Hey everyone! We’re still on a summer break, but I’m excited to share a bonus episode with you in the meantime. In this episode,  I am joined by Lauren Caster, the writer, director, producer, and star of the new feature film, Rhythm Is a Dancer.

The film follows Roe, a young woman conceived through sperm donation, as she navigates questions of identity, family, and what it means to search for the person who helped create her.

I talk with Lauren about the film, the themes it explores, and the experiences that inspired it. It’s a story that will resonate with many in our community, and I'm excited to share our conversation with you. 

The film, which also stars Tate Donovan and Amy Aquino is available on demand wherever you stream films.

Be sure to check out Rhythm is a Dancer wherever you stream films, or on https://rhythmisadancer.movie/.

***SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: DNA Surprises will be taking a short summer break during July and August. I’m excited to come back in September refreshed, recharged, and with more stories from the NPE, adoptee, and donor conceived communities.

Thank you for listening, sharing, and helping make this community what it is. Have a wonderful summer, and we’ll see you in September!****

DNA surprises take time. Time to for the secrets to be kept. Time for them to be uncovered. Time to connect with newfound family members. So much of this experience is a waiting game

In the season 14 finale of DNA surprises, Brytanie shares how her difficult upbringing made feeling like an outsider in family seem normal. She never felt like she belonged, so she never suspected that the man she believed was her biological father, wasn’t. It wasn’t until a DNA test, and later, a seemingly harmless comment, revealed the truth.

Thank you for sharing your story, Brytanie.

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Sometimes, DNA surprises aren’t about misattributed parentage. Sometimes, the biggest surprises are the feelings we experience as we explore biological connections.

In this week’s episode, Tracy shares how she always knew was adopted, and always knew that she wanted to find her biological parents. Much to her surprise, after she reunited with both of them, she uncovered complicated feelings around boundaries and what she expected from her relationships. Overall, Tracy’s experience is one of acceptance - of her life and family.

Thank you for sharing your story, Tracy.

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The more, the merrier. Wouldn’t it be great if everyone involved in a DNA surprise had this mentality? While that’s unfortunately not always the case, this week’s guest has had an incredible time connecting with the family he discovered after taking a DNA test.

Nick shares why growing up, learning about his paternal side never really factored into his thinking, and how a DNA test changed everything.

Thank you for sharing your story, Nick.

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Words have power. Language is how we make meaning of the things we’ve experienced. For some, having language around DNA surprises, adoption, and donor conception helps people feel less alone.

And others take it even further, using the power of language to write about their experience. In this week’s episode, I’m joined by Linda Pevac, also known by her pen name, Emma Stevens. Linda has penned three books about her life as a baby scoop era adoptee.

We discuss her DNA surprise journey and why writing has been a powerful tool in sharing her story.

Thank you for sharing your story, Linda.

https://emmastevenswriter.com/books/

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After a DNA surprise, it’s common to look back and reflect on moments where the truth was right there in front of you. A slip of the tongue, that eerie feeling that something just wasn’t right. But you don’t know it until you know it.

In this week’s episode, Billy shares how he brushed up against the truth years before he learned the truth about his paternity. He shared what he’s learned, what relationships he’s built, and how his DNA surprise gave him an even stronger appreciation for his dad.

Thank you for sharing your story, Billy.

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For some people, one of the trickiest things about DNA surprises is that they force us to see our parents as human. It can be uncomfortable to come to terms with infidelity in a marriage, or that your parent would lie to you.

In this week’s episode, Ann reveals how she uncovered four DNA surprises in her family. As the “found family” member in each surprise, Ann shares why she felt it was important to be open to the new people in her life. 

Thank you for sharing your story, Ann.

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What are you? For those of us who are quote “ethnically ambiguous,” this question is one we hear over and over again when meeting new people.  

In this week’s episode, I’m joined by Stephanie, who fielded questions about her ethnic background her entire childhood. She spent much of her early life trying to connect with others, to fit in somewhere. It wasn’t until much later that a DNA test revealed the truth.

Stephanie reached out to me because she wanted to explore her feelings around her ethnic shift with someone who had been there. We discuss some complicated feelings around feeling the need to “earn” our identity. She shares how she’s connecting to her roots, and why having this information makes the “What are you” question a little easier to navigate. 

Thank you for sharing your story, Stephanie.

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Papa was rollin’ stone. It’s a tale as old as time, and a phrase we’ve heard more than once on the podcast. But sometimes, there’s more to the story.

Welcome to the Season 14 premiere of DNA Surprises. In this week’s episode, Patrick shares how taking a 23andme test out of curiosity led him down an unimaginable road - one that made things make sense while simultaneously upending everything he knew.

He shares how he made his discovery, from his initial thoughts to what happened when he finally learned the truth. Patrick also demonstrates a positive, empathetic mindset for everyone involved in his story.

Thank you for sharing your story, Patrick.

Listen to Patrick’s song, “Dark Horse,” here. 

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An interesting thing about DNA Surprises is how much they can rock your identity, not once, but over and over again. Every time a layer is pulled back with new information, the foundation on which you’ve built your identity shifts.

In this week’s episode, Rebecca, an adoptee, shares her heartbreaking - and heartwarming - DNA discovery. She reveals how she connected with her biological mother, and eventually, identified her father. Her story reveals how learning the truth can bring a lot of pain, but beautiful relationships, too.

Thank you for sharing your story, Rebecca.

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