Conversations with Toi

Sometimes the lows of mental health can be a lot. This week I felt like I had been hit so hard that it felt impossible to get through. I want to remind you that it felt like that, and I was able to push through. If you have moments when you feel like you are tested and you feel like you are losing, you aren't.

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Such tools as therapy, setting boundaries, retreating temporarily are helpful to help you gain insight and move forward.

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My heart goes out to the victims and in my opinion preventable deaths of the 2 students and 2 teachers killed at Apalachee High School. in addition to the many who were injured. May your healing and love be as close as the tragedy.

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Welcome to another week of an episode of Conversations with Toi. This week we are on top of the social media stories that has been on the internet. From the 17 year old mom who was being put out due to not cooking food for her 20 year old. In addition there is a picture floating around the internet of young girls who happen to be high schoolers with bust down wigs, lashes, and more. So the conversation took a turn on whether or not the girls were "too grown."

Lastly displaced stay at home moms-are you all okay? Yes if you allow your husband to work and you don't have any income, no skillset, and more you set up yourself for anything in the future. This is coming from a retired stay at home mom so I do know what I am talking about.

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Don't take the bait-how many comments are you engaging with folks online matters? I am on a 2 comment limit with folks regardless. Even if I know them. I am not allowing anyone to take me there over the internet. Great practice to be about too during this election season too.

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Make sure you are registered to vote

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For my remote workers a little self care

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Welcome to another week and another set of topics. This week we talk about boundaries and how setting them is helpful for your mental health. This all stems from the uproar over Jackie Aina blocking people for saying underhanded comments over her possible nuptials. FYI Jackie has always stood on the blocking ministry.

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In addition we are about to send these kids back in the classroom so while we buy sneakers, uniforms, and more, let's focus on their mental health:

• Therapy for kids anxiety about going back into the classroom
• Talks to see what they are feeling
• Giving them tips to help them in many social situations

How are you preparing your older kids that are about to hit the adult world? Are you preparing all of your kids and not just them girls in how they take care of themselves and more.

Other topics include your personal journey. When your kids are going back to school, so do you. What about the switch from Summer to Fall-what tools are you using? Are you ready?

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Follow me on the blog as well on socials as Toitimeblog. I am doing a Digital Detox? Can you join me? Do you find yourself scrolling for hours on end?

Some of us allow the OK friend to exist in your world even when their lack of friendship was never okay. Everyone has a life but when a pattern of friendship is drier than the Sahara then it is time to call it. I know that we want more from ourselves and our friends so don't play games thinking you can revive a dead situation because you can't

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In addition,... what is your wellness plan? August is Wellness month and a time to shift your plan into getting to the best version of yourself. This makes sense since so many of us will be back to school or back to an after summer vacation routine

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It's national book lovers day. A day to celebrate the readers of the world who like to get lost in a great book. Here are some book recommendations

Bookstores to visit in Philadelphia:

• Harriet's Book store
• A Novel Idea on Passyunk
• Black and Nobel
• Hakim's Bookstore and gift shop
• Uncle Bobbie's Coffee and Book shop
• Julia de Burgos Bookstore

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Relationships are beautiful. If you are with the wrong person it can be a detriment to your mental health. This week we saw stories of Triad wives and how the men who are in controlling your every move. The one in particular gave up Julliard to be with her now husband. They have 8 children where she wasn't allowed to have an epidural.

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Can a man that calls the shots be the same one that can be concerned and hands on with the way you take the time for your wellness?

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On this episode we discuss:

Politics burnout

Mental Health

Relationships

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Chianti Lomax took a jump for her life when she jumped out a plane. What that taught her about fear and so many other lessons compelled her to write the book, Evolving While Black. This book is for those who are ready to make changes while also acknowledging their own mental wellness.

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This conversation style book is life changing. Like Lomax has said being able to say things that Black women are familiar with made it easy to keep the flow of this project.

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Our conversation covers triumph, perseverance, traumas, truths and most importantly joy.

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As a season 11 opener this sets the bar high for what you can expect on the podcast including new segments: Fly on the wall, and what I am watching/reading these days

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Expect the energy to be high as we dive into all things of how Evolving while Black

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The Paris Summer Olympics are here-will you be watching? Looking for Paris Recommendations:

• Paris Part 1
• Paris Part 2
• Paris Part 3
• Paris Part 4

Also looking for more book tools like the magnetic book mark? Shop my Amazon Store to find all kinds of trinkets for self care, beach days, and more.

Today is the celebration of 4 years of Conversations with Toi. In the 4 years of podcasting there is so much to say and so many wonderful people to think. On this episode I celebrate continuing on with the goal of creating this content.

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But it also serves as an encouragement to all who listen to know that in life you have to be willing to move forward regardless of what you want to do and know that when the hard times comes you will get through it.

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I would like to go back and encourage the Toi who back in the day never got the chance to see this unfold. So thank you for all of your support

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Here is the first episode:

Getting to know me

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This is the last episode of Season 10. Do not worry I will be back. I love to incorporate breaks. But be on standby in case anything should happen. In addition, check out the many other episodes from past seasons until our official return.

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On this episode I am covering summer vibes. How to take care of your mental health during the summer. Summer may be light but mental health doesn't take a vacation.

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Solo trips, staycations, and filling your own cup is all on the line for you this summer. We not allowing everyone else to have a good time and depleting from us to enjoy the good times and more. SO more yes days to you

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Its Fathers day weekend and I am not sugar coating how these fathers are. However it is not in the way that you think. I share my own pain around my own biological father. What it means to have that Kirk Franklin' Somebody's son(daughter) experience.

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Why are some Content Creators so mean and full of drama? Yall just eating it up. Everytime you share bad content, controversial content, and more you help line their pockets. Share content that best sets well with you. If you are going to give examples of bad content creation don't even say their name

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Salute to all good dads. May the be blessed. Do what is best for you this weekend and beyond.

We talk about protecting your mental space, finding your own joy, making it through hard times and more. Follow me on socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog

If you ever been in your people pleasing phase then you know the toll it takes on your mental health. From being mad at yourself for always feeling giving in and not saying no when it needs to, from feeling as if your being nice is hurting you, and more, You know that people pleasing isn't where you want to be.

So like Melissa said, we not holding hands anymore. No more trying to get folks to see your side. Also we learning to use NO alone where only NO is strong enough to work.

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IN addition we talk about the Roots Picnic and a brand trip this week. Also Bad Boys Ride or Die is out

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