Divorce Angel Podcast

This podcast is about the price of inaction and the costs associated when dealing Divorce.

Inaction – when we really aren’t getting things done and are unable to make those important decisions in life.I really didn't realize the effect that it had on people's life until I started working in this area of divorce. It’s all understandable because it takes a long time to understand what you want to be quite honest. I was there myself so I'm not throwing stones because I realize now how much inaction cost me in the long run. This is why I don't any longer sit inaction.I might be feeling sorry for myself, I might wonder how I found myself here and think this is all getting too hard, but I snap out of it quickly because the key out of inaction is knowing that you're in it and then as soon as possible shaking yourself out of it and get things moving again. The bottom line is, if we don't get things moving, it will start to affect other parts of our life; our family, our career, relationships and even to a point of affecting our health and our personal happiness. DON’T LET INACTION COST YOU A FORTUNE. Don’t miss out on opportunities because you're too busy worrying. Let’s get going!

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In my previous five podcasts I took you though 5 stages that you should face and overcome when dealing with Divorce.  In this podcast I want to summaries these new ways and take you though how I get disclosure from clients and ultimately just make their life easier.  

I want you to be honest with yourself and ask yourself, which part of these steps you are at right now? Victim, Overwhelm, Acceptance, Focus or Victor? Sometimes you may feel a mixture of it all or few and that would just mean that you haven't finished everything before you've moved up to the next part.

Think before you move on because there's nothing worse than moving from one relationship into another and not having finalized everything. The preparation mode and planning is the key to a Successful Divorce. That's what my job is all about, try and streamline the whole process of Divorce. I just want this whole process of separation and divorce to be as efficient and as quick as possible.

Sometimes in a separation or a divorce you really do get to know the sort of person you are moving forward. I hope you find some useful tips in this podcasts. 

Links:

Divorce Roadmap Session:

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I'm so excited to bring you this last podcast in our series of the five stage philosophy of divorce. VICTOR! This is where I would want all my clients to be at by the end of their Divorce. Victorious! You may feel like you have just been to war and survived. It's exhausting, but you reached the end. This is when your picture for the future is clear. You have feelings of happiness, contentment, closure, excitement, and possibly relief. By the time you get to this stage you are bound to experience and feel like you have;

LEARNED: from yours and others mistakes, and things that you thought was impossible has become possible.

LOVED: feelings of happiness, content, closure, excitement, and possibly, relief.

LIVED: you look back and you can't believe how far you've come, how strong you are, and what you've achieved. Looking back is like reading the pages of a novel and you can't imagine how you've managed to get through it, but you did.

HAVE A PLAN: You know what to do, review, evolve, and celebrate.

This are the steps I take my clients through. From victim, to overwhelm, to acceptance, to focus, to victor. When my clients get to that victor stage, jeez, it fills me with joy. I hope you truly enjoy the podcast and are able to achieve this in your life.

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Divorce Roadmap Session:

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Over the last few weeks, we've been talking about my philosophy of divorce and how it requires us to go through five stages. This is the fourth stage in this process of a successful divorce. Once you've gone through each and every one of these stages, you will really grow and evolve as a person. When someone is in focus, they know what they want, and prepared no matter what to reach the goal, and are 100% committed to the outcome.This is where we get laser-sharp on who we need in our team, what outcome we want, and how we're going to go about achieving it.

Time is the most valuable commodity that we have in the world yet people take it for granted. Being 'Focus' helps us to answer how to get about the divorce as well as the second step which probably is the most important one - "How do I start the rest of my life thereafter?”.

Knowing what you want is probably the hardest thing you ever had to do, but it can be done. This is the part where you can turn your life around. Where your wildest dreams can come true. Where you realize you are stronger than you ever thought possible. Where moving on is full of excitement. You just have to think about it and then put the steps in place

• Plan
• Be prepared
• Protect yourself 

This requires a strong mind to know the actions you have taken are the right ones for you. All of that together is where we get laser focus, that's how we get the outcome that we need.

Links:

Divorce Roadmap Session:

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In this podcast we discuss the third principal of my divorce philosophy and one of my principals for a successful divorce- ACCEPTANCE. Acceptance is the beginning of your new beginning. This is where you decide to let go and lay the foundation to MOVE ON. 

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Links:

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar – Empowering Independence through Divorce

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In this podcast I explain the five principles of divorce success and how to move from Victim into Victor and outline the second Philosophy of Divorce - Overwhelm 

The Definition of Overwhelm is when something is too much to deal with.

The signs you are in Overwhelm consist of the following:

•   Struggle to make decisions
•  Completely frozen with inaction
•  Have a lack of energy and the ability to see your future.

I outline the dangers of staying in overwhelm and not moving forward and then the steps you can implement to help you move forward.

Links:

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar – Empowering Independence through Divorce

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In this podcast I explain the first stage of my five principals to Divorce Success. This is part of the Divorce Angel Divorce Philosophy. To succeed YOU must go through each of these steps to succeed, repair and heal and live a life as a Victor.

Find out more about the signs you are in Victim Mode: Guilt, Anger and Blame. And how you move forward to help you grow, forgive and evolve as a person.

Links:

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar – Empowering Independence through Divorce

https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

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Are you sick and tired of the fighting and want it to go away? I was once in a similar state in my life but I found the way to move on. On this podcast I discuss the lessons I have learnt looking back and how I now find inner peace to help me make the RIGHT decisions. 

Links:

My book: The Jelly Bean Jar – Empowering Independence through Divorce

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Melissa Davis started her business After The Affair, when she saw a need in the market for help and support for the cheated partner. It is a very unique situation; the guilt, the embarrassment and shame. There needed to be a program to address his or her needs on how to heal and putting back the jigsaw pieces of your life.

Having been put in the position with a young baby, Melissa struggled to heal and move on after she found out about her husband’s affair. She wondered why she felt the way she did and continually asked herself, was she not good enough? What did she do wrong? She felt guilt, embarrassment and shame.

After separating and becoming a single mother, money was tight, and she did not have the funds to see a counsellor or therapist and went looking for a resource she could afford. There was nothing, so she decided to put it together herself to help others in the same position.

If you would like to know more follow the links below:

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https://www.aftertheaffair.co/

Julia Kristina Counselling

https://www.aftertheaffair.co/julia-kristina

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Melo Garcia

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Melissa Davis describes her husband's affair as harder to process and deal with emotionally then the death of her close friend and sister. She continually asked herself, What did I do wrong? Was I not good enough? She questioned everything. 

Melissa talks about what she calls the "Waterfall Effect' - which is everyone coming out of the woodwork to confess their knowledge of the infidelity.

And her ability to trust again, how sticking to her morals saw her sack her lawyer and how having an ugly cry made her feel so much lighter.

Learn the lessons she shares to prevent you living in pain any longer than necessary and how there is help available.

Links:

Website www.aftertheaffair.co

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/aftertheaffair_co/

Facebook www.facebook.com/aftertheaffair/

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