Decide Your Legacy

This week I’m joined by my good friend Rusty.  Over the past few months, I’ve noticed a major transformation and shift in his demeanor and perspective, so I wanted him to join me to talk about how forgiveness has transformed his life.  On this episode we discuss:

• Rusty’s upbringing, moving from place to place
• The struggle with his father and recognizing the trauma
• Seeing the good and the bad in people
• How forgiveness created a shift
• The shades of forgiveness
• The burden of carrying around a lack of forgiveness
• How trust fits into the equation with forgiveness
• Why Rusty wouldn’t change the past if he could
• Don’t drag your past with you, let it go and forgive
• Why forgiving yourself is so important
• How culture leads to avoidance

Resources:

Carl Jung Quotes

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Adam Gragg is a Legacy Coach, Blogger, Podcaster, Speaker, & Mental Health Professional for nearly 25 years. Adam’s life purpose is helping people & organizations find transformational clarity that propels them forward to face their biggest fears to LIVE & leave their chosen legacy. He’s ultra-practical in his approach, convinced that engaging in self-reflective ACTION & practical tools, practiced consistently, WILL transform your life. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, and helping clients overcome anxiety, depression & trauma. Contact Adam HERE. if you're interested in getting started on deciding YOUR legacy.

We regularly talk about the basics of communication and how to improve them, but I want to go beyond the basics today.  I'm going to share several secret skills that will take your communication to a deeper and stronger level with those around you.  On this episode we discuss:

• All the risks I'm taking (I'm doing it a lot lately)
• Problems that can arise from poor communication
• A fly-over of a few of the communication skills we usually talk about
• Never giving your power away
• How to not give up in communication with others
• Sharing your story in a vulnerable way
• How to dig deeper in conversation with others

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Resources:
Conflict Resolution (Episode #41)
New Orleans Surprise Prank 2022
If by Rudyard Kipling - Read by Sir Michael Caine
Do it Anyway by Mother Teresa
How Did You Die by Edmund Vance Cooke
My 20 Favorite Questions to Ask Clients
20 Questions to Ignite Meaningful Conversations

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Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling.

Our brains are wired against us sometimes.  It tries to protect us, but often puts us on the defensive.  Today we take back our perspective and build positivity into our lives.  On this episode we discuss:

• Confirmation bias and negativity bias
• Looking for evidence that things can go right
• Living in the moment and enjoying it
• What you focus on grows
• Facing the core issues in your life relentlessly
• Engaging in meditative practices to gain clarity
• What might you be avoiding?
• Ask what the opportunities are

Resources:

How to Be Grateful When Life Is Hard (post) by Adam Gragg

25 Gratitude Building Questions (post) by Adam Gragg

30 Happiness Building Actions (post) by Adam Gragg

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Adam Gragg is a Legacy Coach, Blogger, Podcaster, Speaker, & Mental Health Professional for nearly 25 years. Adam’s life purpose is helping people & organizations find transformational clarity that propels them forward to face their biggest fears to LIVE & leave their chosen legacy. He’s ultra-practical in his approach, convinced that engaging in self-reflective ACTION & practical tools, practiced consistently, WILL transform your life. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, and helping clients overcome anxiety, depression & trauma. Contact Adam HERE. if you're interested in getting started on deciding YOUR legacy.

Often the circumstances in our lives can try to derail us completely.  Just a few weeks ago I was involved in a fender bender.  No one was hurt, but it could have easily caused me to give my power.  Today I want to explore four key facts to ensure that you don’t give power away to your circumstances.  On this episode we discuss:

• Who or what do you give your power away to?
• You have power over your thoughts (but not control)
• Staying productively busy
• How neurofeedback works
• You have power over your emotions (but not control)
• Figuring out the root of your emotions
• You have power over your response to others
• Just try your best when you get flustered
• Asking clarifying questions
• Create an intentional or planned response
• You have power over the actions that you take
• Actions are your own responsibility
• The “No Snooze Button” promise

Resources:

Neurofeedback

Mendi

Myndlift

Decide Your Legacy Podcast #81: One Small Massive Radical Change on Apple & Spotify & YouTube (full episode video)

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Adam Gragg is a Legacy Coach, Blogger, Podcaster, Speaker, & Mental Health Professional for nearly 25 years. Adam’s life purpose is helping people & organizations find transformational clarity that propels them forward to face their biggest fears to LIVE & leave their chosen legacy. He’s ultra-practical in his approach, convinced that engaging in self-reflective ACTION & practical tools, practiced consistently, WILL transform your life. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, and helping clients overcome anxiety, depression & trauma. Contact Adam HERE. if you're interested in getting started on deciding YOUR legacy.

I’m a fan of several sports teams: Oakland A’s and the Oregon Ducks.  But I wouldn’t classify myself as a fanatic.  Today we are going to dive into one fanatical thing you can do to make a massive impact on your life.  On this episode we discuss:

• What is a change you keep putting off
• What do you want the most
• Commit to one small change for 7 straight days
• Create clarity
• How will you feel with this change
• What are your biggest obstacles
• Identify the positive triggers
• The if/then strategy
• Who can support you?

Resources:

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Adam Gragg is a Legacy Coach, Blogger, Podcaster, Speaker, & Mental Health Professional for nearly 25 years. Adam’s life purpose is helping people & organizations find transformational clarity that propels them forward to face their biggest fears to LIVE & leave their chosen legacy. He’s ultra-practical in his approach, convinced that engaging in self-reflective ACTION & practical tools, practiced consistently, WILL transform your life. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, and helping clients overcome anxiety, depression & trauma. Contact Adam HERE. if you're interested in getting started on deciding YOUR legacy.

Where does your time and talents go?  Where we spend these items indicates what we place a priority on.  But to remain balanced and healthy you must ensure you regularly make your own self-care a priority.  On this episode we discuss:

• What happens when we make our priorities
• Don’t let self-care become urgent and critical
• The danger of tunnel vision
• Confusing selfish v. selfless
• Have faith rather than fear
• Trust your intuition
• Be disciplined
• Create a time budget/diary
• Plan things into your schedule

Resources:

How to Make Good Decisions (post) by Adam Gragg

4 Quadrants Time Management Tool Explained (video) by Adam Graggs

Decide Your Legacy Podcast #22: Trusting Your Intuitiion on Apple on Spotify

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Adam Gragg is a Legacy Coach, Blogger, Podcaster, Speaker, & Mental Health Professional for nearly 25 years. Adam’s life purpose is helping people & organizations find transformational clarity that propels them forward to face their biggest fears to LIVE & leave their chosen legacy. He’s ultra-practical in his approach, convinced that engaging in self-reflective ACTION & practical tools, practiced consistently, WILL transform your life. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, and helping clients overcome anxiety, depression & trauma. Contact Adam HERE. if you're interested in getting started on deciding YOUR legacy.

Someone once asked me what the best advice I would give on relationships if I only had a minute.  And that question was in my head for an entire week.  Today I want to share with you my biggest two pieces of advice to mend your closest relationships.  On this episode we discuss:

• The damage of avoidance and withdrawal
• Actions v. intentions
• The defensiveness trigger
• What inconvenience communicates
• Blame the right thing (go to the source)
• How is the avoidance connected to the past
• What happens when you believe your assumptions
• Ask for more clarity and be curious

Resources:

Decide Your Legacy Podcast #78: Get You Mind to Shut Up on Apple & Spotify & YouTube (full episode video)

Decide Your Legacy Podcast #62: Building Trust with Others on Apple &  Spotify

Decide Your Legacy Podcast #50: A Big Mistake Most People Make on Apple on Spotify

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl

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Adam Gragg is a Legacy Coach, Blogger, Podcaster, Speaker, & Mental Health Professional for nearly 25 years. Adam’s life purpose is helping people & organizations find transformational clarity that propels them forward to face their biggest fears to LIVE & leave their chosen legacy. He’s ultra-practical in his approach, convinced that engaging in self-reflective ACTION & practical tools, practiced consistently, WILL transform your life. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, and helping clients overcome anxiety, depression & trauma. Contact Adam HERE. if you're interested in getting started on deciding YOUR legacy.

Whenever something good happens my first reaction is surprise and excitement.  But almost immediately after, my inner monologue chimes in and starts spreading lies.  It doesn’t have to be that way and today we’ll explore why the voice exists and what you can do to make it shut up.  On this episode we discuss:

• The book that I recommend to so many people
• What is something you keep putting off?
• The Inner Roommate
• How the past informs our inner voice
• Why safety is at odds with what’s best for us
• Being response-able
• The four things you can do to shut the voice up
• Increase your awareness
• Turning down the volume
• Call B.S. when necessary
• Being compassionate to yourself

Resources:

Recommended Books

The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer

Soundtracks by Jon Acuff

Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers

The 4:8 Principle by Tommy Newberry

Winning the War in Your Mind by Craig Groeschel

The Magic of Thinking Big by Richard Schwartz

Podcast & More on Journaling

Decide Your Legacy Podcast #56: How to Organize Your Thoughts on Apple on Spotify

100 Journaling Prompts for Reflection & Insight (post) by Adam Gragg

How to Journal for Self-Improvement (post) by Darius Foroux

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Adam Gragg is a Legacy Coach, Blogger, Podcaster, Speaker, & Mental Health Professional for nearly 25 years. Adam’s life purpose is helping people & organizations find transformational clarity that propels them forward to face their biggest fears to LIVE & leave their chosen legacy. He’s ultra-practical in his approach, convinced that engaging in self-reflective ACTION & practical tools, practiced consistently, WILL transform your life. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, and helping clients overcome anxiety, depression & trauma. Contact Adam HERE. if you're interested in getting started on deciding YOUR legacy.

We just finished mental health month and you might be thinking about some people around you that you know are struggling.  Even though we sometimes feel like we can’t do anything, little things can make a big difference and we’re going to talk about how to provide that help.  On this episode we discuss:

• Learning to listen and validate others
• Asking open ended questions
• Getting your heart right
• Directly ask how you can help them
• Make an offer
• Find out what they have tried already
• Help them change their perspective
• Support their pursuit of action

Resources:

Getting to Know You Activity

I guarantee there is much you will never learn about those you're close to unless you ask. You WILL be surprised by what you discover from asking some of the questions on this Getting to Know Your Family question list. Start with the questions you're most genuinely curious to learn about the other person. It’s fine if they want to pass or not answer. Consider making an audio or video recording of these interviews for others to enjoy.

A Secret to Overcoming Depression (post) by Adam Gragg

Coping with Anxiety (post) by Adam Gragg

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Adam Gragg is a Legacy Coach, Blogger, Podcaster, Speaker, & Mental Health Professional for nearly 25 years. Adam’s life purpose is helping people & organizations find transformational clarity that propels them forward to face their biggest fears to LIVE & leave their chosen legacy. He’s ultra-practical in his approach, convinced that engaging in self-reflective ACTION & practical tools, practiced consistently, WILL transform your life. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, and helping clients overcome anxiety, depression & trauma. Contact Adam HERE. if you're interested in getting started on deciding YOUR legacy.

It’s a very special episode of the podcast as we are coming to you live from Italy!  I’m joined by travel expert (and my sister) Erica Gragg and my travel savvy daughter, Emerson.  We explore how you can get the most for your mental health through the joy and discovery of travel.  On this episode we discuss:

00:00:00 "Exploring the Benefits of Travel on Mental Health with Adam Gragg"

00:03:00 Exploring Mental Health and Travel

00:06:00 Packing Light for International Trips

00:09:00 Favorite Travel Destinations and Overcoming Jet Lag

00:12:00 How to Make the Most of a Transformative Travel Experience

00:15:00 Journaling to Let Go of Stress and Worry

00:16:00 Balancing Business and Pleasure During Travel

00:18:00 Benefits of Small Group Adventures in Wellness with Escape Artists Travel

00:19:00 Planning a Trip with Friends

00:22:00 Exploring the Benefits of Flexible Travel Planning

00:24:00 Managing Anxiety in Stressful Situations

00:28:00 Exploring Mental Health and Spiritual Growth Through Travel

00:29:00 Enhancing Spiritual Experiences Through Travel

00:32:00 Mindfulness and Overcoming Stressful Travel Experiences

00:34:00 Overcoming Fear of Traveling

Resources:

VENICE, ITALY PICTURES

100 Journaling Prompts for Reflection & Insight (post) by Adam Gragg
How to Journal for Self-Improvement (post) by Darius Foroux

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Adam Gragg is a Legacy Coach, Blogger, Podcaster, Speaker, & Mental Health Professional for nearly 25 years. Adam’s life purpose is helping people & organizations find transformational clarity that propels them forward to face their biggest fears to LIVE & leave their chosen legacy. He’s ultra-practical in his approach, convinced that engaging in self-reflective ACTION & practical tools, practiced consistently, WILL transform your life. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, and helping clients overcome anxiety, depression & trauma. Contact Adam HERE. if you're interested in getting started on deciding YOUR legacy.

Summary/Abstract

Adam Gragg begins by encouraging listeners to rate and review the podcast to help it grow organically. He then introduces the topic of today's episode: how travel can improve mental health and transform one's life. To illustrate this, he shares two risks he has taken recently: playing at a men's golf club and not having enough money to pay for his round of golf. Despite feeling embarrassed and the eye-roll from one of the players, Adam had a great time. He believes that taking risks and doing new things is a great way to improve one's mental health. Adam Gragg is a legacy coach.

The speaker is a mental health professional who helps people find clarity that allows them to face their fears and live out their desired legacy. He encourages listeners to think of themselves as both students and teachers and challenges them to describe a goal to a six year old. He then introduces two special guests: his sister Erica, who has traveled to over 85 countries and is rated by Conde Nast as one of the top travel experts, and his 16 year old daughter Emerson, who has been to Europe twice and all over the US. The speaker wants listeners to think of a place they want to travel to and write down their biggest fears about it. He and Emerson recently went on an RV trip around Utah.

The conversation between the hosts and Erica Gragg began with them discussing her travels over the past year. She has now visited ninety countries, the most recent being Egypt. She was captivated by the culture and history of the country, particularly the pyramids of Giza. They then discussed Colorado National Parks, and how she had trouble packing light for the trip. She mentioned she will have to do that for her school's trip to Ireland, Scotland, and Great Britain. They then talked about how they were currently in Venice, enjoying their stay at the Centurion Hotel, and their plans to also visit Verona and Milan before flying back to the U.S.

Erica and Adam have a conversation about the most exotic places Erica has visited. She has been to Egypt, Morocco, Turkey, Greece, Italy, and Tanzania. She has plans to go to Bhutan, Rwanda, Botswana, and some new islands in Greece. She also recently visited the Dolomites in Italy. Adam jokes that the longer he is in Italy, the more his accent becomes Italian.