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Today on the show we're talking about living up to your potential and what that narrative can do to us if we fixate on it too much. There's a lot of opportunity to get lost in the future when today is what we need. Also, what happens when we reach our potential? Is there nothing left? Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-control/201911/youll-never-reach-your-potential?amp

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Today on the show we're talking about emotional prompts in the form of therapy, tapping, tarot, astrology and other methods of emotional prompting. I know sometimes the barrier is often a sense of belief in these ideas but belief is most definitely not required. Even something like Chakras can be a big benefit to your growth when using them as a sounding board to see emotions can be brought up with just a little sensory stimuli.

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There is no such thing as normal. Defining normal, or at least what we mean by it, will allow us to shine a light on the challenge of not feeling normal. In a sense, it's like defining what your goal is. Why do you want to feel normal? What does normal look like to you? Is there a non-traditional way to achieve that feeling or idea? We explore that idea on this episode of DOPEamine!

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ADHD has been a challenge for me all of my life whether or not I recognized that it was there. Now that I know of its existence in my life I can back track and understand the tips and tricks I've given myself to subvert the challenges I've been facing this whole time. Often I translated it as "tricking myself" but in essence I was figuring out and applying well-known tricks for managing these aspects of who I am. 

There's a great book called "10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD: How to Overcome Chronic Distraction and Accomplish Your Goals" which helped me hone this list of practical tips. You can get it with this affiliate link here: https://amzn.to/2NFOgS0

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We're opening up some uncomfortable wounds on today's episode. I've spent much of my life having some challenging relationships with women, namely because of my perception of myself, what I wanted and how I felt I could get what I wanted. That resulted in a lot of manipulation of behavior, creating undo influence, and seeking out other relationships while in current relationships in order to satisfy I needed I wasn't sure about. This is a story about my connection to myself and sharing my growth in working on integrating this shadow part of me into my life going forward to be a partner and friend.

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Molly and I have been obsessed with the show Catfish lately, and it's likely because there is a ton of social neurosis to unpack. Guilt being one of those common feeling that comes up in a variety of forms. Sometimes it's guilt for getting caught, sometimes it's not realizing the effect you had, sometimes it's not pursuing what you want for fear of the reality being different than expectations. Sometimes it's about not realizing the level of control someone has in our lives.

Guilt is seemingly a part of our every day neurosis. We've accepted that feeling guilty is a normal part of life and it certainly is, but what isn't normal is continuing to feel guilty. Especially when we're feeling guilty over every day non-consequential things. There's likely something else to explore there. Are we actually guilty of something? Maybe our guilt is real but it's misplaced. Perhaps we're judging ourselves by the wrong standard. Perhaps we're simply not trusting our own ability to make the decisions we need to make.

One of the challenges I wanted to talk about on this episode is how we tend to brush off this feeling of guilt as something that "just happens" or something that shouldn't be addressed in a larger scale or timeline. Guilt can be a gateway drug to being controlled. Guilt can be what is keeping us from transition. Guilt can be holding us back from going for what we want. Guilt can be an excuse to avoid conflict and actually holding others back because you refuse to be honest.

As you can tell by my tone, this episode is a bit of a tough love episode. I'm here to challenge you to get out of autopilot and make the change you want to make. I'm here to encourage you but the rest is up to you.

If you're interested in coaching, support, or have any questions send me a DM @letsgocnote

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Lately, I've been learning about some of the challenges in my life related to ADHD. Cyclothymia has been a beast that I've been taming and feeling confident with. My mood disorder is an every 3-month thing but now that I'm learning about ADHD, I'm realizing how much this affects my day-to-day life, my commitments, relationships, and work. I'm having to revisit quite a few moments in my past and learn which scenarios in which I'm "allowed" or capable of speaking up for myself as reasons for my challenges, not excuses for my behavior. I personally feel that as long as we're doing the best we can then our reasons remain valid. 

I'm a little low energy this week, so I appreciate the patience of getting through this episode but it's a new important process that I'm very much willing and happy to share with you <3

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What I love about doing this show is that I come across all sorts of new philosophies and topics that we may experience day to day but we not realize how common it is. Intellectualizing our emotions is very much one of those concepts. That means pushing away our feelings, shoving them down, or downplaying them for the sake of social niceties. But there are harmful side effects to suppressing how we really feel or assuming that we are expressing ourselves when we're not. 

This podcast episode covers all of these topics and is heavily influenced by this article: https://nickwignall.com/intellectualized-emotions/

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We're in one of the most interconnected times in history while also facing some interesting psychological side-effects of loneliness and physical disconnection. There are greater opportunities than ever to fulfill our life's missions and work without having to interface with others so much, which brings with it the challenge of now having to seek out connection for it's own sake instead of having connection as a byproduct of utility. This means we have to acknowledge the work that we're not doing to actively connect with others and therefore we can't just blame social media and technology for our blunders of missed connection. We need to take a nice hard look at ourselves, how we connect, who we really are, and what messages we're putting out there so that we can genuinely connect in person, much like we used to.
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