In this episode, we talk about friendship…What does it look like to be compatible? When, why, and how do we break-up with a friend? How do we navigate these relationships as adults vs kids? We have more questions than answers, so join us as we chat & get curious.

Podcast referenced:

A Slight Change of Plans, episode “The Science of Quitting”

In this episode, Steph and Becky talk about self-care — what it is, the barriers to it, and how we navigate it in our own lives. We emphasize the importance of knowing our values, the systemic issues that stand in the way for many, and how we can return to the “basics”.

We reference Brené Brown’s value list, so if you’d like to use it for your own exploration here’s the link:

https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/

In this episode, Steph and Becky have a conversation with Jessi Haggerty about unlearning hustle culture. We also delve into how this overlaps with unlearning diet/toxic fitness culture, value centered goal/intention setting and goal setting burnout. We hope you enjoy!

Jessi Haggerty is a Registered Dietitian, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, and Certified Personal Trainer. Jessi is a Health at Every Size® practitioner, focusing on intuitive eating and movement, eating disorder recovery and weight-inclusive medical nutrition therapy. She also runs a group coaching program called Redefine Your Relationship with Exercise and an online course for personal trainers on eating disorder screening, nutrition, and body image.

Where to find Jessi and learn more about her services:

@jessihaggertyrd

 jessihaggerty.com

In this episode Steph and Becky come

together to discuss unlearning the idea that clothing dictates our worthiness. Some of the things covered in this episode are:

-A brief history of the clothing industry and how it failed to standardize and regulate women’s clothing

-Dressing for self-expression and authenticity over approval/other’s expectations

-Accessibility of clothing including things like range of sizing available in store, price, ethical origins of the clothing

-Inner child healing around body shame related to trying on clothing

-Realistic and helpful tips for your next clothing shopping trip

Some things we mentioned in the pod episode if you’re wanting to read more:

The Time magazine article chronically the clusterf*ck:

https://time.com/3532014/women-clothing-sizes-history/

Books referenced:

The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor

More Than A Body by Lexie and Lindsay Kite

The Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary McBride

Meditation recommended:

Insight Timer (Kristin Neff Self-Compassion meditation 5 mins)

On this episode of the pod we had the privilege of talking with Anna Vos. Anna is a fat queer human rainbow and artist based in Rochester, NY. She owns a small gift shop called Anna Parade and is a mom to two awesome elementary school kids. She likes to grow flowers in her garden and play board games with her loved ones.

In this conversation, Anna vulnerably shares with us some of the complexity and struggle of deconstructing her faith, discovering her queerness and liberating herself from body hatred.

Where to find Anna:

Instagram: @annaparade

Tik Tok: @anna_is_soft

Website: annaparade.com (etsy link from there or annaparade.etsy.com)

Books mentioned in the podcast episode:

Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness as Anti-Blackness by

Da'Shaun L. Harrison

Rethinking Incarceration: Advocating for Justice That Restores by

Dominique DuBois Gilliard

Thanks for joining us again for Part 2 of our conversation on Unlearning! In this episode we talked about unlearning things like fat-phobia, wellness culture and more. We wanted to add some suggestions of books and resources that align with the topics we covered this week:

Fearing the Black Body by Sabrina Strings, PhD

You Have a Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar

Anti- Diet by Christy Harrison

Untamed by Glennon Doyle

Leaving the Fold by Marlene Winell, Ph.D

Keep Moving by Maggie Smith

Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad

You Are Your Own by Jamie Lee Finch

The Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary Ann McBride

As always we hope you enjoy and follow us on Instagram @donutmindifwedo_pod to hear about our upcoming episodes!

In our Season 2 debut episode we talk about this season’s focus of “unlearning”.

Steph shares more about her departure from evangelical Christianity, and Becky shares about beliefs she’s re-examining after going through divorce.

This episode is part 1 of 2 - we hope you enjoy!

We wanted to add some suggestions of books and resources that align with the topics we covered this week:

Untamed by Glennon Doyle

Leaving the Fold by Marlene Winell, Ph.D

Keep Moving by Maggie Smith

Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad

You Are Your Own by Jamie Lee Finch

The Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary Ann McBride

Here is a link to the Cycle of Socialization along with the Cycle of Liberation, both created by Bobbie Harro for Readings for Diversity and Social Justice, Routledge 2000

NOTE: In the podcast it was stated Maurianne Adams was the creator of the cycle. The image that was found for reference had the wrong credit information.

https://diversity.wisc.edu/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Cycles-of-socialization-and-liberation.pdf

In this episode, we chat together about the Enneagram! Some of the topics we explore include

-our own journeys with identifying and understanding our types

-how we make sense of our types

-how the Enneagram has changed how we meet our needs & heal

-the role the Enneagram can play in relationships

-the Enneagram in Steph’s faith deconstruction process & Becky’s ED recovery

-how we’ve used the Enneagram in therapeutic settings

*Note: We are not Ennegram Coaches, just two people who’ve loved learning and implementing all there is to be gained through this tool*

Some of our favorite Enneagram Resources include

Books:

The Road Back To You by Ian Morgan Cron & Suzanne Stabile (at times through the lens of Christianity)

The Path Between Us by Suzanne Stabile (at times through the lens of Christianity)

The HONEST Enneagram by Sarajane Case

The Enneagram and You by Gina Gomez

Podcasts:

Enneagram and Coffee

The Enneagram Journey

Ask an Enneagram Coach

Podcast Series - For the Love podcast (all of Season 27)

Dr. Gregory Dodell grew up in Los Angeles. He went to Albany Medical College and did both internal medicine residency and Endocrinology fellowship at St. Luke's Roosevelt (affiliated with Columbia University). He is currently in private practice at Central Park Endocrinology in New York City.

Some things we discuss in this episode include

-Practicing as a doctor through the lens of Health at Every Size (HAES)

-The harm of weight stigma

-The inefficacy of diets

-How medical offices and professionals could help decrease weight stigma

-The concept that “weight is not a choice” and the factors that influence weight

-Internal hormone sensors

-Advocating for ourselves at medical appointments

You can find Gregory both dancing and sharing incredibly valuable information on his Instagram account @everything_endocrine

Gregory is married to Alexis Conason, PsyD who can be found on Instagram @theantidietplan. Her book “The Diet Free Revolution” is available for pre-order now (available in June)!

Note: We also talk about Dr. Joshua Wolrich’s new book “Food Isn’t Medicine” quite a bit in this episode. You can follow him @drjoshuawolrich on Instagram and grab a copy of his book to learn more about some of the topics we shared.

In this episode, we have a wonderful and really important conversation with Nicole Cruz.

Nicole Cruz, MS, RDN is a registered dietitian nutritionist, mom of three, wife, and eating disorder specialist. She has a private practice located in Southern California, devoted to helping others reclaim their joy and find food freedom. She works with clients from all walks of life to transform their relationship with food by practicing from an intuitive eating perspective and non-diet approach.

As a mom herself, Nicole’s passion is to support parents in fostering a healthy relationship with food for their children. She has a private Facebook group, Joyful Eating for Your Family, and she offers virtual nutrition coaching and programs to parents. Nicole is dedicated to transforming the way we view nutrition in order to live more full and balanced lives, at peace with food.

Some of what we discuss in this episode includes:

-the stress that is often present when feeding kids

-as parents/care-takers, getting curious about “our own stuff”

-sugar (is it bad?)

-practicing & modeling intuitive eating with children

-the impact of restriction on children

-working with food freedom in the family as a form of eating disorder prevention

-how to approach ”repairing” as a parent if introducing food freedom later in the parenting journey

-serving food “deconstructed” and “family style”

-history of food scarcity or current lack of access to food

-Health at Every Size©

-navigating interactions with doctors if you have a child in a larger body

...and more!

Where you can find Nicole...

-Follow her on Instagram @nicolecruzrd (you can access the below information through the link in her Instagram bio)

-She hosts a *free* Facebook group, “Joyful Eating for Your Family” which is a “safe and supportive space to ask questions and share resources about intuitive eating, feeding a family, and creating a healthy relationship with food and your body.” (not intended as a replacement for professional support)

-Her course called “Feed Your Family with Confidence” launches in May. “This course will help you transform the way you think about, talk about, and serve food in your home. Meals will go from stress-full to stress-free as you adopt these strategies and learn to feed your family with confidence.”