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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by engineer Ivan Hall (Bachelorette S16 & Bachelor in Paradise S7) and his fiancée, anesthesiologist Tailour Robison. These two *just* got engaged and Tailour has never done a public interview to date, so we're thrilled to get the exclusive on this legit power couple.

Today Ivan and Tailour share how young love can be mature love as well, how they complement each other, how they fight, and they even prove Shandy wrong on the adage "you break up because it's broken"! Finally, a hilariously academic Newlyweds Game that has Andy on the edge of his seat even more than usual. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Ivan And Tailour!

3:50 - How They Met

8:49 - Did Tailour Watch Ivan On TV?

11:18 - Considering Their History, What Are Their Thoughts On “You Broke Up Because It was Broken”

13:25 - First Impressions

20:43 - How They Complement Each Other

25:10 - Did Going On The Show Bring Ivan Out Of His Shell?

27:15 - Early Hurdle

29:53 - How They Fight

36:18 - Was There A Moment When They “Knew”? Do They Believe In “The One”?

41:06 - Any Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed

44:42 - Is The Plane Ivan Is Working On The Plane From ‘Top Gun: Maverick’?

49:50 - The Newlyweds Game

1:07:20 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 4 and 5, aka MEXICO.

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0:00 - Intro

0:46 - Episode 4

39:34 - Episode 5

1:14:53 - Predictions

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Today's Hot Topic will likely resonate with many a Shandy. If you struggle with perfectionism, your inner critic, feeling the need to prove yourself, and/or analysis paralysis, this conversation is a must. We're joined by Homaira Kabir, author of ‘Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’, whose career is built on the research of how you (yes, you!) can flourish. Today we cover everything from the difference between being a perfectionist and just having high standards, how to not grow resentful when others can't live up to your "perfect" ideals, whether or not perfectionism equates to competitiveness, how not to raise perfectionist children, and how our purpose ties into all of the above. This one really tugged on Sharleen's heart strings and she thinks it will speak to you, too. Listen on for a lesson in letting go...

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Homaira Kabir!

3:48 - What Are Optimal Confidence and Fragile Confidence?

6:42 - Can We Have Fragile Confidence In Some Parts Of Our Lives And Optimal Confidence In Others?

9:30 - Since So Much Is Programmed Into Us As Infants, How Much Free Will Do We Even Have?

13:35 - What Are We Looking For When We Put So Much Out There And Are Disappointed By The Response?

16:05 - Is To Desire Perfection To Live In The Past?

19:30 - Is Perfectionism a Result Of Nature Or Nurture?

21:42 - How To Avoid Passing On This Trait To Children

22:58 - Are Perfectionists Trapped In The Wrong Gear?

26:53 - Is To Be A Perfectionist To Either Competitive Or Envious?

28:23 - Is It Possible To Keep The Benefits Of Perfectionism While Letting Go Of The Rest Or Is It All Or Nothing?

31:07 - What’s The Difference Between Perfectionism And High Standards?

33:22 - How Can One a) Not Put Their Perfect Ideals On Their Partner, and b) Not Resent Them For It

38:43 - What’s The Driving Force Behind Perfectionism? (Including Another Discussion About Shame!)

 44:20 - Advice For Those Who Logically Know Perfectionism Isn’t Their Friend But Still Feel It’s Part Of Their Identity 

48:33 - Tips For Those Who Suffer From Analysis Paralysis

55:07 - How Does One’s “Purpose” Play Into All This?

1:00:03 - What Would She Like Your Takeaway From This Conversation To Be?

1:02:27 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with something new! By very popular demand, Shandy is testing the waters with recapping the 4th season of the hit show Love Is Blind. Today, in addition to a recap, we're also sharing our first impressions of the show. Listen on for episodes 1-3 (+ a few minutes), aka THE PODS.

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:44 - Episode 1

33:04 - Episode 2

1:00:15 - Episode 3

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It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Sarah, whose ex broke things off around 6 months ago. While things ended with a lot of question marks on Sarah's end, he did tell her he'd like to remain friends. Should Sarah take his recent text as a sign to embark on a platonic friendship? Listen on for the Shandy take!

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Caller Sarah!

11:32 - Shandy Sleuthing

37:06 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down the grand finale!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

2:09 - Finale Kick Off

2:59 - Live: Ariel

5:42 - Back In Thailand

7:26 - Gabi Meets Zach’s Family

11:31 - Kaity Meets Zach’s Family

13:57 - Kaity’s Last Chance Date

21:10 - Evening

24:08 - Gabi’s Last Chance Date

27:23 - Evening

29:53 - Live: It’s Sean Lowe Time

32:24 - Back In Thailand

33:06 - Proposal Day: Gabi

40:54 - Live: Gabi

44:29 - Zach Joins

49:58 - Proposal Day: Kaity

50:49 - Live: Zach & Kaity

56:29 - Reviewing Night One Predictions

57:56 - Charity’s Season Preview

59:23 - Shandy Word Watch

1:00:13 - Special Announcement

1:01:15 - Special Surprise

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you've had a missed connection with someone who no longer seems to check the dating app, is it creepy to reach out on an outside platform? Is it ever OK to ask a single friend to be their plus-one to a mutual friend's wedding? And is tickling your partner a form of endearment or a form of torture? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Q1: My Match Isn’t Checking The Dating App—What’s The Least Creepy Way to Reach Out?

5:38 - Q2: Is It OK To Ask A Single Friend To Be Their Plus-One To A Mutual Friend’s Wedding?

19:16 - Q3: His List Of Wants In The First 1.5 Months Of Dating Have Me Wondering: Is He A Risk?

26:39 - Q4: Did We Accidentally Schedule An Orgy? 

34:30 - Q5: I Love My Boyfriend But Not His Male Pattern Baldness—How Can I Get Him To Shave His Head?

45:18 - Q6: My Ex-Husband Is My Best Friend—Is This Holding Me Back From Finding A New Romantic Connection?

53:18 - Q7: Shandy Weighs In On The Ethics Of Tickling

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 9, aka Fantasy Suite Week!

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0:00 - Housekeeping

1:20 - Episode 9 Kick Off

4:36 - Ariel’s Overnight

7:37 - Evening

12:26 - The Next Day

12:42 - Gabi’s Overnight

20:37 - Evening

25:02 - The Next Day

26:53 - Zach Is Honest

36:52 - Kaity’s Overnight

52:06 - Evening

54:13 - Rose Ceremony

59:43 - Credits

1:00:37 - Andy’s A Game

1:01:46 - Shandy Word Watch

1:05:43 - Predictions

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bachelor Franchise power couple Danielle Maltby (Bachelor S21) and Michael Allio (Bachelorette S17), whom you watched meet on Bachelor In Paradise S8! We're happy to report that not only is this a Love Fest of legend, but our producer Gabby even called it one of her ALL TIME favorites (and trust us, she's picky!)

Today Danielle and Michael join Shandy to share how and why their relationship has blossomed post-show, how they complement each other, and of course, how they fight! There are also countless tangent gems covering everything from imposter syndrome to thoughts on what *really* matters in life. Finally, a Newlyweds Game that is flagrantly disrespected by its players to the point where Shandy has no choice but to show them who's boss. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome To Danielle & Michael!

14:54 - Was There Anything They Think Viewers Missed Out On With Their Love Story

20:37 - Traits They’ve Learned About One Another Post-Show

25:26 - How Their First Impressions Have Changed

30:17 - How They Complement Each Other

40:03 - When Did Michael “Know”

46:15 - Early Hurdle

53:14 - How They Fight

1:06:53 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game

1:22:22 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down Women Tell All!

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0:00 - Housekeeping

0:42 - Women Tell All Kick Off

4:19 - Christina Mandrell

7:53 - Anastasia vs Everyone

10:57 - Katherine vs Brooklyn

14:33 - Jess’ Hot Seat

18:04 - Greer’s Hot Seat

22:24 - Katherine’s Hot Seat

24:37 - Charity’s Hot Seat

27:05 - Unseen Footage

29:34 - Zach

32:09 - Bloopers

34:36 - Bachelorette Announcement

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