Divorce Your Story Podcast

When you're attempting to make sense of the dissolution of your relationship...one of the questions you could be asking yourself is "Why were they unable to see my value and efforts?"

That question will keep you in an endless loop to find an answer, question yourself, and believe that they're inability to see your worth makes you unworthy....

Before you know it, you're connecting the way you view yourself based on the success of the relationship..

We can come up a million reasons as to why someone is unable to recognize the value you have however, It's important to understand what you need to know for yourself when you're asking yourself this particular question.

On this week's podcast, join me this week as I go over 3 things you need to know when you find yourself in this mental and emotional space.

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When you keep asking yourself questions such as:

Then the most important thing is to get into some conscious awareness.

Overtime, when place in non-mutual relationships, you risk repeating the same pattern to even compromising your self-confidence, self-worth and self-respect.

On this week's podcast, join me as I give five reasons on why you keep getting hurt in relationships.

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How loyal are you to your past?

The past is not always "left behind"...oftentimes, it can travel with you therefore developing inaccurate truths and narratives about who you are, whose you are, and how far you can go.

How freeing would it be to decommit yourself from what has taken place in your life and recommit yourself to a new one?

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss why this is important, what holding on to your past can do to you emotionally, and the first thing you can do today to get started.

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Ending a relationship can have you questioning your self worth.

You may find yourself with questions and/or statements such as:

Which is turn results in feelings of

On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss three things to start reclaiming your self-worth.

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There's this misconception that when the relationship is over, all feelings are gone when that's hardly even the case. This can cause a person to believe that missing them is a sign to return back to a relationship that they may need to stay away from. The truth is you will miss them and you may still love them because that's a part of the healing process however that doesn't mean you should go back to them. 

Join me this week to discuss 3 things to consider when you find yourself thinking that you should go back or your find yourself consumed with thoughts of missing them and you still being in love with them.

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Let's talk food...specifically your personal relationship with food & what does that relationship currently consists of.

And this is much deeper than just weight loss, counting calories, the numbers on the scale, eating healthier, what to eat/what not to eat, and working out. This is more about identifying and being aware of our behaviors, perceptions,  triggers, emotions and mindsets around food.

From our upbringing, to our culture, to even our personal life experiences as well as our relationship trauma, these influences have made a massive impact on our current relationship with food.

And even though food is indeed a need in all of our lives what's most important is having a peaceful relationship around food that will enhance our wellbeing being and quality of life.

On this week’s episode, I invited Licensed Psychologist and Food Relationship Strategist, Dr. Ebony Butler to come and have a much needed discussion around our relationship with food. Join us as she discusses the impact that diet culture has on the body, relationship trauma and it’s connection with food, why “loving” yourself may still be challenging, as well as tangible steps that a person can do to improve their relationship with food and unlearn diet culture.

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Divorces/Breakups hurt, however, what perception has been developed from this experience? What story are you constantly rehearsing, rehashing and replaying in your head and heart? 

One thing many overlook when relationships dissolve is developing a new plan. It's easy to become powerless after something doesn't work out and/or go as expected.

We're in the 2nd half of the year and you don't need a New Year to develop and strategize how you want your life to be and who you want to become.

On this week's podcast episode, join me for a 10 minute talk about the importance of having a plan.

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One of many challenges when dissolving a relationship is adjusting in ways that will help you heal forward…

I find that some people make themselves “too available” even though it’s over:

And even though the reasons can sound “valid”...it actually confuses you rather than heal you!

Simply put...there are just certain things that you must stop doing when you want to move on with your life from a relationship...

Join me this week as I go over four things you need to stop doing when it comes to your ex and your past relationship.

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Here's a unpopular truth: No relationship is guaranteed however when you're not on the same page in terms of wanting commitment, then you must be mindful on giving that person your time.

When you tend to entertain people where you're not in alignment with, you can not only cause your own pain, but also spend countless years and/or even decades in something that should've been dissolved a long time ago.

Overlooking this brings resentment, regret, humiliation and even shame and it's important to be mindful on who you decided to invest in.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation about  the importance of giving someone your time.

Click here to grab your free guide today on seven ways that will help you live life by design after divorce/breakup! 

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When you're in a cycle of "break up to make up", not only does it bring relationship dissatisfaction but it also brings psychological distress such as depression and/or anxiety.

Chances are, there's a hope that it will change or that it will get better but the probability of this dynamic will never change!

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this relationship dynamic as well as three important things that you must do IF you want to exit out of this cycle for good.

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