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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping 

1:32 - Episode 4 Kick Off

3:38 - Dotun’s 1-On-1

11:33 - Evening

25:11 - Group Date

34:30 - Evening

48:16 - Xavier’s 1-On-1

50:30 - Evening

1:00:32 - The Next Day/Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

1:02:36 - Brayden Returns

1:17:32 - Rose Ceremony

1:21:08 - Credits

1:21:24 - Andy’s A-Game

1:23:05 - Shandy Word Watch

1:25:15 - Shandy’s Predictions

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your boyfriend still has "favorited" photos of his ex on his phone, is that cause for concern? Are you shallow if you'd like your partner to make a cosmetic change? If your mother-in-law's perfume stays in the house long after she's gone, is it worth saying something? And whatever happened to taking things slow? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping (Sort Of?)

1:39 - Q1: My Boyfriend Still Has Photos Of His Ex On His Phone—Is This A Red Flag?

6:09 - Q2: My Brother’s Girlfriend Is Sensitive That He Used To Date My Friend—Should I Distance Myself In The Friendship To Support My Future Sister-In-Law?

9:45 - Q3: Is “Taking Things Slowly” A Lost Art?

21:38 - Q4: I Love My Husband Except For One Cosmetic “Flaw”—Should I Bring It Up Or Am I Just Shallow?

36:47 - Q5: A Friend Called Me By The Wrong Name—Should I Correct Him Or Is This A Fluke?

41:03 - Q6: At What Point Do You Weigh Stability Against Happiness?

59:35 - Q7: My Mother-In-Law’s Perfume Is Stinking Up Our House—Help!

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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:29 - Episode 3 Kick Off

5:41 - Brayden’s 1-On-1

13:42 - Evening

21:54 - Group Date

34:09 - Evening

41:53 - Warwick’s 1-On-1

46:50 - The Next Day

47:12 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party

1:10:28 - Rose Ceremony

1:11:13 - Credits

1:12:01 - Andy’s A-Game

1:11:25 - Shandy Word Watch

1:15:43 - Shandy’s Predictions

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Riley who is calling about her 6 year relationship. Riley made some poor financial decisions in the past which has caused her boyfriend to pull back and distrust her. Can he get over this, what does this mean for their partnership, and how long is too long to be punished for past mistakes? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Riley!

50:33 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:20 - Episode 2 Kick Off

4:36 - Aaron B’s 1-On-1

9:50 - Evening

19:02 - 1st Group Date

26:40 - Evening

41:03 - 2nd Group Date

43:56 - Evening

51:18 - Joey’s Hard Earned 1-On-1 

52:57 - BBQ

1:03:12 - Rose Ceremony

1:07:07 - Credits

1:07:14 - Andy’s A-Game

1:09:23 - Shandy Word Watch

1:12:30 - Shandy’s Predictions

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today is our second ever in-person Love Fest and an absolutely epic one! You watched them meet and get engaged on Paradise S7, and now 2 years later, Bachelor Power Couple® Joe Amabile and Serena Pitt join us in the living room to dissect the ins and outs of their relationship.

Today Joe and Serena share their honest first impressions of each other—in Serena's eyes, was Joe in fact the "George Clooney" of Bachelor Nation we described him to be? They get specific with adjectives about each other (yay!), discuss how and when the 11 year age difference rears its head, unpack the early hurdle that took time to overcome, and of course, describe how they fight! This episode is loaded with goodies including Serena and Sharleen's biggest City Hall regret and the surprising ways in which the native Chicagoan and native New Yorker are similar. Finally, a Newlyweds Game that is heavy on "OR"s but not remotely lacking on fun! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Joe & Serena!

3:03 - Their City Hall Wedding

8:47 - Serena & Sharleen’s City Hall Regret

10:53 - How Familiar Were They With Each Other? (Was Joe “George Clooney” As Shandy Described In Their Recaps?)

17:09 - First Impressions

27:47 - Specificity!

38:22 - The 11 Year Gap

40:08 - How They Complement Each Other

43:07 - Early Hurdle

53:45 - How They Fight

59:56 - Why New York + How We All Feel About East Vs West Coasts

1:07:26 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

1:12:15 - The Newlyweds Game

1:28:20 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 1, aka the big Premiere!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:01 - Overall Thoughts On The Premiere

2:17 - Episode 1 Kick Off

4:03 - Charity’s Dress

5:45 - Limo Exit Wins/Fails

12:43 - Charity’s Speech

13:06 - Notable 1-On-1 Time

20:45 - Nehemiah

22:02 - Notable 1-On-1 Time, Continued

32:46 - Nehemiah’s Reveal/Nehemiah Reports To Charity

42:40 - Brayden

46:13 - Rose Ceremony

47:38 - Credits

49:48 - Andy’s A-Game

50:34 - Shandy Word Watch

53:01 - Shandy’s Predictions

56:34 - Wild Cards

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Today's Hot Topic conversation is great for just about anybody, but *especially* those who have considered therapy but haven't pulled the trigger for whatever reason (accessibility, cost, finding the right match...)! Our guest, Owen O'Kane, is an acclaimed London-based psychotherapist and the best selling author of Ten Times Happier, Ten to Zen, and most recently, How To Be Your Own Therapist. But that's not all! Before pursuing psychotherapy, Owen spent a decade working with the dying as a Clinical Nurse Specialist in Palliative Care, which we think adds a unique dimension to his perspective. Needless to say, he is abundantly qualified to help us tackle the journey of self-therapy today!

Today, beyond sharing his own personal story of self acceptance, Owen discusses what drives us, victim mentality, gratitude, tips for handling our anxious episodes, what 10 minutes of self therapy a day looks like, and what "The Goal" of therapy even is (happiness? meaning??). Last but not least, Andy picks Owen's brain after his experience working in Palliative Care—what did caring for the dying on a daily basis teach him? This episode has a little something for everyone and even includes a peek into Andy's own thoughts and fears. Whether you consider "therapy" a dirty word or part of your regular vernacular, you won't want to miss this chat!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Owen O’Kane!

1:54 - Is The UK Behind The US In Terms Of Therapy “Taboo”?

4:32 - Owen’s Story, Part 1

7:10 - What’s “The Goal”? Happiness?

8:49 - What Drives Us?

11:09 - Owen's Story, Part 2

16:24 - Our Thought Process

25:35 - Where Does One Begin With Self Therapy?

28:35 - Do Some Personality Types Struggle More With Self Therapy Than Others?

31:23 - Victim Mentality

33:42 - What Does 10 Minutes A Day Of Self Therapy Look Like?

36:51 - Gratitude And Fear Of Loss

43:18 - Advice For Anyone Who’s Been in Therapy For A Long Time And Isn’t Seeing A Difference

49:05 - Tips For Those Who Experience Anxious Episodes

55:50 - Our Phones

1:00:07 - Andy Asks Owen For His Takeaways After A Decade Spent In Palliative Care

1:07:09 - Shandy Debrief

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your long distance relationship is at a standstill because he doesn't have a passport, how long is too long to wait? If you and a friend are each passionate about vastly different beliefs, has the friendship run its course? What to do when "Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind" isn't an option? And finally, Shandy gives a backup plan for a particularly amusing fetish. Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: How Can “Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind” Work When We WORK Together??

10:10 - Q2: He’s My First And The Sex Is Uncomfortable—Any Guidance?

27:31 - Q3: My Long Distance Relationship Is At A Standstill Because He Doesn’t Have A Passport—How Long Is Too Long To Wait?

37:03 - Q4: My Friend And I Have Differing Beliefs—Is It Against My Values To Stay Friends With Her?

46:27 - Q5: My Friend Keeps Sending Unwelcome Messages To My Wife—Should I Say Something?

1:01:00 - Q6: Do I Have A Right To Be Annoyed That My Friends Don’t Attend My Performances?

1:10:14 - Q7: My Husband Is Perfect But His Fetish Makes Me Squirm—Help!

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bennett Jordan (Bachelorette S16) and his lovely fiancée, renowned yoga instructor Emily Chen. This Love Fest came about rather unexpectedly; Bennett and Emily were kind enough to jump in last minute when our previously planned couple cancelled. We're so happy we spontaneously got to meet and hang out with these two!

Today Bennett and Emily join Shandy to share how persistence paid off, how they're the yin to the other's yang, and of course, how they fight! (Do yogis fight??) Finally, a Newlyweds Game with a twist ending that Shandy decides perfectly sums up this couple. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Bennett & Emily!

4:38 - How They Met

9:59 - Had Emily Seen Bennett’s Season?

11:44 - First Impressions

16:54 - Defining The Relationship

23:51 - How They Complement Each Other

26:56 - How They Fight

34:52 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

40:30 - True Or False

41:19 - The Newlyweds Game

1:03:41 - Shandy Debrief

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