Only a week after finishing DARE TO LOVE, Nikki fell in love with her soul mate. In this episode we talk about love, sabotage and very particular kind of patterns that exist for the strong independent woman. 

Nikki is an intimacy life coach herself, which is what made it so interesting for me to work with her. She is extremely self aware, had done an incredible amount of inner work, and yet was still stuck in patterns of dating destructive men. 

Until... DARE TO LOVE. 

From all my success stories, this is probably my favourite one. I'm certain you are going to LOVE this episode!

You can follow Nikki on Instagram (instagram.com/nikkiananda) or go to her website to see her coaching programs (www.nikkiananda.com). 

And if you're ready to find your soulmate too, sign up for DARE TO LOVE on www.nalayachakana.com/dare-to-love

In longterm relationships your trust will be tested. Can you open up more? Trust more? Share with more vulnerability?

Of course it’s what we want, but the process in getting there often goes hand-in-hand with discussions that seem to repeat themselves. Like you’re having the same fight again and again without getting to a place of resolution. 

What I find quite stereotypical in those kind of growth moments, is that women will often become bitches. 

Something that, if you ask me, is very natural and primal. 

In this episode I’ll share from my own experience and how a really good fight between Ruwan and I lead to a breakthrough in our growth as a couple.

This episode was originally recorded for Ruwan's podcast.

He says "Men have a new kind of "Fear of Women." It's the fear that the woman they are intimate with, won't want to be in her feminine."

Check out Ruwan's podcast on any podcasting app ----> The Ruwando Podcast

There is not a single experience that comes close to the initiation that happens to a woman after giving birth. It's in those first 40 days that every single layer of our existence breaks open, in order for us to grow into our new form. 

Nothing about it is romantic or gentle. It's so raw and real; there's no avoiding.

It’s something I would compare to drinking Ayahuasca 24/7 for 40 days straight. Some days I was in pure ecstatic bliss. And some days I was confronted with parts of myself that had remained hidden. 

It was so confronting, so profound, I have no words to really explain what it is like. And yet... I felt called to at least try to give it voice. Simply because it's a subject that is so taboo, it has shocked me.

If anything, we should be talking about this more openly. So that women approaching this initiation are better prepared than most of us are.

Birth is probably the most powerful initiation a woman can go through. And the absolute most transformative.

I believe that there is an importance in sharing our stories with the world. In particular a birth story, as it holds such value for sisters who are approaching this initiation in their lives.

So here it is: raw, real and radiant... This is the story of how our beautiful daughter Keilani Moon was born on the 18th of February 2022. The story of our 40 hour unmedicated home birth here in Koh Phangan, Thailand.

Courses mentioned >>

Fitness Course: https://pronatalfitness.com/

Hypnobirthing course: https://www.blissborn.com/

The way women value themselves is often based on masculine principles. It's the aspects to life that are measurable and tangible. The aspects that make it obvious in how you feel empowered.

The great transformation I am currently in, has pushed me to question more honestly how I value the feminine. The true feminine. The life-giving, abstract, mysterious part of my expression that cannot be measured so clearly. 

This important and overlooked aspect of me demanded me to reframe how I value the feminine in me. And perhaps even redefine what that means. 

This episode is to connect with you through personal anecdotes, insights, and to inspire you to contemplate a little deeper about your own inner feminine in a way you perhaps haven't before.

Enjoy

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Hi, I’m Nalaya Chakana

My life’s purpose is dedicated to sharing with others the secrets of how to manifest the love you truly desire. What I teach is fueled by passion and sincere fascination for love. It is a combination of everything that my life experience has taught me, as well as what I’ve observed in the thousands of people I’ve worked with on a very intimate level over the last 10+ years.

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This year has all been about surrender. The teachings of surrender have humbled me, softened me, and given me access to a deeper layer of this feminine power that I never knew existed. 

The feminine has been at the center of my path, my life and my purpose. For years I was attached to a particular expression of what this means. Through the experience of becoming a wife and a mother, however, layers of my old self have stripped away and created space for the power of my feminine to arise.

Not the kind of "feminine power" feminists talk about. Actually exactly the opposite. If you wanna know what I mean by this, listen to this episode. 

In this podcast episode I share the three layers of surrender that have touched me through the 3 different trimesters of my pregnancy. I share stories, insights, and simply invite you into more personal layers of my transformation.

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Hi, I’m Nalaya Chakana

My life’s purpose is dedicated to sharing with others the secrets of how to manifest the love you truly desire. What I teach is fueled by passion and sincere fascination for love. It is a combination of everything that my life experience has taught me, as well as what I’ve observed in the thousands of people I’ve worked with on a very intimate level over the last 10+ years.

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Identity death is something we all go through at different stages in our life. To me, it started happening once I left my home in Peru and came to Thailand. It feels like everything that happened before coming to Thailand was Book 1 of my life. And by coming here, I have started to write Book 2. I am still trying to discern what this Book 2 is even about, and being in the midst of pregnancy, it seems like only after the birth of this beautiful soul will I be able to know exactly what I am "writing about". And that is the beauty of it - diving into the unknown, dying and being born anew.

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Hi, I’m Nalaya Chakana

My life’s purpose is dedicated to sharing with others the secrets of how to manifest the love you truly desire. What I teach is fueled by passion and sincere fascination for love. It is a combination of everything that my life experience has taught me, as well as what I’ve observed in the thousands of people I’ve worked with on a very intimate level over the last 10+ years.

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The way you choose to trust life together, sets the foundation for growth in the relationship.

Here we are: pregnant, on the road with our two puppies, facing the unknown like never before. Not only is the pregnancy changing who we are in our identities - individually and together - it is also causing us to question our work, what we have created so far, and where we want to go from here.

Although we've had our adventures of transformation in the past, this one is different. Because this one requires us to be a team in this relationship. To face the unknown together. To allow the new to arise by trusting each other more and more, and moving forward as a unity. 

It is exciting, open, liberating, and also scary at times. Beyond this step, we literally have no idea what's next. 

So, how do you stay open in the unknown? How to be courageous and wise, yet innocent and curious all at once? 

In this episode Ruwan and I talk about our current status facing the unknown, and how this can be a an opportunity to bring you closer to your partner.

As a sexy bonus, we talk about some rituals we perform in the bedroom to keep us aligned to our intentions. 

In the end, whatever challenge you are faced with, you always have the choice to make the journey pleasurable.

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Hi, I’m Nalaya Chakana

My life’s purpose is dedicated to sharing with others the secrets of how to manifest the love you truly desire. What I teach is fueled by passion and sincere fascination for love. It is a combination of everything that my life experience has taught me, as well as what I’ve observed in the thousands of people I’ve worked with on a very intimate level over the last 10+ years.

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Manifesting love is like a science. It requires you to understand both the law of attraction, as well as the paradoxical nature of love itself. In this episode, I will take you on a journey into my own life of how I maneuvered myself through these nuances. Because obviously it’s part of the heart of my work and everything that I offer, and the work that I do with others. And of course, I am living proof, I’m the full embodiment of what it is that I teach.

This episode is upon requests of many people who read my posts on Instagram, I receive many beautiful comments whenever I share something about my relationship. And so I figured it's time I share a little bit more about how it all came about, because this love journey is quite an epic and unique one. So, I’ve wrapped it in the main teachings I’ve received, which with all my heart, I want to pass on to you.

And with it, I also want to announce that I have launched two new courses, one called Catch Your Queen - which is for men, and one Attract Your King – which is for women. You can go to >>> idaretolove.com to see more about what these courses are about. 

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Hi, I’m Nalaya Chakana

My life’s purpose is dedicated to sharing with others the secrets of how to manifest the love you truly desire. What I teach is fueled by passion and sincere fascination for love. It is a combination of everything that my life experience has taught me, as well as what I’ve observed in the thousands of people I’ve worked with on a very intimate level over the last 10+ years.

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