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It's Caller Day and today we're joined by not one but TWO lovely callers! First we're joined by Megan, who has been wrestling with her dating requirements and being labeled a "gold digger" by friends. Are professional and fiscal success too superficial to put in the "needs" column? Next we're joined by Sarah, who's been scratching her head over pre-first-date etiquette. Is it a bad chess move to send a check-in text before the first date, and if so, where's the line between being pursued and simply getting logistical information? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Megan!

18:31 - Shandy Speaks

30:08 - Shandy Debrief

36:47 - Welcome To Caller Sarah!

44:19 - Shandy Speaks

54:13 - Shandy Debrief

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you know you have no future with a person, is it still worth a potentially great hookup? Is it wrong to feel envious when your friends are all getting engaged? And is secretly chatting with an ex on the regular emotional cheating? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: Without A Future, Is It Still Worth The Hookup?

16:22 - Q2: I’m Green With Engagement Envy!

27:48 - Q3: Two Weddings, One Weekend—Help Us Decide!

36:45 - Q4: I’m Secretly Chatting With My Ex Every Day—Am I Emotionally Cheating?

52:30 - Q5: My Husband’s Friend’s Wife Is Coming Onto Him—What Should He Do?

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It's Caller Day and today we're joined by two lovely callers! We're joined by our first ever caller COUPLE (!), Barbie and Ken. They plan to secretly elope even though Ken's mother has explicitly asked them not to. Should they alter their plans to avoid future friction, or do what feels true to them and let the chips fall where they may? Caller Elana a very relatable Am-I-The-Asshole question involving her best friend. Where's the middle ground when you both think you're in the right? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Callers Barbie & Ken!

12:09 - Shandy Speaks

31:27 - Shandy Debrief

40:21 - Welcome To Caller Elana!

59:51 - Shandy Speaks

1:09:41- Shandy Debrief

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This Hot Topic episode has been one of THE! MOST! hotly requested conversations to date! Ask and you shall receive, Shandies, because today we are joined by professor and therapist Dr. Kirk Honda, aka @PsychologyInSeattle, famed for his reaction videos and analyses of reality TV relationship dynamics.

Today Dr. Honda has answers to our personal musings about the psychological aspects of falling in love on TV. We also cover the manipulation, the aftermath, the audience, and last but not least, the ethics. Sharleen shares several experiences from her Bachelor days and Dr. Honda helps break them down. Frankly, this conversation is overdue and probably one of the most quintessential "Shandy" conversations to date. Come and listen to why we call this the elusive and final collector's card of Dear Shandy Hot Topic episodes!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Kirk Honda!

1:19 - What’s His Favorite & Least Favorite Aspects Of Watching Reality Dating Shows?

4:41 - Does Feeling “Chosen” On These Shows Amplify Romantic Feelings?

8:45 - Can A Desire For Money And/Or Fame Result In Chemical Love?

20:56 - Sensory Deprivation And Behavioral Shaping

27:43 - Contestant Autonomy And Learned Helplessness

32:14 - Can Trauma Expedite A Relationship?

35:07 - If He Had Met His Wife On A Reality Show, Would Their Relationship Have Progressed In The Same Way?

36:46 - The Ethics Of Producing Reality TV

46:04 - What Has He Learned About The Reality TV Audience?

53:58 - Do Reality TV And Social Media Reward Narcissism?

58:48 - His Favorite Shows

1:04:13 - Shandy Debrief 

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is there an age where never having been married or engaged is a red flag? If your car is towed while your first date is making a move on you, who pays? And if you don't particularly like your coworker but she's a hugger, to hug or not to hug? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: When is Never Having Been Married a Red Flag?

10:06 - Q2: My Car Was Towed At His Place—Should He Have Paid For It?

27:39 - Q3: My Fiancé’s Friends Are Taking Advantage Of His Generosity—Help!

41:32 - Q4: Can I Expect A Partner To Move With Me?

47:29- Q5: When Single And Dating, Is It Ok To Keep Photos Of My Late Spouse On Social Media?

56:54 - Q6: My Coworker Keeps Forcing Me To Hug Her—Help!

1:10:18 - Q7: I’m 4 Years In And The Thrill Is Gone—Is It Over?

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Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down the Finale and Reunion!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:02 - Finale

27:44 - Reunion

1:05:18 - Best Dressed

1:07:13 - Overall Thoughts

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Today's Hot Topic tackles a recurring theme among our Shandies' questions: MONEY, BABY!! 💵💵💵 We're joined by superstar Ramit Sethi, who not only wrote 2009's megahit and NYT bestseller "I Will Teach You To Be Rich", but whose very own Netflix show, "How To Get Rich" just premiered on April 18th!

Today Ramit begins by helping us define what our own individual "Rich Life" looks like. But he goes even further with the clearest, most concise, direct answers to your most burning relationship-meets-money questions: When one partner has a significantly higher income, should that be reflected in the bills? When and how should you bring up your debt with your partner? Is there a "gold standard" when it comes to shared and separate bank accounts? And what about PRENUPS?? What bank accounts and credit cards does Ramit himself use? (Oh yeah, we go there!) Listen on for your lesson in getting RICH.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Ramit Sethi!

2:22 - What Is A “Rich Life”?

3:38 - How Can One Change From Being A Spender To A Saver?

9:38 - Join Sharleen In An Exercise: Define Your “Rich Life”

18:42 - How Can You Design Your Rich Life When You Feel Like You’re Struggling To Get By?

22:30 - Investing And Saving 101

27:49 - Ramit’s Picks For Bank Accounts & Credits Cards (WITH ACTUAL ANSWERS)

31:02 - How Should You Divvy Up Finances When One Partner Makes More $$$?

37:31 - Is The A Certain Number You Should Have In The Bank Before Starting A Family?

39:24 - Prenups

44:59 - When Should One Broach The Topic Of Money And/Or Debt In A New Relationship?

49:50 - Have Debt Or Bad Credit? These Are Your First Steps

53:38 - Andy’s Selfish Question

56:55 - What Would Ramit Like Your Takeaway To Be?

1:01:22 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 9-11, aka Seattle Part 2.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:55 - Episode 9

29:04 - Episode 10

55:21 - Episode 11

1:08:02 - Predictions

1:10:45 - Who We Would Go For

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a history of staying in relationships longer than you should, what are Shandy's tips on knowing it's time to break up? (Don't miss Andy's tips on the post-breakup withdrawal!) Is it a red flag if your boyfriend of 6 months didn't get you a birthday gift? And when it comes to adult friendships, where's the line between blind loyalty and pursuing the relationships that might fulfill us? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: How Do I Know It’s Really Over & We Shouldn’t Get Back Together?

17:12 - Q2: My Friend Group Imploded Over Pickleball—Help!

31:37 - Q3: My Long Distance Boyfriend Didn’t Get Me A Birthday Gift—Is This A Red Flag?

42:22 - Q4: I’d Like To Befriend My Friend’s Ex-Husband’s New Girlfriend—Would This Make Me Disloyal?

49:46 - Q5: I’ve Been In An Arranged Marriage For 13 Years & Missed Out On Romance—Help!

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Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 6-8, aka Seattle Part 1.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

3:50 - Episode 6

30:14 - Episode 7

43:48 - Episode 8

1:11:33 - Predictions

1:13:33 - Who We Would Go For

1:13:56 - A Request From Shandy

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