Dateable()AF

Dateable()AF

By Rachel Howell & Dr. Sarah KyleHealth & FitnessSexuality
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Dateable()AF episodes

  • Bonus Track: E14 Dateable()AF-terparty: Responding to Listeners Questions and Comments about Lesbian Bed Death

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode!

    Dateable AFterparty Bonus Answering Listeners Questions and Comments

    The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

    Producer: Jordan Cannon

    Theme Song: Cade Kyle

    Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

    Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

    Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

    This bonus episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel share listener's comments and questions

    A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

    15 min
  • Episode 14: Lesbian Bed Death: "Myth, Reality or Just Bad Scheduling"

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode!

    Dateable AF

    The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

    Producer: Jordan Cannon

    Theme Song: Cade Kyle

    Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

    Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

    Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

    Datable AF — E14

    Lesbian Bed Death: Myth, Reality, or Just Bad Scheduling?

    “Lesbian bed death” gets a rethink. Sarah (therapist) and Rachel (researcher) trace the term to an ‘80s, heteronormative study and offer a better frame: lesbian bed intimacies—expanding sex beyond “how often” to pleasure, variety, and connection.

    They unpack what research and real life show: frequency dips over time for all couples, but many women–women pairs report higher satisfaction, more variety/romance, and longer encounters. They also name the blockers—body image and shame, past unwanted experiences, stress, illness, menopause, careers, and caregiving.

    Practical takeaways for dating and long-term love: define what counts as sex (be honest if you’re seeing others), treat sexual health as shared, and talk early/often about turn-ons, turn-offs, and fantasies. Intimacy can be a slow-burn cuddle night or “just the destination”—both valid.

    They also normalize scheduling sex (“let’s get naked and see what happens”) to create space for desire. Feeling like roommates? Try surprise romance, brave bids of desire, a gentle plan for handling “not tonight,” revisiting what turns you on now, and—when stuck—therapy.

    Next up: E15 — Is She a Fun Drunk… or a Red Flag? Substance use, sobriety, and early signals to save you heartache.

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    #Hashtags #DatableAF #LesbianBedDeath #LesbianBedIntimacies #QueerDating #WLW #Sapphic #SexAndRelationships #LGBTQPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #TherapistTips

    A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

    47 min
  • Bonus Track: E13 Dateable()AF-terparty: Responding to Listeners Questions and Comments about "All She Said is "Hey" and You're Planning the Wedding"

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode!

    Dateable AFter Party Episode 13

    The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

    Producer: Jordan Cannon

    Theme Song: Cade Kyle

    Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

    Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

    Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

    This bonus episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel share listener's comments and questions.

    A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

    10 min
  • Episode 13: "All She Said Was ‘Hey’… and Now You’re Planning the Wedding"

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode!

    Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 13

    The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

    Producer: Jordan Cannon

    Theme Song: Cade Kyle

    Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

    Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

    Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

    This episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel discuss jumping the gun. Some says Hey and you start planning the wedding!

    A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

    45 min
  • Bonus Track: E12 Dateable()AF-terparty: Questions and comments about "Okay but why are you still texting her?"

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode!

    Dateable AF Show Notes: AFter Party

    The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

    Producer: Jordan Cannon

    Theme Song: Cade Kyle

    Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

    Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

    Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

    This episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel answer questions from listeners!

    A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

    9 min
  • Episode 12: Okay, But Why Are You Still Texting Her?

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode!

    Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 12

    The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

    Producer: Jordan Cannon

    Theme Song: Cade Kyle

    Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

    Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

    Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

    In this episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel deep dive into why we stay attached to people who don't actually show up. Here are the key takeaways:

    • Create accountability for yourself to stop responding to folks who aren’t emotionally available
    • Find positive ways to alleviate your loneliness. This isn’t one of them.
    • Let go of physical and emotional artifacts
    • Set and maintain boundaries for yourself

    A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

    38 min
  • Episode 11: She was perfect... But I was Bored- A Love Letter to Chemistry

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode!

    Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 11

    The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

    Producer: Jordan Cannon

    Theme Song: Cade Kyle

    Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

    Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

    Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

    This episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel deep dive when there is no Chemistry. Boring Boring Boring! If your first descriptor is Nice- walk away.

    A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

    43 min
  • Bonus Track: E10: Dateable()AF-terparty: Listeners Questions and Comments

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode!

    Dateable AFter Party Episode 10

    The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

    Producer: Jordan Cannon

    Theme Song: Cade Kyle

    Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

    Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

    Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

    This bonus episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel share listener's comments and questions

    Here's the link to the article we mentioned about money and happiness: https://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/family-finance/articles/does-money-make-you-happy-the-latest-research-might-surprise-you

    A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

    12 min
  • Episode 10: Champagne Taste vs. Lone Star Budget: Dating Across Class Lines

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode!

    Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 10

    The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

    Producer: Jordan Cannon

    Theme Song: Cade Kyle

    Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

    Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

    Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

    This episode,Champagne Taste vs. Lone Star Budget: Dating Across Class Lines looks at differences in SES and how that shows up in dating relationships. We give our listeners tips, along with personal stories discussing ways to handle financial inequity.

    • Summary of key points from the episode.
      • Pay attention to the way SES might subtly show up in your dating relationships
      • No need to match the other person’s lifestyle, but communicate clearly
      • Like so many other things, it’s about asking yourself if you can accept this person where they are today or if that’s too uncomfortable for you. Don’t expect them or their situation to change.

    A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

    41 min
  • Bonus Track: E9 Dateable()AF-terparty:Answering Listeners Question

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode!

    Dateable AF Show Notes: Bonus Episode- Answering Questions from Our Listeners

    The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

    Producer: Jordan Cannon

    Theme Song: Cade Kyle

    Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

    Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

    Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

    This Bonus Episode, Dr Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell answer a question from a listeners about dating someone you would rather be friends with.

    A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

    8 min

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