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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 8, aka Hometown Week!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:05 - Episode 8 Kick Off

2:14 - Gabi’s Hometown

5:11 - Evening

9:23 - Ariel’s Hometown

20:30 - Evening

25:07 - Charity’s Hometown

30:00 - Evening

30:57 - Katie’s Hometown

35:51 - Evening

44:26 - Sean Lowe

47:17 - Rose Ceremony

50:40 - Credits

52:29 - Andy’s A-Game

53:12 - Shandy Word Watch

56:24 - Predictions

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Nina who has found herself in the early stages of a situationship and wants to "suss out" her next move. Is there a potential future here or is she just wearing a pretty pair of rose-colored glasses? Listen on for the Shandy take!

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Nina!

15:12 - Shandy Sleuthing

38:45 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:58 - Episode 7 Kick Off

4:27 - Kaity’s 1-On-1

7:35 - Evening

11:26 - Group Date

22:00 - Evening

29:57 - Greer Time

39:13 - Brooklyn’s 1-On-1

46:58 - Evening

50:36 - Rose Ceremony

1:02:26 - Credits

1:02:33 - Andy’s A-Game

1:03:10 - Shandy Word Watch

1:05:13 - Predictions

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Today's Hot Topic dives deep into the world of open relationships! We're joined by author and ghostwriter Emily Gindlesparger, who not only opened her own relationship years ago but discovered her own bisexuality throughout the process. Her new memoir, "Please Make Me Love Me", describes her journey from traditional, straight monogamist to becoming polyamorous with multiple serious girlfriends. Today she shares how she shed her jealousy once and for all, the impact an open relationship had on her primary partnership, the challenges of logistics, and her advice to couples interested in non-monogamy. Emily manages to answer a TON of questions thoughtfully and succinctly, so if you've ever been curious about exploring polyamory—or are just curious how others manage it!—this conversation is for you.

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Referenced Links And Books:

More Than Two - https://www.morethantwo.com

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Jessica Fern’s “Polysecure” - https://amzn.to/3ZuwKU5

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Emily Gindlesparger!

1:47 - What Do People Most Commonly Ask When They Learn She’s Written A Memoir About Open Relationships And Discovering She’s Queer

3:27 - Was There A Moment Where She Went From Jealous To Non-Jealous

7:06 - Would She Say The More She Leaned Into What Was Making Her Jealous, The Less Jealous She Became

8:16 - Did Jealous Get Flipped On Its Head To Where She Found It Enjoyable

10:43 - What Made Her And Her Partner Decide To Disclose Everything To Each Other (Versus “I Don’t Want To Know”)

14:02 - Did They Ever Fight About This

15:06 - How Much Of Her Decision To Open The Relationship Stemmed From A Desire To Live Life To The Fullest Versus Wanting To Explore Her Sexuality

19:42 - What Does She Think Is The Most Common Misconception About Open Relationships

22:41 - Is It Worth Bringing Up That You Want An Open Relationship If You Know Your Partner Is Deeply Monogamous

24:33 - Does She Believe One-Way Open Relationships Can Work

26:59 - What Advice Would She Give To Someone Whose Partner Wants To Open The Relationship

28:27 - Would She Have Ever Opened Her Relationship Had She Been In A Different Community

30:47 - Is A “Logistical Toll” Part And Parcel With Maintaining Open Relationships

33:06 - What’s Easier: Monogamy Or Polyamory

34:54 - Let’s Say A Couple Wants To Open Things Up—Where To Start

39:43 - When Did She Realize She Wasn’t 100% Straight

43:31 - What Advice Would She Give Her Younger Self On The Topic Of Her Sexuality

45:31 - Does She Consider It A Shame To *Not* Explore One’s Bisexuality

48:32 - Would She And Her Partner Even Open Things Up Again

51:17 - Did She Tell Her Family And If So, Why

54:41 - What Self Work Does She Recommend For Those Contemplating Opening Their Relationship

58:05 - Shandy Debrief 

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:23 - Episode 6 Kick Off

7:45 - Charity’s 1-On-1

19:10 - Evening

22:54 - Group Date Card

24:05 - The Next Day

24:17 - Group Date

27:19 - Evening

40:19 - Flashpoint

46:37 - Ariel’s 1-On-1

51:58 - Afternoon

54:56 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

1:00:34 - Rose Ceremony

1:01:36 - Credits

1:02:30 - Andy’s A-Game

1:02:49 - Shandy Word Watch

1:04:29 - Predictions

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your romantic proposal was underwhelming at best, is there any way to fix it? Is what feels like a Hallmark Love Story to good to be true? And, as The Mistress, just how long is too long to wait for him? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: I Never Got My Romantic Proposal—How Can I Fix This?

9:11 - Q2: Am I The (Oblivious) Asshole?

19:36 - Q3: Am I Crazy To Consider Moving For This Hallmark Christmas Love Story?

32:40 - Q4: I’m Seeking Advice On How To End A Friendship

42:43 - Q5: I’m The Mistress—How Long Should I Wait For Him?

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:44 - Episode 5 Kick Off

4:50 - Gabi’s 1-On-1

7:36 - Evening At The Hotel

11:38 - Evening On The Date

21:12 - Group Date

26:13 - Evening

27:11 - The Next Day

28:42 - Evening

30:03 - Virtual Cocktail Party

48:27 - Virtual Rose Ceremony

52:29 - Credits

55:05 - Andy’s A-Game

55:33 - Shandy Word Watch

57:57 - Predictions

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bachelor icon Chris Bukowski (Bachelorette S8; Bachelor Pad S3; BIP S1, S2, S6) and Anna Redman (Bachelor S25; BIP S7), who join us from their shared home in Chicago. Shandy has known Chris for years and are delighted to catch up with him and meet lovely Anna in today's double date.

Today Chris and Anna join Shandy to share how fellow Bachelor alums set them up, how they complement one another, whether or not "villain-y" has helped them connect, what they play on game nights (and who wins), and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a particularly entertaining nail biter of a Newlyweds Game. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Anna And Chris!

2:14 - How They Met

4:21 - How Familiar With Each Other Were They?

9:35 - First Impressions

15:12 - How They Complement Each Other

18:36 - The Biggest Misconception About Their Relationship

21:00 - Does Being Former “Villains” Help Them Relate To Each Other?

24:20 - How They Fight

28:14 - What’s Different About This Partnership Versus Past Ones That Makes It Successful?

29:46 - Early Hurdle

34:43 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

37:46 - Rapid Fire True/False

38:47 - The Newlyweds Game

1:00:37 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today, for the first time ever, we're joined by guests for a recap: Claire and Emma of the Love To See It podcast help us break down episode 3.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Claire & Emma

1:45 - Episode 4 Kick Off

7:00 - Kat’s 1-On-1

9:00 - Evening At The Mansion

16:40 - Evening On The Date

25:52 - Group Date

34:02 - Evening

51:40 - Brooklyn’s 1-On-1

52:50 - Evening

56:03 - The Next Day

56:32 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

1:06:05 - Rose Ceremony

1:08:27 - Credits

1:09:57 - Andy’s A-Game

1:11:50 - Shandy Word Watch

1:14:18 - Predictions

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by two lovely callers! Our first caller, Michelle, is frustrated with members of her core friend group routinely bringing their significant others to Girls Night. Is this something she can actually address without causing a rift, and if so, how? Caller Siobhan was with her ex for 6 months but is left scratching her head over what even happened. How can two people see the same relationship so differently, and what should she have done differently? Brutal Andy honesty ensues. Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Michelle!

23:16 - Shandy Debrief

33:02 - Welcome To Caller Siobhan!

40:22 - Shandy Sleuthing

1:06:54 - Shandy Debrief

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