Creating Conscious Relationships

Themes: Attachment Style, Secure Attachment, Somatic Work, Communication Tools, Overthinking and Inner Child Work.

New segment on the show: Peek behind the curtain into what a coaching call sounds and feels like!

In this episode, we go deep into “E’s” anxiety within dating. We explore the origins of her attachment wounds and how it impacts her ability to connect with someone she is dating. For her, she picks up on the smallest changes in behavior in the person she is seeing and tells herself the story that “They don’t care about me.”

Together we worked with a few tools and practices to help alleviate this and get her needs met in relationship.

During the session, we also explore:

• A shadow work & somatic practice to help soothe anxiety and resolve core wounds from the past
• Practical communication tools to have healthier, more secure relationships
• How to stop overthinking and use body mapping instead
• How to balance communicating and getting your needs met by a partner and being able to meet your needs yourself. 
• What to do when you don’t feel you have control over your thoughts

Highlights:

(04:46) Understanding E’s relationship patterns 

(08:21) Attachment is not an identity 

(13:02) Finding solid ground within shifting relationship dynamics 

(16:44) A Practice to uncover the origins of attachment wounds 

(23:33) A Practice for soothing relationship anxiety

(30:38) Bridging the mind and the body 

(35:05) Practices to create space between stimulus and response 

(42:16) Being seen in the discomfort: The ultimate medicine

(45:48) Question: What do I do when I think my needs are “too much for other people?”

(50:41) E’s Takeaways from this session

EASING ANXIETY PRACTICE - click here to get free access

A sequence of somatic practices to soften anxiety in the body, so you can find which tools your nervous system actually relaxes to.

EASING ANXIETY: Free guided practice. Click here to get access :)

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In this episode, I dive into the three levels of intervention that can help you overcome a pattern or habit that's holding you back from your full potential.

We start by understanding how habits are formed and how emotional and behavioral feedback loops are created and maintained in our minds and bodies. 

I discuss the importance of creating space between stimulus and response, also known as the sacred pause. Then, I move on to the second level of intervention, which is awareness. This involves recognizing the pattern or habit and becoming mindful of when and why it occurs.

Finally, I explore the third level of intervention - interrupt. This involves taking steps to interrupt the pattern or habit and practicing new behavior consistently over time to make it a permanent part of your routine. 

Throughout the episode, I provide tangible examples and a somatic practice to help you implement these levels of intervention in your life.

If you want to improve your relationships or change recurring patterns, this episode is for you. Join us as we dive into the three levels of change to create conscious and lasting change in your life!

Highlights:

(01:14) Learn about the 3 levels of intervention to make change happen

(02:22) Prioritizing and processing information to create feedback loops of habits

(05:05) How childhood experiences shape our habits and patterns as adults

(07:26) The 3 key intervention points to change your patterns and loops

(08:20) Example of being stuck in a pattern and how to intervene for change

(10:11) Discover a simple, life-changing practice

(11:11) The importance of being a witness to yourself

(12:00) Understanding the three levels of pattern interrupts

EASING ANXIETY PRACTICE - click here to get free access

A sequence of somatic practices to soften anxiety in the body, so you can find which tools your nervous system actually relaxes to.

EASING ANXIETY: Free guided practice. Click here to get access :)

2 Spots available for 1:1 work: Learn more here

Connect with Jenelle:
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In this episode, I explore attachment as a spectrum rather than identity and how it can manifest in your life. I dive into the different styles of attachment, such as anxious, avoidant, and disorganized, and how they can show up in your behaviors and relationships. Learn how attachment is developed and gain insights into your attachment style.

I also touch on what a securely attached child and adult look like and why it's important to seek out secure relationships to surround yourself with. (Hint: This is how you change your attachment style towards becoming secure).

I also dig into the cycles of connection and disconnection in relationships and how you heal and grow through conscious conflict and repair. You'll get journal prompts to connect with your attachment style and practices to cultivate safety within and work towards becoming secure.

Stay until the end to be guided through a somatic practice to explore your attachment system!

Whether you're currently in a relationship or looking to build healthier relationships in the future, this episode is for anyone who wants to deepen their understanding of attachment and improve their relationships.

 Highlights:

(05:11) Attachment as an identity vs attachment as a spectrum

(09:54) Interventions for working with your attachment style

(12:33) Anxious attachment 

(19:08) Avoidant attachment 

(22:30) Disorganized attachment 

(23:36) Nervous system regulation: Cultivating a secure attachment with yourself and others

(26:25) Secure attachment 

(33:06) Feeling loved for who you are vs what you did

(34:38) Healing in relationships

(35:40) The importance of surrounding yourself with secure connections

(36:22) Journal prompts to connect to your attachment system 

(40:04) Bridging the mind and body 

(41:08) A depth practice to notice, explore, and play with the somatic experience of attachment

EASING ANXIETY PRACTICE - click here to get free access

A sequence of somatic practices to soften anxiety in the body, so you can find which tools your nervous system actually relaxes to.

EASING ANXIETY: Free guided practice. Click here to get access :)

2 Spots available for 1:1 work: Learn more here

Connect with Jenelle:
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Instagram: @jenelleannette
Email: [email protected]

What makes coaching effective? What does it actually take to create change in our clients' lives?

In this week's episode, I sat down with Hanna to discuss her transformative journey through my Facilitator training program, The Art of Alchemy.

Once she graduated from the program, multiple clients told her they received more from one session than they had in years of therapy.

Hanna shares her personal story and highlights the importance of a deeper understanding of oneself in cultivating lasting change. We explore common fears that arise when stepping into leadership, the sacred responsibility of space holding, and the power of depth work.

Our conversation explores these topics and more...

• The dynamics between mentors and clients
• The significance of self-awareness and the crucial role of projections in this type of work
• The critical role of belief in one's ability to change
• The effectiveness of somatic practice to create true, lasting change

Coaches, therapists, and practitioners: Want to learn how to facilitate group programs and go deeper in your 1:1s?

You can read more about the Facilitation Training here.

Highlights

(06:46) How we create lasting change with depth work

(10:31) One of the most common fears when stepping into leadership 

(15:50) Space holding is a sacred responsibility 

(20:32) You can only take people as deeply as you’ve gone yourself

(26:15) The power of somatic practice 

(27:26) Who is this program for

(29:28) Hanna’s Client Results 

(33:00) To anyone considering the Art of Alchemy: Facilitation Training

EASING ANXIETY PRACTICE - click here to get free access

A sequence of somatic practices to soften anxiety in the body, so you can find which tools your nervous system actually relaxes to.

EASING ANXIETY: Free guided practice. Click here to get access :)

2 Spots available for 1:1 work: Learn more here

Connect with Jenelle:
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Instagram: @jenelleannette
Email: [email protected]

In this episode, I delve into what emotional intelligence and maturity really mean, the signs that show if someone is emotionally mature or not, and the reasons behind it. You will learn why having a broad emotional range and emotional maturity is so important for a fulfilling life and how it positively impacts your relationships and overall well-being. You will gain communication tools to share your feelings from an empowered place.

I also provide practical tips for growing in emotional maturity and how to develop a healthy relationship with your emotions. This podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of their emotions and build healthier relationships.

Highlights:

(01:17) Alchemy: My 3 month in-depth program for Creating Conscious Relationships

(07:08) 6 signs of emotional immaturity 

(11:43) 5 signs of emotional maturity 

(14:47) Integrated Communication: Taking ownership of your own feelings vs blaming others 

(19:00) 4 reasons you might struggle with emotional immaturity 

(23:13) Diving into your stories around anger & sadness

(27:55) What possibilities exist beyond your fear of feeling

(30:00) Journal prompt for emotional shadow work 

(31:04) A practice for expressing uncomfortable feelings

EASING ANXIETY PRACTICE - click here to get free access

A sequence of somatic practices to soften anxiety in the body, so you can find which tools your nervous system actually relaxes to.

EASING ANXIETY: Free guided practice. Click here to get access :)

2 Spots available for 1:1 work: Learn more here

Connect with Jenelle:
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Instagram: @jenelleannette
Email: [email protected]

In this episode, we will explore the powerful difference between responding and reacting and how learning to respond can transform your life.

We will explore the reasons behind our reactions and how our nervous system plays a crucial role in our ability to respond rather than react. You will learn about the mental narratives that drive your reactions and how to change them to support a more conscious and aware mentality.

We will also discuss practical techniques for cultivating mindfulness and self-awareness that can help you to respond more effectively in challenging situations. 

OUTLINE FOR THE EPISODE:

• An example of reactiveness of someone with an anxious attachment style
• What it looks like to react VS respond 
• Why you react (and sometimes feel like you can’t help it)
• Why being able to respond is one of the most important things you can ever learn to do
• How to respond rather than react (using somatic work & mental awareness)

Highlights:

(04:28) Anxious attachment example scenario 

(06:48) Somatic work explanation - Fostering a deeper Mind/body connection

(11:05) Training your nervous system 

(12:54) Separating your intuition from your narrative patterns 

(14:39) Choosing from trust vs fear 

(15:41) Staying open to life and open to love from an internal sense of safety 

(16:00) Regulating in uncomfortable moments 

(18:00) Create space between reaction and response 

(19:23) The tool of mind reporting

(21:22) Knowing your own mind, separating your narratives from objective reality 

(23:44) How to move forward once you have awareness 

(24:15) An exercise for deeper exploration of your own patterns 

EASING ANXIETY PRACTICE - click here to get free access

A sequence of somatic practices to soften anxiety in the body, so you can find which tools your nervous system actually relaxes to.

EASING ANXIETY: Free guided practice. Click here to get access :)

2 Spots available for 1:1 work: Learn more here

Connect with Jenelle:
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Instagram: @jenelleannette
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Do you wonder what it really takes to create a Conscious Relationship?

Do you experience a doomy feeling when it comes to relationships? 

Like it just feels too hard at times, and no can seems to be able to ‘figure it out’?

Enter: Conscious Relationships.

Everything it takes to keep relationships alive & thriving.

It won't be easy, but it's worth it.

In this episode, I talk about:

• An exciting new course coming in 2023 - Join the waitlist below!
• 4 phases all relationships go through
• Principles in Conscious Relationships
• An example of using the principles in my own relationship 
• How our past influences our relationship dynamics today

Interested in the Conscious Couple Communication Toolkit? Email me at [email protected] and I'll personally send you the course for free :)

Highlights:

(05:30) Navigating the beginning of a conscious relationship

(07:08) The 4 stages of relationship

(15:00) Knowing ourselves more clearly through conscious relationship

(16:37) How to get out of the relationship dead zone

(20:50) Knowing each other’s hearts and histories

(21:48) Learning to share in the moment to keep the connection open 

(24:25) Grow together without merging into codependency 

EASING ANXIETY PRACTICE - click here to get free access

A sequence of somatic practices to soften anxiety in the body, so you can find which tools your nervous system actually relaxes to.

EASING ANXIETY: Free guided practice. Click here to get access :)

2 Spots available for 1:1 work: Learn more here

Connect with Jenelle:
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Themes: Confidence, ending patterns, calling in friendships, partners, opportunities and self-love.

Summary:

In this episode, I share insights, perspective shifts and practices that will help you create the kind of life you dream about.

I share how I’ve seen and supported countless women in these shifts and my stories of manifesting success, a partner, my dream work, travel and more.

If you know you are meant for more, tune into this episode to see what foundations you need in place.

Outline for the episode:

• Mistakes you might be making keep you stuck from growing.
• What I was able to create in my life from these principles.
• The 7 foundations for you to establish to call in more love, adventure, success and fulfillment. 
• An exercise you can start using today to practice these foundations.
• A special invite to a container that will help you work towards your dream life. 

THE WOMEN'S GROUP IS NOW CLOSED: You can find available offerings here at my website

Questions about the Women's Group? Email me directly at: [email protected]

EASING ANXIETY PRACTICE - click here to get free access

A sequence of somatic practices to soften anxiety in the body, so you can find which tools your nervous system actually relaxes to.

EASING ANXIETY: Free guided practice. Click here to get access :)

2 Spots available for 1:1 work: Learn more here

Connect with Jenelle:
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Instagram: @jenelleannette
Email: [email protected]

Themes: Empowerment, Self-Love, Relationships, Confidence, Boundaries

Summary:

We’ve heard it before: “The only one standing in your way is you.” What isn’t often explained is how to get out of your way, take an empowered stance, and start playing big. Well, this episode is all of that and more.

If you’ve ever… 

• Focused on being chosen by a romantic partner rather than realizing you’re the one choosing them
• Pulled away from stating your needs, wants and desires
• Held back from going after an opportunity out of the assumption that it wouldn’t work out
• Told yourself it’s all your fault or take on all the blame when things don’t go well
• Prioritized others’ needs over your own and felt drained by over-giving

Then you know what its like to play small. If you’re tired of that, this episode is for you.

Outline for the episode:

• Exploring what it means to play small and why that happens
• The catch-22 of this pattern and why you may attract people who make it hard for you to stand in your power
• What reality looks like when you play big
• 4 powerful ways to shift into claiming your space in this world and going after the love, career and life of your dreams
• A guided visualization exercise to help you embody this version of yourself (who goes after what she wants)

Highlights:

(6:55) What playing small looks like 

(8:42) Why you keep yourself small or struggle to set boundaries 

(13:11) Where did you learn to disown your needs 

(17:02) How to establish self-trust 

(18:03) How to connect to limitless possibility vs fearful what ifs

(19:22) Unintegrated vs integrated anger 

(23:14) Connecting to the embodied sensation of desire/what you deeply want 

(26:00) Visualization practice begins 

EASING ANXIETY PRACTICE - click here to get free access

A sequence of somatic practices to soften anxiety in the body, so you can find which tools your nervous system actually relaxes to.

EASING ANXIETY: Free guided practice. Click here to get access :)

2 Spots available for 1:1 work: Learn more here

Connect with Jenelle:
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Instagram: @jenelleannette
Email: [email protected]

According to a study, 67.5% of marriages ended because of communication problems. So why is communication so difficult for so many?

In this episode, I’ll share why you may struggle to communicate in the first place and what happens if you don’t. We will explore your family system dynamics to understand the blocks you experience as an adult, and have the key understandings to feel safe opening up and communicating at a deeper level. This is what true authenticity is all about.

I’ll also give you a powerful conscious relationship process with a partner.

These skills can transfer to all kinds of relationships - so no matter your relationship status, you’ll be supported by these tools.

EASING ANXIETY PRACTICE - click here to get free access

A sequence of somatic practices to soften anxiety in the body, so you can find which tools your nervous system actually relaxes to.

EASING ANXIETY: Free guided practice. Click here to get access :)

2 Spots available for 1:1 work: Learn more here

Connect with Jenelle:
Website
Instagram: @jenelleannette
Email: [email protected]