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Today's Hot Topic theme addresses the relationship you have with yourself—your deepest desires, your beliefs, and what might be getting in the way of your own goals and happiness. Our guest, Roxie Nafousi, wrote THE book on manifesting and has been hailed “the manifesting queen” by Forbes and “the face of manifesting” by The Times. While the idea of manifesting might seem surprising for longtime Shandies, we were truly blown away by the ideas and perspectives Roxie shared in this delightful conversation. If you've ever felt your dreams were too lofty or have struggled with fear and imposter syndrome, trust us, this episode's for you.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Roxie Nafousi!

1:13 - What Motivated Her To Write A Book About Manifesting

4:52 - What Is Manifesting And How Is It Scientific?

8:31 - What Are The Top Misconceptions About Manifesting?

11:22 - Is The Term “Manifesting” Overused?

12:53 - How Should One Get Started?

19:38 - Sharleen’s Q: What If You Don’t Even Know What You Want?

25:33 - Andy’s Q: What About Misdirected Talent?

30:59 - Are There Certain Areas Of Life That Are “Easier” To Manifest?

33:40 - How Does She Reconcile Manifesting And The Adage “You’ll Find It When You Stop Looking”?

37:59 - Thoughts On Realism, Entitlement, And Toxic Positivity

44:28 - What About True Skeptics?

45:56 - Tips For Recovering When What You Manifested Didn’t Come To Be?

51:31 - How Do You Know What You *Think* You Want Will Actually Make You Happy?

54:00 - If There’s One Takeaway She Wishes The Shandies Would Have From This Conversation, What Would It Be?

56:09 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 8 and 9!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:12 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 8 & 9

1:42 - Episode 8 Kick Off

8:03 - The Next Day

11:48 - Andy’s Question For The Shandies

27:38 - Kate’s Date With Logan

34:13 - Victoria’s Date With Alex

40:40 - Brittany And Tyler

45:22 - Shanae

46:32 - Credits

46:54 - Episode 9 Kick Off

50:23 - Genevieve Returns To The Beach

51:49 - Shanae And Logan

1:00:47 - Kate Versus Shanae

1:02:49 - Jill And Jacob

1:06:50 - Brittany

1:07:35 - Serene And Brandon

1:08:14 - Victoria And Johnny

1:19:13 - Evening

1:22:10 - Credits

1:22:19 - Andy’s A-Game

1:22:46 - Shandy Word Watch

1:24:24 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! What should you do if you've always dreamed of living elsewhere but your partner has no interest in moving? If your baby name is stolen by someone close to you, is it cause for confrontation? And is refusing to put down the toilet seat a simple act of laziness or a sign of something more? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

0:00 - Q1: I’m Secretly Dating My Brother’s Friend After He Explicitly Told Me Not To—How Should I Proceed?

7:52 - Q2: I've Long Dreamed Of Moving But My Partner Has No Interest—Help!

21:25 - Q3: My Brother-In-Law Used Our Baby Name For His Dog—Should I Just Get Over It? 

51:59 - Q4: My Husband’s Vocal Fry Drives Me Up The Wall—Should I Mention It?

1:02:04 - Q5: My New Guy Actively Refuses To Put Down The Toilet Seat—Should I Be Concerned? 

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 6 and 7!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:47 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 6 & 7

1:48 - Episode 6 Kick Off

2:23 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

27:23 - Danielle

29:47 - Rose Ceremony

31:46 - The Next Day

32:03 - Danielle’s Date With Michael

41:49 - Jesse Addresses The Group

52:20 - Credits

53:17 - Episode 7 Kick Off

54:29 - Evening

1:02:48 - Jesse Addresses The OG Ladies

1:05:53 - The Next Day

1:07:20 - Shanae’s Date With Tyler

1:16:22 - Sarah’s Date With Logan

1:17:42 - Evening

1:19:49 - The Next Day

1:20:37 - Rodney’s Date With Eliza

1:25:34 - Credits

1:26:05 - Andy’s A-Game

1:26:39 - Shandy Word Watch

1:28:39 - Who We Would Go For

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*** TRIGGER WARNING: this post mentions pregnancy loss. Please listen with care. ***

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by our friends, longtime Bachelor franchise icon Ashley Spivey (Season 15, aka Brad Womack's second season) and her delightful husband Steve Hunsberger. These two have been married for over 6 years, have been dating for 10, and they're also our NYC neighbors! :) Today they join Shandy to share whether or not they would have met sans The Bachelor, what it's like to endure tremendous loss together, how they "pass the baton" between them, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game that Andy describes as "very married". 😂 Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Ashley and Steve!

2:50 - How They Met

8:44 - Do They Think They Would Have Ended Up Together Without The Bachelor?

14:59 - First Impressions

21:01 - How They Complement Each Other

24:23 - How Suffering Miscarriage Affected Their Relationship

34:07 - Early Hurdle

40:11 - How They Fight

45:55 - Any Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

49:26 - The Newlyweds Game

1:05:58 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 4 and 5!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:47 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 4 & 5

1:28 - Episode 4 Kick Off/Evening

13:10 - The Next Day

24:02 - Ashley And Jared’s Date

27:05 - Back At The Beach

28:52 - Evening

29:37 - Brandon And Serene’s Date

30:39 - Back At The Beach

36:21 - Credits

36:37 - Episode 5 Kick Off

38:35 - Salley

51:40 - The Next Day

54:42 - Peter And Brittany’s Date

58:22 - Back On The Beach

1:11:00 - Jacob And Jill’s Date/Evening

1:13:18 - Back On The Beach

1:16:17 - Kira

1:25:44 - Credits

1:26:54 - Andy’s A-Game

1:27:47 - Shandy Word Watch

1:29:25 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by not one, but TWO delightful callers. Our first caller, Ray, has been texting with a guy daily for 6 whopping months. The catch? They live in different countries and have never even kissed. How can she take things to the next level? Our second caller, James, had his "number" used against him towards the end of his last relationship. When, if ever, should one share The Number, and is honesty really always best? Listen on for the Shandy take!

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Ray!

27:03 - Shandy Debrief

29:21 - Welcome To Caller James!

51:48 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 2 and 3!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 2 & 3

1:40 - Episode 2 Kick Off

17:52 - Evening

49:56 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

59:12 - Credits

59:50 - Episode 3 Kick Off

1:06:56 - Rose Ceremony

1:12:05 - The Next Day

1:22:57 - Evening

1:27:08 - Andy’s A-Game

1:27:32 - Shandy Word Watch

1:29:07 - Who We Would Go For

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Today's Hot Topic conversation finally tackles a common theme among our Shandies' relationship questions over the last 2 years: What to do when one partner wants to get frisky way more than the other? Shan Boodram, our esteemed expert joining us today, could not be more qualified to take on this subject: Shan is a certified sexologist and sex and intimacy educator, among her many other qualifications, and she helps us navigate how to broach the topic of wanting more sex, how to work towards raising one's own libido, how to communicate likes/dislikes in the bedroom (without killing the mood), and how to get back into sexy time postpartum. Shan is as fun as she is knowledgeable and we guarantee you'll both laugh and learn something new throughout this conversation!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Sexologist And Intimacy Educator Shan Boodram!

3:16 - What Is Sexology And Why Did She Get Into It?

8:36 - Tips For Couples Navigating Mismatched Libidos

13:55 - Does Bringing It Up More Scare It Away?

20:14 - For The Partner Who Wishes They Wanted Sex More

27:56 - Comfort and Familiarity

29:29 - Turn-On Triggers

31:12 - Where’s The Line Between Maintaining A Sex Life With A Low Libido Versus Agreeing To Have Sex When You Don’t Want To? 

35:44 - Does More Beget More?

37:55 - Advice For Sex And Intimacy Postpartum 

40:53 - Tips For Orgasming

43:44 - Tips On How To Get A Partner To Change What They’re Doing Without Killing The Mood?

46:12 - True Or False: Ejaculation Is Good For Men’s Health

50:32 - Thoughts On Today’s Swipe Culture And Dating Climate 

57:42 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down the premiere!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:38 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 1

3:56 - Episode 1 Kick Off

9:57 - Paradise Is Open

32:18 - Jesse Threatens The Group

36:17 - Evening

36:40 - Andrew And Teddi

42:29 - Genevieve And Justin

44:23 - Andrew And Teddi, Continued

45:47 - Johnny And Hunter

46:23 - Lace

51:29 - Lace And Logan

1:02:35 - Sierra And Michael

1:04:09 - Jill

1:04:29 - Jill And Romeo

1:05:53 - Kira

1:07:43 - Kira And Romeo

1:11:07 - Kira Versus Jill

1:13:46 - The Next Day

1:14:26- Victoria F

1:14:39 - Credits

1:15:08 - Andy’s A-Game

1:16:42 - Shandy Word Watch

1:19:09 - Who We Would Go For

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