Is modern dating broken or are we just playing it too safe? Sexologist and soon-to-be sex therapist, Tori, joins us for a refreshingly honest conversation about why dating feels so exhausting right now. We cover the swipe-culture trap, why women keep settling for bare minimum, and the very real problem with using ChatGPT to write your texts. Tori breaks down what a real red flag looks like, why inconsistency is the number one relationship killer, and why dating yourself might be your best move yet. Plus, compliments, eye contact, and why your gym is the dating app you're not using.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

05:23 – Meet Tori, sexologist, sex therapist, & former exotic dancer

06:17 – What even IS modern dating? The dopamine swipe trap explained

07:32 – Why women are swearing off men

08:59 – The best places to meet people IRL; apps aren't it

17:27 – How to date yourself & be available while doing it

19:59 – The ChatGPT dating problem

24:04 – Red flags: what's real vs. what's noise

24:57 – Inconsistency as the #1 relationship dealbreaker

27:22 – Calling someone out without blowing it up

34:05 – How Tori defines pleasure

Pleasure Highlights:

• Swipe culture kills depth, be intentional

• IRL presence beats any dating app

• ChatGPT can't fake real vulnerability

• Inconsistency is the #1 red flag

• Pleasure isn't always sexual, reclaim it

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• Website: Tori the Sex Coach

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