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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! When timing doesn't feel like your friend, should you send a "If you're single in the future" message? Is it wrong to be turned off that your boyfriend lives with his mom? If your partner's dying to dance with you but you're uncomfortable on the dance floor, who's got to give? And don't pretend it hasn't happened to you: when you send the wrong text to the wrong person... 😱 Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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0:00 - Q1: Is It Ever A Good Idea To Send A “If You’re Single In The Future” Message?

8:39 - Q2: This Guy Keeps Ghosting, Then Explaining—Am I Being Too Forgiving?

23:18 - Q3: I Dislike That My Boyfriend Still Lives With His Mother—Am I Being Judgy?

35:58 - Q4: I Accidentally Sent A Venting Text To The Person I Was Venting About—Help!

1:01:10 - Q5: My Boyfriend Loves To Dance But I Do NOT—Help!

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Today's Hot Topic is one that has been a loooong time coming. We're joined by bestselling author, professor, and psychologist Dr. Marisa G Franco. Having written "Platonic: How The Science Of Attachment Can Help You Make—And Keep—Friends", Marisa is particularly well equipped to help us tackle the complicated world of platonic friendships. If you struggle when it comes to friendships, or you'd like more friends but don't know how to get started, or feel like you're doing all the work in your friendships, OR perhaps you'd like to end a toxic friendship.... let's just say this conversation is for you.

More Marisa:

Book: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and—Keep Friends

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Website: www.DrMarisaGFranco.com (take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend!)

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Marisa G Franco!

1:25 - What Inspired Her To Write A Book On Platonic Friendship

3:15 - Biggest Thing She Learned About Herself In Writing “Platonic”

7:25 - The Most Surprising Fact About Platonic Relationships

9:48 - Attachment Styles

12:35 - How To Make New Friends

24:55 - Is She An Introvert Or Extrovert?

26:01 - How To Maintain Long Distance Friendships

27:24 - Does Our Easy Access Culture Affect Our Friendships?

31:18 - What If It Feels Like You’re Doing All The Work?

35:02 - Vice Versa

36:49 - When You’re The Connector But End Up Feeling Left Out

40:45 - Can You Be Friends With Someone You’re Attracted To?

45:22 - The Proper Way To End A Toxic Friendship

49:29 - Is It Ever OK To Power Fade A Friendship?

52:23 - How To Maintain Friendships When Your Lives Are Heading In Different Directions

55:25 - Script For How To Turn An Acquaintance Into A Friend

56:06 - How To Deal With A Friend Who Constantly Copies You

58:38 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 16, aka the finale part 2!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:28 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 16

3:27 - Reunion

23:45 - Tyler & Brittany

29:32 - Michael & Danielle

34:57 - Johnny & Victoria

1:03:40 - Brandon & Serene

1:09:27 - Credits

1:10:02 - Andy’s A-Game

1:10:40 - Shandy Word Watch

1:11:56 - Who We Would Go For

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 15, aka the finale part 1!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:32 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 15

2:22 - Episode 15 Kick Off

3:36 - Evening

6:03 - Rose Ceremony

15:40 - The Next Day

37:33 - The Final Couples

41:32 - Overnight Dates

46:19 - Credits

46:36 - Andy’s A-Game

48:24 - Shandy Word Watch

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Ben Zorn (The Bachelorette Season 11, Bachelor In Paradise Season 4) and his lovely wife Stacy Santilena. To say Shandy enjoyed getting to know these two is a massive understatement (in the words of Sharleen afterwards: "I want to be friends with them.")

Today Ben and Stacy join Shandy to share how they went from "just friends" to married with a baby, how they overcame a very relatable early hurdle, Stacy's journey from believing she didn't want kids to wholeheartedly loving their son Logan, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, an unprecedented Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game that will BLOW YOU AWAY. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Ben & Stacey!

0:46 - How They Met

7:32 - First Impressions

19:24 - How They Began Dating (After Friendship)

30:18 - Stacey’s Thoughts On Ben On The Show

32:00 - How They Complement Each Other

33:31 - Early Hurdle

40:04 - How They Fight

44:21 - How Parenthood Has Changed Their Relationship

54:16 - Relationship Beliefs That Have Changed

1:02:15 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game

1:21:21 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 13 & 14!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:46 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 13 & 14

0:54 - Word Watch Disclaimer

1:30 - Episode 13 Kick Off

4:44 - Baltimore

9:33 - Back On The Beach

14:20 - Evening

15:07 - Mara’s Date With Justin

15:29 - Back On The Beach

28:10 - The Next Day

36:53 - Ency’s Date With Andrew

37:45 - Back On The Beach

38:58 - Credits

39:05 - Episode 14 Kick Off

43:50 - Evening

45:40 - The Mic Room

55:22 - Tyler’s Date With Brittany

57:14 - The Next Day

1:01:08 - Sadie Hawkins Dance

1:16:09 - Credits

1:16:38 - Andy’s A-Game

1:18:24 - Shandy Word Watch

1:20:29 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it wrong to vent to others about your partner? Is it worth revisiting things with an old flame? And a sticky "Am I The Asshole?" question! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

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0:00 - Q1: Is It Wrong To Vent To Others About My Partner?

14:21 - Q2: I Ran Into An Old Flame And There Was Chemistry—Worth Revisiting?

24:58 - Q3: Am I The Asshole?

33:42 - Q4: I Know She’s Not The One But Logistics Are Complicated—Should I End It?

40:35 - Q5: My Partner And I Can’t Agree On TV—Who Should Give?

48:13 - Q6: I Want To Rename My 6-Year Old Cat—Yay Or Nay?

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 12!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:52 - Episode 12 Kick Off/Evening

6:51 - The Next Day

13:33 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

26:07 - Rose Ceremony

34:52 - The Next Day

37:19 - Michael’s Date With Danielle

44:01 - Back At The Beach

52:04 - Eliza Heads To Baltimore

53:39 - Credits

53:50 - Andy’s A-Game

54:46 - Shandy Word Watch

56:05 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Elizabeth who has quite the complicated high school sweetheart story that ended in her breaking the guy's heart. Fast forward to 5+ years later and he's still on her mind—but is she on his? And if so, is it worth closing the distance and potentially becoming the "other woman" to pursue, or are some things better left in the past? Listen on for the Shandy take!

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Elizabeth!

48:00 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 10 and 11!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:59 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 10 & 11

1:56 - Episode 10 Kick Off

3:50 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

8:33 - Rose Ceremony

9:39 - The Next Day

10:43 - Victoria’s Date With Johnny

12:55 - Justin

24:06 - Shandy Roleplay

33:30 - Justin’s Date With Eliza

35:32 - Credits

36:46 - Episode 11 Kick Off

36:54 - Hayden

43:20 - The Next Day

43:56 - Hayden’s Date With Kate

46:36 - Back On The Beach

54:22 - Joey And Justin

55:35 - Double Date

59:44 - Aaron & Genevieve

1:13:12 - Credits

1:14:49 - Shandy Word Watch

1:16:53 - Who We Would Go For

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