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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by a Bachelor Nation icon, Courtney Robertson Preciado, and her husband, Humberto Preciado!

You certainly know Courtney as the winner of season 16 of The Bachelor (and the New York Times Bestselling Author of her subsequent tell-all, "I Didn't Come Here To Make Friends") and we're thrilled Humberto agreed to join for his first ever pod appearance! These lovely parents struggled finding a sitter for their 5 month old daughter, Paloma, so we get a very cute cameo partway through. :)

Today we learn how meeting in your 30s just may be reflected in a relationship, how Courtney and Humberto feel parenthood has affected their bond, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a tight race of a Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Listen on to find out!

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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome to Courtney and Humberto!

2:06 - How They Met

10:23 - First Impressions

15:56 - How They Complement Each Other

21:53 - Early Hurdles

26:13 - Andy Has Some Questions

27:28 - How They Fight

31:27 - How Parenthood Has Affected Their Partnership

36:57 - What's Different About This Relationship Versus Past Ones?

40:20 - Has Humberto Seen Courtney's Bachelor Season?

49:29 - Relationship Beliefs That Have Changed

54:05 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game

1:08:49 - Shandy Debrief

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Today's guest, Allison Raskin, is a New York Times best selling author and mental health advocate. Her 3rd and latest book, “Overthinking About You: Navigating Romantic Relationships When You Have Anxiety, OCD, and/or Depression” just came out on Tuesday (May 3). When we polled you, our Shandies, over on Instagram about this topic, the floodgates of messages and emails opened, so we do our best to cover the most common themes today, including when to reveal your mental health struggles in a new relationship, how to communicate your needs (and what to leave out), and how to tell the difference between your anxiety and your gut instincts. If you've ever found yourself obsessively agonizing over whether or not someone's right for you, today's conversation just might be for you.

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0:00 - Welcome To Allison Raskin!

5:19 - When Should One Share Their Mental Health Struggles With Someone They're Dating?

9:32 - The Difference Between Process And Content—How Much Should You Share?

15:43 - Where's The Line Between Unnecessary Anxiety And Listening To Your Gut?

17:28 - Attraction

21:24 - How To Combat A Lifetime Of Being Told What A "Right" Relationship Looks Like

25:21 - What If Your Partner Doesn't Know How To Help Or Understand?

28:35 - Thoughts On If One's Partner (Or Partner-To-Be) Expresses Hesitation Because Of Their OCD?

36:01 - How To Prevent Your Partner From Eventually Taking Things Personally?

39:58 - Must One Have Their Mental Health Struggles Under Control Before Dating?

41:40 - Tips For Navigating Dating When It's A Cause Of Anxiety

48:16 - What To Do If Your Partner Refuses To Help Themself?

51:43 - Advice For Couples Where Both Parties Are Struggling Individually

53:34 - Medication

57:31 - What's The Gold Star Response To Give When Your Partner Opens Up About Their Struggles To You?

58:49 - Shandy Debrief

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It's Caller Day! Today's lovely caller, Kelsey, introduces us to a popular new term (Platonic Life Partner, or "PLP"), redefining what one's "soulmate" might look like. But Kelsey also has quite the conundrum: she has developed romantic feelings for her PLP. Are these feelings real and should she act on them, even at the risk of the special platonic bond and partnership they've developed? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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0:00 - Welcome to Caller Kelsey!

52:06 - Shandy Debrief

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it wrong to fantasize about other people if you're in a committed and happy partnership? If you find someone great but just can't come to find them attractive, is that worth ending things over? And just how important does Shandy find sleep compatibility? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

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0:00 - Q1: I'm Happily Married But Fantasize About Someone From The Gym—Help!

6:45 - Q2: Should I Tell My Friend That I Slept With Our Mutual Friend?

23:08 - Q3: My Boyfriend Talks In His Sleep And It's Affecting My Ability To Function By Day—Help!

33:12 - Q4: My Crush Is In A Relationship With A Clear Expiration Date And He's Already Emotionally Cheated With Me—Thoughts On Possibly Being The Other Woman?

56:03 - Q5: I've Been Seeing An Amazing Guy But Just Can't Find Him Attractive—Should I End It?

1:08:28 - Q6: My Boyfriend Won't Sell The Ring From His Former Engagement—Thoughts?

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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's couple has been hotly requested for so many months, it's about time we brought them into the Shandy fold for a double date!

Dave Neal, standup comedian and host of the wildly popular Bachelor Nation News Youtube channel, and his fiancée, blogger Tasha Courtney, join us to chat. We learn about the long journey that led to their courtship (complete with a grand gesture or two), how their first impressions have changed, how they navigate working together, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game with the most shocking score to date. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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0:00 - Welcome to Dave and Tasha!

5:17 - How They Met

23:33 - First Impressions And If/How Those Have Changed

28:00 - What Is Different About This Relationship Versus Previous Ones?

30:13 - How Do They Fight?

34:38 - How Do They Navigate Working Together?

36:42 - How Involved Is Tasha In Dave's Bachelor Empire?

41:31 - Is Tasha Surprised By Dave's Youtube Success?

49:16 - Any Beliefs About Relationships That Have Been Changed By This One?

56:04 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game

1:09:13 - Shandy Debrief

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Today's lovely guest, Nicole Sodoma, is a seasoned divorce attorney of over two decades and the managing principal at Sodoma Law, based in Charlotte NC. Her debut book, "Please Don't Say You're Sorry: An Empowering Perspective on Marriage, Separation, and Divorce from a Marriage-Loving Divorce Attorney" will be released on May 24. She has also been through a divorce of her own, so needless to say, she's beyond qualified for today's "Confessions" episode! Nicole answers all of YOUR burning questions, and our conversation covers everything from her personal observations to (oftentimes surprising) divorce stats to invaluable life advice.

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Time Stamps

3:57 - Did She Always Want To Be A Divorce Attorney?

5:41 - If She Could Go Back In Time And Do Something Else, What Would It Be?

8:54 - Is Divorce One Of The Most Expensive Things In The World?

13:40 - What's The Average Time A Divorce Takes From Beginning To End?

16:32 - If You Get Married In One State But Reside In Another, Which State's Divorce Laws Apply?

17:22 - What Percentage Of The Divorces She's Dealt With Had Prenups? (Are Prenups In And Of Themselves An Indicator For Separation?)

23:50 - What Are The Top 3 Reasons She Sees For Divorce?

26:16 - What Percentage Of Divorces Are Amicable Versus Contentious?

29:53 - What's The Most Common Thing Couples Fight Over, And What's The Most Shocking Thing She's Seen A Couple Fight Over?

32:46 - Do Couples Ever *Not* Fight Over Custody?

36:35 - What Percentage Of Couples Who Make It To Her Office End Up Not Going Through With It?

38:10 - What's The Most Romantic Thing She's Ever Seen During A Divorce?

39:14 - How Is Debt Calculated?

42:32 - What Are Her General Thoughts On Prenups?

52:50 - How Many Years Into Marriage Are The Most Common For Divorce?

54:39 - What Are The Most Common Ages She Sees?

56:04 - What Are Some Things She Wishes Couples Would Consider Before Marriage?

59:08 - Did She Represent Herself In Her Own Divorce?

59:59 - What Are Some Red Flags She Wishes People Would Look Out For?

1:01:34 - Let's Say You Know It's Over—What Are The Best First Steps?

1:04:17 - What Advice Would You Give To Someone Going Through A Divorce Right Now?

1:06:02 - Is Marriage Worth The Risk?

1:07:42 - Shandy Debrief

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It's Caller Day! Today's call will likely be very relatable for those dating out there. Today we're joined by Lauren, a young single mom who knows what she wants and has been crystal clear in what she's looking for. However, the guy in question says one thing and does another. Is this a dealbreaker? And how much does "double dipping" affect things? Listen on for the Shandy take!

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0:00 - Welcome to Caller Lauren!

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How should you proceed if you love your partner but not his very frequent, very loud hobby? Why do guys stop trying when they get the girl? And what are Shandy's thoughts on the woman proposing to the man? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 

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0:00 - Q1: Why Do Men Stop Trying When They Get The Girl?

13:42 - Q2: I Want To Ask A Semi-Celebrity Out Via DM—Any Tips?

27:23 - Q3: I'm A Woman And Am Considering Being The One To Propose To My Boyfriend—Thoughts?

39:09 - Q4: I Have A Crush On My Manager—How Should I Make A Move Or Is It Too Risky?

50:27 - Q5: I Love My Fiancé But Can't Stand His Constant Singing—What Should I Do?

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Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down the grand finale.

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0:00 - Housekeeping

04:09 - Overall Thoughts On The Finale

04:26 - Finale Part 1 Kick Off

7:41 - The Rose Ceremony From Hell

33:37 - Clayton's Family

35:35 - Gabby Meets Clayton's Family

36:23 - Rachel Meets Clayton's Family

47:41 - Finale Part 2 Kick Off

52:06 - Susie

56:15 - The Breakup

1:05:21 - Live: Gabby

1:10:46 - The Breakup, Continued

1:13:45 - Live: Rachel

1:20:28 - The Show Resumes

1:21:41 - In The Countryside

1:25:29 - After The Final Rose

1:27:56 - Next Bachelorette

1:29:44 - Overall Thoughts

1:32:59 - Recapping Our Original Predictions

1:34:54 - Shandy Word Watch

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Parasocial relationships are defined as one-sided relationships, where one person extends emotional energy, interest and time, and the other party, the persona, is completely unaware of the other’s existence.

Have you ever wondered how the celebrity in this situation, or the "persona", feels about this dynamic? Today we're joined by accomplished actor, writer, and Youtuber Josh Peck, to chat how it feels to be on the other side. With 3.5 million Youtube subscribers, 7 million TikTok followers, 12.6 million Instagram followers, and having been on TV since age 10, it's safe to say Josh is on the receiving end of millions of parasocial relationships.

Can he even process that so many people caring about him or feeling like they know him? How does it feel to know he could be shaping the identities of so many? And does he ever feel a reverse dynamic, where he feels attached to his fans or even betrayed by them? Listen on for a fascinating discussion about human nature, our relationship with ourselves, and the strange dynamic that is parasocial relationships.

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