Doing Divorce Different with Lesa Koski

In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different,' the host discusses the complexities and emotional aspects of contemplating and going through a divorce. Emphasizing the preference for amicable divorces, the host provides insights on when it might be time to divorce, the importance of personal growth within a marriage, and how to effectively prepare for the divorce process. Key points include the value of coaching, therapy, and building a support team, understanding legal and financial aspects, and the significance of a well-planned parenting strategy for those with children. The host also stresses the importance of being informed and prepared to ensure a smoother transition and a better post-divorce life.

00:00 Introduction and Purpose

00:36 Understanding Amicable Divorce

01:43 Efforts to Save Your Marriage

03:41 The Importance of Self-Improvement

05:46 Navigating Divorce Mediation

07:30 Making the Decision to Divorce

07:57 Gathering Information and Building a Support Team

09:52 Financial Considerations During Divorce

15:49 Focusing on Children and Parenting Plans

16:38 Handling Property and Housing Concerns

18:26 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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In this heartfelt episode, the host welcomes her dear friend and divorce real estate expert, Tami Wollensak, to discuss the complexities of divorce. They explore Tami's personal and professional journey through a challenging divorce, highlighting the importance of mediation and mindful decision-making. Tami shares invaluable tips on maintaining mental health during stressful transitions, including meditation and lifestyle changes. The episode emphasizes empowering women, especially those over 40, to navigate divorce with clarity, focusing on the well-being of children and future financial stability. Listeners are encouraged to educate themselves and form support teams to ensure a smoother, more informed divorce process.

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement

00:35 Tami's Personal Journey Through Divorce

00:54 Empowering Women Through Transitions

05:31 The Importance of Self-Care During Divorce

12:27 Tami's Divorce Story

17:07 Navigating Divorce Mediation

24:10 Reflecting on the End of a Marriage

26:30 Navigating Financial Challenges Post-Divorce

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In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different,' Lesa welcomes financial expert Victoria Kirilloff, who shares her personal journey of escaping an abusive relationship and provides in-depth advice on maximizing spousal support during divorce. The discussion aims to empower women by addressing the importance of financial independence, understanding trauma bonds, and the value of proper financial planning during significant life transitions. Victoria also touches on the use of unique techniques like isochronic tones for personal healing and the critical role of building a supportive network.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

01:18 Victoria's Personal Journey

06:31 Understanding Trauma Bonds

11:07 Breaking Free and Seeking Help

21:56 Maximizing Spousal Support

33:05 Services and Closing Remarks

Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA®, NCPM®, CDS®, was at a crossroads in a decade-long, financially entangled relationship that had turned toxic. To find her way out, she leveraged her background in financial analysis, creating the first Global Settlement Proposal and divorce report. This helped her and her partner reach a peaceful separation, sparking an idea: she could help others navigate divorce with financial clarity and empowerment.

Victoria went on to found Divorce Analytics, a firm dedicated to making the financial side of divorce transparent and productive. By focusing on financial facts, she transforms divorce from a destructive process into one of empowerment.

Victoria has also released a 9-part Divorce Planning Kit, available at DivorceAnalytics.com/shop. Along with her many financial licenses, she’s a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and Nationally Certified Professional Mediator®.

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In this week's episode of 'Doing Divorce Different,' we revisit a transformative conversation with JJ Flizanes, an expert in emotional healing. The host reflects on the profound impact JJ's courses have had on her life and discusses core emotional wounds. JJ elaborates on her 'Roadmap to Emotional Healing' course and the importance of understanding and processing one's emotions. They also explore the topics of self-empowerment, the mind-body connection, and overcoming fears related to health and disease. The host shares personal stories of emotional challenges and healing, highlighting the benefits of JJ's teachings.

00:00 Introduction and Special Episode Announcement

00:55 Welcoming JJ Flizanes

01:23 Discussing JJ's Courses and Emotional Healing

02:04 Understanding and Managing Unwanted Feelings

04:35 Exploring the Concept of Core Wounds

06:52 The Power of Belief and Epigenetics

09:02 Personal Stories and Medical Experiences

14:15 The Importance of Self-Trust and Intuition

23:15 Understanding the Core Wound Map

23:35 The Roadmap Course: A Self-Study Journey

24:10 The Power of Recognizing Patterns

25:02 The Importance of Changing Habits

25:25 Critique of Traditional Talk Therapy

25:49 The Role of Different Healing Modalities

26:42 Identifying and Addressing Core Wounds

29:58 Personal Stories and Core Wounds

33:15 The Impact of Emotional Processing

37:41 Reflecting on Childhood Memories

41:26 Final Thoughts and Course Information

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In this heartfelt episode, Lesa is joined by Michelle Leisen, a mediator, financial planner, and attorney, who supported Lesa through a personal breast cancer diagnosis and professional challenges. Michelle shares her professional journey, from attending law school to becoming a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and mediator after experiencing her own contentious divorce. The discussion focuses on Michelle's 'Power of Three' approach to divorce, highlighting the importance of understanding legal options, financial implications, and emotional well-being. Listeners are encouraged to be informed about their choices, consider the financial costs, and prioritize emotional health for themselves and their children. Michelle emphasizes the value of assembling a supportive team, including attorneys, mediators, financial analysts, and therapists, to navigate the complexities of divorce effectively.

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement

01:44 Michelle's Background and Journey

01:58 The Power of Three in Divorce

02:26 Michelle's Personal Divorce Experience

06:03 Understanding Divorce Options

08:56 The Financial Costs of Divorce

11:13 Putting Kids First in Divorce

16:19 The Emotional Side of Divorce

19:18 Building Your Support Team

21:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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In this episode, Lesa discusses the challenges that children of divorced parents face during the holiday season and offers practical advice for co-parents. Taking inspiration from an Instagram account 'A Kid with Two Homes,' the episode highlights the feelings of stress and guilt that children often experience. The host emphasizes the importance of planning and communication to alleviate children's worries and reminds parents to focus on the joy and support their children. Additionally, suggestions are given for preparing for the holidays, ensuring the children's emotional well-being, and balancing holiday logistics.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:47 Understanding Kids' Feelings During the Holidays

01:44 Tips for Parents to Support Their Kids

03:05 Preparing for the Holidays

03:38 Casual Conversation and Personal Anecdotes

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No better time to think through your finances than before the holiday season. In this episode, Lesa welcomes certified financial planner James Alexander, who shares his expertise on creating a financial plan after a divorce. They discuss how to manage changes in income, expenses, and updating financial accounts. James also outlines the importance of addressing emotional well-being before tackling financial challenges and offers practical advice on finding a trustworthy financial advisor. Furthermore, he shares insights into how he successfully grew his financial planning business in just five years. Listeners will gain valuable tips on overcoming financial fears and the steps to take to ensure financial security post-divorce.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

01:10 James Alexander's Background and Career Path

05:17 Creating a Financial Plan Post-Divorce

11:30 Finding a Trustworthy Financial Advisor

17:54 Growing a Financial Planning Business

21:07 Conclusion and Contact Information

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In this special Saturday episode, recorded at the barn, Lesa Koski discusses the importance of mindset, especially through challenging times like divorce, cancer, or general difficulties. Lesa shares her journey of using mindset-shifting tools to manage anxiety, and her commitment to relying on God to improve her emotional wellbeing. She introduces JJ Flizanes, an expert whose courses on emotions and core childhood experiences have profoundly impacted her. Lesa emphasizes the need to understand and fulfill personal needs, identifying feelings and practicing self-responsibility. She also introduces the Hawaiian practice of Ho'oponopono for emotional healing. Tune in to learn how you can navigate your feelings, meet your needs, and cultivate more joy in life.

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:24 Mindset Shifting Tools

01:35 Personal Journey and Expert Insights

04:34 Morning Routine and Emotional Awareness

06:02 Identifying and Meeting Basic Human Needs

11:49 Finding Peace and Surrendering to God

12:24 Ho'oponopono and Present Moment Practices

16:11 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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In this episode, the Lesa welcomes Rachel King, an attorney and podcast host, to discuss strategies for navigating divorce with controlling personalities, focusing on children's well-being, and effective co-parenting. Rachel shares her journey to becoming an attorney, including her experience in the military, and her approach to family law. The discussion includes the importance of setting boundaries, keeping communication simple, and allowing children to form independent relationships with both parents. Rachel emphasizes the need for therapy, knowing one's legal rights, and having a support system during divorce proceedings. The importance of validating children's feelings while maintaining parental decision-making is highlighted, aimed at ensuring a positive outcome for the family. Rachel’s book, 'Getting Divorced, Now What', is also mentioned as a resource for those undergoing divorce.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction

01:08 Rachel King's Journey to Law

04:20 Choosing Family Law and Probate

07:35 Dealing with Controlling Personalities

11:38 Do's and Don'ts of Divorce with Children

17:58 Co-Parenting and Honoring Children's Feelings

23:21 Conclusion and Contact Information

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