Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down Men Tell All.

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Today we're diving deep into a topic you've been requesting since Dear Shandy's earliest days: Enmeshment. We're joined by psychotherapist Alyssa Mancao to define this dynamic, how to navigate it, and when and how to set boundaries. This conversation also spawns a lot of interesting tangents on subtopics ranging from culture norms to differentiating between irritation and impairment.

Alyssa Mancao is a psychotherapist and the founder of Alyssa Marie Wellness, a therapy practice in Los Angeles. She is a writer, speaker, and educator focused on Social Justice & Mental Health. Her writing has been featured in Huffington Post, Elle, Women’s Health, Oprah Magazine, and Re-Spin, among many others.

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Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7.

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Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your FWB relationship is firmly in the past, should you still tell your current partner about it? How important is it to have a social life outside of one's relationship? And how reasonable an excuse is "bad timing"? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

Q1: My Partner Wants To Replace Our Planned Couple Getaway With Yet Another Annual Family Visit—Am I Being Difficult?

Q2: My Boyfriend And I Are In A Healthy Long-term Relationship But We Both Don't Have Any Close Friends—Is This Normal?

Q3: Should I Tell My New Partner About My Former Friend Group FWB?

Q4: My Boyfriend Insists That I Should Change My Name If We Get Married But I Love My Name—Thoughts?

Q5: My Ex And I Ended On Bad Terms And I Want To Tell My Story But It Involves Sharing A Secret Of His—Right Or Wrong?

Q6: The Guy I've Been Hooking Up With Blames "Timing" For Us Not Making It Official—Is This BS?

Referenced book (with the pie chart):

Breakup Bootcamp by Amy Chan - https://amzn.to/3xiCCDf

Sharleen's blog post about not changing her name:

http://www.alltheprettypandas.com/blog/2016/to-change-or-not-to-change

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Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6.

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Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Sarah Herron (who you may remember from Sean Lowe's season of The Bachelor, as well as the 1st and 3rds seasons of Bachelor In Paradise) and her fiancé, award-winning photographer and videographer Dylan Brown. These two join us from Colorado to share how first impressions may not be what they seem, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a neck-and-neck Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5.

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Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.

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It's Caller Day! Today's caller, Claire, is in a happy relationship. However, her boyfriend's sister is rude in small ways. Are these slights a matter of obliviousness, dominance, or maturity? And is confronting her the right path? Can we *ever* hope for genuine harmony with our partner's family? Watch on for the Shandy take!

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Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4.

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Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.

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Today's topic came hotly requested and we're thrilled to be joined by a familiar face: Whitney Bischoff Angel, winner of The Bachelor Season 19! As an experienced fertility nurse, as well as a woman who has gone through the egg freezing process herself, Whitney is more than qualified to answer the Shandies' burning fertility questions!

Whitney shares the leading contributing factors to infertility, whether or not the age 35 is overblown as being THE age when fertility begins to drop, the step-by-step process of egg freezing (as well as the cost!), and her thoughts on the media's messaging around fertility in general. Whitney really is a wealth of knowledge and this conversation was both so enjoyable AND informative for us. We hope you think so, too!

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