Deeper Sex - A podcast about deeper connections and incredible sex

Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies - yet only few people have the courage to act on them. Is it something you should try, or is it better left as a fantasy?

In this episode, Will and Chiara explore the psychology behind group sex, the gap between fantasy and reality, and how to decide whether a threesome is right for you.

They go over the key conversations couples need to have before inviting a third person in, including the emotional impact, managing expectations, and how to navigate jealousy - often the biggest deal breaker.

They also explore how to test the waters with your partner - through dirty talk, fantasy role-play, or watching certain types of content together - to see if the idea is genuinely exciting or just intriguing in theory.

For those considering taking the next step, they share practical guidance on finding the right third, whether through dating apps, social circles, or more curated experiences like sex-positive events. They also explain the difference between FMF (two women, one man) and MFM (two men, one woman) threesomes, how to avoid common pitfalls, and why communication is essential at every stage.

Whether you're simply curious or seriously planning your adventure, this episode helps you explore your desires and possibility with clarity, awareness, compassion and respect for your relationship.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Why is a threesome the most common fantasy?

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If you want to learn more about sexual fantasies:

>> Don’t miss our previous episode on Apple or Spotify: There’s No Shame In Dirty Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Relationship

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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

Will and Chiara tackle another taboo topic that many men (and their partners) struggle with, but rarely discuss openly: erections.

From performance anxiety to the pressure of always staying hard, they explore how much of the struggle is psychological rather than physical.

They discuss how shame, unrealistic expectations, and overthinking can interfere with arousal, and share practical ways to overcome these challenges. From breaking free of the traditional sex script to exploring the benefits of unconventional practices like non-ejaculation, they offer unusual yet groundbreaking perspectives on male sexual confidence.

You’ll also hear how women often feel responsible for their partner’s arousal, why they may misinterpret erection issues, and how couples can learn to have open, reassuring conversations that remove pressure.

Whether you’ve felt anxiety around performance or simply want a more relaxed, fulfilling intimate life, we guarantee this episode will change the way you think about erections and intimate connections.

CHAPTERS 

00:00 When Did Your Dick Stop Working?

00:48 Let's Talk About Erections

02:11 The "Erectile Dysfunction" Label Does Not Serve You

03:07 Level 1 of "Mind-Fucking"

05:55 What About Cialis or Viagra?

08:40 More Pressure On The Man

09:44 You Naturally Have Things On Your Mind

11:28 The Mojo App for Erectile Dysfunction (20% off code: DEEPERSEX20)

12:44 Cock Rings Can Help With Performance

15:17 Do Women Like Cock Rings?

16:02 How To Talk About Cock Rings

18:43 Mind-Fucking Is The Problem

19:32 I'm Not Hard: How To Address The Elephant In The Room

20:26 10 Prompts To Start Difficult Conversations

21:02 Never Say "I'm Sorry If I'm Not Hard"

21:58 Have Some Fun With Sex Toys

22:46 Are You Saying I Shouldn't Ejaculate? Ever...?

23:25 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Increased Libido

24:35 Overcoming The Initial Resistance to Non-Ejaculation

24:58 Coming Is Not The Best Bit!

25:59 What Women Think Of Non-Ejaculation

26:25 The Pleasure Of Giving Pleasure

26:52 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Higher Sensitivity

27:42 Soft Dicks Are Nice!

28:46 Have You Tried A Tantric Massage?

30:37 The Secret of "No Goals" During Intercourse

32:57 The Importance Of Feeling Safe

34:19 Become A Better Lover

36:42 For Women: Tell Your Man You Like His Dick!

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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

This is a must-listen for both men and women looking to feel more, longer and better orgasms.

Today’s episode will completely transform your understanding of what “coming” is:

Did you know that there are many types of orgasms for women?

And did you know that men can orgasm without ejaculating… and vice versa?

Love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara challenge common beliefs around clitoral stimulation and vibrators, sharing their personal experience and tantric journey towards full body orgasms that can last for over 10 minutes – for both men and women.

Got your attention? Press play to learn a few tricks you can use in your next intimate encounter to give and experience a level of intimacy (and pleasure) that you didn’t think possible.

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CHAPTERS

01:22 How many types of orgasms are there?

04:34 Female orgasms

07:12 The "spasm orgasm" is the enemy

08:17 Leave the clit alone!

09:55 Vibrators desensitize you

13:52 How "presence" gives a massively enhanced sexual experience

17:23 You DON'T NEED to give an orgasm to each other

18:50 DO NOT THINK about what happens next

21:22 Best practices for men

21:36 The non-ejaculatory practice

22:45 How men can achieve longer, deeper orgasms

25:40 The secret to satisfy a woman in bed

26:18 Your sexual energy is the Life Force that drives your life

28:01 How you can support each other and both feel more pleasure

29:37 The secret club of pleasure

32:45 Give yourself some slack

33:21 The 21 days challenge

34:16 Do this to cure premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction (ED)

35:46 What to do when he wants more sex than her

37:11 If you are her

37:28 If you are him

37:51 How you can better communicate your needs

40:14 I feel pain during intercourse

42:02 How to get a mind-blowing orgasm (recap)

42:24 1. Stop stimulating the clit

42:32 2. Stop ejaculating (or practice separating it from your orgasm)

42:56 3. Try the 21 days challenge

43:21 4. Drop the blaming

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Get the book: 50 Misconceptions Of Sex by Alexa Vartman

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The 21 days challenge by The New Tantra

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- Download our guide: 10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner

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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you didn't dare tell your partner — and you stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection.

Download our free guide: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

Changing gears with Season 2, love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara explain in very simple terms the concept of relationship Polarity, and the importance of balancing the masculine and feminine energies that you input in a relationship - regardless of your gender.

They show how a polarity imbalance often leads to conflict, blaming, and general relationship unhappiness and unease.

In this episode, they offer insights and provide practical tips for how couples can bring harmony back to their relationships. By stepping back, showing vulnerability, and understanding each other's perspectives, couples can navigate their differences and bring back the “Lover’s Energy” that initially brought them together.

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CHAPTERS

00:34 What We Prepared For You In Season 2

01:38 What Is Polarity in Relationships

02:31 What Women Blame Men For

03:38 What Men Blame Women For

10:36 Do We Both Have Masculine and Feminine Traits?

15:25 How Do We (Re)establish Polarity?

17:55 Restore The "Lover's" Energy

24:20 Why It's So Important To Show Vulnerability To Your Partner

25:06 What Goes Wrong In Relationships When You Hide Your Vulnerable Side

28:31 What He Needs To Do To Make Her Feel Safe

32:38 What Is Real Masculinity Today?

36:40 It's Difficult To "Just Receive"

38:13 Connect With Your Feminine Side (regardless of your gender)

43:00 How Do We Connect Deeper?

43:17 1. It's A Dance For Two

43:37 2. Listen To This With Your Partner

44:47 4. Acknowledge That All Emotions Are Valid

45:17 5. Temporarily Suspend Your Belief

45:38 6. Ask Yourself: What Am I Really Yearning For?

46:00 7. Make Space To Receive From Your Partner

46:44 8. Don't Apologise For Your Emotions

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Link to Alexa Vartman’s book that we recommend on the show - “50 Misconceptions Of Sex”

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⚡️ Don't miss Chiara's next FREE live workshop

Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you didn't dare tell your partner — and you stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection.

⭐️ DOWNLOAD OUR FREE GUIDE >> 10 Prompts To Start Deeper Conversations With Your Partner

We have a big surprise coming up for you.

We are closing out Season 1 of the Deeper Sex Podcast to come back with Season 2 and offer something even more exciting and useful to you and your lover, in and out of the bedroom.

We believe that sex should not be the driver of arguments and unhappiness for a couple. Nor should it be taboo. 

We have witnessed, tried and tested on our own skin how it can be used to heal from trauma, fears, and to grow. 

What's coming:

We are taking the intimacy and sacred sexuality practices that have completely revolutionised our way of loving, and are putting them into very simple practical terms for you so, that everyone can apply and practice them in their own bedroom.

Meanwhile, don’t miss:

>> Our fav books

(this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you)

>> Catch up on these popular episodes:

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Join Chiara on her next live workshop: "The Deeper Lovers Effect"

Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you didn't dare tell your partner — and you stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection.

FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

Will and Chiara are interviewed by Human Design coach Adriana to explore how they transformed their lives through sexual exploration and liberation. 

They’ve made intimacy coaching their life’s purpose, because there’s so much fun and sex to be had in life, that everyone should be able to experience it! 

They talk about their journey of following their hearts and intuition, instead of conforming to what others expected. They highlight how their union is always of the utmost priority, above and beyond anything and anyone else.

On a spontaneous trip, they discovered the world of New Tantra and realized that that was “the code” - the language - for how they had been connecting all along. They found themselves into deeper and deeper sexual connections and an incredibly fulfilling sex life that massively influenced their business and their daily life… from miserable to super fun and exciting.

The secret to all this? Curiosity and… well, tune into the episode to find out!

Whether you’re a man or a woman wondering if there’s more to coupledom, or maybe bored in a sexless marriage, you too can go from an average relationship and a “middle-aged” sex life to an incredible connection with your partner, having mind-blowing, hours-long orgasmic marathons.

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To learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner, check out our episode on Apple or on Spotify.

And… don’t miss this book on the topic! “Wild Nights” by David Deida 

(this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you)

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To learn more about how you can work with and accept your body image, check out this episode on Apple or on Spotify

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CHAPTERS

01:18 Meet Adriana, our Human Design Coach

02:26 Download Our Free Guide

03:02 How Will and Chiara Help Clients Have Better Romantic Relationships

06:22 How The Power of Intuition Got Chiara The Amazing Husband She Has

09:55 Why Intimacy Coaching

14:32 Why We Decided To Explore Ethical Non-Monogamy

21:29 The Deeper Sex Podcast In The Making

22:42 We Explored The Swinging Community But It Was Not For Us

24:04 From Swinging to New Tantra

25:26 Fantasy vs. Reality

25:50 Are You One Of The People We Can Help?

34:45 Accepting Yourself And Your Body Image

40:43 How To Use Curiosity To Overcome Fear

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Join Chiara on her next live workshop: "The Deeper Lovers Effect"

Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you didn't dare tell your partner — and you stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection.

How open(-minded) are you, really? And how "free" do you feel?

Our biggest fear is not being loved. And fears keep us stuck in the comfort zone. But what happens when we suspend fear?

While reflecting on our kinda out-of-the-norm summer, we explain how openness, curiosity, and feeling comfortable in your own body can bring you a deeper sense of connection and, ultimately, freedom.

There's a different flavour when you meet people who are willing to share themselves and their stories - who are unapologetically themselves and in their body.

If you're one of those people that feel stuck and just dream of being free (from whatever) but don't know how, you might want to listen to this. The whole conversation is a beautiful metaphor for how life can be lived.

!! Don’t miss our book recommendation at the end !!

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CHAPTERS:

1:32 Our Mission Is To Help People Open To Love

03:50 Openness + Nakedness = Freedom

07:11 What You Wouldn't Expect About Being Naked

08:51 Feeling Comfortable vs. Feeling Confident

09:46 It's Not About You, It's About Them

13:10 You Can Be Monogamously Open

15:23 When Your Husband Shows You Support Instead Of Anger

18:22 How To Overcome The Fear To Love

19:16 Recommended Light Summer Reading: Wild Nights

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>> Recommended book: “Wild Nights” by David Deida 

(this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you - thanks in advance for your support!)

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⚡️ Don't miss Chiara's next live workshop on how to share your secret desires (only limited free spots available)

Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you didn't dare tell your partner — and you stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection.

Communication is THE KEY in enhancing relationships and sexual experiences.

Drawing from our personal and professional experiences, we share practical tips on how you can initiate open dialogues about desires, needs, and fantasies with your partner.

As always we emphasise on creating a safe space for vulnerability, avoiding blame, and using creative alternative methods like writing sexy emails to each other and listening to content together.

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- Download our guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

- Don't miss Chiara's next live workshop: "Stop trying to convince her - Get what you want anyway" (it's free)

Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you didn't dare tell your partner — and you stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection.

Jealousy can serve as a useful tool in relationships when rooted in objective facts: it can be a sign of real issues, but also a reflection of deeper insecurities. How do you know?

In this episode we cover the various sides of jealousy, how to understand when it is keeping you safe, vs. when it’s signalling that there’s something deeper to look into – your body generally knows best.

We look at jealousy in the context of ENM couples, tho the same concepts can equally be applied to monogamous relationships.

The importance of a strong relationship foundation, open communication, and setting flexible ground rules are what will make you feel safe, confident, and ultimately set you free. Embracing jealousy can be a tool to deepen intimacy – believe it or not.

If you've ever struggled with jealousy or just want to understand it better - this episode is for you.

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CHAPTERS:

04:55 How To Have Difficult Conversations With Your Partner

05:27 Keep The Dialogue Open And Ask With No Expectations

14:54 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe

16:00 Your Body Has All The Answers Inside

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The sensual surprise Chiara arranged for Will’s birthday (E7): Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify

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FREE BONUS CONTENT:

- Download our free guide “10 prompts to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

- Register for Chiara's next live workshop (it's free!)

Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

Have you ever dreamt of joining a threesome but never dared ask your partner? It’s a universal fantasy, and one that can become reality with trust and good communication.

In this episode, we share a very intimate experience where we pushed our boundaries further than ever before: for the first and only time in our life, Chiara is "lent" for the night as a Unicorn to Allie and her husband, while Will is away on an expedition.

He talks vulnerably about his internal struggle between a positively erotic idea and the negative social conditioning around masculinity and ownership that would mark this as incredibly wrong and dysfunctional. 

He also explains the strong bond he created with Allie’s man, the complete trust and clear communication that they have, highlighting the significance of male, brotherly energy and trust.

Our goal in sharing this story is to show you what’s possible when the bond in a couple is so strong, and complete trust has been achieved: we would have not been able to do this before our deep inner work and sexual deconditioning journey! 

Our intention is to purely inspire you to embrace sexual liberation by learning how clear communication, vulnerability and boundaries work - even within the boundaries of your monogamous relationship, there's plenty of things you can try out!

More episodes you might like:

>> E17 | How to get 10-minute long orgasms (for both men and women) - Listen on Apple or Spotify

>> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify

>> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify

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