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Are you “vanilla” or “spicy”? Are you into ENM? Are you not? Are you curious? How much should you share about this with your friends? And should you drag them into this exploration with you?

These are all themes we discuss in this episode, focusing on the importance of respecting the boundaries of people around you.

While we could not wish for deeper connections and the personal growth that we've gained from exploring ourselves the Ethical Non-Monogamy world (ENM), we understand this might not be necessarily everyone's cup of tea.

Our objective is, as always, to demystify society’s misconceptions, promoting open mindedness and sexual liberation, as this is THE SECRET recipe to a great sex life - whether you choose to have one or multiple partners.

If you’re looking for practical advice on how to navigate challenging but genuine conversations about your curiosity and interest in adding more people to your romantic situation, this is it!

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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

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For more info, visit www.chiarahardie.com

Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

Have you ever experienced how sensuality and soft touch can 10x your sexual encounters? 

Listen to the sensual birthday surprise that Chiara arranged for her husband Will: beyond the sexiness of it all, you’ll learn how embracing sensuality, soft touch, and vulnerability can positively impact your intimacy - and your relationship overall.

Will describes his struggle to relax and surrender to receiving attention from his woman, and how releasing the pressure of a “goal” can unlock new depths of pleasure and connection.

You will also learn how understanding and embracing your desires can be a powerful way to strengthen your bond and experience intimacy in a way you never have before.

If you’ve felt blocked, ashamed of not knowing what to do, or unsatisfied in your sex life, you don’t want to miss this episode.

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01:23 Beyond Sex As The Goal

03:17 A Sensual Surprise: What Chiara Planned For Will's Birthday

07:45 Learning to Receive As A Man

10:54 The Dom/Sub Relationship Parallel

13:02 Mindfulness Technique: How To Drop Into The Receiver Mode

15:21 How To Receive By Staying In Your Masculine

19:48 Exploring Sensuality Beyond the Bedroom

20:17 Inside Our Sensuality Signature Workshop: What to Expect

24:29 The Fantasy Game: Learn To Verbalise Fantasies and Tell Sexy Stories

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Listen to how you can talk about your sexual fantasies with your partner, how to share them with confidence and overcome taboos:

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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

Almost everyone carries with them a sexual fantasy they don’t dare to share. We hesitate to reveal our desires, even to a loving partner, out of shame or fear of judgment.

Some fantasies are scenes you might like to live out for real. Others will remain sexy movies that we play just for ourselves. Either way, fantasies are erotic fuel – and their power multiplies if you find courage to voice them.

In this super-sexy episode, we made ourselves vulnerable by sharing with each other some fantasies that we had never revealed before. We explore what makes it hard to express desires that our conditioning labels weird or dirty. We reflect on how liberating it feels to take that leap of faith and be rewarded with love.

We hope that listening to us might inspire you or trigger a spicy conversation or two with your partner.

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03:58 Fantasy 1: Being Taken

04:58 The Stigma Around Expressing Sexual Fantasies: Is It Shameful Really?

05:37 Conditioning of Female Sexuality: Why Can't I Be A Slut

07:14 Fantasy 2: Group Play

08:14 70 Virgins or 7 Sluts?

14:48 It's Important For A Woman To Feel Respected And In Control

15:06 Fantasy 3: Anonymous Sex In Public

19:17 Fantasy 4: Eye Contact with Strangers

19:43 Fantasy 5: Dirty Talk

21:01 Tip 1: use your voice

21:26 Tip 2: suspend the conditioning

22:10 Tip 3: set boundaries

22:39 Tip 4: eye contact game

23:10 Try our 10 prompts for free

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You might also like these episodes on the same topic:

» E23 | What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Spotify

» E24 | Why Suppressing Your Sexuality Is Counter Productive And How You Can Live Out Your Fantasies – Listen on Apple or Spotify

» E26 | Open Or Monogamous Relationship? Neither Lasts Without These 3 Pillars — With Eva Di Pierro – Listen on Apple or Spotify

Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

This is our Origin Stories episode. Hear about the journeys that brought Allie, Will and Chiara from conservative childhoods, breakdowns, divorces and body shame to happiness and the strongest relationships of their lives.

We explain how we discovered ENM (ethical non-monogamy), survived novice mistakes and navigated the circus, but also how we learned to communicate to each other fearlessly, established trust and practiced standing up for ourselves, over and over again.

Perhaps you can’t picture yourself in an Eyes-Wide-Shut party - just yet or ever - and that’s fine, every relationship is beautiful and unique as is. We just want to use our unconventional and “a little out there” stories to help you explore what’s possible, providing ideas that can empower everybody.

Our recommendation is: take what resonates and works for you, and leave out the rest!

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CHAPTERS

02:33 How Will Started Exploring Unconventional Relationships

05:37 Chiara's Journey From Her Catholic Roots

08:21 From Fantasy To Reality

09:53 Always Communicate Clearly

11:37 Sexperts Night

13:15 Visiting Fun4Two Swingers Club

14:14 The Dark Room

15:58 The Hot Tub Incident

18:50 Allie's Journey From Small Town Girl

21:47 If We Cheat We Cheat Together

23:09 An Eyes Wide Shut Party Gone Sideways

27:30 Connecting With Others - Together - Could Strengthen Your Relationship

32:12 Play Parties Can Enhance Your Body Confidence

33:49 Tips On How To Test The Waters In Sex Positive Spaces

34:42 Is It for Everyone?

36:49 The Thrill of Exploration: Keeping the Spark Alive

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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

Body image is a common problem for both men and women.

Here we discuss how negative perceptions can impact intimacy and relationships, and how healing and personal growth can transform your sex life and deepen your connection.

Women in particular often feel negatively about their appearance due to societal standards, so Chiara vulnerably shares her journey back to loving her body.

We also explore how the lens of positive self-perception can boost sexual confidence: deeper sexiness comes from feeling confident and comfortable in one's skin, rather than conforming to external beauty standards.

For those that might be curious, you’ll also hear how non-monogamy and swinging can be platforms for receiving genuine feedback from others that don’t necessarily have a vested interest in just giving you a compliment - like a husband or friend would do.

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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.

Are you longing for deeper, more intimate sexy time?

Today we share what we learnt about how to shift boundaries in the ENM and kinky world that we sometimes play in, and draw lessons for how intimacy and sensuality can supercharge connections - in all kinds of relationships.

We talk about how rare it is to find partners who share a similar emphasis on slow, intimate play, and we provide a few tips on how to communicate around intimacy in your own relationship – monogamous or not - so that you can experience mind blowing encounters.

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CHAPTERS

02:31 Exploring Intimacy Beyond the Norm

07:44 The Power of Sensuality

17:55 The Impact of Trust and Respect in Sensual Encounters

22:48 The Essence of Sensuality: Being Present and Connected with Each Other

30:07 Navigating Safety and Comfort

36:56 Is He Worthy Of You?

38:11 Exploring the Paradox of Intimacy in ENM

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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you've never dared say — be it sex, taboos, or your relationship.

Contrary to what many people fear, today we talk about how non-monogamy can strengthen relationships (the ones that are ready for it).

You’ll learn something seemingly counterintuitive: how can adding more “bodies'' into a relationship strengthen a bond? 

We unpack concepts like open communication, trust, honest conversations, respecting boundaries, and navigating complex emotions together. 

Allie shares how she made her man’s fantasy come true by organizing a surprise birthday party in his office… While you might think this is counter-intuitive, her story is actually a great example of how communication and trust made their relationship even stronger.

We’ll give you the ins and outs of how to prioritize the couple’s intimacy, desire, and mutual pleasure while maintaining a strong emotional connection with each other.

We also talk about: personal growth, how sharing fantasies can help you increase trust, how to communicate that there is something wrong by processing information before making a scene, and how to ask for what you need.

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[00:01:29] What is a Unicorn?

[00:02:32] Can swinging strengthen a couple's relationship?

00:04:01] The power of communication and boundaries in swinging

[00:04:31] Fantasies: a journey of exploration together

[00:04:54] Chiara’s perspective

[00:06:26] A naughty fantasy made come true as a birthday present to your man

[00:14:31] Will's perspective

[00:19:38] Respect is always a must

[00:19:45] How to navigate challenges and emotions in open relationships

[00:24:09] The importance of confidence and teamwork

[00:26:37] Open a relationship may result in massive personal growth

[00:35:01] "Desiring" vs. "needing" something in a relationship

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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you've never dared say — be it sex, taboos, or your relationship.

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>> Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

What are the challenges that couples face in maintaining a fulfilling sex life, especially as responsibilities grow and the initial spark fades?

Today we have a very open discussion about the importance of creating time for intimacy and sensuality - which is not just having “intercourse” as your main goal.

We share our own experiences and learnings, such as:

- how we communicated in tricky situations

- how we made ourselves vulnerable

- how to create a safe space for each other

We also discuss how non-monogamy might be an option for some, as a catalyst for deeper connection and exploration beyond what traditional society teaches us.

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CHAPTERS:

04:50 Common Struggle of Maintaining Intimacy

06:46 Prioritizing Your Relationship Amidst a Busy Life

10:50 The Importance of Quality Over Quantity in Sexual Relationships

15:43 Exploring Non-Monogamy and Its Impact on Our Relationship

22:18 Why Working On Yourself Enhances Your Sexual Connections

37:38 Advice for Couples Struggling with Intimacy

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Welcome to Deeper Sex, an intelligent podcast about fantasies, connection and sexual exploration.  

ABOUT CHIARA

ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. Ex sales director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Communicating and helping others perform were her daily bread. Finding herself successful but unfulfilled, she left her first marriage, quit the corporate world and embarked on a new journey – first to reinvent herself and then to help others chart their own path of purpose. She learnt to channel her energy from masculine overachiever to feminine goddess turned (self)-love mentor. 

Today Chiara runs deep intimacy experiences and programmes for men and women who want to stop performing to get love, intimacy and affection. She helps people find their voice and feel safe to talk about their desires and fears, without shame or drama.

ABOUT WILL

Psychologist, journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. For two decades his passion was the world of words and stories. He reported from wars and riots. He wrote communication strategies for governments and prime ministers. He coached CEOs and rocket scientists. He built companies and made his fortune, changed track, reinvented himself, and refocused his energy on inner meaning.

Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. He is fascinated by the power of love, intimacy and sexual liberation to forge profound relationships with others and unlock healing forces within ourselves.

Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.