Discovering Amazing Possibilities

"Where focus goes, energy flows. Where energy flows, whatever you're focusing on grows." -Kitty Gonzalez  

Hi. I’m Carmen Shields and I have ADHD and it's really hard for me to talk about. I got diagnosed for the first time at age 35. I sat on the diagnosis for about 5 months before I decided maybe I need some help navigating this phase of my life. Because the reality of it is... I've probably had it my whole life and never knew. It's been a struggle to talk about and I haven't really shared it with anyone even my family members. In this episode, I share part 1 of my story and hope it resonates with at least one person. Take what resonates and leave the rest!  

Resources:

 Evernote app  

Get an ADHD Diagnosis https://adhdonline.com/ 

More ADHD resources https://www.additudemag.com/category/adhd-add/ 

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 **Disclaimer** The concept What Else is Possible? is not something I created nor do I take credit for creating this concept. It is based on a concept I learned on my own journey of self-discovery, and have taken with me as a tool that has been a contribution to me in my life today. 

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I had the honor of chatting with Lorelei Colbert as she shares her story of being diagnosed with Triple Negative Breast Cancer shortly after being newly married. In this episode, we talk about all the things, and she shares how she discovered possibility on her healing journey filled with kindness and love. 

Lorelei Colbert is an award-winning advocate, speaker, and creator. At 28 years old, Lorelei was newly married and diagnosed with Triple Negative Breast Cancer shortly after. As she battled, she created the Chemo to Kindness℠ Challenge that inspired more than 1,700 acts of kindness and impacted more than 75 organizations worldwide. Now a survivor, her leadership work has been recognized by advocacy and industry groups as she continues to shed a light on breast cancer awareness in young women and the importance of advocating for yourself.

Connect with Lorelei

www.loreleicolbert.com

Instagram @loreleicolbert

Check out her watercolor greeting cards here:

https://www.loreleicolbert.com/shop

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**Disclaimer** The concept What Else is Possible? is not something I created nor do I take credit for creating this concept. It is based on a concept I learned on my own journey of self-discovery, and have taken with me as a tool that has been a contribution to me in my life today.

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As we’re children we are often told, “stop crying, don’t get angry, it’s ok don’t be sad, keep it to yourself.” We’re very rarely asked how we are feeling in that very moment, or told that it’s ok to feel all the feels and that we are safe. Little boys are taught not to cry because that would mean they are a sissy or too soft. “Toughen up boy and stop your crying,” is what some may have heard growing up. Then as adults, we begin to suppress all the “feels” even the negative ones because it’s just too hard, and if we allow our emotions to be felt we just couldn’t handle it. 

These questions I borrowed from some close friends of mine and I wanted to share them with you

1. What situation feels uncomfortable in your life right now? 

2. What emotions are you avoiding because they feel uncomfortable? 

3. How would you like to feel in this situation instead? 

4. How would you feel if you loved the emotions that you're experiencing right now? 

Gently repeat to yourself “even though, I feel uncomfortable around this situation in life (name the situation), I still love & accept me”

**These questions were created by Stephanie Virchaux & Kitty Gonzalez

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**Disclaimer** The concept What Else is Possible? is not something I created nor do I take credit for creating this concept. It is based on a concept I learned on my own journey of self-discovery, and have taken with me as a tool that has been a contribution to me in my life today.

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“When we spiritually surrender then our dreams can become reality. When we surrender, we allow the universe to catch up with her dreams.” 

“When you think you’ve surrendered, surrender some more.” -Gabby Bernstein 

It has come into my awareness that I’ve been consciously controlling something that is completely out of my control. I realized that my plan has been getting in the way of the universe’s plan. So then I go out into the world with this silent shame, and what I mean by that is, this controlling something that’s out of my control and I find myself projecting. 

As women, we have the silent shame that nobody really sees or hears. It’s this unspoken shame that women carry around. “I’m not good enough, it’s not ever coming my way, I’m too old for this, I’m not worthy, I’m always judging myself.” 

Gabby Bernstein puts it really well, she says, “We can’t show up with our agenda. We have to show up with grace.”   

4 Steps to Spiritual Surrender by Gabby Bernstein

1) Take Your Hands off the Wheel. Let the Universe be in the Driver's seat

2) Turn over Time

3) Giving up the Outcome

4) Turn it over to the Holy Triangle/Holy Box

The Universe Has your Back: Transform Fear to Faith by Gabrielle Bernstein

Super Attractor by Gabrielle Bernstein

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**Disclaimer** The concept What Else is Possible? is not something I created nor do I take credit for creating this concept. It is based on a concept I learned on my own journey of self-discovery, and have taken with me as a tool that has been a contribution to me in my life today.

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I heard this somewhere, and I can’t remember who said it, “When you change the way you look at things…the things you look at change.” 

Today’s episode is about “I am willing to look at this differently” Shifting the way you look at things 

I’m going to share a little bit about what was happening in my life last week..and get a little bit vulnerable and share my own perspective on when things are an annoyance or they’re frustrating at that moment, how can you pause for a moment and say to yourself “I’m willing to look at this differently” and how can I shift my perspective? 

I invite you to connect with your SELF as much as you can. Because when it comes down to our HIGHER SELF, our higher self knows exactly what we need in the present moment. Take a moment to tune into your Intuition. And If you don’t know what that means that’s okay. Start out by asking yourself a question, “What does my soul need at this very moment?” How can I look at things differently? 

99.9% of the time your intuition is leading you down the path that is meant just for you at the exact moment that you need it most. TRUST THAT! 

2 questions that you can ask yourself 

1) Are the expectations you have set for yourself realistic? And when you’re thinking about that question. Think about the expectations and ask yourself   “How am I willing to look at this differently?” 

2) Negative thoughts: Where is the proof this thought/these thoughts are true? 

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https://linktr.ee/amplifyhermedia 

**This podcast is part of the AmplifyHer Media Network

 www.iamcarmenshields.com 

IG @amazingpossibility 

**Disclaimer** The concept What Else is Possible? is not something I created nor do I take credit for creating this concept. It is based on a concept I learned on my own journey of self-discovery, and have taken with me as a tool that has been a contribution to me in my life today.

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When we’re young we think things are permanent. We believe we have all the answers and no one can tell us any differently.  When we age, we realize, nothing is.
 

I’ve realized not to take time with anyone for granted, especially the people I surround myself with…because they are the good ones for sure.  

I worked for the El Paso County Advertiser/Fountain Valley News as an intern at age 17. It was actually my very first job and I called it my “job” even though I was just an intern.

I would work there 3 days a week during the school year and during the work week during the summer. And even though I was just an intern, I did get paid. So I took a lot of pride in working there as a young person. And I’m so very grateful I got to be a small part of this paper’s legacy. I got to write news articles and take photographs and I was even able to write my very own column, called "Carma's Classic" yes…it was so cool!

I wrote this column in hopes to reach the younger generation even though I knew for a fact the younger generation would not be reading a newspaper….because they probably got all the news they needed online or through social media. But even so

I learned so much and grew up so much during that time!

That was such a hard and challenging time in my life as a young person, and I could have gone down a very dark path during that time.

I am SO grateful to have found Patty St. Louis as a mentor during that time and to have become part of what we call the “newspaper family.” It really was a family business…not just calling it the newspaper family, but it was a family-run business for 65 years. Two sisters running the paper, with their mother being the owner for 65 years. So it was a very special thing to be a part of.

While I have yet to fully understand that my own life is far from permanent. I hope the lessons on their way in the near future go easy on me.
 

The end of an era, but a lifelong legacy I was able to have been a part of. 

Local newspaper covering Fountain and Security/Widefield for 65 years closes     

KOAA News article      

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Check out the other podcasts on the AmplifyHer Media Network:

Amplify Her Podcast

Chingonas Only Club

The Momster Podcast

**Disclaimer** The concept What Else is Possible? is not something I created nor do I take credit for creating this concept. It is based on a concept I learned on my own journey of self-discovery, and have taken with me as a tool that has been a contribution to me in my life today.

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Nope not gonna. It’s just not my thing 
Definition of Resolution: 
A decision to do something or to behave in a certain manner. Conclusion, decision, determination. the act of making up your mind about something. 
A measurement of the number of pixels -- picture elements or individual points of color. In practical terms, resolution describes the sharpness, or clarity, of an image or picture. 
I really don’t like the cliche, “New Year New Me” to me, that’s pretty much a sales tactic people have come up with the promote their new program…whether it be to improve their health, their relationships, or a few different areas in their life they feel are out of control. To me…. “New Year New Me” isn’t really that appealing. It’s a bit exhausting to think about. 
Why do we as humans feel the need to make a BIG change in our lives just because it is January 1st? How about we shift things around to say, “New year, and I’m excited to be Just Me” OR “New Year, and I chose to be the authentic Me” or "New Year, and Ima-gonna kick ass” just a few suggestions to replace the whole “New Year, New Me" cliche.
 Yes, it is true that some people might feel like a different person compared to what they were a year ago….that’s totally normal to feel this way. I honestly feel different too…but that doesn’t mean that you have to spend the whole year, starting January 1st transforming yourself into an entirely “New You” Transformation is Hard sometimes, and it doesn’t just happen overnight. So that’s one of the main reasons I don’t create New Year’s Resolutions. 
The Top 5 reasons I don’t Set New Year’s Resolutions
 1) Resolution: The decision to do something or behave in a certain manner. It’s pretty much a waste of time, setting resolutions because by February 1st you feel like giving up. 
2) Why do we as humans feel like the word is so Super meaningful on JAN 1st instead of just simply setting goals throughout the year? 
3) My squiggly brain just can’t handle it. It’s a real challenge for me to set long-term goals without feeling anxious about it all. The word Resolution feels just WAY too heavy. I like to set goals and then do them in bite-size chunks.
 4) My Stop doing list: it's pretty much the opposite of a New Years Resolution. Think of it as a "Letting go list" 
 5) Priorities: as a person with ADHD, my brain has a different level of thinking, processing, and prioritizing. Creating A resolution Jan 1st just isn't one of them 
2023 is just around the corner. So let's stop feeling obligated to create a New Year's Resolution just because our coach told us we should start thinking about it now. Or our bestie said that they are creating a resolution and maybe you should too. Hip Hip Horray 2023 is nearly here. So Let's stop creating resolutions and just. Do. The. Damn. Thing! 
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**Disclaimer** The concept What Else is Possible? is not something I created nor do I take credit for creating this concept. It is based on a concept I learned on my own journey of self-discovery, and have taken with me as a tool that has been a contribution to me in my life today.

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I had a birthday a few weeks ago. While most people dread their birthday as it represents yet another year of aging…I absolutely LOVE Birthdays! When people ask me what my favorite holiday is…I usually reply with “my Birthday” even though I know it may not be a recognized holiday on the official calendar. I also love other people’s birthdays. All the magic and wonder that is discovered on this day of celebrating YOU. 

In this episode, I’m sharing Birthday reflections and how I was diagnosed with ADHD this past summer. While I haven’t really talked much about it with many people I thought maybe I could open up, get a little vulnerable and talk about it here on my podcast…not for people to say, “Oh that must be so tough to live with” but rather to educate others and to normalize it. I think as humans, to be alive and living this crazy thing we call life, we should be talking about the hard things…not just only the rainbow & unicorn things. 

To open up that door and let people know they aren’t alone and they can reach out to people they trust…to talk about it if they want to. Look, asking for help is not one of my strengths. But now I’ve found answers to questions I’ve wondered about for so long. Of why I sometimes feel so much time distortion and that I’m a bad person if I’m running late..or being afraid of asking for more time to complete a task. So when I decided I would look for a new therapist…I honestly was terrified. This year is going to be yet another journey of healing & discovery for me. Another f****n’ growth experience. Another journey in my life where I get to call the shots and discover that ADHD is actually my superpower and I can use it to my advantage…I can create space for my different way of thinking and not feel bad about it. Where I become BFFs with my executive functioning skills and I’m no longer afraid of my to-do lists if they aren’t complete at the end of the day. Where I get to explore my creativity and make it work to my advantage. Because…I am F*****G AMAZING!!

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**Disclaimer** The concept What Else is Possible? is not something I created nor do I take credit for creating this concept. It is based on a concept I learned on my own journey of self-discovery, and have taken with me as a tool that has been a contribution to me in my life today.

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On today's episode, I chat with Stephanie Powers. We talk about all things Astrology and how sometimes out there in this human world you sometimes have to do a Spirituality mindset shift to quiet all that--what I like to call "jibber-jabber." 

Stephanie is the creator of Lightworkers Lounge -- a community where people share tales of having a human experience, in a spiritual world. A three-time entrepreneur, Stephanie teaches that a close connection to your spirituality is the key to success in anything in life. She’s an Astrologer, Author, and Pug Mom who currently resides in the San Juan Mountains of Colorado. 

Connect with Stephanie 

Instagram: 

@lightworkerslounge                     

@stephanie__powers                     

 @cosmic___coconut 

www.lightworkers-lounge.com 

Use code LIGHTWORKERS for 10% off any birth chart reading! 

Find Stephanie's Book  It's Just a Phase: Journaling with the Moon on Amazon 

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**Disclaimer** The concept What Else is Possible? is not something I created nor do I take credit for creating this concept. It is based on a concept I learned on my own journey of self-discovery, and have taken with me as a tool that has been a contribution to me in my life today.

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