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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down the grand finale!

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Time Stamps:

1:04 - Finale Kick Off

2:10 - Aaron B’s Return

3:45 - Rose Ceremony

9:43 - Live: Aaron B

10:44 - Charity With Her Family

12:43 - Joey Meets Charity’s Family

13:49 - Live

14:29 - Dotun Meets Charity’s Family

19:18 - Charity Seeks Clarity

22:45 - Joey’s Final Date

24:58 - Live

26:00 - Dotun’s Final Date

28:47 - Neil Lane

31:34 - Proposal Day

33:17 - Joey

36:23 - Live: Joey 

37:30 - Live: Charity Joins

39:19 - Dotun

41:32 - Live

42:27 - Live: Charity & Dotun

45:34 - Bachelor Reveal

48:42 - Overall Thoughts On Charity’s Season

49:45 - Shandy Word Watch

50:37 - Reviewing Night One Predictions

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Today's the day, Shandies! We've been wanting to tackle the ever-relevant topic of NARCISSISM since Dear Shandy's inception, however, we insisted on waiting until we could get the best of the best to join us. Our patience paid off as today we're joined by the acclaimed, unparalleled expert on narcissism, the one and only Dr. Ramani. Trust us, she does NOT disappoint!

Today Dr. Ramani sets the record straight on the definition on narcissism, how social media has changed the narcissist landscape, and how many of us fall on the narcissism spectrum. She gives us insight on how aware of their own narcissism narcissists are, whether or not they have a moral compass or can improve, and whether or not you can "win" in your battle against a narcissist. We wrap with actionable tips for those healing from their relationship with narcissists, those who have no choice but to live or work with narcissists, and what "red flags" to look out for.

Our minds were blown multiple times during this conversation and this is easily one of our all-time favorite Hot Topics to date. We promise you will learn something new (and useful) to apply to your most challenging relationships.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Ramani!

2:59 - The Clinical Definition of Narcissism (So We’re All On The Same Page)

4:35 - Is There A Point On The Spectrum Where A Personality Style Becomes A Personality Disorder?

8:27 - Nature And Nurture

13:09 - How Wrong Is It To Throw The Term “Narcissist” Around?

15:41 - What Percentage Of People Fall On The Narcissism Spectrum?

17:40 - Social Media

22:56 - Can A Person Be Narcissistic In Some Ways But Not In Others?

23:58 - Can They Help It?

27:52 - When Narcissists Are Acting Out, Are They Drinking Their Own Kool-Aid?

30:25 - Do Narcissists Have A Moral Compass?

32:31 - Shame

33:54 - Can Narcissists Know They’re Narcissists?

35:06 - Has She Ever Seen Narcissists Improve?

38:59 - Is There A Correlation Between Narcissism And Enormous Wealth?

39:50 - Is There A Way To “Win” With Narcissists?

42:39 - When Dating Someone New, What Are Red Flags To Look Out For?

47:46 - Are People Raised By Narcissists More Likely To End Up In A Relationship With One?

48:47 - For People Who Have Fallen For Narcissists, What Questions Should They Ask Themselves?

51:45 - What Do Narcissists Truly Want In A Partner?

54:53 - Navigating Narcissism In The Workplace

58:04 - When Your Colleagues Are Drinking The Narcisisst’s Kool-Aid, Can You Make Them See The Light?

1:01:52 - The Basic Rules For Handling A Narcissist

1:04:51 - How Can One Tell If *They* Are A Narcissist? 

1:06:21 - Are There Benevolent Narcisissts?

1:09:22 - First Steps Victims Of Narcissists Should Take Towards Healing

1:12:34 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down Men Tell All!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:35 - Men Tell All Kickoff

7:35 - A Guy Named Peter

10:43 - Brayden’s Hot Seat

17:02 - Xavier

20:28 - Charity Arrives

27:16 - Xavier’s Hot Seat

37:13 - Unseen Footage

40:04 - Captain Tom

40:45 - Former Bachelorettes

41:22 - Gerry, Our Golden Bachelor

45:18 - Credits

45:44 - Andy’s A-Game

46:37 - Shandy Word Watch

49:37 - Overall Thoughts

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it a red flag if your date leads with compliments about your physical appearance? If your mother's wedding gift is a check that seems to be missing a "0", is it worth bringing up? And if your brother has created a web of lies so big you're forced to play a part in the charade, when is enough enough? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:48 - Q1: Don’t Tell Me I’m Pretty… Yet

13:57 - Q2: My Boyfriend Lacks Initiative—Should I Be Concerned?

26:04 - Q3: My Mother Gifted Us A Surprisingly Low Amount Of Money For Our Wedding—Can I Say Something?

44:34 - Q4: My LDR Is Rocky But We’re So In Love—When Is It Too Much To Overcome?

54:14 - Q5: My Boyfriend Didn't Do Anything For My Birthday :(

1:07:39 - Q6: My Brother Can’t Keep It In His Pants—Help!

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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 7, aka Fantasy Suite Week!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

0:44 - Episode 7 Kick Off

3:34 - Xavier’s Overnight

35:31 - Joey’s Overnight

40:55 - Flashpoint

46:21 - Dotun’s Overnight

55:11 - Aaron B

58:40 - Credits

1:01:16 - Andy’s A-Game

1:02:12 - Shandy Word Watch

1:05:59 - Shandy’s Predictions

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bachelor Nation's favorite "dolphin", Alexis Waters (Bachelor S21) and her fiancé, Tyler Fernandez! We knew going into this Love Fest that the "fun meter" would not be a concern, but we did not expect our cheeks to hurt as much as they did from laughing so hard!

Today Alexis and Tyler join Shandy to share how they were introduced by former Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay, how they went from party acquaintances to lovebirds, what it feels like to receive pressure to get engaged, and of course, how they fight! Finally, an absolutely hilarious Newlyweds Game that we promise will have you in stitches. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Alexis & Tyler!

2:54 - True Or False: Rachel Lindsay Introduced Them

6:03 - Did Tyler Watch Alexis On The Bachelor?

9:08 - How Did They Go From Party Acquaintances To Serious Couple?

10:06 - First Impressions

14:57 - How They Complement Each Other

17:52 - Early Hurdle

20:47 - How They Fight

24:46 - The Pressure To Get Engaged

28:02 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

32:00 - True Or False

32:55 - The Newlyweds Game

49:29 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 6!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:24 - Aaron’s Hometown

9:55 - Joey’s Hometown

19:20 - Xavier’s Hometown

27:11 - Dotun’s Hometown

30:41 - Los Angeles

32:14 - Rose Ceremony

36:13 - Credits

36:36 - Andy’s A-Game

37:11 - Shandy Word Watch

39:14 - Shandy’s Predictions

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Cierrah. Cierrah lives in the basement suite of her parents' house but they haven't been displaying the most role model-esque behavior of late. Is she within her right to pick a side and get involved, or is her parents' dynamic their business and no one else's? Should what happens between our parents STAY between our parents?Listen on for the Shandy take!

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Cierrah!

31:27 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 5!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:29 - Episode 5 Kick Off

3:51 - Joey’s 1-On-1

7:28 - Evening

15:48 - 2-On-1 Date

20:04 - Evening

27:12 - Dotun’s 1-On-1

29:54 - Evening

36:24 - Sean 

38:51 - Group Date

47:06 - Evening

51:26 - Credits

53:07 - Andy’s A-Game

53:46 - Shandy Word Watch

56:10 - Shandy’s Predictions

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Have you ever found yourself wondering "where are they now?" when listening to our caller episodes and Q&As? Well... drumroll, please... UPDATES ARE BACK, BABY! This is our second ever installment of what we hope to make a biannual tradition.

We called out for updates from our question-asking Shandies and many were kind enough to provide their subsequent chapters, good or bad! Come join us in the living room where we're on the edge of our seats!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Introduction

0:55 - Episode 32: Q3, from Gabby - https://youtu.be/GvYfIlViSnk

5:40 - Episode 40: Q1, from Claire - https://youtu.be/GLK2kbK78j4

11:05 - Episode 80: Q5, from Aria - https://youtu.be/550ahd6ZtF4

24:42 - Episode 95: Q3, from Christina - https://youtu.be/JjSsIJaFGzI

28:28 - Episode 107: Caller 2, Danielle - https://youtu.be/pFIEaZXDV50

31:03 - Episode 125: Q2, from H - https://youtu.be/Y0GLNYRq2qo

33:27 - Episode 125: Q5, from S - https://youtu.be/Y0GLNYRq2qo

35:20 - Episode 129: Q5, from Lisa - https://youtu.be/0HD8P34ITQI

38:54 - Episode 140: Q1, from Danielle - https://youtu.be/Et2s0pt-7lI

42:25 - Episode 146: Q3, from C - https://youtu.be/ygmeFYPyYMk

47:04 - Episode 166: Caller 1, Ray - https://youtu.be/JWaxbrWEwMw

48:24 - Episode 182: Q1, from Roni - https://youtu.be/FgJZYlWYlos

54:07 - Episode 182: Q4, from Anonymous - https://youtu.be/FgJZYlWYlos

1:00:56 - Episode 184: Q3, from Bass - https://youtu.be/5G1JlNLmwLE

1:04:48 - Episode 197: Q4, from Snooty - https://youtu.be/dtHws_MFWho

1:09:47 - Episode 197: Q5, from The Mistress - https://youtu.be/dtHws_MFWho

1:14:37 - Episode 214: Q5, from Mrs Missus - https://youtu.be/LDTzewx3uQU

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