Divorce Angel Podcast

Do you have time to make the wrong decisions? Life is to short to live with regret and sorrow or to live an unfulfilled life. In this podcast, I share the secret book that made me look at my life differently. I now realise there is a stopwatch on my life. I no longer want to wait and defer, wait and defer. I want to know that with my time has been spent wisely making memories and hopefully making the world a better place. There is a countdown and my life and yours as well. So what are you doing about it?

Have you ever wondered what the snowball effect of your unhappiness is to those around you and love you the most? Your family, friends and children. Asking yourself the hard questions can be a turning point in your happiness but having the strength the answer then honestly may put you down a different path. As Dr John Demartini says: 'The quality of your life depends on the quality of your questions.'

Have you ever wondered what makes a good relationship, my answer is Jelly Beans. Yes, that's right Bright Juicy Jelly Beans.  When l was a young girl, my mum explained that LOVE was like a jar of bright juicy jelly beans. And the need to look after and protect them was extremely important for a successful relationship.   In turn, when I told my first husband, my Jelly Bean Jar was empty, it meant our relationship was over and there was nothing he could do. Today, I have learnt from the past and l have Jelly Beans all over the floor, find out how you can have a successful relationship in my latest podcast. https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/

Let's for the sake of argument assume that Lawyers are a different breed to other human beings. Let's assume they speak a language that none of us understands. They write the same as us but the meanings have the ability to relay a different definition. They have the ability to portray a story between the lines and in the words unwritten. There is an undertone, which only another lawyer will understand. Your correspondence needs to be concise and actuate because that is what you are paying your lawyer for, it is this skill they have been taught when doing their degree and evolved over time, so why do some many clients think changing a letter will make all the difference?

Everyday l support clients as they deal with the heartbreaking decisions of dividing assets which they have worked hard to obtain. More often than not, I hear the woman say, ·I want to stay in our home. In a lot of cases, this just isn't possible. The thought of selling the family home, just another burden to bare. The emotional attachment and secure environment become the driving force in doing whatever possible to keep the property. In this podcast, we address the other opportunities available.

Just because you think you deserve a particular outcome from your marriage, the law does not work that way? The family court has a formula which lawyers use to work out what you are entitled. And the court will approve the orders under the terms ‘just and equitable’ for both parties, allowing you both to move on and build a new life from the equity built up in your relationship. Where a 50/50 split may seem fair when dividing assets, there is a list of criteria which also needs to be considered. Not only for you to survive now but also into the future. Consideration contributions at the start of your relationship, during and contributions made by other parties, such as gifts or inheritances. Researchers say it takes five years to get back on your feet financially after a divorce. This fact happens whether you remain friends or enemies. And emotions can heighten the need to win at all costs. Knowing what you are entitled too and being prepared to receive that and nothing more can cut the cost of litigation and emotional distress. In this podcast, I will go over some of the criteria needed to help your lawyer evaluation your position and financial entitlements.

When a client walks into my office, saying she needs help leaving her marriage, I normally look for positives to help her move on and build a new life. In this podcast, l am going to explain the strength, family support and willpower one client had to leave her marriage, start a new job, relocate her family and decide to go bankrupt. None of this was what she expected when marrying her husband or dreaming of a successful future. Like many of us, she stayed in a marriage because she thought she was doing the right thing for everyone around her and did not want to let anyone down, especially her teenage children. Instead, she realised her husband had been lying for years and did not want to face up to his financial reality. Leaving her with phone calls from debt collectors and people he owed money too. This story is not uncommon, but thankfully, most people are able to move on with a little bit of financial equity from their relationship. But starting again in your late 40’s and having nothing to your name can certainly make you question, ‘What has it all been for?’ This client showed strength beyond words and in a short period of time has turned her life around. She amazes me, and her story will stay with me for a long time. Life is what we make it.

Today’s episode: Uncovering Your Greatest Struggles and Doing Your Own Divorce Roadmap Have you noticed that everything successful has a process that is followed? It is how as a society we survive. In my previous corporate role, everything had a process or a procedure and there was no area for doubt, we mitigated every risk. The safety and protection of staff, contractors, visitors and customers relied on it. It was a highly volatile environment and critical for everyone to follow the rules. It was at this stage that I was going through my separation and getting divorced. The frustration I felt about the lack of information or process to follow infuriated me and highlighted the need for the legal and court process to be visible to those going through it. Rather than a cloak of secrecy. So this podcast is to help you understand the need for a Divorce Roadmap and how we carry them out with our clients. With this information, you can put a plan in place and mitigate the risks in your personal situation. This is the biggest issue I see and hear about in hindsight from people. If only I had……… If only I knew…….. If only I was aware of your business. If only………. Don't be one of those people have a plan and be prepared.

Today’s episode: Protecting Your Investments During Divorce The current stats show that couple’s getting divorced are in their early 40’s. Women 42 and men 45 years old. This is also the period in our lives when we acquire most of our wealth. After our childrearing years, capital growth in our family home and careers taking off when most senior promotions and pay increases occur.  It is also the period when people start paying off their mortgages or start purchasing investment properties and shares. All with the intention of retiring and funding the future. It is for this reason that making the BEST choices is imperative. And that includes which investments to keep, to sell or transfer to your spouse when you decide on your financial separation and agreement. You do not want to have an STD             ( Sexual Transmitted Debt). This is NOT something a lawyer should be advising on. In this podcast, I outline the dangers of allowing this to happen and how it can damage your financial future.

Wondering whether you have made the right decision to leave your marriage when times get tough, is natural. And at one time or another everyone considers this prospect. Some people more often than others, especially if your life feels uprooted, out of control and you are living from week to week. When you still have feelings for your ex-partner but know without a doubt that your life would be better without them because of the toxic environment you co-existed in. That is not love, that’s survival. One day you find the strength to leave, only to reconsider because life seems worse. You feel like you need more strength now then you did before. In this podcast, I explain why you feel that way and how looking at the bigger picture will get you through. These feelings are not forever. When we are scared and feel uncomfortable, that is a sign everything will be alright as you are building a happier future.