Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 4

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

👓✨ Age gaps in 2025: one of you’s reaching for reading glasses, the other’s adjusting the ring light.

This week, we’re diving into age-gap relationships—the fascination, the judgments, and the real-life dynamics behind the gossip.

We cover:

• Why people are so nosy about age gaps (power, motives, and cultural scripts)
• The romance of contrast: playlists vs. mixtapes, novelty vs. stability
• Common judgments: “gold digger,” “midlife crisis,” and why they usually say more about the onlooker than the couple
• Private realities: how couples actually make it work (hint: they fight about Netflix, not just age)
• Communication tips when you’re in mismatched life stages
• Handling outside judgment with confidence

💡 Takeaway: Age gaps aren’t inherently good or bad—it’s all about power, pace, and play.

📌 Next week: Love Languages or Lost in Translation? Why your partner’s way of showing love might feel like a foreign language (and how to actually get the message).

🎙️ The Dateable AF Podcast — because women dating women is wild, wonderful, and occasionally a disaster.

#DateableAF #LesbianDating #WLW #LovePodcast #AgeGapRelationships #QueerLove #WomenWhoLoveWomen #DatingPodcast #RelationshipTalk #CougarTown

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Dateable AFter Party @ 1972 Season 2

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 3

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

AFter Party with Dateable AF

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This bonus episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel share listener's comments and questions

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 2

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Jealous? Me? Never. The messy truth about jealousy (and envy) in even secure relationships.

• Jealousy vs. Envy: Jealousy = fear of losing what you have; Envy = wanting what someone else has (benign, emulative, or malicious).
• Not always a red flag: Think “check-engine light,” not automatic doom. Love + jealousy can coexist—handle with care.
• Flavors of jealousy:
  • Romantic/Sexual (flirting/sexual interest),
  • Emotional (sharing intimacy elsewhere),
  • Situational (priority/availability mismatches).
• Queer-specific wrinkles: Small circles, exes in the friend group, and higher alert around emotional infidelity can amplify jealousy.
• Attachment + history: Anxious attachment and past betrayals supercharge triggers. Don’t overlay old wounds on new people.
• Social media traps: Creeping, burner accounts, “proving it” hunts—erode trust and rarely soothe.
• Boundaries ≠ control: Ask, “Is this someone I should worry about?” Use I-statements, set your boundaries, don’t police theirs.
• Quick self-check: If you’re jealous in 9/10 situations, look inward; if 1/10, examine the situation. Regulate first (breathe, journal, meditate).
• Ask for what you need: Reassurance, check-ins, affection—be direct. Therapy helps if it’s sticky.
• Spice vs. scorch: Playful partner-flirting can be bonding; throuples/“opening up” rarely fix problems—tread carefully (and tell us if yours does work!).

Share your take: jealousy wins, lessons, or a successful 5+ year throuple 📧 [email protected] | 📸 @datableaf

Next up: Am I Losing Myself or Just Growing Up? IRL: Aug 24 at 1972 Bar (Austin, TX) — come hang!

#DatableAF #QueerPodcast #WLW #WomenLovingWomen #Sapphic #QueerDating #WomenDatingWomen #LGBTQPodcast #LesbianPodcast #Jealousy #Envy #AttachmentStyles #AnxiousAttachment #SecureAttachment #EmotionalIntimacy #HealthyBoundaries #BoundariesNotControl #CommunicationSkills #RelationshipAdvice #DatingAdvice #TrustIssues #SocialMediaBoundaries #TherapyTalk #CouplesTherapy #QueerLove #ModernDating #DontTextYourEx #ThroupleTalk #PodcastEpisode #NewEpisode

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Want to meet Sarah and Rachel and be part of a live recording of the Dateable AF podcast? Listen here for more info!

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 1

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

This show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

It’s Never Just About the Dishes — petty fights = deeper needs.

• Proxy arguments: Surface tiffs (TP roll, “text me when you land”) mask needs like autonomy, security, being seen.
• Perpetual problems: Many issues are ongoing value/style differences you manage, not solve (Gottman).
• Physiology matters: The first minutes set the tone; if nervous systems spike, pause and regroup.
• Queer twists: Mismatch on being out, blurred home roles, and double attunement can mean double resentment.
• Look for what’s right: The “red truck” effect—what you scan for, you’ll see.
• Tools: Name the need; check pattern vs one-off; use humor or a code word (“cinnamon”); validate feelings without “losing”; ask for what you want; let small stuff go; do regular check-ins.

Examples: Travel-call tug-of-war (connection vs autonomy), dinner indecision (passive control), recycling righteousness, the goldfish ultimatum.

Share your funniest dumb fights (anonymous!): 📧 [email protected] | 📸 @datableaf

Be bold, be kind, and… don’t text your ex. Stay Datable AF.

#DatableAF #QueerDating #RelationshipSkills #ProxyArguments #Gottman #Communication #AttachmentNeeds #ConflictRepair #LGBTQPodcast #SapphicRelationships

Dateable AF Episode 16

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Datable AF — E16

“I’m Not Clingy, You’re Just Distant” — Dating With Different Attachment Styles

Sarah & Rachel unpack attachment theory (Ainsworth, Bowlby) and how secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious-avoidant styles play out in queer dating—without turning your date into a diagnosis.

In this episode:

• Why anxious/avoidant pairings create that chase/run loop—and how both people can pause the cycle.
• Simple repair moves: name your needs, take space with a return time, and actually come back.
• Texting rhythms: consistent ≠ constant. Don’t double-text in protest or stonewall to punish.
• Green flags of secure attachment: steady communication, empathy, flexibility, low drama.
• You’re not doomed by your style—therapy, self-awareness, and a secure partner help you shift.
• Quick IRL cues: anxious energy reads faster; avoidant can mask—meet offline to really see each other.

Go deeper: free attachment quizzes + books: Attached (Amir Levine), Wired for Love (Stan Tatkin), Hold Me Tight (Sue Johnson).

Live taping: Sun, Aug 24 @ 1972 Sports Bar (Austin, TX) — details soon. Season 2 tease: still dating, now adding long-term relationship deep dives. Share, rate, follow on Apple, Spotify, IG & FB @ Datable AF.

#Hashtags #DatableAF #QueerDating #AttachmentStyles #SecureAttachment #AnxiousAvoidant #WLW #Sapphic #LGBTQPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #Boundaries #Communication #AmirLevine #StanTatkin #SueJohnson

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Episode 15

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Datable AF — E15

Fun Drunk or Red Flag? Dating, Drinking & Compatibility

Sarah (now 5½ years sober) and Rachel unpack alcohol’s role in early dating: why that first drink can smooth nerves, why behavior usually shifts by drink three, and how presence—not what’s in your glass—makes or breaks connection.

They separate one-offs from patterns: overdrinking on a first date, needing booze for every plan, “cruddy” mornings, personality flips (sloppy, loud, angry), pressuring a partner to drink, or a sober person having “just one.” Patterns = red flags.

How to navigate mismatch: mix dry and sipped dates, name boundaries, avoid guilt in either direction, decide how you’ll handle “not tonight,” and know when to talk vs. walk. A kind script: “When you drink, it takes you away from the person I love.”

Context for queer women: bar culture and stress can nudge more drinking—but compatibility, safety, and respect matter most. Choose what keeps you present, connected, and datable AF.

Next up: E16 — I’m Not Clingy, You’re Just Distant: dating with different attachment styles. Share your funniest/worst “party girl” stories for the After Party, and follow on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube @ Datable AF.

#Hashtags #DatableAF #QueerDating #SoberDating #AlcoholAndDating #WLW #LGBTQPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #Boundaries #RedFlags #Sapphic

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AFterparty Bonus Answering Listeners Questions and Comments

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This bonus episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel share listener's comments and questions

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC