In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience. 

The Question: "Is there a way for someone with responsive desire to initiate sex? Do you have any recommendations?"

What We Cover in This Episode:

• Can you initiate with responsive desire? Yes. Initiation does not have to mean you are ready for sex right away. This episode explores how people with responsive desire can start connection in ways that feel safe, honest, and pressure-free.

• What responsive desire actually means. Why some people need emotional or mental build-up before physical arousal, and how explaining your “longer runway” can change the way your partner understands intimacy.

• The fear of being a tease or changing your mind. A real conversation about hesitation around initiating, including the pressure to follow through and how to reframe initiation as starting foreplay, not promising sex.

• How to talk about initiation with your partner. Scripts and examples for getting on the same page about timelines, expectations, and what initiating looks like when you need more build-up before intimacy.

• Creative ways to initiate without pressure. From morning cuddles and daytime flirting to teasing PDA and slow-burn make-outs, we share playful techniques that help build anticipation while honoring responsive desire.

• You are not too much for needing more. A reminder that responsive desire is valid, that foreplay and communication create better sex for everyone, and that your needs matter whether you are dating, single, or in a long-term relationship.

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In this week’s Honey Archive episode we’re answering one of YOUR questions with a mix of expert insight, personal experience, and a very real conversation about what to do when the sex in your relationship just isn’t clicking. If you’ve ever loved someone but felt disconnected in the bedroom, this one’s for you.

The Question:
“I’ve been with my boyfriend for a while now, and the sex… it’s just not great. It’s not that we don’t like each other, but it just feels off. I want to be honest, I just don’t know how to approach it, so please HELP!”

We cover:

Questions to ask yourself first. How to figure out whether the issue is chemistry, communication, expectations, or simply not knowing what you actually want yet.

Expert tips for talking about sex with a partner. Ways to start the conversation without triggering shame, defensiveness, or pressure so it feels collaborative instead of critical.

How to give honest feedback without being harsh. Why tone, timing, and framing matter and how to express your needs in a way that builds connection instead of distance.

What giving feedback in the moment can look like. Small language shifts that help guide your partner without turning sex into a performance review.

Why being “bad at sex” is more normal than you think. How most people never receive real sex education and why awkwardness is part of learning, not a sign of incompatibility.

The difference between skill issues and deeper mismatches. How to tell when something can grow with communication versus when values, desire, or attraction might not align.

Permission to outgrow sexual dynamics that don’t feel good. Why it is okay to want more pleasure, more effort, or a different kind of connection.

When it might be time to leave. A grounded conversation about recognizing when the sexual disconnect reflects a bigger relationship issue and giving yourself permission to choose what feels right for you.

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For a lot of us, having kids absolutely wrecks our sex lives… at least for a while. And no one really prepares you for that. In this episode, we’re joined by Rebecca Howard Eudy, PhD, LMHC, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and couples therapist, to talk about what actually happens to desire, intimacy, and connection after kids (or even just in long term relationships). We dig into exhaustion, resentment, pressure, and why so many couples assume something is wrong with them, when really they’re just navigating a huge shift. This conversation is about understanding what’s happening and figuring out how to rebuild intimacy in a way that actually works for the season you’re in.

We cover:

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What if your sex life could tell you something important about your health? In this episode, we’re joined by Dr. Elliot Justin, an ER doctor of 25 years who pivoted into sexual health innovation to change the way we talk about bodies, pleasure, and well-being. We explore how erections, cardiovascular health, data-driven tools, and honest conversations can give us earlier insight into what’s happening in the body and why sexual health should never be treated as separate from overall health.

We cover:

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In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience. 

The Question: "I’m 22 and in my first long-term relationship with a partner I truly love. Everything is healthy and supportive, but I’ve noticed I’ve started deferring to his routines and preferences instead of my own. I miss parts of myself, like how I used to spend my free time and make plans just for me. How do I stay true to myself while still making room for my relationship?"

What We Cover in This Episode:

Losing yourself in a relationship. Why this is common in early long-term relationships and how it can happen even when the partnership is healthy and loving.

Staying true to yourself while partnered. Why maintaining your own identity, routines, and desires takes intention in a committed relationship.

People-pleasing and resentment. How deferring to a partner’s needs and preferences can slowly lead to disconnection and frustration.

Identifying what you’ve stopped prioritizing. How to recognize the hobbies, values, and personal time that have taken a backseat.

Solo needs vs relationship needs. Understanding the difference between individual fulfillment and shared intimacy in a long-term relationship.

How to communicate your needs. Practical language for talking to your partner about independence, boundaries, and personal time without blame.

Following through with boundaries. Why awareness isn’t enough and how to actually implement change in your daily life.

Rebuilding a relationship with yourself. Why solo time, self-dates, and personal routines support emotional health and relationship satisfaction.

Why this improves intimacy. How staying connected to yourself strengthens attraction, communication, and long-term relationship success.

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Most of us were never actually taught how to understand our own sexuality. In this episode, we’re joined by Tash Doherty, author and sexuality advocate behind Misseducated, to talk about what it really means to become shamelessly sexy. We get into unlearning bad sex education, reconnecting with desire, and why curiosity, reflection, and self-knowledge are foundational to confidence and pleasure.

We Cover:

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Misseducated

The Intimacy Journal 

These Perfectly Careless Things

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If sex in your long-term relationship feels expected, routine, or disconnected, you’re not alone. In Part 2 of our 50 best sex tips for 2026 series, we talk about desire, pressure, and how to build a more satisfying sex life that actually feels good.

This episode is about when sex starts to feel like something you’re doing because you’re supposed to. Going through the motions. Having sex because it feels expected. Checking boxes. Trying to be a good partner. Forcing yourself to want it. And still wondering why it doesn’t feel good.

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We’re kicking off the year with a two-part solo series where we share 50 of the best sex tips to help you build a more satisfying, confident, and connected sex life in 2026. This episode is about the foundations of intimacy. The things that actually change how sex feels over time. Desire. Confidence. Communication. Pleasure. And letting go of the belief that something is wrong with you.

In Part 1, we dive into the deeper reframes that make great sex possible in real, long-term relationships. Especially when bodies change, desire shifts, and life gets full. If you’ve ever felt broken, behind, or like you’re doing sex “wrong,” this episode is for you.

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To close out the year, we’re dipping into the Honey Archive and revisiting a fan-favorite episode. We went to a sex club as total first-timers and came back with an honest, behind-the-scenes breakdown of what it’s actually like, what surprised us, and what we wish we’d known before walking in.

If you’ve ever been curious, nervous, or just plain intrigued, this episode is your first step.

We cover:

What it’s really like getting into a sex club for the first time, from check-in to the full tour

The rules, boundaries, and consent culture (and why they made us feel safer than expected)

How the club is set up and how different spaces are used

What we saw, what we participated in, and what we chose not to do

Our biggest takeaways and practical tips for other sex club first-timers

Whether you’re seriously considering going or just want the inside scoop, this episode answers the questions everyone has but rarely asks.

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Sex worker rights aren’t a niche issue. They’re a human rights issue. In this episode, we’re joined by Kaytlin Bailey, stand-up comic, sex worker rights advocate, and expert on sex worker policy and history, to unpack why moral panics around sex work harm far more than just sex workers. We talk about power, policy, women’s autonomy, and why everyone, especially women who care about freedom, bodily autonomy, and choice, should be paying attention.

We cover:

Kaytlin Bailey is the Founder & Executive Director at Old Pros, a nonprofit that uses storytelling to advocate for sex worker rights. She hosts The Oldest Profession Podcast and is touring the live show The Oldest Profession. Follow @oldprosonline — Email Newsletter | Instagram | X

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