Doing Divorce Different with Lesa Koski

In this podcast episode, Lesa Koski interviews Laurie Gerber, a renowned relationship coach who has appeared on shows like Dr. Phil and MTV. Laurie shares her personal journey overcoming marital challenges using the Handel Method, which she now teaches. The discussion delves into vital topics such as dating after divorce, the importance of self-work, and maintaining a healthy relationship. Laurie outlines a detailed 'Divorce Detox' with six crucial steps to regain emotional and spiritual health post-divorce before diving back into the dating scene. She also introduces her Head-Heart-Hoo Ha (3H) framework for finding the right partner and emphasizes the importance of mindful and efficient dating practices. Laurie offers resources and strategies for those eager to start their journey toward a fulfilling and healthy love life. For more insights, listeners are encouraged to join Lori on the Saddle Up Live podcast for a deeper dive into maintaining long-term relationships.

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

01:10 Meet Lori Gerber: A Journey in Coaching

03:52 The Importance of Self-Work Before Dating

08:19 The Divorce Detox: Steps to Emotional Healing

14:04 Phases of Post-Divorce Dating

17:11 Determining and Changing Your Type

18:50 Efficient and Purposeful Dating

20:37 Conclusion and Next Steps

For more of Laurie's dating resources check out her FREE webinar:

 "3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments"

Learn:

REGISTER HERE: www.lauriegerber.com/webinar

[email protected] www.lauriegerber.com 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/loveasaverb

https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/?hl=en

Find Lesa at Lesakoski.com

@lesakoski

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In this episode, we meet Catherine Collins, a financial expert and author who shares her journey from a graduate history student to a leading financial writer and podcaster. Catherine discusses her accidental path to entrepreneurship, starting with her blog Budget Blonde. She highlights the importance of financial independence, especially during and after a divorce, offering advice on budget management, asset awareness, and emotional strength. Catherine also introduces the concept of 'five year you,' focusing on self-improvement and financial independence, while providing a realistic approach to personal growth post-divorce. Tune in for actionable insights and inspiring stories that make financial management accessible and empowering for everyone.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

01:09 Catherine's Journey to Financial Writing

04:23 The Five Year You Project

06:02 Navigating Divorce and Finances

08:05 Building Financial Confidence Post-Divorce

11:24 Practical Steps for Financial Stability

18:49 Embracing a New Beginning

21:18 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

By way of background, Catherine Collins is a nationally recognized entrepreneur and author of the book “Mom's Got Money: A millennial mom's guide to managing money like a boss”. Over the past decade, her writing and expertise have been featured in dozens of media outlets, including Good Morning America, Yahoo Finance, Forbes, U.S. News and World Report, Real Simple, The Huffington Post, Kiplinger, Investopedia, Business Insider, and many more. 

Websites:   Five Year You and Micro Morning Magic - Free Download

Linkedin:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/catherine-collins-8b983049/

Find Lesa at Saddleuplive.com

https://linktr.ee/LesaKoski

and @saddleuplive

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In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different, Lesa interviews David Pisarra, an attorney, founder of Dad's Law School, and podcast host. David shares his unique journey into family law and provides crucial insights for dads navigating the family court system. He emphasizes the importance of preparation, documentation, and mindset for fathers fighting for custody. The discussion also touches on the significant role dads play in their children's lives and the common mistakes they make in court. Lisa and David conclude by highlighting resources available through Dad's Law School to help dads present their best case in court.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:23 David Pizarra's Background and Journey

03:45 Challenges Dads Face in Family Court

08:23 Mindset and Preparation for Dads

13:38 Common Mistakes Dads Make

19:02 Final Thoughts and Resources

Find David at

[email protected]

And Lesa @saddleuplive

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In this episode, we welcome Junie Moon, CEO of Midlife Love Out Loud, to discuss empowering women through self-love and breaking self-sabotage patterns, especially post-divorce. Junie shares her personal journey and professional insights into shadow work and how women can overcome fears and limiting beliefs to fulfill their desires for a better second half of life. Listeners will learn about four specific archetypes—magician, sovereign, lover, and warrior—and how to recognize and heal their shadows. Tune in for practical advice, empowering stories, and a chance to start a transformational journey.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

01:04 Junie Moon's Background and Journey

02:54 Understanding Self-Sabotage

05:07 Exploring Love Shadows

14:41 The Four Archetypes

21:31 Conclusion and Next Steps

Find Junie here! [email protected]

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https://www.facebook.com/midlifeloveoutloud

https://www.instagram.com/midlifeloveoutloud/

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In this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different,' we sit down with Lora Cheadle, an attorney, TEDx speaker, and betrayal specialist, to discuss her personal journey through betrayal and healing. Lora shares her compelling story of overcoming the devastation of discovering her husband's infidelity over 15 years and how they both worked individually and together to rebuild their relationship. She introduces her five-step healing process encapsulated in the acronym 'FLAUNT,' emphasizing self-love, laughter, unconditional acceptance, and navigating negativity. Laura's insights provide valuable tips for anyone dealing with betrayal, whether they choose to stay in the relationship or move on. Tune in for an inspiring conversation on resilience, self-discovery, and unconditional acceptance.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

01:22 Lora Cheadle's Betrayal Story

02:41 Healing and Rebuilding After Betrayal

08:03 Five Steps to Heal from Betrayal

11:50 Navigating Negative Emotions

17:11 Unconditional Acceptance and Trust

22:10 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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In this episode, Lesa Koski interviews Ron Deal, a world-renowned expert on blending families. The discussion covers Ron's background and the journey that led him to his current role, including his professional experiences and personal challenges. Ron shares practical advice for single parents considering dating, the role of a stepparent, and handling complex family dynamics. He emphasizes the importance of managing fears to build successful blended families and touches on crucial topics such as co-parenting and involving children in the dating process. The episode also highlights Ron's various resources, including books, podcasts, and online courses, aimed at supporting blended families.

00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement

01:37 Ron's Journey to Becoming a Blended Family Expert

04:57 Personal Challenges and Triumphs

07:15 Dating and the Single Parent

10:26 Red Flags and Yellow Lights in Relationships

15:29 The Role of a Stepparent

20:54 Navigating Grief in Blended Families

22:40 The Importance of Intentionality in Blended Families

24:01 Single Parenting vs. Blended Families

26:17 Co-Parenting and Conflict Resolution

28:13 Managing Fear in New Relationships

31:30 Involving Kids in the Dating Process

34:57 Guidelines for Introducing a New Partner

37:11 Resources for Blended Families

  Resources by Ron Deal  

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Ron L. Deal, LMFT, LPC

President, As For Me and My House Ministries

Director, FamilyLife Blended®, a ministry of FamilyLife®

10201 W. Markham, Ste 105, Little Rock, AR 72205

www.RonDeal.org | SmartStepfamilies.com 

www.FamilyLife.com/blended 

Listen or Subscribe to my FamilyLife Blended podcast here

Sample media interviews and presentations  

Facebook: @SmartStepfamilies

Facebook: @FamilyLifeBlended

Twitter: @RonLDeal

Instagram: @FamilyLifeBlended

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A New Journey: From Doing Divorce Different to Saddle Up Live

Lesa Koski, a family law attorney turned mediator and host of Doing Divorce Different, shares news of ending the podcast to embark on a new project, 'Saddle Up Live,' influenced by her recent breast cancer diagnosis with a 98% positive outcome. She expresses gratitude for early detection, discusses the impact of the diagnosis on her life, including the emotional journey. Lesa reflects on the support from her faith, the learning experience from hosting her podcast, and her excitement for the new direction with Saddle Up Live. She mentions her desire to continue helping people, especially women, through their challenges and encourages listeners to embrace every moment with strength and resilience. The announcement includes details about her divorce mediation resources still being available and ends with an expression of gratitude for her listeners and the encouragement to stay positive and tuned in for her next venture.

00:00 Welcome and a Big Announcement

01:01 Sharing Personal News: A Journey of Health and Faith

03:52 Introducing Saddle Up Live: A New Beginning

05:56 Reflections on Doing Divorce Different and Future Plans

12:07 Empowerment Through Divorce and Beyond

14:02 Gratitude and Looking Forward

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Across all the mediation meetings I have had, there seem to be seven common dilemmas that come up. I have teamed up with my coach, Tracy Pleschourt, to put together a half-day workshop to empower women to suffer less while going through divorce. During this episode, Tracy and I give a sneak peak into the seven dilemmas, and what we will cover regarding each one during the workshop. If you are local to the Minnesota area and looking for support, tune in to hear about this wonderful opportunity to not only work through common roadblocks, but also meet other incredible women who are on the same journey as you. 

In this episode:

• [3:58] What is one of the top stories that Lesa’s clients face?
• [7:28] Lesa discusses working through parenting concerns.
• [9:44] Lesa shares about emotional impact and how it can impact your divorce journey.
• [12:09] How can people handle the social stigma or the judgment around divorce?
• [14:10] Lesa talks about how she will give legal information in the upcoming workshop. 
• [15:08] A huge dilemma that comes up is loneliness in divorce, how do you manage it? 
• [18:52] Tracy describes her program, Self Made U.

Key Takeaways: 

• [10:18] When you leave your feelings in the dark, you can’t heal. Acknowledging those feelings and bringing them to the light is the first step to being able to heal and find clarity and opportunities for what you are experiencing.
• [11:00] When you are operating from your prodigy brain, you are more likely to be able to look through the lens or find the perspective around gifts and opportunities. 
• [17:00] Join Lesa and Tracy’s master class on April 25th from 9am-1pm in Minnesota to learn how to navigate the 7 most common dilemmas that Lesa has seen while being a divorce mediator. Learn strategies from both Lesa’s experience and Tracy’s coaching so you can better navigate the circumstances you are going through. 

Quotes: 

[10:13] “Teaching the people at the workshop how to really feel them (feelings), because coach Tracy, you taught me that anything in the dark can’t heal. So when we try to fight those feelings or pretend we don’t have them or ignore them, they’re in the dark when we go “hello there fear, or anxiety, or whatever you are,” it comes to the light and that’s the first step in being able to heal.” - Lesa Koski

[12:52] “I think when you find yourself swimming in judgment, you have to decide to prioritize your well-being over societal opinions and stigma. You have to challenge the stigma by refusing to internalize those judgements. You have to be able to separate the fact from the fiction of how society views divorce, like leveraging empathy for yourself.” - Tracy Pleschourt

[15:42] “If loneliness is getting in the way of you being able to get through your day, then therapy is definitely the path that you want to pursue. If it’s just something that you’re starting to recognize, but you’re still able to get through your day, you’re still able to manage your day, then coaching is probably the right path for you to take.” - Tracy Pleschourt 

Guest Bio: 

Tracy Pleschourt, the Founder of Self-Made U helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness through life coaching. Tracy has mastered and now teaches the critical skills necessary to manage your mind and overcome any obstacle, including overeating, over drinking, time management, career & relationship changes.

Just a few years ago, Tracy was a successful, advertising executive. Stifled by the rigorous, time-consuming demands of the corporate world, she traded in her 20 years of advertising to pursue her real passion: life & weight loss coaching.

Tracy is a student of her own work and has stopped overeating, overdrinking, and created a multi six figure business while mastering metabolic health.  Today, Tracy coaches people all across the country who want to do the same.

Tracy dedicates her work to ambitious, life-long learners yearning for answers and seeking a better way to create the results they desire and deserve. She instills confidence and a call to action that leads to unlimited wealth and wellness. 

Resources: 

Divorce Decoded Workshop

Tracy Pleschourt Instagram

Tracy Pleschourt Website

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Tracy Pleschourt LinkedIn

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This episode of 'Doing Divorce Different' features a continuation of a discussion with coach Tracy about the transformative power of a specific planner available on Amazon. The conversation delves into the planner's structure, emphasizing the 'S E L F' acronym to guide daily introspection and intention-setting. Highlighting the necessity of confronting self-saboteur behaviors and leveraging personal strengths, this segment also introduces a free saboteur assessment available at selfmadeu.com. Beyond personal organization, the planner serves as a tool for self-discovery and empowerment, proving beneficial in various life scenarios including personal growth, business, and navigating divorce. The episode concludes with invitations to explore further resources for divorce support and personal empowerment.

00:00 Introduction to the Show

00:21 The Saddle Up Segment with Coach Tracy

00:30 The Power of a Planner

01:20 Understanding the SELF Method

02:13 Exploring the 'E' in SELF

03:14 Identifying Saboteur Narratives

14:49 Leveraging Your Strengths

19:17 Finishing with a Decision

21:22 Closing Remarks and Resources

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Hacking Happiness through Divorce with Penny Lacaso

In this episode of we welcome Penny Lacaso from Melbourne, Australia, to discuss how individuals facing or going through divorce can find happiness and empowerment. Penny, a happiness hacker and author of 'Hacking Happiness,' shares her personal journey, including her childhood experience with her parents' divorce and her own divorce after a long-term marriage. She emphasizes the significance of defining happiness on one's own terms and provides techniques for cultivating joy and self-compassion during challenging times like divorce. The conversation covers the importance of allowing oneself to feel a range of emotions, the power of small acts of kindness, and practical exercises to foster happiness, including the 'Three Good Things' practice recommended by positive psychology. Penny and Lesa also discuss the value of self-compassion and using challenging life events as opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

00:00 Introduction to the Show and Guest

01:45 Getting to Know Penny Lacaso

03:29 Penny's Personal Journey and the Concept of Happiness

06:55 Understanding Self and Discovering Personal Happiness

08:51 The Power of Self-Compassion and Overcoming Judgement

11:49 The Role of Choice in Happiness and Dealing with Negative Emotions

15:51 Practical Tips for Finding Joy and Happiness

31:14 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

32:18 Show Closing

Bio: Penny Lacaso is the first hapiness hacker on a quest to teach 10 million humans by 2025, how to flourish in life!

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