Divorce Angel Podcast

In this week's podcast,  How to Choose The Right Divorce Lawyer, I discuss the different kinds of legal help and support you should consider and what the terms mean. Lawyer, Solicitor, Attorney and Barrister.  If it is not confusing enough, who do you require on your side to help streamline and efficiently get a successful outcome? Also, what makes a good lawyer, what personal qualities you need to look for and why they can make all the difference to your outcome. I explain in detail the benefits of certain traits, to help you avoid costly mistakes. In my business, like any industry, I see many wonderful lawyers and some simply dreadful. Picking the difference can be one of the most important things YOU do, but also knowing when to move on because they are not acting in your best interest, is also a very crucial decision and l share a story that cost someone $400,000.00. And a little known hack to find the best lawyer…………. So let’s get into it:

Today’s episode: How to get Divorced. In this week's podcast, I discuss the actual process of getting divorced legally.  All lot of clients assume that before considering talking to a professional about their separation they need to wait 12 months. They don't understand the different stages. Yes, while it does take 12 months to apply for your divorce decree, it does not mean in the meantime you should not be working on your financial and parenting arrangements. There is a lot of confusion around this process and how best to get it completed. Actually dissolving your marriage by applying for a divorce, in my view is the easiest part of the process and can be completed online. In this podcast, I explain why you need a divorce and then breakdown the stages for applying for your divorce and how to save some coin by being clever.

Throughout my journey and career of supporting, guiding and teaching people through their Separation and Divorce. I've often wondered why some people react the way they do and why some recover quicker than others. If I can work out the formula maybe there will be less hurt in the world and people can move on with their lives. In my book ‘The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through divorce, I refer to the three divorce dilemmas, which are really my break up categories. These categories allow me to better understand, what a client is going through and who they need as part of their team to help and support. If you find yourself struggling and don’t understand why it is taking you longer than someone else, to accept your situation or grieving and sorrow seem to be how you would describe your feelings. Remember, no two divorces are the same  and in this podcast, you will understand why So let’s get into it:

Today’s episode: The 10 Little known SECRETS to DO DIVORCE BETTER For the past three years, l have spent my time and money, watching, learning and instructing my clients on how to Do Divorce Better. The problems I witness seem to recur over and over. Maybe not to the same extent but certainly because people are ill-informed of the consequence and allow things which they think are out of their control to escalate. This problem does not discriminate. It does not matter whether you are wealthy or not. Male or female. If you want to succeed at your divorce then what is your plan? Do you have an outcome you want to achieve or like many others are you just walking around in the darkness, hoping to find the light.  This epidemic is crushing to people’s lives and I am now teaching these tools in my Divorce Roadmap Course. The same way I help my clients form their strategy and then build their team. There are so many things that can go wrong and unless you have a clear divorce strategy you will fall into the trap of allowing other people to guide your future. Now is the time to take control of your future. The following 10 little known secrets to do divorce better are the top of my list for prolonging a person's divorce settlement, spending more money than necessary and to be honest cause heartache, (when you are already heartbroken), which may have been preventable.

In this week's podcast, let’s have a chat about Divorce Mistakes 101.  I thought it important for those of you considering a divorce to have an insight into the three mistakes l see clients make regularly.  Especially people who contact me after spending up to 18 months of their life in the legal arena having got nowhere and wanted us to fix up the mess, they find themselves in. If you have been listening to the podcast, you would know, I love a plan. Part of our success comes from our Divorce Roadmap sessions which all our clients must complete before even considering their next steps. I see no reason why someone should spend money unnecessarily on something they don't need or make a situation more complicated if it can be simplified. And most people don't plan on a successful divorce or separation. They HOPE. That’s correct HOPE. To me, hope is not a strategy. Living in hope can cause stress and anxiety and that is not how l choose to live nor do l want my clients to live that way. I want certainty wherever possible.  I want to know that my actions are getting me the desired outcome l strive to achieve. So to prevent mistakes, do you have a plan to get what you are legally entitled to and financially able to achieve? This is the starting point of your next chapter. To get there successfully and as quickly as possible, we need to prevent mistakes So let’s get into it:

In today’s episode #5  we are going to discuss ‘The Dangers of Listening to Other People's Divorce Stories and Why?’ I don't know about you but when l was younger, no one talked divorce, all of our friends were happily married and then one day it seemed to happen, and one by one our friends started to break up, then other acquaintances and friends of friends. Wow, you start to feel like the last man standing. Everyone had a horror story and to be honest, it was all so negative. Now I know this sounds silly to say but, ’Where are all the good divorce stories?’ Then it happened to me and here l was after a 22-year marriage listening to others who had gone before me. Even people who had not been divorced but knew someone who had... gave advice. All from a place of compassion and love but completely unsolicited and not necessary. I also see this regularly with my clients and this is where things can get very dangerous, out of control and costly.  In this podcast, I really want you to understand why listening to other people is sometimes not the best thing to do and if anything can cause greater animosity and be very unproductive. When l originally started working on the divorce angel business and the concept, this very topic was one that needed to be addressed because I saw it as one of the major pillars in causing both timely and costly mistakes with separating and divorcing couples. Listening to other people at a time like this, when you are at your lowest point and looking for someone else to take control of the decisions, seems to be the answer. Surely, they’ve been through this, they know the rules of the game and hopefully have the answers l am looking for.   But in the majority of cases, this can be completely counterproductive and costly. You may ask but Tanya, Why?? Well, let me explain further…..

Hello and welcome to the Divorce Angel Podcast Episode #004. I’m your host Tanya Somerton. And for those of you who don’t know me or haven't listened before I would just like to explain a little bit about me. I’m obsessed with helping clients chart a course through the complex process of divorce and starting a new life. I ran a Boutique Business both online and in person where we help clients simplify the process of Divorce with either Divorce Courses or we are on hand with a Step-By-Step Process and an Army Of Angels, prepared to help and rebuild our clients lives. I have an amazing group of professionals from all over the Country for a successful outcome, from Lawyers, Financial Advisors, Accountants, Child Psychologists, Counsellors, Real Estate agents, Buyers Advocates, and many other experts. We are a ‘One-Stop Divorce Shop’. So, that's enough about me, now, let’s get into you and hopefully this weeks podcast might be able to help and support those people who, unfortunately have found themselves in the painful situation, whereby they had no idea their partner or spouse was unhappy. And you heard them mumble those terrible words. ‘We need to talk.’ and you didn't even see it coming.

In today’s episode #003, we are going to discuss,’How to prepare an exit strategy to leave your marriage,’ and what is involved. This is a follow-up question asked in the ‘Divorce Angel Facebook group’ and something a lot of people struggle with. It all comes down to a solid plan and being able to execute it safely. You should really have a holistic and secure approach to ending your marriage, which requires a fully thought through exit strategy. Including what required steps do you need to put in place and be prepared for, before talking to your spouse? Such as: What does my future look like? If I leave how much money will I have or require to pay my bills? Where will I live? What will the kids do and how will this decision affect their quality of life? Do I need to get another job to support a higher income? Am I prepared for the consequences?

In today’s episode #2 we are going to discuss ‘When is the right time to leave your marriage?’ A question asked in the ‘Divorce Angel Facebook group’, and I thought it was a great way to start my very first full episode. Let's be honest; this is a life-changing and scary decision for anyone, who is considering leaving their relationship or marriage.  It should not come easy and takes a lot of soul-searching and contemplation. There are so many things to weigh up and consider especially if you have children. I would be worried if this conclusion was overnight, so don't be hard on yourself if it has taken years. With so much to weigh up including money and future security, it can be daunting. There is never a right time to leave. Some people stay longer than necessary others feel they left too soon. Everyone's circumstances are different. And there is no science behind the decision. So let's discuss, how you might  come to a verdict you are happy with and some tips to help you confirm your decision making process.

Hello and welcome to the first Divorce Angel Podcast and I’m your host Tanya Somerton. Having been the child of divorce parents, then divorcing my first husband after 22 years of marriage, I now help, guide and facilitate clients to streamline their divorce and help save them money and rebuild their futures. I struggled to find the truth even in this world of google to cut cost and eliminate future heartache. Being a process driven individual and a little bit of a control freak, I hated the though of letting someone else pave my path and destiny not to mention pay them a fortune. Where is the winning formula?? What makes a successful divorce? If you feel lost and want to avoid the mistakes that others have made before you, or are looking for tips to save money, this is the place. I am so excited to talk to you on a weekly basis and teach you the lessons the legal fraternity don’t want you to know and the formulas to help you build a strong and sustainable future. Email me if you have any questions or would like me to discuss a specific topic at [email protected]