Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators

Your bedroom isn’t as private as you think. In this episode, sex educator & human sexuality PhD student Jill Lissner joins us to explore why sex is political, from abortion access and crisis pregnancy centers to sex ed funding & who gets to experience pleasure. We cover reproductive health deserts, fertility awareness vs. hormonal birth control, & resources like Plan C & Abortion Finder, plus easy ways to take action locally. Curious, informed, & a little fired up? Press play.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

05:17 – Why sex is political (porn and sex toy laws)

13:12 – Abortion laws since Roe: why local info matters

16:45 – Resources and travel when you live in a ban state

17:50 – The unintended consequences of bans

24:08 – Crisis pregnancy centers: how to spot them

25:36 – The real cost of abortion care

27:32 – How sex ed is funded

32:43 – Fertility awareness vs. hormonal birth control

43:38 – “If your vote didn’t matter, they wouldn’t try to restrict it”

Pleasure Highlights:

• The personal is political. Laws on porn, sex toys, abortion, and sex ed shape bedrooms and exam rooms.

• Start local. Know what care exists near you before tracking every headline.

• Bans ripple outward. Clinics close, providers leave, and those with the fewest resources feel it most.

• Check before you go. Crisis pregnancy centers can look like clinics but aren’t. Abortion Finder can help you verify.

• Informed choice wins. Everyone deserves accurate info to choose what works for them.

Connect with Jill:

• Instagram @sexedprincesss

• TikTok @sexedprincesss

• X @sexedprincesss

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Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Your body has been trying to tell you something. In this episode, Susanna Brisk, sexual intuition coach and author, joins us to explore how to tune into your yes, no, and hell yes. We talk about intuition vs. anxiety, ditching performative sex for present sex, and why orgasms should not be the only goal. Plus manifesting your person, fantasies as self-discovery, sex at every age, and why STI testing and the HPV vaccine matter. It's flirty, funny, and just a little bit wrong in the best way.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

07:03 – What a "sexual intuitive" actually is

09:36 – How patriarchy and capitalism keep women small

11:06 – How to restart shut-down intuition

13:46 – Live energy read + conjuring the man downstairs

16:41 – Relationship ambivalence and the "deservingness" question

26:16 – Fantasies, erotica, and why we lack the language

31:35 – Ageism, sex in your 90s, and the STI/HPV education gap

37:35 – Intuition vs. anxiety: "Can you be turned on and scared?"

45:04 – Performative sex, porn, and the "correct pussy" myth

49:29 – Great sex without orgasm, defining pleasure, and sex as jazz

Pleasure Highlights:

• Your intuition is a skill you can rebuild. 

• You're the expert on you. 

• Your body is the tiebreaker between intuition and anxiety.

• Fantasy is information, not a confession.

• Orgasm can be a goal, but it shouldn't be the only one.

Connect with Susanna:

• Instagram @sexualintuitive

• Facebook @sexualintuitive

• YouTube @sexualintuitive

• Website: https://sexualintuitive.com 

Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE.

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Email: [email protected]

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Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Stressed out and wondering where your sex drive went? You're not broken. You're just stuck in survival mode. In this episode, licensed sex therapist Dr. Holly Wood, PhD, joins us to unpack why stress is the ultimate libido killer and what to actually do about it. We dig into the real difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why desire discrepancy is the #1 issue she sees in her practice, and how to stop internalizing your partner's low libido as a personal rejection.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

07:00 – Why stress traps you in "survival mode" and kills access to pleasure

12:15 – Pre-workout, blood flow, and the lowest-stress window for sex

14:37 – The real libido killers: resentment, fatigue, uneven mental load

16:22 – Get out of your head and into your body

17:22 – Why talking during sex is underrated

25:00 – Spontaneous vs. responsive desire

27:50 – Desire discrepancy is normal

31:20 – "It's not about you" - reframing rejection and low desire

Pleasure Highlights:

• Stress doesn't just kill the mood; it hijacks your nervous system.

• Desire isn't one-size-fits-all.

• Desire discrepancy is normal, not a dealbreaker.

• Your partner's low desire usually isn't about you.

Connect with Dr. Holly Wood, PhD:

• Instagram @DrHollyWoodPhD https://www.instagram.com/drhollywoodphd/

• YouTube @DrHollyWoodPhD https://www.youtube.com/@DrHollyWoodPhD

• Website: https://www.thehollywoodsexologist.com/

Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE.

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Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Women's health is having a moment! The Cuntsultant, joins us for a rapid-fire tour through the biggest women’s health updates: PCOS gets a name change, birth control myths, why endometriosis takes 10 years to diagnose, and the push for pain management during in-office procedures, ex. UDIs. Plus vaginal estrogen's life-saving role and why women outlive their ovaries. Women weren't studied or treated seriously and that's changing. Bring this one straight to your next appointment.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

06:30 – PCOS gets a better name

07:35 – What's happening in your ovaries with PMOS

14:26 – The metformin story that got reported to the medical board

16:48 – The evolutionary theory that PMOS might be a genetic advantage

19:03 – What birth control does to your hormones

23:39 – Why endometriosis takes 10 years to diagnose

30:15 – New endometriosis diagnostic breakthroughs in Europe

34:29 – Why pain management for in-office procedures is being taken seriously

39:35 – Vaginal estrogen's as recommendation for recurrent UTIs

42:47 – The grandmother hypothesis - why we outlive our ovaries

Pleasure Highlights:

• PCOS has a new name: PMOS

• Birth control doesn't "regulate" your hormones

• Pain management for in-office gyno procedures is not offered upfront

• Vaginal estrogen now recommended for recurrent UTIs

• Endometriosis takes an average of 10 years to diagnose

Connect with The Cuntsultant:

• Instagram @cvntsultant

• Website: TheCuntsultant.com

Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE.

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*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.

Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Handjobs get a bad rap, but today we're bringing them back! In this episode, certified sexologist Ashley Manta joins us to explore why hand jobs deserve more respect. We break down her go-to techniques: the Pepper Grinder, the Bottle Rocket, why a baby bottle warmer might be the most underrated tool in your nightstand, and how foreskin changes the game. We also get into what to do when your partner goes soft, why mindset matters, as well as cannabis and sex and what it's like inside Desire Cruises and Hedonism. 

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

05:35 – Ashley — sexologist, author, Betty Dodson mentee

07:02 – Why hand jobs get such bad PR

09:00 – The 3 non-negotiables: two hands, lube, time

10:35 – Setting the scene - the "giver's mindset"

12:20 – Best positions

18:45 – The baby bottle warmer lube hack

22:23 – Signature moves: the Pepper Grinder & Bottle Rocket

27:06 – Foreskin 101

30:55 – Inside Desire Cruises & Hedonism

49:31 – Cannabis, CBD myths, and the indica/sativa debate

Pleasure Highlights:

• Two hands, lube, and time are the foundation.

• Confidence matters more than technique.

• Soft doesn't mean over.

• Most CBD-only products are underdosed marketing.

• Consent and intentionality around substances are non-negotiable.

Connect with Ashley Manta:

• Instagram @cannasexual

• Website: ashleymanta.com

• Courses: elevatedintimacy.com

• Book:  Merry Jane's The CBD Solution: Sex: How Cannabis, CBD, and Other Plant Allies Can Improve Your Everyday Life

Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE.

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• Instagram @‌jordandnelle

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*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.

Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Your desire isn't broken; your nervous system is just doing its job too well. In this episode, pelvic floor PT and sex counselor Dr. Rose joins us to break down why trauma, stress, and hypervigilance can quietly tank your libido and what to actually do about it. We cover the "smoke detector" model of nervous system regulation, why desire discrepancy is normal (80% of couples deal with it), the four desire styles, and quick neuroscience-backed exercises that can shift you from a 2/10 to a 6/10 "open to intimacy" in minutes. If you've ever felt guilty for not being in the mood, you can stop “fixing” yourself and start understanding your body.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

07:10 – From Dr. Goldstein's clinic to holistic sex coaching

16:45 – The "smoke detector" nervous system analogy

20:26 – Why sensitivity to threat isn't your fault

22:32 – The 3-step reset

34:30 – Presence as a biological need37:00 – Desire isn't a light switch — it's a car that needs gas

39:00 – The four desire styles

41:13 – Live demo: shift nervous system state in real time

45:36 – Stress vs. threat — not all stress kills desire

Pleasure Highlights:

• Desire isn't a light switch, it's more like a car

• 80% of couples deal with desire discrepancy

• A hypersensitive nervous system isn't a personal failing

• You don't have to be symptom-free to feel safe

• Small, physical resets work fast

Connect with Dr. Rose:

• Instagram @bewellwithrose

• Website

• Desire Quiz

• Provider trainings

Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE.

Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:

• Facebook @‌jordandnelle

• Instagram @‌jordandnelle

• Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcast

• TikTok @‌jordandnelle

• Youtube @jordandnelle

• Website: Jordan D’Nelle⁠⁠

Email: [email protected]

Love this Episode? 

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*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.

Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Almost everything you're already doing in bed is a kink. In this episode, Alex Gay, porn star, kink educator, and host of Kink Curious, joins us to break down what kink actually means (spoiler: it's way broader than you think), why almost everyone is "kinky" without realizing it, and how shame keeps so many of us stuck. We get into the difference between a kink and a fetish, consent and communication in kink spaces, why aftercare matters just as much as the main event, and how to start exploring safely if you're kink-curious but don't know where to begin. 

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

06:52 – What is a kink, really?

07:14 – Kink vs. fetish

14:27 – Why most people are "kinky" without knowing it

28:00 – Biggest misconception about kink community

31:55 – How to start exploring a kink

34:11 – Building confidence outside the bedroom

37:17 – Consent in kink scenes

41:00 – What kink taught Alex about communication and vulnerability

44:27– Aftercare 101

Pleasure Highlights:

• Kink is broader than most people think

• Confidence in kink starts outside the bedroom.

• Consent looks different and more intentional in kink.

• Aftercare isn't extra, it's part of the experience.

• Shame is the real barrier, not the kink itself.

Connect with Alexxx:

• Instagram @HeyAlexGay

• TikTok @HeyAlexGay

• Facebook @HeyAlexGay

• YouTube @HeyAlexGay

• Podcast: Kink Curious

Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE.

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• Youtube @jordandnelle

• Website: Jordan D’Nelle⁠⁠

Email: [email protected]

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*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.

Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Your vagina has its own ecosystem, and no, that yeast on your test doesn't automatically mean infection. In this episode, The Cuntsultant breaks down the vaginal microbiome: why lactobacilli are your best friend, how your gut and hormones secretly run the show, and why "rebalance your pH" is basically meaningless advice. We get into recurrent BV, partner treatment, boric acid (plus the Poison Control call about oral sex timing), and why yogurt does NOT belong in your vagina. Honest, funny, shame-free.

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Thank you to our Sponsors: Splash Blanket, Prodx, Phexx

Jump to the Good Stuff:

05:57 – Who is The Cuntsultant?

07:55 – What is the vaginal microbiome and why it matters

08:30 – The gut-hormone connection

10:06 – Their Daye test results - shockingly low lactobacilli

10:50 – Yeast/mycoplasma showing up on a test doesn't always mean infection

16:41 – New guidance: BV treatment includes the partner

20:27 – Tight clothes, diet, and other everyday microbiome disruptors

29:25 – Why your vaginal pH shifts throughout your cycle

32:52 – Boric acid 101 and the Poison Control call about oral sex timing

37:36 – "Energetically bad semen" - the ex-partner BV theory

Pleasure Highlights:

• Yeast or "weird" bacteria on a test ≠ infection. 

• Oral probiotics can support vaginal health, but check strains. 

• Your vaginal pH is supposed to shift throughout your cycle.

• Boric acid needs a 24-hour buffer before oral sex.

Connect with The Cuntsultant:

• Instagram @thecvntsultant

• Website: TheCuntsultant.com

Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE.

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Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.

EVFM-PHX-000068

Not all lubes are created equal and your vagina deserves better than guesswork. Erica, regulatory affairs expert and cosmetic chemist, joins Jordan to break down everything you never knew about personal lubricant. Osmolarity, pH, hyaluronic acid, parabens, FDA clearance, fertility-safe formulas, silicone vs. water-based vs. hybrid — all of it, no fluff. If you've ever grabbed a lube off the shelf without a second thought, this episode will change that.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

05:49 – Meet Erica: From regulatory nerd to Lube Queen

07:00 – What's actually IN your lube?

12:11 – Osmolarity explained - and why it matters more than you think

17:31 – Hyaluronic acid in lube: the glow-up your vagina didn't know it needed

23:57 – How to know if your lube has actually been FDA cleared

25:18 – Animal testing, the EU vs. FDA divide, and the cruelty-free lube dilemma

38:18 – Silicone vs. water-based vs. hybrid: which one is actually for you?

41:34 – Lube for fertility: what kills sperm and what doesn't

48:58 – The truth about parabens

53:57 – How the Erica defines pleasure

Pleasure Highlights:

• Check for the condom claim.

• Osmolarity matters — especially if you're TTC or STI-aware.

• Silicone lube + silicone toys = a hard no.

• Hyaluronic acid is worth the hype.

• There's no one-size-fits-all lube.

Connect with the Erica:

• Instagram @the_shecanter - Find The Cuterus Mood Mug! and the Shecanter HERE!

Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE.

Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:

• Facebook @‌jordandnelle

• Instagram @‌jordandnelle

• Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcast

• TikTok @‌jordandnelle

• Youtube @jordandnelle

• Website: Jordan D’Nelle⁠⁠

Email: [email protected]

Love this Episode? 

• Join the Patreon: patreon.JordanDnelle.com

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Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast:

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*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.

Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.

EVFM-PHX-000068

What if your sex toy belonged on a doctor's shelf? Cynthia, founder of Luxxxe Toys, joins us for a conversation that's equal parts eye-opening and empowering. We dig into why pleasure and sexual wellness aren't just connected; they're inseparable. From the gaps in women's health research to why quality matters for what goes on and in your body, Cynthia keeps it refreshingly real. Plus: AVN, award-winning products, healing after trauma, and the conversation your doctor probably isn't having with you but should be.

Use code JORDANDNELLE for a 30% listener discount. Expires July 31, 2026.

✨ *Special Offers:* ✨

*Splash Blanket!* Use code *Jordan15* to save 15%

*ProDx Health* Use *JordanDnelle* to save 25%

Thank you to our Sponsors: Splash Blanket, Prodx, Phexx

Jump to the Good Stuff:

05:03 – From real estate to sexual wellness founder

07:12 – Why pleasure and wellness are inseparable

09:51 – The gaps in women's health research

19:50 – AVN recap - what surprised Cynthia most

25:15 – The award-winning Jaxon prostate massager

30:34 – Luxury vs. budget toys - does it matter?

34:10 – Surviving sexual abuse and healing through pleasure

37:48 – First-time toy advice for the bedroom

40:33 – What Cynthia wants to normalize next

43:25 – How do you define pleasure?

Pleasure Highlights:

• Pleasure is a health necessity, not a luxury.

• Women's bodies are understudied and we deserve better.

• The right products can support sexual healing.

• Toys enhance. They don't replace.

• Your body deserves clean, medical-grade quality.

Connect with Cynthia:

• Instagram @luxx_toys  https://www.instagram.com/luxx_toys/ 

• https://www.luxxxe.com/

Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE. 

Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:

• Facebook @‌jordandnelle 

• Instagram @‌jordandnelle 

• Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcast

• TikTok @‌jordandnelle

• Youtube @jordandnelle

• www.jordandnelle.com

Email: [email protected]

Love this Episode?

• Join the Patreon: patreon.JordanDnelle.com

• Leave a review on iTunes.

• Subscribe & Follow on socials!

Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast:

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*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.

Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators — normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.

EVFM-PHX-000068