this episode we talk about grace and the challenge to give grace in the same way that we seek it from others. I learned a lesson in therapy this week that grace isn't always once and done. You have to remind yourself often.

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I talk about therapy, parenting, doing new things that are uncomfortable for you especially in your mental health healing journey. All things are meant to inspire you

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We also have Joi Carter who you may know from Ready to Love and on Own's Love & Marriage DC. She is coming to Philadelphia with her music on April 12th at City Winery. City Winery is known to bring one of a kind artists and shows for an intimate experience. Joi is coming to bring you the goods and has a few guests coming with her you do not want to miss. Tickets to the show is available now. Don't miss out.

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I hope your week is great and that you do all of the things that make you happy and content on your wellness journey.

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When you are living in your mental health often times you second guess yourself on all levels. After months and years of going through it many times you look for validation from others. Listen, no...We must find ways to validate ourselves. Learning to tell your story without waiting for those to tell it for you. Owning your power is key.

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On the podcast we talk briefly about Diddy but more on being embarrassed about the way your mental health has come forth. For instance having folks know how bad it can be for you and being around them. Your mental health journey is your own.

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Also some Easter memories for the ages. I hope that all kids grown and all get the Easter basket

Topics:

• Mental Health
• Wellness
• Therapy
• Family
• No Contact
• Easter

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Blog support:

Easter and No Contact

Easter Ready-shopping and dining and more

Changing Therapist

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No one I know wants to us their life to save others if there life has to be on the line. However we honor the life of Jessica Pettway by using it to help us save the countless of other women who need second opinions and more.

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Trigger warning: Cervical Cancer, death, misdiagnosis, and more

We talk about the death of Jessica Pettway as it pertains to the mishandling of her case. She leaves behind her husband and two daughters. 9 months since her diagnosis we know that the disparity in the medical field especially for women of color.

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Dr. Jessica Shepherd, OBGYN, Menopause Expert, Media Health Expert, Founder @modernmeno CEO @sanctummedwellness speaks up about the tragedy of Jessica Pettway life and things we can do to take care of ourselves.

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There is medical disparity for women of color in all aspects of health. Even I dealt with it when I was in the ICU for internal bleeding following the birth of my final daughter and child.

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Make sure you click on every link as they provide so much resources. If you are in the Philadelphia/Delaware county please consider coming to the screening of Aftershock on April 13, 2024 as the discussion on Black maternal health is done with resources, movie screening, conversation, and more

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