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When I was in the pit of burnout, having one more thing to do or focus on was the absolute last thing I needed. So many people talked about gratitude journaling and focusing on goals and creating vision boards… but I couldn't even focus on things that were right in front of me. Are you drowning in burnout? This is for you!

Have you ever been told you should start a gratitude journal and your first thought was, yes… that will make me feel better. Then you don't do it and you feel guilty for not acknowledging the things you're grateful for?

Stop! There is no "busy work" technique that is going to magically wash away your burnout. There is also no one way to truly get out of the pit of burnout. But giving yourself one more thing to do is certainly not going to help you.

Listen as I share my experiences and what it took to make me realize that the things others were pushing on me were actually making my burnout worse. If you're there, then listen close and give yourself some grace!

"If you are feeling great, you've already figured out how to have joy and invite gratitude in." Dr. Errin Weisman

In this episode:

[00:32] I am so excited you are with me today!

[02:45] Let me tell you why I think you need to throw away your gratitude journal.

[05:14] It's okay not to do a daily gratitude journal!

[08:50] I want you to try a resentment journal.

[09:35] I really believe that feelings are emotions are sign posts for unmet needs and wants.

[11:00] Listen as I share my definition of toxic positivity and give some examples of what I mean.

[14:15] When we give a compassionate response, it feels more meaningful.

[16:45] Thank you for listening!

Links and Resources

3 WAYS TO GET INCREDIBLE HELP AT LOW-COST!!!

1. Buy my Kindle Book, Doctor Me First, on Amazon
2. Become an official patron of Doctor Me First HERE (https://www.patreon.com/doctormefirst) and find support & community!
3. Join us for our Monthly Burnout Masterclass Series.

Schedule a call with Errin HERE

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Email Errin HERE

When it comes to postnatal care, the United States healthcare system has a lot of catching up to do. The fact that we have one of the highest maternal and infant death rates of any 1st world country is evidence of that. Dr. Sonal Patel recognized this fact and is doing her part to serve new moms and babies in her community to the highest standard.

Dr. Patel has built an in-home private postpartum care practice that sees mom and baby together, in the comfort of their own home. She has taken the 4th trimester by the horns and made sure that the stress of having just had a baby and all that comes with it is lessened significantly.

That isn't where she started though. Listen as she shares her story and why she realized that holistic postpartum care was her calling.

The maternal mortality rate is a significant indicator of the health of a nations' economy. Why our country isn't more focused on the health and wellness of our moms is a mystery, but we as doctors can certainly make it more of a priority.

Listen in to learn everything you've wanted and needed to know about the 4th trimester and how we as doctors play a part in making it a better experience for new moms in our communities.

"When you look at all of us, we have so much more to bring to the table than just the medicine aspect of it." Dr. Sonal Patel

In this episode:

[03:05] Welcome back to the show, Dr. Patel!

[03:39] Dr. Patel shares her background and her 4th Trimester program.

[05:24] Listen as Dr. Patel speaks about how her company has evolved over the past two years.

[08:28] Dr. Patel chats about what her word renaissance means to her.

[11:14] Dr. Patel talks about some amazing things that are happening for her in 2021.

[14:50] Dr. Patel believes that instead of talking about the bad stuff that happens and no one celebrates the victories they have in the medical field.

[18:26] You're not doing it alone, you are building a team around you.

[19:54] Dr. Patel shares awareness and research around the 4th trimester and the maternal mortality rate.

[23:01] Having a child is one of the biggest transitions a woman can have.

[25:41] Dr. Patel speaks about the first few weeks after giving birth and all the things that a new mom has to do around her and her infant's care.

[27:17] Dr. Patel believes the 4th trimester needs to be treated like every other trimester during pregnancy.

[28:17] Dr. Patel talks about NayaCare, her company that brings medical care to new mothers and infants in their own home.

[31:49] Thank you so much for coming on the show!

[33:38] Your kick of encouragement.

Links and Resources

Find Dr. Patel

Nayacare

Instagram | Facebook

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Did you know that there's a huge difference between grinding and hustling and actually working toward your goals? I'm sharing the difference and how many of us use our work to escape everything else. It's an addiction and it's time to quit.

I started working on a new book and it really inspired me to get to the root of this issue that I have with overworking. It's a problem that I've had since I was very young. I was driven and if I wasn't moving and going and succeeding at something then I was devastated.

But that's not how we're supposed to live our lives. Hustle is not the way to success. It is a one-way ticket to burnout town and life of dissatisfaction. Which is why I'm sharing my tips on quitting the hustle and leaving work in its proper place.

Listen in to hear why time blocking and accurately estimating your time blocks are both extremely important. Wherever your "work" blocks are in your schedule, do the work for the time you've allotted and then walk away.

Don't forget to schedule in some white space into your calendar. If you don't schedule it in, it won't happen. So put it on your schedule and make it non-negotiable.

These tips really will help you see a whole new side to life. Don't believe me? Just try it and let me know what you think and how you FEEL!

"I'm here to be a voice in a conversation, not the guru." Dr. Errin Weisman

In this episode:

[08:16] Hear a segment from the book she is working on.

[10:31] Working has always been her addiction and her drug.

[13:45] Listen as I share my tips for transitioning from a hustle system into achieving your goals in a sustainable way.

[13:55] Tip #1 is time blocking.

[15:57] Tip #2 accurately estimating your time blocks.

[17:05] Tip #3 do your work, and when the time in your time block is up, walk away.

[18:24] Tip #4 you must have time in your schedule for white space, fun and pleasure, and sleep.

[23:44] Tip #5 delegate.

[26:42] Thank you for listening!

Links and Resources

3 WAYS TO GET INCREDIBLE HELP AT LOW-COST!!!

1. Buy my Kindle Book, Doctor Me First, on Amazon
2. Become an official patron of Doctor Me First HERE (https://www.patreon.com/doctormefirst) and find support & community!
3. Join us for our Monthly Burnout Masterclass Series.

Schedule a call with Errin HERE

Wanna be on this podcast: Schedule HERE

Email Errin HERE

What do we do when the big "D" comes calling? We persevere and manage to do our absolute best for anyone who is impacted by the fallout. Dr. Pamela Ludmer found herself facing divorce with two young sons while practicing medicine, but rather than let it defeat her, she allowed it to make her stronger.

Now she helps other women physicians to do the same. No matter if you were impacted by divorce as a child or if you're experiencing it yourself, that rift between two people leaves a lifelong mark. It's all about how you move forward that determines the marks' size and strength though.

Plus did you know that there are different types of divorce? As with any entangled relationship, there are indeed. Did you know that it isn't always necessary to go out and hire the absolute best shark attorney there is? Sometimes there are better first steps.

If you're in a situation facing divorce and are not sure where to turn for help and advice, then reach out to Dr. Ludmer. She can help answer all of your burning questions and get you on the right track for a less scary process.

We're sharing it all today. You won't want to miss this episode if you've been affected by divorce in your life.

"The women who are the most likely to get divorced are women who have just been promoted or in very high positions of authority in their organizations." Dr. Pamela Ludmer

In this episode:

[03:35] Welcome to the show, Dr. Ludmer!

[03:47] Dr. Ludmer shares a little about herself.

[04:43] Learn about her divorce story.

[05:24] How my parents' divorce affected me.

[09:10] Dr. Ludmer talks about the expectations around marriage and divorce.

[13:02] It hasn't always been smooth sailing for Craig and I.

[14:49] Feelings are signals and data being sent about unmet needs and desires.

[17:28] Listen as Dr. Ludmer shares where she starts when a client comes to her.

[21:15] Dr. Ludmer chats about how her dad helped her through the anxiety that came with her divorce.

[25:01] "Divorce is a death that still has a walking body."

[28:16] There are different types of divorce.

[34:01] Dr. Ludmer talks about how hard it is for women to pay their ex-husband child support and sometimes spousal support.

[37:22] Your kick of encouragement.

Links and Resources

Find Dr. Ludmer

Alignity Coaching

Email

Dr. Ludmer on Twitter

3 WAYS TO GET INCREDIBLE HELP AT LOW-COST!!!

1. Buy my Kindle Book, Doctor Me First, on Amazon
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3. Join us for our Monthly Burnout Masterclass Series.

Schedule a call with Errin HERE

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Email Errin HERE

It's the last episode of 2020 and Craig and I wanted to do it together. There has been a lot going on this year in general so it felt right to end it all with just us, talking about the family, and things we've learned along the way. Listen in to hear the last Married to an Alpha Female episode of 2020.

First up, Craig and I dig into what's happening down on the farm. Honestly, it's pretty darn interesting. The harvest is officially over and now it's time to do an evaluation of the land. Which plots yielded more, which less, and why. Plus Craig is prepping for the rainy season and making sure that the ground is equipped to slough off excess.

This land has been in Craig's family for generations and it's crazy how we put our marks on it in such a permanent way that years later we know what happened back then. This is a deep dive into farming and it's super neat.

Then we move into Things Craig Doesn't Know. There really isn't a ton but some of it is important...and fun! Things like what the kids are getting for Christmas. Nope...Craig doesn't know. And what's coming up next in my business and practice. Some of that he was aware of.

We make it a point not to have to share every detail of our lives because we trust each other. We're in this as a partnership for life, not for business or money.

Honestly, this was one of our most fun Married to an Alpha Female episodes and my tips are truly perfect for the partners of those alphas. Craig and I use these in our everyday lives and it helps us respect and acknowledge each other as humans and partners.

Listen in to learn more and see you in 2021!

"We chose each other as life partners, not as business partners." Errin and Craig Weisman

In this episode:

[02:05] Let's start by listening to what's happening down on the farm with Craig.

[04:14] Craig explains what tiling is and why you put a pipe in a field.

[10:16] Quick mental picture of what these pipes look like.

[13:04] They talk about what pattern tiling is a relatively new procedure and what the old procedure was like.

[17:55] It's not necessary to know everything that's going on in each other's lives, and that's how you build trust.

[22:07] It's time for the Things That Craig Doesn't Know segment.

[22:07] Craig doesn't know everything the kids are getting.

[25:16] Craig doesn't know the name of the new podcast Errin is launching.

[27:09] Craig has no idea about the new cheetah picture on the wall.

[30:38] Craig doesn't know that Errin got published in Indigo Blue as an entrepreneurial expert talking about toxic work environments.

[31:30] January is going to be big.

[33:02] Your tip for being married to an alpha female.

[40:18] Thank you for listening!

Links and Resources

Find Craig:

Craig on Twitter: @highbanksfarmer

3 WAYS TO GET INCREDIBLE HELP AT LOW-COST!!!

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Schedule a call with Errin HERE

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Ever had some huge emotions swamp you and all you could think was, "Feelings… yuck!"? Well believe it or not, you are in control of your feelings and emotions and they are the key to unlocking success and fulfillment. Don't believe me? Dr. Katrina Ubell is here to share why this is true and why her methods work for her clients.

Dr. Ubell is known as the weight loss coach for busy physicians but what she really does is so much more impactful. After spending years of her life on the yo-yo of dieting, losing and gaining weight in equal measure, she knew there had to be a change.

It took having a pretty huge emotional event happen for her to realize that it was time to bring in an expert. She started with a life coach and what she realized was that her weight loss or gain was directly related with the feelings and emotions she was experiencing.

From there she was able to take charge of her emotions and she's been finding success and fulfillment ever since. She was one of the very first physician coaches that I started following and unbeknownst to her, she's the reason that I knew this path was possible.

Listen as we chat about her background, the role of emotions in our lives, and why you don't have to be ruled by them nor do you need to suppress them. So much of what we learn as doctors is to ignore what's going on in your body so that you can just keep pressing on. It's time to stop and we're sharing how you can do it!

"Feelings are everything, feelings are so important, feelings do create all of our results, but we totally have control over what we are feeling." Dr. Katrina Ubell

In this episode:

[01:50] Welcome to the show, Dr. Katrina!

[03:53] Dr. Katrina shares her background and what she is doing now.

[08:25] Dr. Katrina speaks about how nice it is to hear that she is making a difference in people's lives.

[11:22] Dr. Katrina discusses how even though you have evidence that people love what you are doing, you will focus on the one negative review.

[15: 29] Being average is perfectly ok.

[17:37] Listen as Dr. Katrina shares why she picked the word feelings.

[20:19] Dr. Katrina spends a lot of time with her clients teaching, them how to actually process emotions.

[24:19] "Our emotions are created by our thoughts."

[26:19] Emotions are data points for unmet needs.

[31:00] Dr. Katrina speaks about neural pathways and rerouting them.

[35:34] Thank you so much for being on the show!

[37:26] Your kick of encouragement.

Links and Resources

Find Dr. Ubell

Dr. Katrina Ubell

Weight-loss For Busy Physicians Podcast

Free Resources

Dr. Ubell on Instagram

Dr. Ubell on Facebook

3 WAYS TO GET INCREDIBLE HELP AT LOW-COST!!!

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Schedule a call with Errin HERE

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We all feel fear, but what do you do when it comes over you? For many the answer is to let it drive your actions and how you approach your life. But what if you could feel the fear, understand its place in your life, and still make strides towards your goals? You can!

There are two books that have been instrumental in how I talk about and think about fear. Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert and The Art of Fear: Why Conquering Fear Won't Work and What To Do Instead by Kristen Ulmer. In both, the authors share ways to approach fear without losing your drive or passion.

In Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert writes a letter to fear. She lets fear know that he can come along on the ride with creativity, but that he's there as an observer only. He doesn't get to talk, share an opinion, mess with the music, and most importantly, he's not allowed to drive.

Isn't it amazing to think about talking to your fears in this way? Acknowledge that they exist but then remind them who is boss and what their role is in your life?

I think that is so empowering and it's helped me to rethink the role of fear in my life and my business. Listen as I share my insights about The Art of Fear as well and why I use both of these books with my own coaching clients. I'm also sharing my tips on approaching fear with a healthy respect and perspective.

"So many times in my own life, fear was the driver." Dr. Errin Weisman

In this episode:

[01:20] We are talking about fear today.

[02:10] Hear a letter to fear by Elizabeth Gilbert.

[05:23] Learn about the monster in the basement as Kristen Ulmer described it in her book.

[10:32] Sit down and think about your fear monster and have a conversation with him.

[11:29] Whatever you repress becomes your represser.

[15:29] My Errinisms about using fear more wisely.

[21:55] Let me know how you feel about this episode.

[22:09] Coming up for future solocasts.

[23:01] Thank you for listening!

Links and Resources

Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert

The Art of Fear: Why Conquering Fear Won't Work and What To Do Instead by Kristen Ulmer

3 WAYS TO GET INCREDIBLE HELP AT LOW-COST!!!

1. Buy my Kindle Book, Doctor Me First, on Amazon
2. Become an official patron of Doctor Me First HERE (https://www.patreon.com/doctormefirst) and find support & community!
3. Join us for our Monthly Burnout Masterclass Series.

Schedule a call with Errin HERE

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Email Errin HERE

As a woman and a physician, do you ever feel like your identity is not your own? That you've been working so long and hard toward becoming a doctor that it's completely taken over your identity as a whole. Dr. Tracy Asamoah is a coach and mentor who helps women understand their purpose both as physicians and as women.

Once she'd completed her schooling and finished her residency she realized that becoming a doctor wasn't the only thing she was meant for. After doing some deep soul searching and implementing coaching of her own, she finally understood that her purpose was to help women understand what they're meant for in life.

It's so easy to lose your identity as various roles are associated with your person but your identity is yours. No matter what you do, how many children you have, or the world's perception of you, your identity is yours and yours alone.

Listen as Dr. Tracy shares more about her background and why she's so passionate about helping women find their identity in a world full of noise and expectation. She's also sharing why understanding your core values is imperative in finding the heart of your identity.

We're chatting about ways you can start the process of sorting through all of your own stuff.

"I've come to realize that what I have been called to do is to help women understand what their purpose is." Dr. Tracy Asamoah

In this episode:

[01:47] Welcome to the show, Dr. Tracy Asamoah!

[02:00] Dr. Asamoah shares her background and all the things she is doing.

[04:40] How she started into coaching.

[06:32] Why she chose the word identity.

[09:57] Dr. Asamoah shares what she is studying now and how that applies.

[13:27] Getting down to your core values is one way she helps people identify who they are amongst all the noise.

[15:16] Dr. Asamoah chats about how she helps people sort through all their stuff.

[22:15] Doing the actual steps is the hardest part; doing the practical parts is where the courage comes in.

[26:36] Dr. Asamoah loves the term surface the invisible and believes that a coach helps bring stuff to the surface.

[30:54] Thank you for being on the show!

[31:03] Your kick of encouragement.

Links and Resources

Dr. Tracy Asamoah

Instagram | Twitter

Physician Coaching Alliance

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True or False: You are a worthy individual regardless of what you do? You simply need to exist? According to Dr. Kara Pepper, the answer to that question is a huge True. You are worthy, you simply need to give yourself permission to believe it.

Dr. Pepper followed her childhood dream and became a physician, had the husband, and had the two kids. The problem came when she realized that her life was hard...every single day. Surely this wasn't what she'd worked for all those years.

It took coaching and learning how to manage her mind and her expectations for herself to bust out of some epic burnout. Now she's helping others to do the same. She's supporting physicians to manage their burdens and their mindset so that they can find fulfillment in their life's purpose.

First step? Give yourself permission to take care of yourself.

Listen as Dr. Kara shares more about her background and what drove her to become a physician coach. She's digging deep into why we as physicians especially find it hard to give ourselves permission to be anything other than perfect. If you've been feeling the nagging ropes of burnout, then this is the episode for you.

"You inherently have permission and no one has to give it to you." Dr. Kara Pepper

In this episode:

[01:53] Welcome to the show, Dr. Kara Pepper!

[02:10] Dr. Kara shares her background and what she is doing now.

[02:53] Listen as Dr. Kara chats about why she chose the word permission.

[04:42] Dr. Kara speaks about why it's so hard for us to give ourselves permission.

[07:16] Dr. Kara likes to swim in the waters of what's next.

[10:24] You should give yourself permission to indulge.

[15:17] Why it's time to stop playing and grow up.

[17:51] Dr. Kara tells us how to get our permission granted prescription she made on her website.

[19:10] If you want to hear more, head over to the Patreon group where they are continuing the conversation.

[20:54] Your kick of encouragement.

Links and Resources

Dr. Kara Pepper

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We all have money stories. The stories we tell ourselves about money, our beliefs around money, and how we are meant to feel and deal with money. Listen to learn how your money stories may be affecting your income and your life and you can make huge changes to both.

Dr. Latifat went into medicine because she knew she wanted to help others, but what she found was a broken system filled with people chained by debt. After taking a look at her own finances she realized that she wanted more.

She now helps women physicians become financially fit so that they can practice with love and intention rather than cycle through burnout and stress. What does it all come down to? Your money stories.

Many of us have a terrible relationship with money and it comes from deep within our psyche and how we are raised to think about money. Once you shift your thoughts on your money stories you can truly find the way to freedom and abundance.

Listen in to learn all about money, the stories we tell ourselves, and why it's so important to shift your mindset before trying to shift your habits.

"Money is almost never the problem." Dr. Latifat Akintade

In this episode:

[01:26] Welcome to the show, Dr. Latifat!

[01:53] Dr. Latifat shares her background and her journey to where she is today.

[04:39] Dr. Latifat discusses getting educated on her financial situation and getting into the mindset of taking care of her money.

[06:23] Dr. Latifat chats about why she picked the words money stories.

[10:35] Listen as Dr. Latifat discusses working with high income earners that don't believe they are enough.

[12:16] Money should be used as a tool that augments your life.

[13:44] "Your inherent worth is not your net value."

[14:50] Dr. Latifat speaks about teaching people the skills to assess yourself and handle money.

[16:24] Dr. Latifat shares the first step to gain control of your money.

[21:58] You need to call Dr. Latifat, set up a discovery call, and get your money in order.

[25:41] Your kick of encouragement.

Links and Resources

Find Dr. Latifat Akintade

Money Fit MD

3 WAYS TO GET INCREDIBLE HELP AT LOW-COST!!!

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Schedule a call with Errin HERE

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