"You just can't hate yourself into being better and you can't hate other people into it." - Dr Brene Brown

Shame is a complex emotion and some of us even feel shameful to be feeling shame.  By popular demand, Dr BB reveals the difference between shame vs guilt, and other uncomfortable emotions based on the research by Dr Brene Brown.  

According to Dr Brown, "Shame is the fear of being unworthy of love, connection and belonging, and the absence of love and condition and belonging as a human being, and there's always suffering."  

Compare to guilt, shame, is a lot more damaging according to Brown, as it says "you are a bad person", and as a social species, "shame is death".

Dr BB advises that with the awareness of these different types of emotions when we are feeling them, and to talk about them, it helps to diminish the power of shame.  Healthy guilt is to say to ourself: 'Yes, I made a terrible choice and hurt someone, but I'm not a bad person.  It was a bad thing that I did, and I don't like to be that person, so I am going to fix it and make amends."  

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Have you assessed whether you grew up in a dysfunctional family? If your anser is yes and yes, research shows that you're also more likely to repeat these patterns in your own family.  Have no fear, in this Episode, Dr BB shares with you some practical actions that you can take to heal and recover from your childhood wounds.  

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Did you grow up in a dysfunctional family?  A dysfunctional family is when parents unknowingly assigns roles to their children, thus, members in the household play rigid roles and in which communication is severely restricted to statements that only fit those roles.  Dr BB reveals that typically, if you come from a dysfunctional home then most likely your emotional needs were not met when you're growing up.  

Come join Dr BB this week to learn the importance of knowing your family dynamics and whether you grew up in a dysfunctional family.  The characteristics of a dysfunctional family and how it might have affected you as a young child, and now as an adult.

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Although the hosts, guests, and creators of this podcast are mental health practitioners. They are also individuals sharing both personal and professional experiences, opinions, and information based on their own research and understanding. The content discussed in this podcast is not meant to replace or contradict the advice of another qualified professional.

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"Grief is the price we pay for love." - Queen Elizabeth II

Requests and questions for Dr BB on last week's Episode - Loss and Grief have not gone un-noticed.  In this Episode, Dr BB clarifies the difference between grief and bereavement, grief and depression and what are some healthy ways to grieve?

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Dr BB's favourite holidays are fast approaching, however, she mentions in this Episode that holidays are never quite the same after someone we love dies.  May it be an empty seat at the dinning table, one less gift to buy or make can all serve as jarring reminders of how our lives have been forever changed. Although these realisations are difficult to face, Dr BB urges us not to avoid them or to hide our feelings, in order to maintain physical and mental well being.

Come join Dr BB to learn more about the loss and grief that we all have experienced in the past two years, and more.

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CREDIT:
"Grieviing My Lost Childhood" by Elisabeth Corey on July 29, 2013 - PsychCentral Blog

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In this Episode Dr BB reveals Dr F Luskin's 9-Steps to Forgiveness and how his years of research findings lead him to believe there's power in forgiveness.  Dr BB also answers the question: What is PERMA (an acronym)?  According to Martin Seligman PERMA  accounts for what makes up the “good life”.

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CREDIT:
Dr. Fred Luskin's 9-Steps To Forgiveness

Martin Seligman's concept of PERMA.

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The APA - American Psychological Association, they define Emotion Regulation: "the ability of an individual to modulate an emotion or set of emotions." Explicit emotion regulaton and implicit emotion regulation.
"Explicit emotion regulation requires conscious monitoring, using techniques such as learning to construe situations differently in order to manage them better, changing the target of an emotion (e.g., anger) in a way likely to produce a more positive outcome, and recognising how different behaviors can be used in the service of a given emotional state.
Implicit emotion regulation operates without deliberate monitoring; it modulates the intensity or duration of an emotional response without the need for awareness. Emotion regulation typically increases across the lifespan. Also called emotional regulation."

In this Episode Dr BB teaches her audience the important skill of emotional regulation.  It is an important skill to master if you wish to live a joyful and peaceful life.  So if you wish to manage your emotions better, come join Dr BB and attain more skills and practical tools.

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CREDIT:
Levenson, R. W. (1999). The intrapersonal functions of emotion. Cognition and Emotion, 13(5), 481–504.
Wegner, D. M., Erber, R., &Zanakos, S. (1993). Ironic Processes in the Mental Control of Mood and Mood-Related Thought. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 65, 1093-1104.

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"Forgiveness is not just about the other. It is for the beauty of your soul. It is for your own capacity to fulfill your life." - Jack Kornfield

"If I develop bad feelings toward those who make me suffer, this will only destroy my own peace of mind. But if I forgive, my mind becomes calm." - Dalai Lama

"One of the earliest studies focusing specifically on the link between forgiveness and health benefits found that even thinking about forgiving an offender improved people’s cardiovascular and nervous system " (Van Oyen Witvliet, Ludwig, & Laan, 2001).

"In order to truly forgive, it requires Radical Acceptance: Radical Acceptance is to give up on all hope of a different past.  That was then, this is now. Live your NOW!" - Dr BB

In this Episode, Dr BB also quotes Dr Martin Luther King Jr. : “Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” 

Come join Dr BB to learn:
 - the truth about Forgiveness;
- to collect practical tools to forgiveness;
- how Forgiveness is a key to both your mental and physical well being based on recent scientific studies.

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CREDITS:
Forgiveness and Health (2015): Toussaint, Worthington and David R. Williams, PhD.
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/profile/fred_luskin
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1111/1467-9280.003206/5/2016 · Charlotte van Oyen Witvliet, Thomas E. Ludwig, and Kelly L. Vander Laan. Psychological Science 2001. 

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If you have never thought about this question: Are we matter or energy? According to Dr BB it's long-overdue.  She also cites from Oska Phoenix, author of the Blog - The Way of Meditation: "Whether you are aware of it or not, your body emits a bio-electromagnetic field (body field or BEMF)."  Dr BB's intenion is to introduce to her audience the new findings of modern science to this exact question: Are we made of matter (according to Newton's theory) OR made of energy?

Come join Dr BB to find out more of your BEMF, the importance of it, and that modern scientists find that we actually have 3 brains which are located in our head, heart and gut.

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Sources:
thewayofmeditation.com.au
(The New Science of Human Energy Fields - Oska Phoenix 2019)
heartmath.org
(The Heart - McCraty, Bradley & Tomasino, 2004) - Excerpt from - heartmath.org
Heart Capability - Excerpt from - in5d.com
quantumconsciousness.org

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Different scientists, scholars and researchers have their own theories and understanding of 'consciousness'. In this episode, Dr BB shares an article written by Tatiana Azman who is a writer for Mindvalley.  In the article she shares Dr Michael Beckworth's concept of the 4 Stages of Higher Consciousness.

In essence, the belief is that "... the physical world isn’t the only ‘real’ thing in life. There’s also higher consciousness."  So come join Dr BB to discover what it is and how to elevate yourself one step at a time.

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