Join me for Part 1 of a great conversation with fellow Canadian NPE Gigi. This episode was recorded in the Spring of 2024.

Thank you Gigi for sharing your story and the sound bite from your recording of your dad with me. We shared an amazing experience in Denver Colorado at the Untangling Our Roots conference. I am a much more healed person since attending and I am grateful for our connection and for your openness with your experience. Gigi really articulated beautifully how I felt about so many things. Her feelings about the hurt and loss when you had a close relationship with your mother breaks something in us, even though it doesn't take away the love, and our empathy is there, something is forever changed from this NPE secret.

Mentioned in the Podcast

Untangling our Roots

https://untanglingourroots.org

Right to know

https://righttoknow.us ( you can also find them on Facebook and Instagram

NAAP

https://naapunited.org

This part 2 is so short because Eve starting asking me about my story and I felt that I needed to take it out as I am a chatter box and to record my own story to keep this episode focused on Eve's journey. I had also planned on interviewing her sister but with my extended break and the time difference, I didn't get it booked. I hope to do an episode with her sister down the road as a sister's perspective would be fantastic to have.

Eve is amazing. Thank you for the great conversation and for sharing your movie and story with the world.

To learn more of Eve's story ...You can watch Man on the Bus on Apple TV in Canada or check your local apps in your area.

Thank you Eve.

This is Part 1 of 2 of my chat with Documentary Film Maker, Eve Ash. Eve made my year by agreeing to talk with me about her film Man on the Bus. I loved this film that I watched several times about her NPE child of an affair discovery. You will want to sit down and watch this before you listen to the episode. You can find her movie on Apple TV. The Movie trailer introduction starts off today's podcast.

https://tv.apple.com/us/movie/man-on-the-bus/umc.cmc.7hopc37paz46m1ut2suuz1b6r

I am so excited to have Jen who is an NPE -Child of an Affair and a Therapist share some of her own healing journey and insights of this discovery as our first guest.

If you want to hear Jen's Full NPE discovery story head over the "DNA Surprises Podcast" her episode aired on May 23, 2023. Titled “Jen's DNA Surprise”.

Trigger warning: We dig into the deeper feelings around her conception and that energy of her

This episode is not therapy. Please contact a mental health practitioner if you are experiencing

Resources Mentioned:

Support Groups and Retreats

Hiraeth Hope and Healing Retreats for NPE/MPEs

https://www.hiraethhopeandhealing.com

Not Parent Expected Canada

https://notparentexpected.ca/

Search Facebook for NPE Groups

Other resources

IFS Therapist-Stands for Internal Family Systems- Richard C. Swartz Author/Therapist

EMDR Therapist- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing

NLP- Neurolinguistic Programming

Other Amazing NPE Podcasts

A warm up episode to sharing my full story. I read a letter I sent this week to my biological half sister to confirm that a year ago I received confirmation from a cousins DNA test that their father Jack, was also by bio dad.

Please join me. I look forward to recording your NPE Child of a Affair story soon.

You can email me at [email protected]

Resources mentioned:

Book: If you only knew- Navigating DNA Surprises and the NPE World by Lezlee Liljenberg.

Facebook Private Group- Search for NPE Support on your facebook and complete the questions in the screening room for the group you would like to join. Please note there are some public informational pages and Private ones for support choose a private one to participate in support online.

I created this podcast as a supportive space to share our stories and perspectives around finding out that we are the child from an affair our parents had. You can share your interest in being a guest by emailing me at [email protected]. This is a Supportive space only for those working through the discovery. Family members involved, therapists and experts on working through the Not Parent Expected Child of an Affair discovery are also welcome. You are not alone.

Are you the child of an affair, a therapist who works with those dealing with this type of discovery, are you the mother, father or bio dad or siblings newly found or from the original family and want to share your story to help support other NPE's who have recently found out that they are the child of an affair. You can reach me at [email protected]. Let's dig in and talk about all the angles of this and how we can work together whether independently or has a family to navigate and work on healing from such a shock and trauma that affects our identity and sense of self. You are not alone.

This is a Supportive environment only any comments or emails to the contrary will be deleted and blocked.

Resources:

Books:

NPE* a Story guide for Unexpected DNA Discoveries by Leanne R Hay

Healing Journey for your MPE Discovery by Lynne W Spencer

Who even am I anyway- a process journal for Adoptees, Late Discovery Adoptees, Donor Conceived NPE, and MPE Community by Eve Sturges

My Re-Birthday Book- This is My Story by Kara Rubenstein Deyerin

Other resources:

Support Groups on Facebook- Search for NPE Support on Facebook

Not Parent Expected Canada

Hiraeth Hope and Healing retreat for NPE's