Dear Chiefs Podcast

In this episode, we dive into the often-overlooked topic of nutrition and wellness for first responders. Joined by special guest Chloe Schweinshaut, a registered dietitian nutritionist and founder of Healthy Response, the conversation explores how proper nutrition impacts the demanding lives of first responders.

Chloe shares her unique perspective as both a firewife and a nutritionist for the Boston Fire Department, discussing challenges in maintaining good nutrition for first responder families and the motivation behind her supplement line designed for firefighters, law enforcement, and military personnel.

Books shared during this episode

The Circadian Code by Dr. Panda

Connect with Chloe

website: https://myhealthyresponse.com/

(use DEARCHIEFS at checkout for 20% off)

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healthyresponse/

The holiday season can be stressful for anyone, but for first responder families, it can feel especially overwhelming. In this episode, we’re joined by Amy Motroni, founder of Genius Mom Hacks and Certified Life Coach, who shares her expert tips for reducing holiday stress and managing the chaos. Amy, a mother of four (including twins!), helps moms everywhere get their homes on autopilot with effective routines that work, even when your partner is away on 48-72 hour shifts.

From balancing holiday traditions with unpredictable schedules to creating simple routines that keep the family on track, Amy’s advice is perfect for making the season more joyful and less overwhelming. Whether you’re holding down the fort while your firefighter or first responder spouse is on duty or just looking for practical ways to simplify this busy time of year, this episode has you covered.

Podcasts mentioned in this episodes:

The Mindset Mentor

Connect with Amy

website: https://geniusmomhacks.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geniusmomhacks/

In this episode, we welcome Eve Rodsky, author of the best-selling book Fair Play, to discuss the often-overlooked challenges of invisible labor in first responder households. Eve’s work introduces a revolutionary approach to managing domestic responsibilities and creating fair partnerships at home.

We explore Eve’s concept of unicorn space—time for self-care and creativity that is vital for personal well-being but often overlooked. Eve shares her personal journey and the pivotal blueberries breakdown moment that led to the creation of the Fair Play system, designed to make invisible tasks visible and help couples share the mental load.

Whether you’re a first responder spouse or anyone feeling overwhelmed by the weight of mental load and household tasks, this conversation offers valuable insights on how to navigate the complexities of invisible work and reclaim your unicorn space.

RESOURCES MENTIONED DURING THIS EPISODE

The Daily

Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari

Order Fair Play: ⁠https://www.fairplaylife.com/shop

Follow Eve Rodsky

Website: www.fairplaylife.com

Instagram: @fairplaylife

Tiktok: #fairplay

In this episode, we chat with Jenna Partlow, a fire wife married to a fire captain at the El Segundo Fire Department, who’s also a managing director at a Big 4 public accounting firm. With nearly 20 years at her firm, Jenna has spent the last seven years navigating the demands of being a working mother of two on a 50% reduced schedule. Balancing her high-powered career and the unpredictable nature of fire family life, Jenna is an expert at managing her family’s unique dynamics.

We discuss her decision to scale back her work hours, the challenges she’s faced as a career mom in a first responder household, and why she prefers to say she “builds room” in her life rather than seeking balance. Jenna also shares how she prepares her children for the rewards and challenges of having a firefighter parent.

Topics covered in this episode include:

•Jenna’s decision to transition to a 50% reduced work schedule and how it’s impacted her career and family

•The unique challenges faced by working mothers in first responder families, including managing shifts, childcare, and family routines.

•Jenna’s approach to “building room” in her life instead of striving for balance.

•The importance of flexibility and how Jenna prioritizes both her career and family amidst her husband’s unpredictable firefighter schedule.

•Preparing children for the challenges and rewards of having a firefighter parent.

Tune in for practical tips on managing a fire family while pursuing a career, and hear how Jenna makes it all work!

Follow Jenna

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennacpartlow/

Books Mentioned During This Episode

The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary 

Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin

Do You Mind If I Cancel? by Gary Janetti

In this episode, we’re joined by James Boomhower of Stay Fit For Duty to unpack the emotional rollercoaster that comes with overtime in the first responder world. Why do first responders struggle to say no to extra shifts? We explore the guilt they feel when turning down overtime, the pressure spouses face when asking them to stay home, and the resentment both feel toward coworkers who deny overtime or take more time off.

James also shares valuable life updates and offers practical advice for balancing the demands of work, family, and mental health in this high-stress career. Whether you’re a first responder or a spouse, this episode provides key insights and strategies for navigating the challenges of overtime and family life.

Topics Covered:

• The emotional impact of overtime on first responders

• Guilt and pressure associated with turning down shifts

• Spousal perspectives on asking for time at home

• Resentment toward coworkers regarding overtime decisions

• Life updates from James Boomhower

Books Mentioned

Dirty Laundry by Richard Pink &  Roxanne Emery

ADHD 2.0 by  Edward M. Hallowell M.D

Follow James Boomhower

instagram

website: www.stayfit4duty.org

In this powerful episode, we reconnect with Jeff Banman, former firefighter, CIA counterterrorism operator, and author of When It All Goes to Hell: Notes on Crisis and Chaos. Jeff shares his deep insights into managing high-stakes moments, both on the frontlines and at home, offering practical strategies to stay grounded in the face of overwhelming pressure. With over 30 years of experience in human performance and resilience, Jeff dives into the common mistakes people make during crises and how to avoid them, especially for first responders navigating professional and personal challenges. Tune in for a conversation that pushes past limits and equips you with tools to handle chaos like never before.

In this heartfelt episode, Audra and Chelsi welcome Kristina Moon, widow of FDNY firefighter William “Billy” Moon II, to share her powerful story. After tragically losing her husband in 2022 during a training exercise, Kristina has dedicated her life to keeping his memory alive through The Billy Moon Foundation. As president of the foundation, Kristina advocates for organ donation awareness and encourages families to have difficult yet vital conversations about their end-of-life wishes.

Join us as Kristina opens up about her journey from elementary educator to nonprofit leader, and how she’s honoring Billy’s legacy while raising their two children, Brianne (12) and Colin (10). In this episode, we discuss the impact of organ donation, and the importance of resilience in the face of unimaginable grief.

Kristina’s story is one of strength, love, and advocacy. Through her foundation, she aims to help others in the firefighter community, spreading awareness and education about the life-saving potential of organ donation.

Key Topics Covered:

• Kristina Moon’s journey as a widow and president of The Billy Moon Foundation

• The impact of organ donation

• The importance of having tough conversations with loved ones

Books Mentioned

Dare To Lead by Brene Brown

Follow The Billy Moon Foundation

website: https://billymoonfoundation.org/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_billy_moon_foundation/

In this inspiring episode Audra and Chelsi sit down with Fire Captain Andrea Binley, a trailblazing female firefighter who proves you can have it all—your career, dreams, and family. Starting her journey as a Fire Explorer with Upland Fire Department at just 19, Andrea has climbed the ranks from firefighter/paramedic to Captain, all while balancing motherhood and a blended family.

Andrea shares her experiences as a female firefighter in a predominantly male field, the challenges of co-parenting with a firefighter schedule, and what lit the spark inside her to become a firefighter. A passionate advocate for diversity and mentorship, she has developed programs like the DREAM committee (Diversity, Recruitment, Equity, and Mentorship) and the Girl’s Empowerment Camp, supporting and mentoring the next generation of women in firefighting.

We discuss online criticism in the firefighting community, being the subject of firefighter memes, and advice for firewives who may feel uneasy about female firefighters in their departments.

Follow Andrea:

instagram: https://www.instagram.com/welcometothelionsden/

or

https://www.instagram.com/firelifemomwife/

Key Topics Covered

• Andrea Binley’s career journey from Fire Explorer to Captain

• Balancing motherhood and a firefighter’s demanding schedule

• Supporting diversity and mentorship in firefighting through the DREAM committee

• Empowering women in firefighting through the Girl’s Empowerment Camp and Women’s Fire Alliance

• Navigating a blended family as a firefighter and mom Step Parent Coaching Course: https://www.mindykylecoaching.com

• Handling online bullying and firefighter memes

Books Mentioned

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

Atomic Habits by James Clear

It's Okay to Be the Boss by Bruce Tulgan

Leadershift by John C Maxwell

Everything Is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

In this episode, Audra and Chelsi sit down with Rachael Choate, a mother and firefighter’s wife, to explore the often-overlooked topic of Mom Rage and its impact on first responder families. Rachael shares her personal journey from corporate leadership to motherhood, opening up about her struggles with postpartum anxiety, depression, and anger. She explains how life coaching helped her find healing and balance, and how she now uses her experiences to support other moms facing similar challenges.

Throughout this conversation, they dive into the complex feelings of guilt, resentment, and the pressures of being the default parent in a first responder household. Rachael offers practical insights on managing emotions, breaking the cycle of bottled up feelings, and how moms can create space for self-care even when their partners are away on long shifts.

Rachel Choate graduated with bachelor’s and master’s degrees in psychology before entering the corporate world, where she traveled across the country, teaching leadership development skills and coaching leaders within her company.

After getting laid off in 2019, she decided to focus on starting a family with her firefighter husband of four years. Becoming a mom turned out to be way harder than she imagined, and she struggled with likely postpartum anxiety, depression, and anger.

Topics Covered:

• Understanding Mom Rage in first responder families

• Managing resentment and guilt when your spouse is away

• Coping as the default parent and avoiding burnout

• The importance of emotional expression and self-care

Books and Podcasts Mentioned

Loving What Is by Byron Katie

The Friend Zone by Abby Jimenez

Huberman Lab Podcast

Follow Rachael

https://www.instagram.com/rachaelchoate_/

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In this hilarious and heartwarming episode of Dear Chiefs, we welcome the incredibly talented Rachel Feinstein! Rachel is an actress and stand-up comedian who also happens to be married to an FDNY Battalion Chief. She brings her unique perspective as a fire wife, combining humor and relatability in a way that resonates with everyone.

Mentioned during this episode:

Firehouse Cookies

Irene Bremis: Sweetie

Peaky Blinders

Punchline SF

Follow Rachel:

Website: ⁠https://punchup.live/rachel-feinstein⁠ or ⁠https://rachel-feinstein.com/⁠

Instagram:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/rachelfeinstein_/⁠