April 19, 2022

Divorce Dating and your Children with Divorce over 40's Daniel Herrold on Doing Divorce Different with host Attorney turned Mediator Lesa Koski # 44

32 minutes

Are you Divorced, over 40 and thinking about dating. Daniel Herrold the Divorced Dad walks us through how he navigated dating and divorce with teens. Daniel shares his authentic story and some feelings of shame about how he handled dating when his marriage ended. In this episode he shares what he would have done different and what he did right. This delightful conversation begins with answering when should I start dating? Daniels heartfelt response is not before the decree is signed. He urges people to heal themselves first, hire a therapist, get comfortable with your new parenting situation; and when you feel complete on your own you are ready to begin dating.

He feels very positive about how he introduced his girlfriend to his children. He never talked to his kids about dating or introduced them to anyone until they were ready. How did he know he was ready? His kids initiated it. They were curious and Daniel was always honest. When they asked to meet her and Daniel felt it was a committed relationship everyone was prepared. He adds that each situation is different. Some kids may be extremely upset and you may need a different plan in place.

Daniel has strong feelings about dating apps. He brought a new perspective to me. You know how above we talked about wait to date until you feel complete. Well a lot of the people over 40 on dating apps are not healed yet. They jump into dating as a wounded individual and that is not going to lead to any successful connections. Daniel says when you are ready, put all your lines in. Network with good friends. Remember the hobbies you love and do them. "Put yourself out there!"

Daniel began Divorced Over 40 with conversations among a few new friends.

Over small dinners and happy hours during the summer of 2020, six 40-somethings in Tulsa realized one striking common denominator: their midlife, post-divorce status. Messy, raw, friendly,

acrimonious, you name it – our experiences with divorce and our ex were varied, but all of

them sang from the same sheet of music: divorce midlife is not for the faint of heart.

Themes began to emerge such as the importance of friendship, managing a new set of

finances, self care and healing, successful co-parenting and, of course, dating. Find Daniel here:

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MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST:

After 18 years of Elder Law and Family Law, Lesa Koski brings extensive experience to the complex area of Mediation. Koski Law & Mediation offers:

1. A simple streamlined approach to Divorce with a peaceful outcome.

2. Attorney turned Mediator with a modest flat fee and unlimited communication.

3. At your side from start to finish and beyond.

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